Sometimes a woman will want to get back with her boyfriend after a breakup, but will show typical signs that a woman will show when she doesn’t want her boyfriend back.

So, while it’s important to look out for obvious signs that she really wants to be broken up, you also have to keep in mind that women don’t always say what they really mean.

When it comes to women, sometimes a negative signal can actually be a positive signal.

Here are some signs she really wants to be broken up, as well as what they can also mean:

1. She says that she doesn’t want to be in contact with you anymore

That can seem like an obvious sign that she really wants to be broken up, but it’s not.

For example: In some cases, a woman says that because she can’t handle with being in contact with her ex (i.e. it will make her want him back, she will almost certainly lower her guard and give him another chance).

Of course, in some cases, she means what she is saying and really doesn’t want to be in contact with her ex boyfriend anymore, because she’s completely over him and 100% sure she doesn’t want him back.

So, what should you do?

The best approach is to give your ex a few days (or up to a week at most) of space, where you respect her wishes and don’t contact her at all..

If she still has feelings for you, then she will miss you during that time.

Even if she doesn’t want to, she will be thinking about you and feeling the loss of what you and her shared together as a couple.

She may then reach out to you with a text or call, which is her way of signaling that she is interested in getting back together, or talking with you to see how she feels (i.e. do you make her feel attracted? Do you make her feel turned off? Have you leveled up since the breakup and are now able to make her feel the kind of attraction she really wants? Are you still basically the same and have no idea how to attract her in the ways that are important to her).

If she doesn’t reach out to you first, then get in touch with her after no more than 7 days of space.

Re-attract her and get her to meet up with you in person, so you can fully attract her and get to a hug, kiss, sex and back into a relationship.

Another possible sign that she really wants to be broken up, is…

2. The relationship hadn’t been going well for a long time and she was totally over it

The relationship hadn’t been going well for a long time and she was totally over it

Most boyfriend-girlfriend relationships don’t go well for a while before breaking up, so when it finally does happen, a woman will have usually disconnected from her feelings and be ready to leave her boyfriend.

As a result, she won’t be interested in working things out and will try to move on right away, so her boyfriend doesn’t feel welcome to get her back, or to make herself feel better about the break up (i.e. based on other guys finding her attractive, experiencing the thrill of kissing or having sex with someone new, falling in love with someone new).

So, if the relationship with your girlfriend had been going downhill for quite a while, it’s a possible sign that she really wants to be broken up now.

Yet, that doesn’t mean you can’t get her back.

For example: Even married couples who go through the stress and pain of a divorce, can end up getting back together and according to research, have a 72% chance of staying together the second time around.

In terms of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, it’s often even easier and a guy is able to re-attract his ex and get her back for a new and improved relationship.


By going through the steps of the ex back process.

Another possible sign she doesn’t want to get back with you, is…

3. She unfriends you, unfollows you and even blocks you

There are different reasons why a woman will do unfriend, unfollow or block and they’re not always because she really wants to be broken up with an ex.

For example: A woman will sometimes do it because…

  • She’s angry and wants to punish her ex for what happened, by making him think there’s no hope of getting another chance with her now.
  • She’s testing to see what he will do (e.g. will he give up and walk away because he lacks confidence or doesn’t care enough about her? Will he begin stalking or harassing her? Will he send a soppy email to her, pouring his heart out and begging for another chance?).
  • She’s worried that if she stays in contact with him, she will agree to give him another chance, even though she doesn’t believe anything about him has really changed.
  • She does it while feeling emotional and then regrets it moments later, but doesn’t want to refriend, refollow or unblock in case it makes her look weak or signals to him that she’s interested.
  • One of her friends told her to do it as a way of getting over an ex boyfriend, even though she didn’t really want to.

So, don’t give up on getting her back based on what something may mean.

Just focus on going through the ex back process and get her back.

If you do that, she will naturally want you back, even if she had been giving off signs that she didn’t.

4. She no longer prioritizes you like she used to

That can look like she is getting on with her life and is doing fine without you, but it can also mean other things.

Think about it this way…

She’s just lost a major part of her life (i.e. the relationship with you, the connection you and her had, the sex she had access to, the warm, comfortable moments with you, the sense of security of having a boyfriend).

So, don’t think that she doesn’t care.

Instead, just understand that a woman will usually try to focus on other areas of her life (e.g. her studies, friendships, family, work, exercise, socializing), to help herself feel normal again and keep her mind off you.

Additionally, also understand that if you haven’t re-attracted her and attempted to get her back in a way that works, then as far as she’s concerned, it’s over between you and her and nothing is going to change that.

As a result, she naturally feels compelled to prioritize other things in her life, now that you’re gone.

So, what should you do?

Interact with her and re-attract her, so she naturally begins to focus back on you.

When re-attracted, she suddenly realizes that her feelings for you aren’t dead and even if she really wanted to be broken up prior to that, she won’t anymore.

She will go where the attraction is strongest and if that’s with you, then she will be in your arms again.

It’s as simple as that.

You’ve got to believe in yourself and make it happen.

It works.

Another possible sign she really wants to be broken up with you…

5. She only talks about the negatives of the relationship and refuses to see any good in what you and her had

Although that can seem like an obvious sign that she really wants to be broken up, there’s also another way to look at it.

When a woman is feeling angry and disappointed with a guy she has dumped, she usually won’t want to focus on the positives of the relationship; especially when talking to him.

Some of her reasons why:

  • She doesn’t want him to feel like he doesn’t need to change anything to get her back.
  • She is trying to remain angry and disappointed, so she can get over him and move on.
  • She doesn’t want to admit that good times, or focus on the good and then find it difficult to let go of her feelings for him.
  • She wants to punish her ex boyfriend for how badly she feels, by rejecting him further and saying that the relationship was all bad, or she was never really happy with him.

