Every woman will react differently.
Some women will want their ex back if he dates new women, whereas others will seek revenge and hook up with new guys and then move on.
So, to be clear, here are 4 possible reactions that you might get from your ex:
1. She doesn’t care because she’s not attracted to you anymore
Sometimes a guy will start dating new women in the hope that his ex will get jealous and want him back.
That can work if she actually cares about him and secretly wants him back.
However, if a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for her ex and really did want to break up with him, then him dating other women isn’t really going to bother her much at all.
Instead, she’s going to focus on moving on and finding another guy, rather than going back to a guy who probably hasn’t even changed or improved the things about himself that turned her off in the relationship.
So, if your ex is over you and doesn’t want you back at all, you stand a better chance of getting her back by interacting with her (via text, on social media and especially over the phone and in person) and re-sparking her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you.
The more respect and sexual attraction you can make her feel during interactions, the more open she will become to getting back with you.
However, if your plan is to start dating new women in the hopes that it will make her come running back, it’s probably not going to play out that way.
In fact, when she finds out that you’re dating other women, she might even think, “Cool! I’m happy that he’s dating other women rather than trying to convince me to give him another chance. I can now focus on finding myself another guy who knows how to make me feel the way I want to feel in a relationship, without worrying that my ex might be trying to get me back. I’m going out tomorrow night with the girls to find a guy to sleep with.”
Another possible reaction that you might get from your ex, if you start dating new women is…
2. She does care and wants you back because she now sees your value as a man
Sometimes, all it takes for a woman to realize that her ex was the guy she wants to be with is for her to suddenly be faced with the idea of losing him to another woman.
For example: She might see him out at a party, bar or club having fun with another woman and hugging and kissing her.
Alternatively, he might post photos on social media of himself doing fun things with new women.
She may even hear about how he’s dating new women from mutual friends.
Whatever the case, the knowledge of him being with other women can cause her to realize that he is valuable and she was lucky to have him.
She may then start to think, “I never realized it before, but I don’t like the idea of him being with another woman. I don’t know why, but it makes me miss him and want him back. I also feel like I missed something about him…maybe he wasn’t so bad after all. If other women like him and want him, what did I overlook? I don’t want him to get into a serious relationship with a new woman, only for me to realize that he was the man for me and that I made a mistake by breaking up with him. I need to get back with him before it’s too late.”
Suddenly, the idea of losing her ex causes her to then text him, call him or reach out to him via social media in an attempt to get him back.
By the way…
This only works if the guy is genuinely moving on with other women.
If all he’s doing is pretending to be dating and having fun as a way to make his ex jealous and she finds out that the women weren’t even interested in him in a sexual or romantic way, it will cause her to lose even more respect and attraction for him.
Then, getting her back will become will become a lot more difficult because she won’t trust him anymore.
Another possible reaction that you might get from your ex, if you start dating new women is…
3. She is impressed because the new woman you’re dating is attractive. She also thinks that it will be fun to steal you away from her
Some women love the thrill of chasing the unattainable (i.e. pursuing a guy that they can’t have, or can’t ever seem to tame or control, taking a guy away from a woman who he loves and wants to be with).
So, if your ex sees you with a woman who she believes is more physically attractive than her, she might decide that getting you back will be fun and enjoyable for her.
Of course, even though you will achieve your goal of getting your ex back by dating new women, something important to remember is this: If you haven’t changed or improved some of the things that turned her off before, she’s just going to break up with you again when she’s ready.
For example: If a woman broke up with a guy because he was too wimpy and he allowed her to dominate him and get away with bad behavior (e.g. being disrespectful towards him, throwing tantrums over nothing), she will be looking to see if he has changed since they broke up.
If he still thinks, acts and behaves in the same old ways, she will quickly lose interest in him again and leave him.
So, in the end, even though dating new women made his ex want him back, he couldn’t hold onto her and got dumped again because he failed to change and improve the things that truly mattered to her.
This is why you need to make some real changes, so when you do get her back, you keep her and she doesn’t ever want to leave you again.
Another possible reaction that you might get from your ex if you start dating new women is…
4. She is disappointed that you dated new women rather than trying to get her back
A risk to dating new women to make your ex want you back, is that the whole plan backfires completely.
Instead of making her think, “Oh no! He’s moving on with a new woman. I don’t want that to happen! I still care for him and I want him back! I need to contact him right away before it’s too late and I lose him forever!” she thinks something like, “So, this is how much our love meant to him? Here I was missing him and hoping that he would try to get me back and he’s already moved. Well, I guess I didn’t matter to him after all. My mother (or friends, or coworkers) were right about him. So, if he can move on and start dating other people, then so can I. I have plenty of guys who want to date me and I am about to get started.”
