Here are 3 optional reactions to being broken up with suddenly by a woman…
1. Accept it, give her 3 to 7 days of space, then re-attract her and get her back
If a woman wants to break up with you, there’s usually nothing that you can do to stop her in that moment (i.e. you can’t really force her to stay if she’s already made up her mind to leave).
So, in most cases, the first thing a guy should do when a woman breaks up with him suddenly, is to accept the break up.
For example: You might say something along the lines of, “Okay, if that’s what you want, I accept your decision. I still love you and I would prefer it if we could work things out and stay together, but I respect your wishes. I wish you all the best. Bye.”
Of course, saying that doesn’t mean you are going to walk away, forget about her and move on.
Instead, by saying something like that to her, you are sowing seeds of doubt in her mind about her decision to break up (i.e. because you’re being so emotionally mature about the break up, so she can’t help but feel respect for you because of it).
From there, give her 3 to 7 days of space where you don’t contact her at all.
Allow things to calm down between you and her (e.g. she gets a chance to think about her decision, she starts to miss you, she sees that you’re not desperately chasing her, she wonders why you accepted the break up so easily and wants to interact with you again to see if you still love her and are missing her).
Important: Don’t wait longer than 7 days to reinitiate contact and start re-attracting her because a woman doesn’t need longer than that to start missing you.
If you wait longer than a week, it causes her to have to start thinking about moving on or hooking up with a new guy to get over you and move on.
So, after 3 to 7 days of space, call her on the phone and start re-attracting her (e.g. by making her smile, laugh and feel good to be talking to you again).
Then, get her to agree to a meet up with you in person.
At the meet up, focus on showing her that you’re no longer the same guy she broke up with (e.g. by being confident and self-assured around her even if she is being cold or distant, using humor to break down her walls, making her feel feminine in contrast to your masculinity), and get her thinking, “I hate to admit it, but I think I may have made a mistake by breaking up with him so suddenly. Being around him again feels so right and being apart feels wrong.”
At that point, you and her will likely get back together right away.
If not, just use every interaction that you have with her from then on to build on her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
The more respect and attraction she feels for the new and improved you, the more she will want to get back into a relationship with you.
Additionally, the relationship will be better than it ever was before because you will have genuinely leveled up as a man in terms of your ability to make her feel respect, attraction and love.
As a result, she will treat you better, love you more deeply and feel more desire to be affectionate and sexual with you.
An alternative reaction you can have when a woman breaks up with you suddenly, is to…
2. Accept it, walk away, don’t contact her at all and hope that she comes back on her own
This is otherwise called, The No Contact Rule.
I don’t recommend the NC rule for most ex back situations and here is why…
Some guys want to use the NC rule and that’s okay.
So, if you don’t want to try to do anything to get her back, you can just accept your woman’s decision to break up with you suddenly and then cut off contact.
Here’s the thing though…
I’ve been helping new men to get ex women back for many years now and I know what works and what doesn’t.
What I’ve found, time and time again, is that cutting off contact and waiting for her to come chasing you down and trying to get you back only works if the woman is still in love with you and won’t be able to deal with not hearing from you anymore.
In almost all other cases, if a woman doesn’t hear from the guy she dumped, she will react on one of the following ways…
- She won’t care because she doesn’t have feelings for him anymore.
- She will assume that he’s not interested in her anymore and doesn’t want her back, so she will then focus on fully getting over him and moving on with a new guy instead.
- She suspects that he’s probably angry with her for breaking up with him so suddenly, so she doesn’t want to contact him in case he reacts in an aggressive way.
- She uses the time to get over him and find herself a replacement guy.
- She hooks up with another man to get revenge.
- She feels relieved that the guy she dumped, who she is no longer attracted to, isn’t bugging her and trying to get her back.
- She sees his lack of contact as meaning that he doesn’t care enough about her to get her back.
- She blocks him to avoid him contacting her later on if he starts missing her. She’s already felt enough pain by him not contacting her and wants to now close that chapter of her life and try to move on.
So, if what you really want to do is get back with your ex woman, ignoring her forever (or even for 30 or 60 days) isn’t the best idea.
In most cases, ignoring an ex just makes it easier for her to get over you and move on, especially if she broke up with you because she was no longer attracted or in love with you anymore.
So, what should you do instead?
Interact with her (over the phone and in person) and actively re-spark her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for you.
Once she is re-attracted (this can take minutes, hours or days depending on the situations), actively guide her back into a relationship with you by getting to a hug, kiss and then sex.
Another reaction you might have when a woman breaks up with you suddenly, is to…
3. Accept it, start dating new women to make her jealous, meet up with her, re-attract her and get her back
When a guy gets dumped, he usually doesn’t want to start sleeping around with new women, or even talking to new women.
