Whether or not you should hook up with a previous ex girlfriend to make your current ex jealous depends on a few things…
1. Does She Think That Your Ex Girlfriend is More Attractive Than Her?
If your current ex dumped you because she thought that she was too good for you, but also thinks that your previous ex is more attractive than her, then hooking up with your attractive ex girlfriend will cause her to feel jealous.
It will also make her feel a renewed sense of respect for your value as a man, rather than continuing on thinking that she is too good for you.
She might say to herself, “If he can get a hot woman like that, then maybe he is a better catch than I originally thought. Maybe I should give him another chance after all. He could attract an even hotter woman than her and then I’m going to feel horrible about losing him.”
Then, at the same time, if you focus on making her feel respect and attraction for you every time you interact with her (e.g. on a phone call, or in person) by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling totally drawn to you again.
When that happens, she then drops her guard and opens herself to getting back together again because she realizes that losing you will be her loss.
However, if your current ex is insecure about her appearance, she might not want to get back with you because she won’t feel good enough compared to your hot ex.
On the other hand, if she thinks that your ex girlfriend is less attractive than her, then it will actually make her lose respect and attraction for you for hooking up with a less attractive woman.
She might then say to herself, “If she’s the best that he can do after me, then I’m better off without him. Clearly I was too good for him. He got lucky when he picked me up. Well his luck has just run out and I’m moving on. I’m going to find myself a guy who deserves a woman like me.”
Here’s the thing…
In most cases, it’s not a good idea to play one woman against another.
Rather than trying to get her back by making her feel jealous (and standing the chance of potentially losing her if she finds out), focus instead on re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you when you interact with her on the phone and in person.
When she feels attracted to you in a whole new way, she will then want to get back together because it feels good, not because she doesn’t want some other woman to have you.
Remember: If you try and get her back by making her feel negative emotions such as jealousy and envy, it might backfire and making getting her back more difficult.
Of course, if you just want to have a bit of fun and mess with her head, then go ahead.
Yet, if you want to get her back the easy way, this is how it’s done…
When you start making her feel attracted in the ways that matter to her, she naturally feels drawn to you again and wants to see you.
For example: If you became insecure in the relationship, but are confident, charismatic and charming when you talk to her now, she will naturally feel attracted to you and drawn to you.
From there, you just have to meet up with her and get her back by hooking up with her and beginning the relationship again from there.
Another question to ask yourself before you hook up with your previous ex to make your current ex jealous is…
2. Is Your Current Ex the Sort of Woman Who Likes a Guy Who is a Challenge to Keep Interested?
Some women like it when their guy quickly starts hooking up with another woman after she dumps him because she enjoys the thrill of being with a guy who can have any woman he wants.
For example: A woman like this might fear that a relationship will get boring and stale over time because she will gain the position of power and the guy will essentially do anything she wants to avoid losing her.
However, if she is with a guy who is sought after by other women then she will always have to put in the effort to look good, keep him happy and stay attractive, so she won’t lose him.
That is exciting to her.
However, not all women feel like that or want that in a relationship.
Some women hate it and see it as meaning that you are untrustworthy and unreliable.
A woman might hook up with a player guy for fun and be truly attracted to him and in love with him, but she will know that the relationship has an expiry date.
Of course, that is, unless he changes and commits to her, but still gives her the feeling that he could leave her and find another woman if she stopped being attractive and started treating him badly.
It really depends on the woman.
So, if your current ex is not the type of woman who thinks it will be a fun and interesting challenge to get you back from your previous girlfriend, then trying to make her jealous might just push her away even more.
She may even begin thinking things like, “If he can move on with another woman so quickly, he obviously didn’t love me that much after all. Now that I think about it, if he’s back with his previous girlfriend, maybe he never actually broke up with her and was only using me to make her jealous. Maybe he was cheating on me with her behind my back and I was too blind to see it. If I ever got back together again with him, I wouldn’t be able to trust him after this. I’m going to get revenge on him now by finding myself a new guy and falling madly in love with him. I’ll show him.”
