Here are 3 options of final words to say to a woman when she breaks up with you:
1. Tell her that you accept the break up
For example: “Hey, I completely understand why you feel the way you do. Things have been rough between us lately and I can see why you might want to end things. So, I totally accept your decision to break up. I promise not to pressure you into doing anything that you don’t want. So, let’s break up, but at least be mature about it all and stay friends, okay?”
This means that your final words aren’t so ‘final’ after all.
You are creating an opportunity to keep the communication open between you and her, so you can get her back.
Watch this to understand why…
By handling the break up in an emotionally strong and mature way, you will cause her to feel respect and attraction for you.
This will make her feel drawn to you, even if just a little.
It will cause her to go away from the break up with feelings of regret in her heart and mind.
She will begin to miss you and wonder why she is missing you.
This is what you want.
On the other hand, if you don’t accept the break up right away, you will cause her to lose feelings of respect and attraction for you.
So, be mature about it.
If you are, she will then think something along the lines of, “Hmmm…that’s not at all how I thought this would go. I was expecting him to do all sorts of childish things to make me change my mind (e.g. cry, beg, plead, get angry), but he didn’t. In fact, he’s being so emotionally mature about the whole thing. I’m impressed. Other guys can’t handle a break up like a man. Maybe we can stay friends after all. He’s clearly mature enough to do so.”
Of course, she might still respond by saying something along the lines of, “No, I don’t think we can stay friends. It’s probably better if we make a clean break and not see or talk to each other for a while.”
This is just an attempt to maintain her position as the one in control of the break up, or to make sure that she doesn’t seem to be opening back up to you.
Regardless of what she says, don’t let it upset you or cause you to react in a way that will make her to think, “Oh, here it comes! Now he is going to start getting desperate for me. I guess he was just faking being okay with the break up after all. It was a trick. Okay, well two can play at mind games. I’m going to be very cold, rude and closed off from now on.”
So, make sure that you are READY for the tests, because they WILL come.
She will test your confidence by giving you mixed messages or by being very cold or distant all of a sudden.
For example: If she says, “No, I don’t think we can stay friends. It’s probably better if we make a clean break and not see or talk to each other for a while” you just need to maintain your confidence and not appear rejected by her statement.
You might laugh (important!) and add in, “What’s the big deal? Why can’t we be friends? Oh wait, you don’t still have a crush on me, do you? That’s why. I get it now” and have a laugh with her about that.
She will most likely be a bit defensive and say, “No, I don’t have a crush on you! I’m breaking up with you.”
You can then use it as an opportunity to get her to meet up with you by saying, “Prove it then. Let’s catch up for a “friends only” cup of coffee in a couple of days. I’ll call you to set up a time. If you don’t have a crush on me still, you will be fine to catch for a coffee just a friends.”
Say it in a light-hearted, easy-going, playful way, but also be serious about it and actually get her to catch up with you.
In most cases, a woman will agree because she will want to prove to her ex that she doesn’t have feelings for him and is mature enough to remain friends.
Of course, if she keeps saying “No,” just tell her that if she meets up with you this one time, you will then leave her alone and never contact her again if that’s what she wants.
She’ll most likely agree, even if it’s just to get you to leave her alone after that.
Then, when you meet up with her, make sure that you say and do the types of things that will reactivate her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you.
For example: Maintain your confidence around her even when she’s being cold and distant, make her smile, laugh and feel happy that she said yes to the meet up, make her feel feminine in contrast to your masculine vibe and charm her with your new and improved approach to the relationship.
She will then begin to wonder, “What’s going on here? Why am I only feeling positive emotions towards him all of a sudden?” and won’t be able to stop herself from feeling surges of respect and attraction for you once again.
From there, you simply build on that spark of attraction to show her that things really are different now.
Alternatively, you might want to…
2. Calmly tell her what you like about her and say goodbye
Another example of the final words to say to a woman when she breaks up with you, is to calmly say some nice things about her and then leave.
