It’s very easy for a woman to get laid or find herself a boyfriend because all she has to do is say, “Yes” to the many guys who will be interested in her at any point in time.
If a woman is attractive, most guys are going to be willing to have sex with her at least once and many of those guys will also want to have a relationship with her, regardless of what her personality is like, what she does for a living and what her fashion sense is like.
For most guys, it’s either a “Yes” or a “No” as to whether they would have sex with a woman, but it doesn’t work that way for women when they select men.
This is why the dating game works differently for men than it does for women.
For women, it’s about being passive and basically saying “Yes” to guys who make them feel enough attraction, whereas for guys it’s about proactively making women feel attracted and then having the confidence to move the interaction forward from one step to the next.
So, if you want to know more about how to ask a woman out, here are 5 mistakes to avoid if you don’t want to get rejected…
1. Not establishing mutual sexual attraction first
If you are sexually and romantically interested in a woman, you shouldn’t try to ask her out simply based on a friendly interaction or a platonic friendship between you and her, because she will almost always reject you.
Women say “Yes” to guys who ask them out on a date, when mutual sexual attraction has been established first.
As a guy, it’s very easy for you to feel attracted to her because a guy’s attraction for a woman is mostly based on her appearance, which is why guys jerk off to porn and can be seriously interested in a woman instantly simply based on how she looks.
You might have heard guys referring to women in photos as “marriage material” and you may have personally fallen in love with many women that you’ve seen on trains, in shopping malls and simply walking past you on the street.
However, generally speaking, a woman’s attraction for a man works differently.
As a man, you need to proactively make a woman feel attracted to you by displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, humor, masculine vibe, etc).
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little attraction a woman will feel for you.
For example: If a guy interacts with a woman and he is displaying nervousness, self-doubt, insecurity and anxiety, the woman is going to feel very turned off by him.
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem, etc) and turned off by the emotional weakness (e.g. nervousness, insecurity, etc).
As long as you are triggering a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for you, she will feel open to the idea of having sex with you or beginning a relationship.
However, if the main approach that you’re using with women you like is to simply be a nice, friendly guy, then there is no guarantee that she will feel enough sexual attraction to say “Yes” to going out on a date or beginning a relationship with you.
2. Waiting too long to make a move
After attraction has been established, most women will give a guy a limited Window of Opportunity (WOW) to make a move.
For example: If you meet a woman at a bar or a party and she shows signs of being attracted and is interested, she might only give you a few minutes to start making a move to touch her, get more intimate with her (e.g. sit down on a couch together at the party or bar) or get her alone with her (e.g. move a few steps away from her friends, go to the bar together to order a drink, etc).
If you don’t make a move, she will lose interest and open herself up to another guy instead.
This will happen if her real plans for the night are to hopefully get laid or get herself a boyfriend by having sex with a guy on the first night.
On the other hand, if you meet a woman at work or at university for example, the WOW (Window of Opportunity) might last for a couple of weeks, but if you wait too long to make a move, she will usually lose interest due to your lack of confidence.
So, if you’re going to ask a woman out, what you essentially need to do is make her feel attracted to you, get her number, call her up (1-3 days later), respark some attraction and then suggest catching up.
3. Asking to take her out, rather than to catch up
A common mistake that guys make is where they ask a woman if they can take her out somewhere, rather than just asking her to catch up.
When a guy says, “So, can I take you out sometime?” or “I’d like to take you out on a date. When are you free?” it signals to a woman that the guy is already thinking that the date will lead to a serious, committed relationship and possibly even marriage.
Some women are fine with that type of approach because they are looking for a serious relationship and don’t want to waste time with casual sex or temporary dating relationships, but these days, most women feel turned off by it because it’s too serious too soon.
So, here’s what you should say to ask different types of women out…
1. A woman who only wants to have casual sex and date you for a while to see where it goes.
“Hey sexy – it was fun to meet you the other night. You crack me up. It would be cool to catch up sometime soon to say hi. . I’m going to busy on _____ (e.g. Monday) and _____ this week, but I have _____ and _____ free, how about you?”
2. A woman who doesn’t want a casual relationship and is looking for a serious boyfriend or potential husband.
“Hey, so I really enjoyed meeting you the other day and I like you, so let’s organize a time where I can take you out. I’m going to busy on _____ (e.g. Monday) and _____ this week, but I have _____ and _____ free, how about you?”
3. A woman who you’ve only ever been friends with, but have now established mutual sexual attraction with.
“Hey, so I know that you and I have only ever been friends, but I think it would be fun to catch up, have a drink together and see what happens.”
“Hey, so I’m going to a bar on Friday night with _____ (a friend or some friends), you should come along too” and then at the bar, make her feel more attracted to you and kiss her there or invite her back to your place for a private after party (e.g. “Hey, let’s head back to my place to chill out and have a drink, just you and me”).