Of course, she might not be able to find a man as cool, confident and attractive as you, but hey – she might.
So, why take the risk of pushing your ex even further away by hooking up with a previous ex girlfriend to make her jealous, when there’s a much easier way to get her back?
Just show her via the way you talk, think, behave, interact with her and the way you respond to what she says and does that you are no longer the guy that she remembers.
You are at a different level now.
You are more attractive to her (and other women) than ever before because you have matured, are even more confident and are no longer making the mistakes that caused her (and would cause other women) to want to break up with you.
You’re a new man now.
Additionally, when she sees that you are emotionally mature and confident enough to try and get her back without resorting to playing mind games with her (i.e. trying to make her jealous, pretending that you’re not interested in her), she will automatically feel more respect and attraction for you again.
Then, getting back together begins to feel like the right thing for her to do, rather than her feeling that she can no longer trust you.
Another question to ask yourself is…
3. Does She Currently Have Enough Feelings For You to Care?
It’s all good and well for you to hook up with a previous ex girlfriend to make your current ex jealous, but, if she currently doesn’t have any feelings for you, she’s probably not going to care that much.
Instead, she may just think, “Good riddance! His previous ex might be a sucker to take him back, but I’m not. At least now I can move on with my life without worrying about him trying to get back with me. This worked out perfectly for me. Now, I am free to move on in peace and I will have a perfect excuse to reject him if he comes back looking for another chance.”
So, if your current ex doesn’t have enough feelings for you to care that you’re hooking up with your previous ex girlfriend, it most likely won’t work.
You will get much better results if you just focus on making her feel positive feelings like respect and attraction when she interacts with you, rather than only trying to make her feel jealous and hope that she comes running back.
You Can Make Her Change Her Mind Without Making Her Jealous
In most ex back cases, rather than a woman saying, “Oh no, I better do something quickly or else I’m going to lose my ex to another woman,” she will usually feel relieved that he’s found someone else to take him off her hands and will then focus on moving on with her life and finding a replacement guy.
Alternatively, if a woman realizes that her ex is only trying to make her jealous by hooking up with his previous ex girlfriend, she can lose respect for him and no longer want anything to do with him.
Then, if he tries to interact with her, either via text, on social media or by calling her up on the phone, she will most-likely just ignore him, thus making it even more difficult for him to get her back.
So, don’t do that to yourself and potentially make it harder to get her back.
Of course, if you do want to just have some fun with your previous ex to mess with the head of your current ex, then that’s fine.
It really depends on how serious you are about getting your current ex back.
What I’ve found by helping 100s of clients to get their woman back after a serious break up, is that using a simple approach to the ex back process will always get you better results than playing mind games.
You just need to reactivate her feelings during interactions and then guide her back into a relationship.
That’s what works in almost every ex back case that I’ve come across.
Sometimes, it is important to hook up with another woman to show your ex that you’re not a desperate guy who can’t get any other girls but her.
However, in most cases, you just need to reactivate her feelings during interactions, hook up with her again and get the relationship back together.
One of the best ways to reactivate her feelings is by making her laugh, smile and feel happy every time you interact with her (e.g. via text, on a phone call, or in person).
For example: Imagine that you’re talking to your ex on the phone and she says something like, “Look, you need to accept that it’s over between us. I just don’t have feelings for you anymore.”
Rather than giving up and ending the call, you can use her negativity as a way of making her smile and laugh, so that she begins to doubt what she is saying to you.
So, when she says, “Look, you need to accept that it’s over between us. I just don’t have feelings for you anymore,” you can respond by saying in a pretend, panicked voice, “Oh no! What am I going to do now?”
She may then ask, “What do you mean?” and you could say (in a joking way), “Well, since you’re so adamant about not getting back together again, I’m going to have to break it to the dog that he’s not going to get anymore leftovers from your beef stew. He’s going to be devastated! If he gets depressed and needs therapy, I’m sending you half the bill!” and then have a laugh with her about that.
