One of the first things that you need to know about making a good first impression on a girl is that she doesn’t want you to worry too much about it.
Girls are attracted to guys who are confident in their sex appeal and attractiveness and who don’t need to show off or put on an act of being really nice, polite and sweet to hopefully be “liked” enough by a girl.
Guys who worry about making a good first impression on a girl, often end up behaving in ways that actually turn her off.
For example: A guy who tries too hard might put on an act of being a much nicer guy than he normally is, which will simply make him come across as untrustworthy.
He might also appear nervous and unsure of himself, which will also turn the girls off because they are attracted to a guy’s confidence, not his self-doubt and insecurity.
There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a girl, but being too nice to her (in the hope of being liked) will usually result in rejection.
As you will discover from the video above, when a guy focuses too much on trying to make a good impression by being nice and friendly, it usually won’t make the girl feel anything more than friendly emotions around him.
So, before we go any further here, the main thing that we need to get clear on here is that you shouldn’t be worrying so much about trying to make a good first impression on her.
When a girl sees that you are relaxed, confident and simply being yourself, she will be impressed and attracted.
Think about it…
If this girl that you like is attractive, then most guys that she meets will feel nervous around her and will try really hard to make a good first impression on her by being really nice, friendly and polite.
While she might appreciate the nice behavior, it isn’t what is going to make her feel sexually turned on and eager to begin a relationship.
What she’s looking for is a confident guy who isn’t afraid to be himself, but who is also a good guy.
Not just a good guy who is nervous and who is afraid to be himself around her.
She wants a good guy who is confident and is able to be his real self around her, without worrying so much about what she might think.
What Really Matters to Her
What really matters is that you trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
When a girl is sexually attracted to you, she will then look at everything else about you in a more positive light.
For example: You can just say a few simple things and make her laugh once and she will think it’s amazing.
You might have noticed that before when you saw a girl talking to a guy and she was gushing and giggling at pretty much everything he said or did, even though he wasn’t saying or doing anything amazing.
That’s the power of sexual attraction.
Watch this video to understand how a girl’s attraction for a guy works and how you can use it to make the right kind of first impression on the girl that you like…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of control over how much or little attraction she will feel for you.
For example: If you are confident, charismatic and charming around her, she is going to feel so much more attraction for you than if you were nervous, anxious and too much of a nice guy around her.
Dress Well if You Want to, But Don’t Waste Too Much Time Worrying About it
There’s nothing wrong with wearing good clothes to make a good first impression, but it’s not something that you should spend a lot of time worrying about at all.
As a guy, the way to approach fashion is simple: Wear good clothes and then forget about it. Don’t worry about it, don’t think about it and don’t waste time talking about it.
Just put on some good clothes and then get on with being a confident guy who believes in himself. The confidence that you have in yourself is much more important to a girl than the shirt you are wearing.
When it comes to fashion, let girls be the girly ones who ask, “Does this look good on me?” and “What do you think of my shoes?” or “How does my butt look in these jeans?”
Apart from gay guys and guys who are serious about fashion, the rest of us men don’t need to worry about it.
Just put on some good clothes and then stop thinking about it altogether. How? You have to know that the most important thing that a girl looks for in a guy is his inner qualities (e.g. confidence, charisma, determination to succeed in life, emotional masculinity, etc).
The clothes you wear and the way you style your hair is nothing more than window dressing that girls look at to assess you on a superficial level.
Yet, it’s not what really counts.
For example: A guy can wear expensive, designer clothes, but if he is nervous, self-doubting and shy around girls, they aren’t going to say, “WOW! I want to be with you because of your clothes!”
That’s not how it works.
While she might like the clothes he is wearing and even give him a compliment about it, she’s going to feel deeply turned off by his lack of confidence, so she won’t be interested in him in a sexual, romantic way.
Always Be Your Real Self, Regardless of What She Might Think
Girls are attracted to guys who are not afraid to be their real self, regardless of what she might think.
This isn’t about rude, arrogant or disrespectful towards girls, but it’s about embracing who you really are not being afraid to show that.
For example: If a guy is talking to a girl and he really likes football, but she then says that she hates football, he might then make the mistake of playing down his interest in football to hopefully avoid upsetting her.
He might then say that he doesn’t really like football that much, but he watches it because there’s not much else on TV.
When the girl then realizes that he is worried that she might not like him because he likes football and she doesn’t, she loses respect for him because he can’t even stick to who he is around her.
He’s embarrassed that he’s not living up to her girly standards and is worried that if she doesn’t like something that he does, she will feel like they aren’t a match.
So, how should he respond instead?
He needs to stand by his love of football and then, in an easy-going, positive manner, ask her something like, “Okay, if you don’t like football, what other sport do you like, or what other things to do you like?” and talk to her about that.
He doesn’t have to try to convince her to like football or play down his interest in it. He’s allowed to love and enjoy whatever he wants…and so is she.
He can be his real self and she can be her real self. When he allows both himself and her to be their true self around each other, it feels so much better to be around each other.
The unique dynamic of their two personalities coming together is much more special, interesting and magnetic than both of them feeling awkward and stifled around each other.
To feel relaxed and at ease in a guy’s company, a girl needs to feel that she’s with a guy who is confident and at ease with himself.
