Here are 3 examples of how you can make your ex curious about you…
1. Post photos on social media of you having fun with other people. Set the photos to ‘public’ so she can see them, even if she has unfriended you
When a woman is no longer answering her ex’s texts or phone calls and he has no other way to get through to her, using social media to spark her curiosity is definitely the best option.
Of course, a lot of men who have been dumped by the woman they love, don’t want to go out and have fun with other people.
They just want her back.
Yet, if he wants her back, being lonely and not doing anything fun with his life isn’t going to help.
Women are attracted to men who are confident in themselves and can get on with life and enjoy it, especially after a break up.
So, if your ex is currently ignoring you, start showing her that you’re enjoying a fun and interesting life without her (i.e. by posting photos of yourself having fun with other people).
Some guys are afraid to do that and wonder, “Won’t having fun without her just make her hate me more? Won’t she assume that I’ve moved on and don’t want anything to do with her anymore? If she thinks that, I’ll never be able to get her back, right?”
Even though a woman usually won’t admit it, she will absolutely feel more attraction for a guy who gets on with enjoying his life, compared to a guy who sits around feeling sad, lonely and left out.
So, don’t worry if she pretends to be offended, angry or upset that you seem happy without her.
If she does that, it will simply be a test to see if you really are happy without her or not.
If you say something like, “Hey, I’m just enjoying life. What did you want me to do? Sit around and cry? You left me, so it’s over. You can’t expect me to sit around waiting for you forever. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying life,” she will then feel attracted to you for sticking to your guns and not backing down.
She will also feel a bit silly for making it out as though she expected you to just sit around and do nothing.
On the other hand, if she gets angry and says something like, “Oh, so you don’t care about me anymore, is that it? I see that you’ve been enjoying yourself lately” and you then say, “No, I wasn’t enjoying myself. I wanted you to be there. It’s not the same without you” then she knows that you really aren’t happy without her and therefore, she doesn’t feel the same kind of pull towards you.
So, just know this: When you post photos of yourself having fun with other people, rather than make your ex hate you more or want to move on, it actually makes her feel curious and want to interact with you again.
All of a sudden, you seem more attractive, appealing and likeable to her, even if she might act like it isn’t having any affect on her.
Another way to make your ex curious about you is to…
2. Call her, make her feel attracted to you again and then end the conversation to leave her wanting more
For example: Imagine that you’re on a call with your ex.
Even though she initially tries to put you off by being cold, aloof and saying things like, “What do you want?” or “Why are you calling me? Did you forget that it’s over between us? I don’t have anything to say to you,” you maintain your confidence with her.
You then cause her to begin dropping her defenses by making her smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you again.
When she’s smiling and laughing while talking to you, it takes away some of the negative feelings she may have been experiencing when she initially heard your voice.
As her guard comes down, she starts feeling relaxed and can begin to think something like, “He’s seems so different from the guy I broke up with. I’m actually enjoying talking to him now. I wonder what else has changed about him? I can’t believe I’m even thinking this, but I hope that he asks me to meet up in person. I’m curious to see what will happen when we do…maybe we’ll hook up and maybe it will be fun…I want to do it.”
Once you have made her feel attracted and cause her to relax and drop her guard, you can then say something along the lines of, “Well, anyway…it’s been talking to you again, but I’ve got to get going now. I’ve got to meet someone in about 20 minutes and I’m running late. Let’s do this again though, okay? I’ll call you again sometime. Okay, bye,” and then hang up the call when she acknowledges that the call is ending (e.g. she says, “Okay, bye…talk to you later.”)
Not only will that make her feel surges of respect and attraction for you, but it will also ensure that the next time you call to ask her to meet up with you, she will want to say “Yes,” so that she can then satisfy her newfound curiosity about you.
Another way to make your ex curious about you is to…
3. Interact with her in person and let her see that she really does feel differently around you now
Meeting up with an ex in person is an easy way to make her feel curious about you.
Think about it this way…
Your ex is most-likely going to come to a meet up with the intention of testing you to see if you really have changed, or if you’ve just pretending that you have changed to get her back.
She will want to satisfy her curiosity about the new, improved you, but she will also want to make sure that how you are now making her feel is real and can continue if you and her get back together.
For example: If one of the main reasons she broke up with you was due to you being insecure and unsure of yourself around her, she might test you by being cold and bitchy at the meet up.
She might say something like, “Hhhh…this is such a waste of my time. I don’t even know why I’m here. What do you want from me? Why are we even here together? You’d better not be hoping that I’ll give you another chance. Is that why you asked me here? Ha! Ha! That’s so funny! Why would I ever want to be with you again? You’re not man enough for me. I can do much better than you, that’s for sure!”
Naturally, being on the receiving end of that kind of cold treatment can make a guy feel anxious and he may even start to think, “She’ll never give me another chance. It’s too late. I’ve lost her forever. I’m not good enough for her.”
Don’t think like that.
Instead, simply use her bitchiness as a way of reawakening her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you.
By maintaining your confidence around her and using humor to break through her defenses and make her laugh and smile.