Yet, some guys like this type of reaction and are usually the type of guys who don’t have any trouble attracting new women and getting to sex.
So, depending on what type of guy you are, this option might suit you or make you feel sick to the stomach.
It really depends on who you are, how you’re feeling after being broken up with, how much you love your ex and how much you know about how a woman’s attraction for a man really works.
So, if you are fine with hooking up with new women, a way to react to the break up is to accept it and then go out and find yourself a new woman to have sex with and start dating.
Then, make sure to post up lots of photos of you and your new girl on social media to make her jealous, or rather than posting up photos, just make sure that your ex either sees you with a new girl in public or hears about it through friends.
Some guys worry that this will ruin their chances with their ex, but the truth is that women always feel more attracted to men who can easily attract other women.
It’s not something that women go around admitting, but if you pay attention, you will see that the guys that women go crazy over are the ones who can easily attract and sleep with other women.
I know, I know.
Some of the guys reading this don’t want to hear that.
Many guys want to believe that women like nice guys the most, or that women will get angry and never want to be with a guy if she sleeps with another woman after she breaks up with him.
Yet, I’m just giving you the cold, hard truth here.
Watch this video for some more examples…
As you will discover from the video above, most women SAY one thing about men and then DO something completely different in their private life or behind closed doors.
This is why you cannot trust the words of a woman when it comes to what she wants in a man.
Women will rarely, if ever, spill the beans and tell the truth about what really drives them to fall madly in love with a man.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to sleep with another woman to get your ex back.
It’s just one of the optional reactions to a sudden break up.
If you do sleep with another woman after she breaks up with you suddenly, your ex will almost certainly think something like, “Wow, he has a new girlfriend already? I didn’t realize that seeing him with another woman would bother me this much, but it does. It actually makes me miss him. Maybe I made a mistake when I broke up with him so suddenly. I wonder if he’d be open to giving our relationship another try now that he’s got someone else? Is she sexier than me? Does he love her? Can I seduce him back into a relationship with me? Why do I want this all of a sudden? I thought I wanted to break up with him. Yet, seeing him with another woman is making him want him for some reason.”
Many women don’t know how to explain what they’re feeling, why or how and instead, they just react to it.
This is why you will see women lusting after a bad boy, getting used by him and then dumped and still being in love with him.
It makes no sense that she would want to be treated in that way, but she just reacts to her intense feelings of attraction and the challenge of trying to tame him.
I explain this concept here…
Okay, so back to the option of sleeping with a new woman to make your ex jealous.
As I said, this is an option.
It’s not something you need to do to get her back.
If you want to get her back by not sleeping with another woman, watch this…
On the other hand, if you want to get her back by sleeping with another woman to make her jealous, then go ahead and do that and then make sure she finds out about it.
When she does, she will either text you or call you to say hello, give you some other sign that she’s open to interacting with you again or, she might react by pretending to be angry at you for moving on so quickly.
Whatever you do, don’t panic or worry about anything she is SAYING or DOING.
Just remember that women usually say one thing and then do another when it comes to men, dating and relationships.
Additionally, if she doesn’t initiate contact, don’t worry about that either.
Just call her after a few days to say hi, re-attract her on the call and then suggest that you can her catch up for a friendly coffee.
For example: You might say to her, “Hey, just because we’ve broken up, it doesn’t mean we can’t be friends, right?” and let her agree.
Then say something like, “So, let’s catch up for a quick coffee sometime this week to say hi as friends.”
She will likely agree (possibly because she’s feeling jealous of your new woman and wanting to see if she can get you back) and you can then arrange a time and place to meet up.
If she doesn’t agree and says something like, “No thanks. I see that you have a new woman already,” just laugh and say, “Okay, if that’s how you feel, I accept that” and then end the call.
She will then be the one left feeling empty.
Even if she doesn’t admit it to you, she will feel respect and attraction for the fact that not only have you got a new woman, but you didn’t become desperate and start pleading with her to meet up with you when she said no.
As a result, she will likely contact you within the next week or so.
If you don’t hear from her after two weeks, get in touch again, have a friendly chat on the phone, get her smiling and laughing and then suggest catching up.
This time, she will almost certainly agree, especially if she regretted saying no the last time.
At the meet up, focus on saying and doing the kinds of things that will reactivate her feelings and make her want to get back together (e.g. maintaining the dominant role when she tries to bully you about moving on so quickly, flirting with her to create sexual tension, using humor to bring down her defenses, making her feel girly in comparison to your masculine approach to the conversation and interaction, being charismatic and charming).
The more respect and attraction you make her feel, the faster she will realize that she made a big mistake by breaking up with you so suddenly.
Then, when the moment is right, go ahead and hug her, kiss her and then move towards hooking up sexually.
