Becoming very jealous in a relationship with a woman always leads to her losing respect for you and then no longer feeling attracted to you.
Don’t worry – you can fix it though.
If you became jealous in your relationship and caused your woman to break up with you, here’s what you can now do to show your ex that you’re no longer a jealous guy…
1. Laugh When She Tries to Make You Jealous
In most cases, an ex isn’t going to believe that you’re no longer a jealous guy if you just say something like, “I’m sorry about being jealous when we were together. I’m over that now. I promise you, I’m no longer a jealous guy. Just give me a chance to show you.”
It’s just words.
There is no proof that you have really changed and after all she’s been through with you, she’s not going to believe mere words.
So, to test whether you have changed, a woman will often try to make you jealous to see how you react.
For example: She might say something like, “You know, I’ve been having an awesome time since we broke up. I’ve been partying with my friends and having so much fun! I’m really enjoying being single.”
To show her that you’ve changed, you can respond by playfully saying, “Oooh, wow…I’m so jealous” and laugh with her about it to let her see that you aren’t affected by her attempts to make you react like you used to.
You can say, “Oh, no…what am I going to do? I’m sooooo jealous” and then laugh with her about it.
You can then add in, “No, no…good for you. I’m happy for you. You deserve to enjoy yourself after all the crap I put you through. I was so silly being jealous in the way I was. I can look back now and laugh at myself. It’s funny” and then have a laugh with her about that.
This shows her that not only have you changed, but you’re also still fun to talk to because you are able to make her smile and laugh by cracking a joke that is based on your past behavior.
By talking to her in that way, you trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you and she then starts to look at and think about you in a positive way.
She begins to wonder, “Is it really possible for my ex to have stopped being jealous so quickly? Could he really have changed? Maybe he did. Maybe it is possible for someone to change that quickly. He seems a lot different anyway. I wish he was like that before” and she then opens herself up to the idea of getting to know you again in a whole new way.
Always remember: When you re-spark your ex’s feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you, her guard comes down and she naturally feels drawn to you again.
She can’t help it.
Even if her friends, family or coworkers are telling her to steer clear of you, her heart will be drawn to you.
She will be curious about how confident, cool and mature you’ve become all of a sudden and she will want to experience more of it.
Another way to show your ex that you’re no longer the jealous type is to…
2. Become Emotionally Independent
One of the main reasons why a guy might become jealous in a relationship is because he focuses way too much of his attention on his woman and neglects other areas in his life.
For example: A guy who makes his woman the centre of his world will usually…
- Stop doing things that don’t include her (e.g. a hobby or interest) to spend even more of his time with her.
- Stop hanging out with his friends, unless he can bring her along too.
- Put his big goals and dreams on hold because he feels like they’re not as important to him as she is. If he doesn’t have big goals and dreams, he might say to himself, “I don’t need anything more than my woman. She’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. What I need to do is make sure that nothing comes between us. She’s all that matters to me now.”
- Feel hurt if she wants to spend time alone, or go out with her friends without him.
- Worry that if he’s not with her all the time, some other guy might steal her away from him.
- Feel insecure about his value to her (i.e. worrying that she will realize that she could do better than him and then leave him).
- Feel like he needs her in his life to be happy and without her his life wouldn’t be worth living.
Being like that in a relationship with a woman is a recipe for disaster.
It never, ever lasts.
Women hate to feel responsible for a man’s emotional state in a relationship.
A woman wants her man to be happy, confident and forward moving in with or without her support or reassurance.
Yet, many guys forget that (if they knew it) or don’t know it at all, so they end up ruining a perfectly good relationship.
For example: If his woman tries to have interests, hobbies and friendships that are separate from her relationship with him, he will usually feel betrayed by her and become jealous of the people who are getting to spend time with her.
He might then start to blame her for making him insecure and say and ask things like:
- Am I not enough for you?
- Why are you always running off to do things with other people?
- What are you up to behind my back?
- Can I trust you when you’re with other people?
- I want you to know that nothing is more important to me than our relationship. You mean everything to me. Do you feel the same way?
- Am I enough for you?
- Have you ever thought about cheating on me?
- Have you been tempted?
- Are you cheating on me?
In most cases, a woman is usually not intentionally doing anything to make him feel jealous and his insecurity is being triggered by his own lack of purpose and balance in life (i.e. he is placing way too much of his focus on her and not enough on following through on his big goals and dreams in life).
