The secret of how to get back together with your ex basically comes down to the following three things.
- Apologize for your mistakes and let her see that you’ve already changed or improved the things that she broke up with you for (e.g. insecurity, lack of ambition, taking her for granted).
- Switch your focus to making her have some feelings for you (e.g. making her feel attracted to you by using humor, flirting, making her feel girly and feminine around you, etc).
- Guide her back into a relationship.
Of course, if you’re looking for advice on how to get back together with your ex, you’ve most likely already apologized to her, but have you done the following two steps above?
Have you actually showed her that you’ve improved and changed? Have you switched your focus to begin making her have feelings for you, feelings like respect, attraction and love? Have you actually been doing that?
A lot of guys who are trying to get their woman back are a point where they’re saying, “She’s not opening up to me. She’s not listening to what I’ve got to say. I’m trying to get her to see that things will be different,” but that isn’t what works when getting a woman back.
You’ve got to actively make her have some feelings for you again.
You’ve got to make her feel respect, attraction and love for you again, otherwise, she just doesn’t care about what you’re saying or how you’re promising that things will be different this time.
She doesn’t care that you really love her and you really care about her because from her perspective, she doesn’t have strong enough feelings for you.
So, if you want her back, you must switch your focus to actively make her have feelings for you again.
Reactivating Her Dead Feelings
When I help guys to get back together with their ex-girlfriend, fiancé or wife, a guy will often be at the point where he’s saying that his ex doesn’t have feelings for him anymore.
Your woman might have even said to you that she doesn’t have feelings for you anymore, it’s over, it’s too late, she can’t change how she feels, etc.
So, at this point where you’re trying to get back together with your ex, you’ve most likely already tried to make her have feelings for you again, but if you are making the mistake that most guys make, you’ll be trying to achieve that by telling her how much you care, apologizing over and over again, being extra nice to her, etc.
Yet, that isn’t what makes a woman have feelings for her ex guy again.
What is going to make her have feelings for you again is when you stop saying and doing the types of things that have been turning her off, the types of things that have led to the breakup, and that have caused her to feel less respect, attraction, and love for you after the breakup.
For example: Leading up the break up, some guys will be turning their woman off by being insecure, taking her for granted, smothering her emotionally, etc.
After the breakup, a guy might start being needy, desperate, begging, pleading, apologizing and some guys might even go as far as to cry to their woman.
As you may know by now, none of those things will make a woman think, “Wow, I want to get back with him!”
So, what is an example of something that will make her have a renewed sense of respect and attraction for a guy?
One example is where a guy has been insecure in a relationship. Maybe he was clingy, jealous, controlling, he was emotionally sensitive, etc.
When he then interacts with his ex via text, on a phone call, and in person from now on, he needs to be able to show her that he’s no longer like that anymore.
It’s not about telling her, “Hey, I’ve changed. I used to be emotionally weak and needy, and now I’ve changed.” She’s just going to be thinking, “Yeah. Well, good for you.”
The only thing that matters is her feelings, and the only way to get her to care is to actively make her have feelings for you when you interact with her.
When you’re interacting with her via text, on a phone call, and in person, you can then show her by the way that you’re talking, feeling, thinking, behaving, moving, responding to her, etc., that real changes have been made.
Of course, just showing her that doesn’t get the relationship back together; it just allows her to have a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When she feels a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, she automatically starts to look at you differently.
She starts to feel differently about the relationship and the possibility of getting back together.
However, if you don’t actively make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, then don’t even worry about trying to get her back because she’s just going to keep saying no to you.
If your overall approach to getting her back is all about you loving her, wanting her and needing her, she just not going to care.
It’s got to be about her having some feelings for you.
To get back together with an ex girlfriend, you’ve got to be able to make her feel SOMETHING when she interacts with you from now on.
What matters is that you’re able to make her feel differently. You’re able to make her feel the type of respect, attraction, and love that will make her want to consider getting back with you again.
When you make her feel that way, a woman doesn’t necessarily immediately say, “Oh, I want to get back with you,” because sometimes she’s a little bit confused or thinks, “What will other people think? I told him that I wanted to break up with him, and now having feelings for him. What should I do?”
That’s why you need to be confident as you guide her back into a relationship. You need to know what to do at each step, rather than messing up and losing confidence as you go through the ex back process.
If you are currently going through the process of trying to get back together with your ex girlfriend and you’re confused about what to do, I recommend that you watch my program.
It’s called Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
It’s 10 hours of video, and by the end of watching the 10 hours of video, you’ll be ready to contact her; get her to forgive you; get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you; meet up with you in person; feel even more respect, attraction, and love for you again; and then follow your lead as you guide her back into an intimate relationship with you.
She Isn’t Going to Help You
Another thing to point out about how to get back together with your ex is that you can’t expect her to help you by telling you what you need to do.
A lot of guys that I help to get back together with their ex girlfriend (fiance or wife) have made the mistake of continually asking her things like, “What do you need me to do? What do you want me to do? What should I change? What is the problem? Please tell me. Please explain how can I make you happy? What am I doing wrong?”
They are all very valid questions and are very important questions that you need the answer to, but she doesn’t want to give you that answer because a woman does not want to take on the role as a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
She doesn’t want to be in a relationship with a guy where he needs her to be his teacher or to take care of him like a mother would take care of a boy or a big sister would look after her little brother. She doesn’t want to be in that position.
She wants to be able to look up to you, and respect you as her man. The only way for you to be able to do that is for you to figure it out on your own or to get someone like me to help you.
If you don’t have other men in your life who are willing, and able, and capable of teaching you how to be the type of man that she needs you to be, then I’ll recommend that you watch my program.
I don’t recommend that you ask her questions and seek her help to explain what you need to say, do or change to get her back. If you try that approach with her, she’s just going to get pissed off and annoyed and get even more turned off by you.
Women do not want to be a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man. They want a ready made man or a man who has the ability to improve, change and grow quickly.
Getting Back Together With Her
To close up here, I want to make it clear that the only real way to make her want to get back together with you is to actively make her have some feelings for you again.
It’s got to be about her having feelings for you rather than you telling her how much feelings you have for her, and how important this is to you, and how much you care, and how things will be different this time.
What makes a difference is when you create that spark in her again, when you trigger her feelings for you again; feelings like respect, attraction, and love.
When that starts to happen, she starts to look at you differently.
She starts to think differently.
She starts to talk to you differently.
She starts to make different decisions.
She becomes open to meeting up with you.
She becomes open to hugging you, kissing you, having sex with you, and starting the relationship again.
So my question to you now is, “Are you ready to get her back? Do you know what you need to say and do to get her back at each step of the process?”
If you don’t know what to do, you can either continue watching my free videos which have loads of helpful advice or you can get right into it and follow a step-by-step program by watching Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
Guys get back together with women every day all over the world, and you can do it, too.