For example: You might say in a joking, teasing way something along the lines of, “Wow, where did all that come from? I think there must be something in the coffee you just drank. It has turned you into a little drama queen! What a performance you just gave there. I love it! Give me more. Excuse me, waiter…can we get a refill of the coffee here? I can’t wait to see what else you have in store for me today,” and laugh at her (in a loving way) about it.
Alternatively, you might laugh at her (important! Don’t be afraid to do that) and then say, “Well, someone’s in a bit of a mood today, isn’t she? I like it…you look cute when you’re annoyed” and have a laugh with her about that.
Initially, she might be shocked that you’re not getting upset or doubting yourself around her anymore and may even say something like, “Hey, I’m being serious!” to test your confidence once again.
Yet, deep down, she will be wondering, “What’s going on? Why isn’t he falling apart? Why is he so confident and self-assured all of a sudden? Why wasn’t he like this before? I like it.”
By the way…
You can adjust your response to match the situation (e.g. she orders tea instead of coffee, or if you don’t meet up at a coffee shop, you can substitute the “coffee” with “There must be something in your lipstick.”)
What matters the most is that you don’t react in the way that she’s expecting you to, so she can then begin to feel curious about you.
When she becomes curious about the changes in you and how good it is making her feel, she then naturally becomes more open to seeing you again.
As a result, you then have an opportunity to continue building on her feelings so you can get her to the point where she wants to be your girl again.
3 Common Mistakes That Some Guys Make When Trying to Make an Ex Curious About Them
There are times where making an ex curious about you can cause her to contact you and want to see you.
You can then use that to create a spark with her, build on her feelings and get her back.
However, there are also times where trying to make an ex curious can backfire and turn her off even more.
Here’s where other guys go wrong…
1. Trying to make her curious via text by telling her what he has been up to since the breakup
No matter how genuine and sincere you are when talking about yourself via text, your ex will usually interpret everything you say based on how she remembers you when you and her broke up.
She will also be suspicious and wonder if you’re telling her about all the things you’ve been up to, in the hope that it makes her feel like she is missing out.
This is why it’s best to just post up photos of you having fun with other people.
She can’t doubt that and, since you’re not telling her about it directly, she can’t conclude that you’re only doing it to make her jealous.
Another mistake is…
2. Hoping that cutting off contact will eventually make her feel curious enough to contact him
When trying to make an ex feel curious, a guy will sometimes think something like, “If I cut off communication with my ex for a few weeks or even a few months, she will then become curious about me. She will start to wonder why I’m not calling her or going to my usual hang out places. Then, she might even start imagining that I’ve got a new girlfriend. Hopefully that will make her get in touch with me to find out what I’ve been doing and we can then fix our problems and get back together. So, I’ll just cut off communication and wait.”
He then sits around waiting for his ex’s curiosity to get the better of her and make her contact him.
Yet, that rarely (if ever) happens.
In most cases, a woman has lost a lot of respect and attraction for her ex, she just won’t care if he doesn’t call her and try to get her back.
Even though she might wonder about him once in a while, she won’t feel enough motivation to want to get him back because she’s no longer attracted to him.
Then, by the time he realizes she’s not getting curious enough to call him and he then reaches out to her, he is shocked or disappointed to find out that she has moved on and is in love with someone else.
Alternatively, in a case where a woman does call him because she’s curious about his silence, when she sees that nothing about him has really changed, she will then think something along the lines of, “Well, nothing has changed. Now I can truly move on knowing that I’m not missing out on anything with him and his life. He’s still the same guy that I broke up with. I feel satisfied that I made the right decision after all. No need to be curious anymore. I just need to keep moving on without him.”
Here’s the thing…
In almost all ex back cases, if a man wants his ex woman back, he has to be active about it (i.e. re-attract her and seduce her back into a relationship), rather than being passive (i.e. by cutting off contact and waiting).
So, don’t sit around and expect your ex to make the first move if she isn’t attracted to you anymore.
If she doesn’t have strong enough feelings for you, she will almost certainly just move on without you.
Another mistake that guys make in a situation like yours is…
3. Trying too hard to be mysterious when he’s texting her
For example: When a guy gets a text from his ex woman asking him, “What have you been up to lately?” he might respond with something along the lines of, “Oh you know…a bit of this and that,” or, “If I told you, I’d have to kill you, haha” or, “Just hanging out with people…single life is good.”
Basically, he’s hoping that being evasive or funny with her, she will wonder, “What is he up to? What isn’t he telling me?” and then become curious enough about him to call him and say hi, or ask to meet up with him in person.
Yet, that approach rarely works when a woman has lost respect and attraction for a guy because she just doesn’t care enough to dig deeper.
Rather than be drawn to his mysteriousness, she feels annoyed that he is trying to mess with her head and then stops texting him.
So, if you want to ensure your chances of getting your ex back, I don’t recommend that you waste time playing mind games with her.
The most effective way to make her curious is to show her (via the way you act, think, behave, interact with her on a phone call or in person) that you are a new and improved man now.
When she sees that you’re no longer the same guy she broke up with, she will be curious to find out more by spending more time with you.
You can then build on her feelings of respect and attraction for you and get her back.