In most cases, it will only work if:
1. The woman you date is more physically attractive than your ex
If your ex sees you dating another woman who is more attractive than her, she will feel twinges of jealousy, even if she has been recently saying things like, “I don’t care what you do. Just leave me alone and find some other woman to be with. You and I are over!”
Of course, she probably won’t openly admit that she is jealous, but secretly, she will be thinking things like, “I wonder if that’s the reason why things didn’t work out between us… maybe I wasn’t attractive enough for him and he got bored.”
That might come as a shock to you, especially if your ex always seemed to be so confident, self-assured and together.
However, what a lot of guys don’t understand is that in most cases, women are a lot more insecure than they let on.
For example: According to a global study conducted by Dove cosmetics, 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful and secretly feel very insecure about their physical appearance.
So, if you suddenly start dating a woman who is more attractive than her, it’s very likely that your ex will get jealous.
Even if your ex is hot, she will almost certainly focus on qualities about the other woman that are better than hers (in her mind anyway), such as the ne woman having better legs, a pretty looking face, nice hair, great fashion sense or nice lips or eyes.
Of course, just because your ex feels jealous, it doesn’t mean that she’s going to suddenly call you up on the phone, express her undying love for you and ask you to take her back.
She might not want to face up to a potential rejection from you if she calls or texts you.
For example: Imagine how she’d feel if she called you and you said, “Why are you calling me? We’ve broken up. Besides, I’m with a new girl now and I’m much happier with her. I’d never get back with you.”
She’d be crushed.
So, rather than potentially getting her heart broken like that, she will try to move on herself.
For example: She may think something like, “I see that he’s already dating and has found himself a new girl. Well good for him! If I had any doubts about us breaking up, he’s proven to me that what we had is truly over. In fact, him moving on so quickly just proves to me that our relationship was a joke and that it meant nothing to him. I should actually thank him for helping me see the light. I can now move on with my life without any doubts holding me back.”
She will then focus on getting over him and finding herself a replacement guy as soon as possible (e.g. going out to bars and nightclubs and hooking up with guys, using dating apps, hooking up with a guy she knows who has been waiting for her to become single again).
As you can see, although dating a woman who is more physically attractive than your ex can stir up feelings of jealousy in her, it can also backfire and help her get over you faster.
A better way to approach the ex back process is to interact with her (e.g. over the phone or in person) and instantly reawaken her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
The more attraction you make her feel, the more open she becomes to being your girl again now.
On the other hand, if you date someone else to make her jealous, there’s no guarantee that she will feel jealous or want you back because of it.
Another example of when dating someone else will make an ex jealous, is when…
2. She still has feelings for you and secretly wants you back
Naturally, if a woman still loves a guy and wants him back, seeing him with someone else will almost certainly stir up feelings of jealousy inside of her.
She will then start worrying about losing him forever and it may force her to build up the courage to contact him by sending a text like, “Hey, how have you been? I really miss you. Want to catch up sometime?”
That’s how it works in ideal situation, but it doesn’t always play out like that.
For example: When a woman sees that her ex is moving on with someone else, she might then accept it as a sign that he’s completely over her, or believe that it now means she has no chance of getting him back.
She might say to herself, “So, that’s it then huh? He’s not coming back to me after all. Well, I’ve waste my time hoping we would get back together. While I’ve been sitting here, missing him and hoping that he would call me, he has been hooking up with a new girl. I was a fool to think that he still loved me. I really thought we had a chance of getting back together, but clearly that’s not the case at all. It’s over between us and I need to accept it and find a way to forget him, like he’s forgotten me.”
She then puts her energy into fully getting over her feelings for him and moving on.
Here’s the thing…
Making your ex jealous by dating someone else isn’t a foolproof method and in some instances, it can cause more harm than good (i.e. because it forces her to move on by hooking up with a new guy, even if she doesn’t want to).
Put yourself in her shoes.
If she did that to you when you still had feelings for her, how would you feel?
It would suck, wouldn’t it?
So, why do it to her?
Remember: Jealousy is a negative emotion and most women don’t like to be stuck feeling it, so they make an effort get over it as quickly as possible by hooking up with a new guy.
If your reasons for making your ex jealous are so that you can get her back without any fuss, why not use a different approach?
A better way to make a woman want you is to reactivate her feelings of respect and attraction for you, to the point where she feels she would be making a mistake if she let you go.
On the other hand, if you only focus on making her feel jealous by dating someone else, it may push her into the arms of another guy who makes her feel more attracted and in love than you have ever made her feel.
Another example of when dating someone else can make an ex jealous, is when…
3. You seem happier with the new woman
If your ex girlfriend can see that you’re much happier with the new woman, then it will definitely make her feel jealous on some level.