6. She seems so much happier being single

She seems so much happier being single

Maybe your ex is happier because she can now…

  • Stay out late and party with her single friends.
  • Flirt with guys she finds attractive (e.g. at work, the gym, in social environments, online) whenever she wants.
  • Hook up with any guy she wants to, just for the fun of it.
  • Not have to compromise on what she wants to do, due to being in a committed relationship.
  • Get a lot of attention from men, which had increased how confident she feels about her attractiveness.

That is possible.

However, it’s also possible that your ex is putting on an act of being happier to make you feel jealous and hurt you further.

It can also just be her hiding how much she misses you and how much pain she secretly feels when she is alone and thinking about you and her.

In a case like that, she will keep herself busy so she doesn’t have to think about you.

Here’s the thing though…

Regardless of whether your ex is happy or not, if you want her back, you have to step up to the plate and re-attract her while you still can.

You almost certainly still have a chance to get her back, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this.

So, if you do want her back, start going through the steps to get her back and make it happen, while you still can.

7. She changes and becomes very cold towards you

That can mean she doesn’t want anything to do with you, or it can be her way of testing your confidence.

A woman will often test her ex’s confidence, if one of the main reasons for leaving him was due to him being too insecure.

So, to see if he’s changed or leveled up since the breakup, she acts cold and aloof towards him.

If he remains confident regardless of how she treats him and continues to re-attract her (e.g. by using humor, flirting with her, making her feel feminine and girly, being assertive in a loving way, being more charismatic, being a bit of playful challenge at times), she will naturally warm back up to him.

However, if he becomes flustered, doubts himself and can’t handle the pressure, she will know that he’s still the same, insecure guy she dumped.

8. She knows that you still don’t understand why she really broke up with you

This often happens when a guy continues to interact with his ex and make the same old attraction mistakes that he made in the relationship, or after the break up (e.g. he sucks up to her and does whatever she tells him to do, rather than having the courage to be a playful challenge, or be assertive in a loving way. He buys her gifts or flowers to hopefully impress her with his romantic gesture, not realizing that women aren’t impressed by romance from men that they don’t respect or feel attracted to. He assumes she wants him to listen more, be more patient and be more respectful, even though he already does those things. What she actually wants is for him to be more manly and not allow her to order him around with unnecessary rules or requests).

If he can’t figure out how to actually attract her, she will know that he’s still stuck at the same level and therefore, she won’t be interested in getting back with him.

So, if you want to get your ex back for real, make sure that you let her sense that you understand her real reasons for breaking up with you (e.g. how you seemed confident at first, but gradually became insecure and unsure of yourself) and have already changed and improved.

Don’t ask her to give you a chance to work on those things.

Fix them before interacting with her, so she can sense the changes and naturally feel attracted to you.

It doesn’t take a long time to do that either.

If you learn and apply what you’ve learned, you can fix your issues within the next 24-72 hours and begin re-attracting her.

You won’t be perfect in 24-72 hours, but you will have improved significantly and she will sense that based on how much respect and attraction she now feels when interacting with you.

9. She is in love with a new guy and wants to be with him

If a woman is in love with a new guy, it can be a sign that she really wants to be broken up.

However, just because a woman is dating a guy, it doesn’t mean she is truly in love with him, or that they are meant to be and will be together forever.

After all, your ex has a 100% failure rate with relationships so far.

That relationship will likely fail too.

Regardless of whether it fails, or stays together for the next few weeks, months or years, don’t just sit on the sidelines if you want her back.

Interrupt her new relationship by making her have feelings for you again and get to the point where you and her hook up again.

Make the new guy seem unattractive, or unappealing compared to the new and improved you.

That’s how guys all over the world do it.

It’s not difficult.

You’ve just got to prepare yourself to re-attract her, believe in yourself and make it happen.

Before you know it, she’ll be back in your bed, looking you in the eyes and hoping that you will forgive her and never leave her.

10. She doesn’t seem sad that you and her are broken up

If your ex didn’t cry, or doesn’t seem to regret the breakup, but you’ve been in pain and haven’t been able to stop thinking about her, it’s only natural that you may assume she really wants to be broken up.

Yet, another possible reason for her reaction, is that she’s more experienced with breakups and knows how to handle the pain, or hide her pain from you.

Alternatively, she’s an emotionally closed-off person who doesn’t show a lot of emotion on the outside.

On the inside, she might be hurting just as much as you are, or even more.

Regardless, you are either going to do what it takes to get her back, or not.

It’s up to you to make a move.

Don’t wait around for her to come running back and do everything for you.

Women rarely, if ever, do that after dumping a guy they are no longer very attracted to.

11. She doesn’t care if she looks unattractive to you, or seems unattractive based on her behavior

In a relationship, a woman will usually put in a lot of effort into looking and behaving in an attractive way for her man (e.g. being nice, sweet, warm, feminine).

Yet, after a breakup, a woman will often stop caring about how she appears to her ex, because she’s no longer interested in impressing him.

Her ex might see that as meaning she no longer wants to be with him and really does want to be broken up.

However, from her perspective, she just doesn’t care anymore.

If you want to make her care, you’ve got to re-attract her, so she reconnects with her feelings for you.
When she suddenly starts feeling respect, attraction and love for you again, she will naturally feel motivated to look and behave in more attractive ways when interacting with you.

Essentially, you need to take control of the ex back process, rather than leaving everything up to her and hoping she comes back for some unknown reason.

Make it happen.

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