So, while she is trying to live a more emotionally independent, mature and balanced life, he is being immature and expecting her to take responsibility for his emotional well being.
Since he is focusing most of his attention on her, it’s only natural that he might see her independent interests as a threat.
Yet here’s the thing…
Being emotionally dependant on a woman and making her your purpose in life and responsible for your happiness and well being, is the fastest way to lose her respect.
Yes, a woman does want to be with a guy who is loving, caring and devoted to her, but she also needs him to be his own man, independent of her.
So, if you want her back, you must show her that even though you still care about her and want her back, you don’t actually need her back.
Don’t text that to her and don’t tell her that when talking to her.
Show it to her by living your life, having fun without her and beginning to pursue your big goals and dreams with a more focused passion and determination.
Let her see that you are happy, confident and moving forward in life now and you don’t need her to feel emotionally fulfilled.
Of course, you really do want her back, but you must get to the point where you don’t actually need her back to feel okay again.
You’re already happy, confident and forward moving in life without her.
That’s what she wants to see.
She wants to see that you’re no longer dependent on her emotionally and have become your own man.
By becoming emotionally independent, you are showing your ex that you’re no longer a jealous guy because you’ve moved past the level you were at when she broke up with you.
When she notices that, she won’t be able stop thinking about you in a more positive light because you are now behaving like the kind of man she can actually look up to and respect.
All of a sudden, she feels drawn to you in a way that feels good to her and she then becomes open to the idea of being with you again.
3. Be Genuinely Happy if She is Happy
Just like being emotionally independent of your ex and having a greater purpose in your life other than her is important, accepting that she is emotionally independent of you is also important if you want to prove to her that you’re no longer a jealous guy.
Essentially, what this means is that you have to reach the point in your life where you genuinely feel happy for her, no matter what she’s doing or who she happens to be hanging out with.
For example: If she’s going out every night to clubs and bars with her single friends and dancing the night away with different guys and this makes her happy, then you need to be happy for her.
It’s not going to feel great for you to find that out, but if you want to prove to her that you’re no longer a jealous guy, you need to show her that you are happy for her and you are okay without her.
If she suddenly decides to go traveling around the world like she always wished she would, you need to be happy that she’s pursuing her dream.
Whatever it is that she’s doing now that she’s broken up with you, you have to show her that you’re okay with it and that you’re happy with whatever makes her happy.
Don’t fake your support and encouragement of her happiness; be genuine about it.
Know that if you are genuine, it will actually make her feel attracted to you because it shows that you’re not an emotionally selfish, jealous guy anymore.
If you fake your support for her, she will sense it and know that you re only pretending not to be jealous to hopefully get her back.
She will then keep her guard up and try not to interact with you again because she knows that it’s all just a trick.
So, it has to be genuine.
How do you do that?
The only way to make her believe that you are genuinely happy for her is for you to get to a point in your life where:
- You feel emotionally strong and confident without her.
- You believe in your value to her and to women in general.
- You are happy about where your life is going, even if she’s not in it.
When she sees that you have matured as a man in these ways, she will naturally and automatically feel respect for you again.
When she can respect you, she can then feel sexually attracted to you and when that happens, it becomes difficult for her to keep saying to herself, “Don’t trust him. He’s just faking it to make you fall in love with him again. He’s probably still the same jealous guy that he’s always been and if you drop your guard, he will hurt you all over again. Don’t believe it. Stay away from him.”
All of a sudden, that negative talk will begin to fade away and she will begin saying to herself, “Hmmm…he really is different now. I get a different feeling now when I talk to him. He’s a new man. It’s interesting. I actually like who he is now. Why am I feeling this way about him?”
From there, you just need to continue saying and doing the types of things that will prove to her that you really have changed and are no longer a jealous guy.
Then, confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
Warning: If You Don’t Get to the Source of Your Jealousy, You Might Suffer From it For the Rest of Your Life
Jealousy is something that comes from an insecure way of thinking.
Thankfully, insecure thoughts are self-created, which means that you can change your way of thinking and create confidence instead.
When you think in a confident way, you naturally become a confident man and your confidence becomes stronger every day, week, month and year of your life.
You eventually get to the point where you no longer experience jealousy and are always confident when in a relationship with a woman.
As a result, her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you deepen over time, rather than fading away or being ruined by your jealousy and sometimes controlling behavior.