When that happens, you and her will then naturally get back together and if you decide not to get back together after having sex, at least you and her will have ended things on a much better note.
Classic Mistakes That a Guy Might Make When a Woman Suddenly Breaks Up With Him
Being broken up with sucks, especially if it happens out of the blue.
When a guy gets dumped all of a sudden by the woman he loves, it can cause him to panic and rush to try to get her back in all the wrong ways.
1. Begging and pleading for another chance
This is a very common reaction that guys have to being dumped by a woman.
For example: A guy will begin bombarding his ex with texts, social media messages, e-mails and phone calls to hopefully change her mind.
He might say something like, “Please forgive me! Whatever I’ve done to make you break up with me so suddenly, I apologize for it. I’m begging you! Please, give me a chance to make things right. I am willing to do whatever it takes.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
A woman’s attraction to a guy is based mostly on his ability to make her feel as though she can look up to him and respect him as a man.
So, when a guy is begging, pleading and being emotionally weak and needy, she can’t look up to him and respect him and therefore, can’t feel attracted to him either.
Rather than making her think, “Aww, he’s taking this so hard. Maybe I should give him another chance,” he is simply making her convinced that he’s not the right guy for her because she no longer feels attracted to him.
Another mistake that other guys make when they’ve been dumped all of a sudden is…
2. Asking her to explain what he needs to change to make her happy
Although it might seem like a good idea to ask your ex what you did wrong and how to make her happy again, it’s actually something that will turn her off even more. Why?
When a guy asks a woman to tell him what he needs to change to make her happy again, he’s effectively telling her that he’s clueless about how to think, act and behave in an attractive way without her help and guidance.
Rather than feeling flattered that he needs her help, it’s annoying for her to have to explain what women feel attracted to and how he can be like that.
If a woman has to tell a guy how to be the man she needs, she will lose even more respect for him, because she will feel as though he isn’t his own man anymore.
Instead, he is following her instructions, which then makes her feel more like his teacher or mother, than his sexy girl.
As a result of him needing her to teach him or help him understand how to get her back, she closes up and focuses on finding a new man who knows how to be attractive without her guidance and support.
So, if don’t ask your what she wants you to change or improve to get her back.
If you want to impress her and make her feel a sudden, strong and renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, it’s essential that you figure this out without seeking her help or guidance.
In most cases, a woman just won’t want to explain how to get her back and will simply move on.
So, figure out where you have been turning her off, quickly change that, re-attract her and get another chance with her.
Another mistake that other guys make is…
3. Constantly texting or calling her to stay on her mind and in her life
When a woman suddenly cuts a guy out of her life, he may begin to worry that she will forget about him and move on.
So, to stay on her mind, he will begin calling her or sending her daily texts, e-mails, social media messages.
Yet, rather than make her think, “Another message? I am so lucky! Thank you, thank you, thank! He must really love me to stay in touch so often like this. Maybe I should give him another chance. Who else is going to contact me this much? He has to be the one!” she will just feel annoyed that he’s being so needy and clingy.
As a result, she will feel even more turned off by him.
Remember: Staying in contact with an ex via text or social media messages will not guarantee that she will remain faithful.
If you want her to miss you and want you back, contacting her non-stop isn’t going to make her feel that way.
This is what you should do instead…
Another mistake that other guys make after being dumped all of a sudden is…
4. Getting angry at her for breaking up with him
For example: A guy might say, “Why are you being like this? You are selfish, self-centered bitch! How can you do this to me? What kind of cold-hearted person are you? What have you been up to behind my back? Are you seeing another guy? Huh? You slut!” and somehow hope that it makes her feel guilty for wanting to break up with him so suddenly and out of the blue.
Yet, as justified as a guy might feel to be angry with her, it just doesn’t work to get her back.
Instead, it makes her feel more determined to move on without him just to show him that she is allowed to do whatever she wants, with whomever she wants.
Another mistake that other guys make is…
5. Assuming that her decision is final and there’s no way he could get her back
If your ex has said something like this to you, “It’s truly over between us. My decision is final and I need you to accept that we’re never going to get back together again no matter what you say or do” it might make you feel as though her decision really is final.
Yet, the truth is that feelings change all the time.
For example: She once had no feelings for you at all (i.e. because you were a stranger to her) and she then had very strong feelings for you (i.e. because she fell in love with you).
She then fell out of love with you and broke up with you.
Her feelings have changed many times and they can change once again.
When you reactivate her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to the new you again.
Even if she tries to fight it, something inside of her will switch back on and she will feel drawn to you.
She will feel a flood of new, positive emotions for you and then, even though she was sure that it was over, she will realize that she was wrong.
Then, she will open back up to you and you will get her back.