She then focuses all her energy on fully getting over you and moving on by going out with her single friends and hooking up with other guys, or by dating one or more of the guys who have been hanging around and hoping to get a chance with her.
That’s not what you want, right?
Yet, here’s the thing…
Dating new women to make your ex want you back definitely can work, but it can also be a waste of time because while you’re focusing in going out on dates and entertaining another woman, you’re not focusing on reactivating your ex’s feelings for you and seducing her back into a relationship.
It’s actually pretty easy to get a woman back after a break up in most cases.
Most guys use my methods to get their ex woman back right away, within days or within a week or so, without having to date new women.
It’s fine to date new women if you want to, but just understand that you don’t actually need to do that to get her back.
If your #1 goal is to make your ex want you back, the best way to go about it is to interact with her (via text, on social media, over the phone and most importantly face-to-face) and make her laugh, smile and feel good to be in contact with you again.
The happier she feels when she’s interacting with you, the more her defenses will come down and the more open she will become to the idea of getting back together.
It’s actually pretty easy to do in most situations.
However, if you try to use other women to get her back, you run the risk of her forcing herself to get over you and hooking up with new guys to take your place.
So, if you want her back, just go ahead and do it.
If you focus on re-attracting her during interactions, she will drop her guard, open back up to you and you can then guide her back into a relationship.
3 Mistakes to Avoid Making if You Want to Make Your Ex Want You Back
Although dating new women can work to make your ex want you back, it can also cause her to lose even more respect and attraction if you make one or more of the following mistakes:
1. Dating a woman that she sees as being less attractive than her
Dating a less attractive woman will make her feel good about herself and make her feel turned off by you.
She will think something like, “Haha! He’s obviously struggling to find himself another, attractive woman, so he had to settle for whatever he could get. It seems that I made the right decision by breaking up with him, because he’s not the kind of guy that women actually want. If I stayed with him, I’d essentially be doing him a favor and that’s not the kind of relationship I want to have with a guy. I want to be with a man who can have his pick of attractive women, but chooses to be with me, not a guy who has to settle for me because he can’t get anyone else.”
Here’s the thing…
Although women don’t go around admitting it, they are more attracted to men who are desired by attractive women.
It’s just how it works.
So, if you’re going to date another woman to make your ex want you back, make sure that the new girl is more physically attractive than your ex in some ways.
The more attractive your ex sees the new girl as being, the more valuable your ex will perceive you to be and the more she will want you back.
So, be picky about the new women you date.
Make sure that the new women are physically good looking, thinner, have perkier breasts, better hair and so on.
When your ex sees that, she will be forced to admit that you must be attractive because other attractive women desire you.
As a result, she will begin to want you back.
However, if she has too much self-pride to contact you and try to get you back, she will try to move on instead.
If that’s the case with your ex, you need to be aware that it’s going to be your responsibility to lead the ex back process and guide her back into a relationship with you.
The next mistake to avoid is…
2. Either completely hiding the fact that he’s dating new women unless she asks, or going to the other extreme and verbally bragging about it to her
Don’t be afraid to let her find out about it, but at the same time, don’t try to rub it in her face either.
Women are attracted to men who are desired by other women, but women don’t like it when men become too arrogant to the point where they brag to hopefully seem cooler or more valuable.
Just be matter of fact about it if she asks you.
Feel free to post photos on social media of you having fun with new women, but don’t add comments saying, “My life is so much better now” or anything like that.
Just be cool, natural and easy-going about it all.
If your ex gets the sense that you’re trying hard to seem wanted by other women to hopefully get her back, she will feel turned off by your insecurity.
However, if she senses that you are genuinely happy without her and moving on without feeling the need to brag, she will feel attracted to you.
The next mistake to avoid is…
3. Waiting too long to try to get her back
Even if your ex does feel jealous about you dating new women and wants you back, chances are she’s not going to make it obvious to you.
Instead, she might decide to remain single for a little while in the hopes that you notice she’s not moving on and then make a move to get her back.
If she realizes that you’re not doing anything to get her back, she’ll then focus on fully disconnecting from her feelings for you and finding herself a replacement man.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t wait too long to get her back.
What matters most when getting an ex woman back is whether or not you are actively making her have feelings for you again when you interact with her.
When you interact with her, either on a phone call or in person, you need to have the courage and confidence to actively make her have sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
You need to have the confidence make her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you, rather than being neutral and on your best behavior to avoid saying the wrong thing.
You need to make her feel like a feminine, girly woman in contrast to your masculine vibe, rather than being neutral or acting like just a friend.
The more you reawaken her feelings for you, the more she will want you back.
So, don’t waste anymore time thinking about whether or not you can get her back.
You can get her back without even having to date new women.