The relationship is relaxing, loving and peaceful because you aren’t insecure and she feels attracted to that.
Women love men who are emotionally strong and are completely turned off by men who are emotionally weak.
So, it’s all within your control.
In terms of your ex, if you don’t fix the real cause of your jealousy and instead try to fake that you are now confident, all she has to do is test you and try to find an emotional weak spot to play with.
For example: Some of the ways a woman might test you to see if you’ve really stopped being a jealous guy, or if you’re just covering it up include the following…
- She talks about other guys who like her (e.g. she might say something like, “I was at the gym the other day and there was a personal trainer who has a crush on me. He is always telling me how hot I am and asking me out. I’m thinking about it. I don’t know though” or “There’s a guy who just moved into my new apartment building and last week he asked me out on a date. Why are guys asking me out so much all of a sudden? Do I look single or something? I don’t get it.”
- She shows some interest in you and then starts talking about a fun time she had with another guy (e.g. “Have you seen any good movies lately? I saw a great movie last week on a date that I went on with the guy from work. It was such a good movie. We went for Italian food after that and he was being all romantic, so it was pretty fun. Anyway… the movie was called…”)
- She posts up photos on social media of herself partying with friends, as well as photos of her hanging out with other guys.
- She says things like, “I might be open to seeing you as a friend, but that’s all I can offer” to see if you react in a jealous way by saying, “I can’t accept that. I want a relationship or nothing!”
Naturally, if the guy has genuinely fixed the root cause of his jealousy, then no matter how she tries to test him, it just won’t matter to him.
In fact, he will use tip #1 from this post and laugh at her attempts to try to make him jealous.
She will then feel respect and attraction for him and start to open herself back up to being with him again.
Yet, if he doesn’t fix the root cause of his jealous, he won’t be able to hide it for long.
Eventually, one of her tests will push his “jealousy button” and he will likely explode.
He might either storm off in a sulk, or start shouting at her and saying things like, “You’re such a slut! I was right about you all along. I guess that all those times that you kept telling me that I was just being jealous and paranoid was just your sneaky way of trying to make me feel bad for catching you out. You are an untrustworthy slut who can’t be with just one man. You didn’t even wait for our relationship to get cold before you jumped to the next guy. How could you do that to me? How could you be so shallow? You used to say that you loved me and wanted to be with me forever. It was all lies!” and she will know that he’s still a jealous guy.
In most cases, it’s just that easy for a woman to determine whether a guy has honestly changed, or if he’s still the same guy she broke up with and is only telling her that he’s changed to get her back.
So, don’t make the mistake of trying to show your ex that you’re no longer a jealous guy if you haven’t really changed.
When you get to the source of your jealousy, you really can get rid of it forever.
Do you know where your jealousy stems from?
Here are some of the reasons why a guy might be jealous …
- He believes that his woman is too good for him and therefore, feels like he needs to shield and protect her from anyone who might steal her away from him.
- He feels like he got lucky when he picked her up, so he is insecure about being able to find a replacement woman if she breaks up with him.
- He is drifting through his life and using the relationship as an excuse to hide from his true potential as a man.
- He has been cheated on before and still has trust issues that he hasn’t dealt with and gotten rid of.
Those are just a few examples of why a guy might feel jealous in a relationship with a woman.
How about you?
Can you pinpoint the root cause of your jealousy?
If so, you must do something to get rid of it now.
If you continue on with the insecure mindsets that lead to jealousy, you will most likely experience it for the rest of your life and ruin any other relationship you get into.
Yet, when you clear away the insecure ways of thinking that cause jealousy, you’re like a completely new man and your ex will notice it when she interacts with you from now on.
Make a Fresh Start Today
You were a jealous guy and she broke up with you because of it.
That’s in the past.
This is now.
You can get her back based on who you are now.
To get her to truly believe that you are no longer the jealous guy she remembers, you need to make a fresh start with her.
You need to re-attract her by making her feel respect and sexual attraction for who you are now, rather than get into long, deep and meaningful discussions about who you used to be in the past.
That jealous guy is gone and you need to show her, via your actions, thinking and behavior that he’s not coming back.
You are a new man now.
When she can see that no matter what tests she throws at you, it doesn’t maker you become jealous, she will start paying attention.
Even if she tries to fight it at first, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again and opening herself up to falling in love with the new you.