For example: You might say, “Hey, you’re a great woman and I really appreciate the time we had together. You’ve always been loving, kind and attentive to me in the relationship, even when I was being a bit of a jerk. So, I will always respect that about you. I just want you to know that I wish you only the best. Of course, I’m sad that it didn’t work out between us, but I hope you find happiness. You deserve it.”
Then, after saying that to her, give her a few days of space (between 3 to 7 days) so she can calm down and start missing you.
Make sure you don’t ignore her for longer than that though, because if she has disconnected from her feelings for you, she’s just going to use that time to get over you and move on.
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After giving her 3 to 7 days of space, go ahead and contact her (preferably calling her on the phone rather than texting her) and actively re-spark some of her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
Then, get her to agree to a meet up with you in person so you can fully re-attract her and start the process of getting her back.
Another option is to…
3. Joke with her by switching roles and breaking up with her instead
It has been said that laughter is the best medicine.
By using humor, you can change a potentially difficult and tense situation (i.e. breaking up) into something that can spark some respect in her and make her see you in a more positive light.
For example: You might laugh (important) and say in a joking way, “What? You’re breaking up with me? No way am I going to allow that to happen! I’m breaking up with you first! It’s over. I can’t be with you anymore. You’re dumped!” and have a laugh with her about that.
When you make her laugh, she stops focusing on all the negatives about you and she may even start to think things like, “I’m still going to break up with him, but I have to admit that he is the kind of guy who can always make me laugh…even when things were really serious and awkward. That’s one of his finest qualities. I like that about him. I’m going to miss him.”
You can then continue making her feel attracted during the conversation until she has a whole list of things about you that she likes.
For example: Not only do you have a great sense of humor, but you also have the confidence and emotional strength to use it in a difficult situation (i.e. when she’s breaking up with you).
Additionally, not only are you funny, confident and emotionally strong, but you’re also emotionally mature enough to handle the break up like a man, rather than crying, begging and pleading like other guys would.
The more she thinks about it, the more she realizes that you have many attractive qualities that she actually likes.
Suddenly, all the reasons she has for breaking up with you don’t seem so important anymore.
She starts to open back up to you and as a result, you can re-attract her and get her back.
What You Shouldn’t Be Doing When She Breaks Up With You
The final impression you make on a woman when she breaks up with you really matters.
It is the difference between earning some of her respect for you again, or turning her off even more.
So, to ensure that you stay on her good side, make sure to avoid any of the following mistakes that other guys make.
When a woman breaks up with a guy, he will often make mistakes, such as…
Sometimes a guy might not know how else to react when his woman breaks up with him, so as a last resort, he might start crying.
He is hoping that she will think, “Wow, he must really love me if he’s falling apart like that. Maybe I’m making a mistake here. Do I really want to lose a man who is even willing to cry over me?” and feel guilty enough about what she is doing to give him another chance.
Yet, that almost never happens.
Instead of being impressed by his display of desperation, a woman will add, “Emotionally sensitive, needy and desperate, wimpy, wussy” to the list of things that have been turning her off about him.
As a result, her decision to leave the relationship feels like the right thing to do for her.
Here’s the thing…
Most women don’t want to be in a relationship with the kind of man they can’t look up to and respect.
So, when a guy is crying and coming across as emotionally weak, a woman will usually think something like, “Maybe it’s just his way of showing me that he loves me, but if he can’t handle a simple break up without falling apart like this, what are the chances that he will be able to handle other, more challenging situations in life? He just doesn’t realize that by crying he’s only convincing me even more that I made the right decision to break up with him. I don’t want to be with a guy who is emotionally sensitive and needs me to support him and prop him up when things get tough. I want a man who is confident and emotionally strong enough to take care of both himself and me, no matter what life throws at him.”
Another example of what not to do when a woman breaks up with you is…
2. Trying to have a long, drawn out, deep and meaningful conversation
A guy might assume that by getting into a deep, serious conversation about the relationship (e.g. asking her why she’s breaking up with him and what he can do to convince her to give him another chance) will be the best way to get her to change her mind and give him another chance.
He’s hoping that she will think something like, “This is good! At least we’re finally getting to the bottom of our problems. Maybe now we can actually work things out! I have to give him another chance” and everything will get sorted out.