She doesn’t want a guy who puts her on a pedestal and hangs on her every word, but a guy who is his own man with an opinion of his own, even if it goes against her opinion.
If they have the same opinion, then great, but if they don’t, that isn’t a problem either. It’s just a difference of opinion, which is absolutely normal and expected between men and women.
A girl also doesn’t want a guy who is so desperate to be liked by her that he becomes her personal “Mr Fix It” guy by making sure he’s always at her beck and call to help her with her every need.
There’s nothing wrong with being a helpful, good guy to a girl, but it does become a problem if the guy thinks that by being helpful, she will then reward him with sex, love and devotion.
Girls have sex with guys that make them feel sexually attracted and turned on. If the guy also happens to be a really nice guy or helpful, then it is seen as a bonus to her, but it’s not even 100% necessary to have sex with her or begin a relationship.
The number one thing that you need to do is make her feel sexually attracted and turned on by you. Putting on an act of being an even nicer guy than you really are is not the way to make a woman feel sexually attracted and turned on.
What is a way to attract her and turn her on?
Where do I start!? You can attract and turn girls on in so many different ways…
For example: Be confident around her, use your masculinity to make her feel girly around you, be charismatic, make her laugh, etc.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
At The Modern Man, I teach guys how to attract girls in more than 100 different ways. You only have to be able to attract most girls in 5-10 ways and they will eager to kiss you, have sex with you and be your girlfriend.
However, when you have the ability to attract girls in more than just 10 ways during an interaction, you are pretty much a 9/10 to 10/10 guy to most girls.
It’s very easy to do, so if you are serious about being able to make a good first impression on this girl you like, make sure that you focus on attracting her rather than getting her to like you as a person.
If you make the mistake of trying to get to know her slowly by being a friend, being really nice and pretending that you’re not even interested in anything sexual, she won’t be loyal to you.
All it will usually take for you to be replaced in a situation like that, is another guy to come along and make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
She will then hook up with him and won’t even feel bad for leaving you behind.
So, if you don’t want to get rejected by new women or left behind by girls that you already know and like, make sure that you switch your focus to turning them on rather than trying to be a friendly, nice guy who doesn’t even create a sexual vibe.
You deserve to have your choice of girls, but you will only get that when you are willing to start turning them on rather than trying to get them to like you enough to give you a chance.
Don’t Worry About Always Trying to Say the Right Thing
A guy attempts to strike up an interesting conversation with a girl that he really wants to make a good first impression on.
He’s feeling nervous and doesn’t want to risk saying the wrong thing to her so he sticks to safe, dull topics (e.g. “So, what to do you for work?” or “So, what are you studying?” and then replies with safe responses like, “Oh, nice” or “Oh, that’s good.”)
He’s trying to be on his best behavior and avoid saying or doing anything that might let her know that he’s got sex on his mind.
He just wants to be able to show her that he respects her and doesn’t care if it takes weeks, months or years before they have sex. He’s a nice guy and he doesn’t expect anything sexual from her at all.
1-2 minutes later, another guy comes along who is confident and alpha and she instantly feels attracted to him. She smiles, giggles and begins to ignore the nice guy.
The nice guy thinks, “What? I’m being so nice to her! Why would she go with that guy? He’s not as nice as me!” and feels confused and angry because he keeps hearing how girls want to be with a nice guy.
Standing there feeling the pain of being rejected, he takes a moment to watch what the confident guy is doing when talking to the girl.
He notices that the confident shows his sexual interest in conversation through flirting and innuendo…and he doesn’t keep his hands to himself. He touches her on the shoulder and then puts his hand behind her lower back and says, “Hey, let’s go sit over there.”
She goes with him.
The confident guy then builds up the sexual tension between them and then escalates the conversation into a kiss. An hour later, she leaves with him to go back to his place to have sex.
Meanwhile, the nice guy is left wondering why she chose the “bad boy” over him.
Yet, here’s the thing, he’s not a bad boy.
He’s just a confident, alpha male who is secure in who he is and what he’s got to offer a girl. So, rather than acting like a really nice guy who would never think of having sex with her, he just gets right to the point.
He makes her feel attracted to him, then expresses his sexual interest in her and when the moment is right, he makes a move to kiss her. After sex, they can then begin a relationship.
Approaching girls in that way is the easiest way to go from a conversation to kiss, sex and into a relationship.
You don’t need to put on an act of being someone who really respects her and would never think of having sex with her.
Yes, respect her and be good to her, but damnit – attract her and get to a kiss. Don’t waste time trying to “get to know her” for hours, weeks or months.
Get to the point.
Attract her, express your sexual interest in her (e.g. “You’re sexy, I like you”) and then get to a first kiss. When you approach girls in that way, you don’t have to worry about trying to make a good first impression on them by being a super nice guy or being Mr. Perfect.
If you don’t make a girl feel attracted to you first and instead try to get her to like you, she will almost always play really hard to get. She will make you jump through endless hoops to eventually be able to hold her hand or kiss her.
Of course, that is if another guy doesn’t come along and pick her up immediately.
So, if you want to get results with girls today, don’t waste time trying to get to know them and showing them how nice, sweet and kind you are.
Be the good guy, but make sure that you put most of your attention and effort into making her feel sexually attracted and turned on by you.
Once a girl is sexually attracted to you and turned on by you, everything else flows on naturally and effortlessly after that.