Alternatively, you could say something like, “Don’t worry, I accept it. I’m so glad that we’re broken up because it means that I won’t have to eat any more of that horrible beef stew you used to make. I always had to pretend that I liked it and then I’d go and throw up in the toilet later on” and have a laugh with her about that.
Of course, you’re only joking and you’d tell her that, but the point is that you’re not taking what she is saying so seriously.
Additionally, because you’re making her smile and laugh, she can’t help but feel good when talking to you, which makes her doubt her negative feelings for you.
It also shows her that you’re an emotionally strong, confident and mature man who can remain confident regardless of what she’s saying or how she’s behaving.
This makes her feel respect and attraction for you, whether she wants it to or not.
Attraction is an automatic reaction that men and women have for each other, whether they want it to happen or not.
So, when you make her feel attracted by using some humor, she will begin to think about how different you suddenly seem to be and feel to her.
She may then think something like, “This isn’t what I was expecting. I thought he was going to get angry, annoyed or insecure. This is very unlike him. What has changed? Maybe I broke up with him too soon. Maybe the break up really did change him. Maybe it could be different this time around.”
Her curiosity causes her to drop her guard and she then becomes a lot more open to at least meeting up with you again, rather than telling you that you have no chance with her anymore.
Then, when you meet up with her and you continue to trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you, she will realize that what she experienced on the phone call wasn’t a once of thing and that you really are different now.
Here’s the thing…
Sometimes, it is a good idea to focus on making a woman jealous, but other times a guy doesn’t even need to do that and can simply reactivate her feelings and reconcile the relationship.
I’ve personally heard back from so many men who have used my simple approach to getting an ex woman back and they always tell me how thankful they are for finding my site.
Before learning my simple, proven to work method, they were trying all sorts of tricks (e.g. ignoring her, sending her a farewell letter, trying to text her back) and it wasn’t working.
Then, when they simply changed their approach and started focusing on reactivating her feelings of respect and sexual attraction on the phone and in person, they got another chance with their woman.
Getting Her Back the Easy Way
If you hook up with a previous ex girlfriend to make your current ex jealous and she finds out, you stand the risk of losing her (or at least making it a lot more difficult to get her back this time).
So, why do that when there’s a much easier and more effective way to get her back?
Instead of wasting time playing mind games with her, focus on giving your ex the attraction experience she really wants from you.
- If you were too emotionally sensitive and insecure during the relationship, show her that you are now a more confident, emotionally strong and emotionally mature man.
- If you lacked purpose and direction in life, you are now more focused on what you really want and you have already started making progress towards achieving some of your big goals. You don’t have to have achieved all your goals right now of course, but she does need to see that you’re making some progress.
- If you let her dominate you emotionally in the relationship and it turned her off, show her that you’re no longer a pushover kind of guy and have become a real man.
- If you were emotionally closed up and couldn’t easily express your love for her, show her that you are now emotionally fearless (Note: Don’t confuse being emotionally fearless with becoming a hopeless romantic who pours his heart out to her. Being emotionally fearless in a manly way is about expressing your emotions in a relaxed, easy-going, matter of fact kind of way, rather than a tense, anxious, needy kind of way).
- If you stopped making her feel feminine and girly in your presence, start attracting her in by being more manly in how you talk, behave, think and react to her.
When you take action and make the necessary changes and improvements to yourself, your ex will naturally begin to feel respect and attraction for you again because she will see that you have learned from your past mistakes and become a better man.
Then, dropping her guard and opening herself back up to you becomes something that feels good to her.
It feels right and she wants it.
On the other hand, if you attempt to get her back by playing mind games and trying to make her jealous, she may see through your plan and it can turn her off even more.
Remember: It’s always better to be real with women.
Be fearless and just get her back, without being needy or thinking that you need to apologize over and over again.
Just reactivate her feelings and get her back.
The easiest way to do that is by talking to her on a phone call and in person.
Many guys don’t want to call their ex woman because they fear she won’t like it, or that she’d prefer to text.
Don’t worry about what she might prefer. Just do what works.