Unfortunately, having that kind of conversation with a woman before you’ve fully reactivated her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for you, will simply make her focus on the fact that you don’t even know what she wants.
Let me say that another way for you…
If she doesn’t feel attracted to you and you try to have a deep and meaningful conversation about the relationship, she will realize that you don’t even know what she wants.
You don’t know how to make her feel attracted anymore and instead, you want to discuss the relationship and try to fix things.
She doesn’t want to fix things.
She wants to feel differently.
The only way to make that happen is to change your approach to attraction (e.g. if you were too emotionally sensitive before, then you now are so much more emotionally strong and ballsy) so she can feel attracted to you in a new and exciting ways.
In other words, the most important thing is how she feels, not how you feel.
I know, it’s not nice to hear that, but it’s the reality of the situation when you’re getting dumped.
Your feelings are only important to her if she has feelings for you.
If you don’t make her feel attracted to you again, she’s just not going to want to work on the relationship, fix things and get back with a guy who doesn’t even know how to make her feel attracted anymore.
It’s very annoying for a woman to have to explain what women feel attracted to and how her guy can make her feel that way.
So, make sure you avoid the deep and meaningful conversation and just focus on making her want you again.
Attract her and pick her up again like she is a completely new woman to you.
Don’t talk to her as though you and her are deeply in love with each other, because you’re not.
You are deeply in love with her, but she currently doesn’t feel the same way.
Fix that and you will get her back right away.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Getting angry
It’s understandable that a guy might feel shocked when his woman wants to break up with him, but getting angry with her about it and doing something silly (e.g. become aggressive, violent, threatening, rude) is not going to help him get her back in the long run.
A woman is not a man’s property and she doesn’t have to stay in a relationship with him if she doesn’t want to.
As a result, getting angry with a woman about her decision to break up, isn’t going to change her mind and make her feel obligated to stay.
In fact, she will simply lose more respect and attraction for you as a man, and that will make getting her back a lot more difficult.
So, maintain your cool and be a confident, emotionally strong, loving man.
That approach always wins.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
4. Begging or pleading for another chance
When a man resorts to begging and pleading for another chance, a number of things happen in a woman’s head:
- She loses even more respect and attraction for him because he is being emotionally weak and wimpy in front of her.
- She feels that he’s not really facing up to the fact that she’s breaking up with him because certain aspects of his thinking and behavior has turned her off over time and he is hoping that by begging and pleading, she’ll stop wanting to leave and give him another chance.
- She feels like she has to console him because he can’t cope and that only makes her lose more attraction for him.
- She begins to look at him as a weak, immature guy who doesn’t yet know how to be a real man.
So, rather than changing her mind about the break up, she becomes even more convinced that he’s not the right guy for her.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
5. Trying to work things out via text
When a guy tries to work things out with his ex via text, it almost never works.
Texts on a little screen don’t have the same impact as words spoken over the phone, or in person where a woman can hear the tonality of your voice or see your confident, masculine body language.
Rather than give you the benefit of the doubt via text and imagine that you’re being confident, emotionally strong and mature, she will remember how you behaved near the end of the relationship and when she broke up with you (e.g. needy, clingy, insecure, childish) instead.
As a result, she won’t be interested in working things out with you.
What you need to remember is that texts aren’t you.
Words can’t fully portray to her the changes and improvements that you’ve made since she broke up with you, so if she is like most women, she will assume that you haven’t even changed.
On the other hand, if you call her on the phone, or meet up with her in person, she will sense that things really are different now.
She’ll be confronted by the new and improved you (e.g. more confident, emotionally independent, emotionally masculine, charismatic, appealing) and even though she may try to fight it, she will instinctively start to feel rushes of respect and attraction for you once again.
When her feelings get reawakened, she stops pushing you away and getting her back becomes easy.
So, while the final words that you say to a woman are important, how you behave after that is even more important if you want her back.
If you focus on re-attracting her and making her want you back, you will get her back.
If you ignore her and hope that she comes back, she will most likely move on.
If you beg and plead for another chance, she will lose respect for you and close up even more.