As you can see from the examples above, it’s best to tailor your approach to the particular woman and the dynamic between you and her.
When you do catch up with a woman in person, what you need to do is continue to build up her attraction for you, get to a first kiss and then get her back to your place or go to her place.
These days, most women hate it when guys take too long to get to a first kiss or sex.
For example: A study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on the first date and a European study found that 70% of women admitted to having a one night stand before.
So, when you do “catch up” with this woman that you’re asking out, make sure that you don’t wait too long to make a move or she might lose interest.
These days, women often have many different guys chasing them at the same time (e.g. at work, on dating apps like Tinder, guys that she’s given her number to at a bar, ex-boyfriends or lovers, guys in the friendzone with her, etc), so if you wait too long to make a move, you will often lose your opportunity to be with her.
Most women will immediately ignore all the other guys chasing her if you can make her feel enough attraction, guide her to kissing and sex and make her feel lucky to be with you.
The easiest way to do that is to first attract her (don’t try to skip that part) and then offer her a bit more of a challenge than other guys do.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, most women are bored to death with how easy it is for them to attract guys for sex or a relationship.
She wants to feel lucky that an awesome guy like you is choosing her because she has done enough to impress you, rather than feeling as though you’re just another horny guy who is hoping to score with any woman.
4. Getting nervous because you are worried that one mistake will ruin everything
If you want to be successful at dating women and keeping a relationship together, one of the most important things you need to do is develop confidence in your attractiveness and value to women.
When you are able to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for you during an interaction by displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, masculine vibe, humor, etc), she will overlook or forgive some or many little mistakes that you make along the way because she’s feeling so attracted and turned on by you.
As long as you are able to make a woman feel properly attracted to you like that, you don’t have to worry about any minor slip-ups or mistakes that you make along the way.
Instead, you just need to keep moving forward from one step to the next, based on the fact that if a woman is attracted to you, then she will be open to the idea of having sex with you or going out on a date with you.
However, if you are only approaching your interactions in a way where you are being a really friendly, nice guy who is hoping to be liked because you’re such a nice guy, then women won’t be as lenient on the mistakes you make.
Since the woman won’t be feeling much or any sexual attraction for you based on the nice guy approach, your mistakes will become yet another reason why she will feel as though you’re not a good match for her.
5. Trying too hard to impress to her to the point where she begins to play hard to get
A lot of guys don’t realize how easy most women are to pick up.
Most women act as though they are really hard to get and really picky, but the majority of women are very easy to get a phone number from, get out on a date and have sex with as long as you’ve established enough attraction first.
Since many guys don’t really know how to properly attract women with their confidence and personality, they will often fall into the trap of trying really hard to be liked for being such a nice guy.
Watch this video to understand why the nice guy approach to women results in rejection more often than not…
As you will discover from the video above, there is nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but women only appreciate nice guys when the guy first establishes sexual attraction.
If a guy is being really nice to a woman in the hope of impressing her, she might like him as a person because he is so nice, but she’s not going to be feeling sexually aroused and turned on by his approach.
For example: A guy might laugh at all of a woman’s jokes, buy her drinks, over compliment her and try to show her how much of a nice, trustworthy guy he is compared to other guys.
Yet, most women aren’t stupid and they know what it is going on when a guy does that. She knows that he’s simply trying to suck up to her by being nice and is hoping to be rewarded with sex, love and devotion because of it.
She knows that he has no idea how to attract women and turn them on with his personality, so he is trying to overcompensate for his lack of attraction skills by being really nice.
Women hate that.
It’s one of the 3 things that many attractive women hate about most single men…
Of course, it’s a lot easier for women because all they have to do is look good and say, “Yes” to the many guys who are interested in them.
Yet, here’s the thing…
It’s even EASIER for guys who know how to attract women with their personality and confidence, because those guys are usually already take or sleeping with multiple women. So, when a woman finally meets one of those guys, he can pick up women just as easily as a 8-10/10 women can pick up men.
When you are the guy who can attract and turn women on with your personality and confidence, you instantly become a rare find or a “catch” as some people refer to it as.
The fact is, most single guys in this world are clueless with women and end up wasting years of their life trying to impress with women the nice guy approach, without ever knowing how easy it is to attract women for sex and relationships.
When you can trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction by displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women and you then confidently move the interaction forward from a conversation to kiss, to sex and into a relationship – you will realize how easy most women are to pick up.
Most women go through months of their dating life never even meeting a good guy who can properly attract her and turn her on with his confidence and personality, so when you come along and give her that experience, she won’t be saying “No” when you ask her out.
She will be saying, “Yes!” and will be eager to meet up with you ASAP.