So, how much space should you give an ex before you contact her and attempt to get her back?
The answer is that it really depends on you, her, the break up reasons and how much she still loves you and wants to be with you.
In most cases, when a guy is going through a breakup with a woman, he should get her on a phone call right away and meet up with her and get the relationship back together.
However, if they’ve had many breakups and she’s really annoyed with him at this point, there’s nothing wrong with giving her a couple of days of space.
In really extreme cases, the most amount of space that I’ve ever recommended a guy give is a week, because anything more than that and really you’re just wasting time.
Why? The most important thing that you need to do to get a woman back is start interacting with her and making her feel some level of respect, attraction and love for you again.
For example: If a guy was dumped by a woman because he was too emotionally sensitive (e.g. he would get jealous, and clingy and insecure at various stages in the relationship and she could really push him around, and control him and make him feel insecure and emotionally sensitive), he can make her feel some respect and attraction for him again if he talks to her on the phone and allows her to experience the new and improved version of him where he is emotionally stronger.
Of course, there are some situations where ignoring an ex for a long period of time will make her miss him. She’ll start to feel a bit nostalgic, she’ll start to think about the good old times and she’ll then want to contact him and get back with him.
However, what I’ve found is that a woman getting nostalgic and missing a man that she had no feelings for is a very small percentage of ex-back situations that guys go through.
In most cases, the girl has had enough.
The guy has destroyed her respect and attraction for him. He’s just pushed it way too far.
So, when she looks back on some of the good memories, she thinks, “Well, okay, it was good at the start, but near the end there, he just lost it. He did this and he did that and he did that. You know what? I don’t really think he’s changed.”
Yet, if he just gets her on a phone call and has a chat with her, he can then show her that he’s changed.
It will come through in how he’s talking to her.
He’s not going to be the same guy that she broke up with. He’s going to be a new and improved version and she’s going to start to smile.
She’s going to start to think, “Hang on. He’s different now. This is different” and then after that phone call, if she doesn’t agree to meet up with him right away, she’s going to look back at the good memories and she’s going to start thinking, “Well, hang on, we had a good time in the past. I’m feeling good when I talk to him now. Why don’t I just say yes to meeting up with him?”
So that’s why I don’t recommend giving a woman too much space because you can actually make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you when you talk to her on the phone.
Even when you text her, you can get a bit of respect and attraction back, but the bigger impacts happen when you talk to her on the phone and when you meet up with her in person.
If you need help to get your ex back because you don’t know what to say or do at each step of the process, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
Okay, so to close up here, I just want you to understand that you have a lot of control over how much respect and attraction she feels for you.
You can actively make her feel some level of respect and attraction for you again.
When you do that, she’ll naturally start to reconnect with her feelings for you and it will be much easier to get her to meet up with you and get her to give you another chance.