You can show her how happy you are by posting photos on Facebook and setting them to ‘public’ so your ex can see them even if she has unfriended you.
By the way…
It’s very important that you don’t pretend to be happy with some else when you’re not.
For example: A guy might try to make his ex think that he’s got a new girlfriend by posing in photos with a platonic friend that his ex has never met before.
Alternatively, he might ask one of his sister’s friends to pretend to be his girlfriend and post photos on Instagram or do some Snapchats with her.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If your ex finds out that you’ve only lying about dating someone else to get her back, she will lose even more respect and attraction for you.
As a result, getting her back then becomes a lot more difficult than it would have been if you were honest with her.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Make an Ex Woman Jealous By Dating Someone Else
Dating a new woman to make your ex jealous can work, but it can also result in you losing her.
Here are some common mistakes that other guys make when in your position…
1. Dating new women, falling in love and then missing out on the opportunity to get his ex woman back
A guy might sometimes get so caught up in a plan to make his ex jealous, that he forgets about his original goal, which was to get her back.
Instead of making her a little bit jealous and then getting her back, he finds a girl that he enjoys being with and months fly by before he realizes that he hasn’t interacted with his ex at all in that time.
He might then say to himself, “Well, maybe this is a good thing. It gives her more time to see me happy with someone else, which will then make her even more jealous.”
Yet, rather than waiting for months to hopefully get him back, his ex woman feels jealous initially and then proceeds to move on with new guys to make herself feel better.
Then, when her ex finally contacts her, rather than her say, “I’m so glad you finally called! I’ve really missed you,” she might say something along the lines of, “Sorry, but I didn’t hear from you in so long that I just moved on now. I’ve met someone else and I’m really happy with him. It’s too late for us now. I wish you all the best. Goodbye.”
Another negative outcome of dating someone else to hopefully get your ex back is that you can spend a lot of time getting emotionally involved with the new woman.
You can really fall in love with her, or at least really care about her and not want to hurt her.
So, rather than breaking her heart, you might stay with her for a few weeks or months longer, which will then result in your ex moving on.
Additionally, if you do break up with her to get back with your ex, you might be feeling guilty about leaving the new girl, which can cause you to struggle to fully reconnect with your ex and, as a consequence, you lose both women.
Another mistake that guys often make when in your position is…
2. Thinking that it will look “too obvious” if he posts photos online
It may look obvious to post up photos of you having fun with a new woman, but it’s necessary if you want to get your ex back by making her jealous.
Just do what works to get her back (e.g. post photos of yourself having fun with other women) and then get her back.
Initially, she might pretend not to care that you’re dating someone else, but deep down she’ll most likely be wondering, “He moved on so quickly. Didn’t he love me?” or “He’s dating a blonde now. I thought her preferred brunettes. I wonder if he didn’t think I was attractive enough when we were together. Maybe I should dye my hair, or cut it…maybe I need to lose some weight or get some sexier clothes. I want to see if I can attract him back. I’m better than her and I will prove that to him.”
She might then send you a private message on social media, or text you to say hello.
She will be hoping to assess your state of mind and find out how serious you are about the woman in your photos.
If that happens, you need to use every interaction with her as a way of building up her feelings and making her want you more and more.
From there, getting her to agree to a meet up becomes easy.
Then, when she sees you in person and discovers that you’re a new and improved man, the idea of getting back together again will seem like a no brainer to her.
She will clearly be feeling enough respect, attraction and love for you to give the relationship another chance, so it’s then up to you to give her that chance.
Another mistake the guys often make in your situation is…
3. Not being aware of how to get her back without having to date new women
Making a woman feel jealous by dating other women is definitely something that helps to get an ex back, but it’s not the only thing that works.
In fact, in most cases, dating other women to get an ex back can cause more complications than get results (e.g. your ex builds up a lot of resentment towards you and decides to get back at you by hooking up with a guy, she focuses on fully getting over you and moving on, or she allows herself to fall in love with a new guy).
So, if your goal is to get your ex back, it’s usually better to do it by making her feel positive emotions (e.g. respect, attraction, love), rather than negative emotions (e.g. resentment or bitterness).
Begin the ex back process by interacting with her any way you can (e.g. via text, social media, over the phone and wherever possible, in person) and re-spark her feelings for you.
The more she experiences the new you for herself, the more she begins think, “My ex seems so different now. I really enjoy hearing from him. Maybe we can fix our relationship after all.”
She then starts to feel that if you’re not in her life anymore, it’s just not going to feel right.
So, she opens herself up to the idea of getting back together again.