Yes, it’s completely normal and natural.
Here are a few examples of how a woman’s behavior and treatment of a man can cause him to temporarily feel some anger towards her:
1. She suddenly breaks up with him, even though he had been treating her very well
During the relationship, he was kind and considerate, never took her for granted, always made the effort to get on with her friends and family, showered her with attention and generally did his best to be a good boyfriend.
Yet, she just dumped him out of the blue, with seemingly no warning or little warning.
In a case like that, a guy might feel angry due to feeling betrayed by her, especially after all he had done for her and if she had previously said that she loved him and wanted to be with him for life.
It’s like everything she said meant nothing and everything he did for her didn’t count.
All the fun experiences they had, the great dates, the great sex, the happy moments together, all of the support he gave her, how much they connected and so on.
All of that just flushed down the toilet, even though he was treating her well.
As a result, he might think, “How could she do this to me? I did everything I could to make her happy and she just dumped me. She seems totally fine about it too. It’s like our relationship didn’t even happen. The bitch. After all I did for her. I can’t believe it. She’s like a completely different person all of a sudden. It’s like I mean nothing to her. The bitch!”
Yet, although it’s totally normal for him to feel some anger due to feeling betrayed, he has to get past that so he can solve the problems that lead to the break up if he wants to get her back.
The reality is that there would have been things about his approach to the relationship that turned her off, caused her to find it difficult to be in love with him and made her feel as though she’d be better off breaking up with him.
For example: Although he was a good guy who always treated her well, he might have also been fairly insecure about himself and his attractiveness and value to her.
As a result, he became needy and clingy in the relationship.
He needed her to show him affection, love and interest, otherwise he became emotionally sensitive.
That turned her off because women aren’t attracted to emotional weakness.
Additionally, he may have also stopped doing things independently of his woman (e.g. meeting up with friends, pursuing his own interests or hobbies, following through on his own goals) and instead wanted to do everything with her.
He might have also become upset when she wanted to do things with her girlfriends that didn’t involve him.
Over time, his insecurity began to erase all the good things he did for her in the relationship.
She became distant and began pulling away, which then resulted in him asking if she was still attracted to him or in love with him.
Yet, because he was asking from a place of emotional weakness, his question and behavior turned her off further and she ended up saying, “I don’t know” or, “Maybe, I’m not sure.”
That then resulted in him becoming more insecure and turning her off further.
Not knowing how to fix the relationship and make her feel attracted to him again, he may have tried to do even more for her (e.g. take her out for a romantic dinner, buy her flowers, run errands for her, do household chores).
Yet, rather than making her think, “Wow, my guy is so amazing! I’m so lucky to have him,” she began to think something along the lines of, “He doesn’t get it. Doing things for me isn’t what will make me feel attracted again. He needs to stop being such a pushover. He needs to be able to put me back in my place in a dominant, but loving way sometimes. He needs to man up and make me feel like his girl. He doesn’t know how to do that though, so there’s no point continuing on with the relationship. I’ll never be happy because he just doesn’t get it.”
She then suddenly dumps him and he feels angry that she is leaving him after all the good things he has done for her.
He doesn’t understand that a woman’s romantic and sexual love is not based on what he can give to her.
Instead, a woman’s romantic and sexual love is based on how your approach to interactions with her makes her feel (e.g. using an insecure, nice guy approach vs. confident, dominant, loving approach, or being way too giving or way too selfish vs. being a balanced, loving man).
Another example of a woman breaking up with a guy who has been treating her very well, is where the dynamic between them feels more like a friendship, than a mutually passionate, in love boyfriend-girlfriend.
So, in a case like that, the relationship may have started off well, but then became stale over time because he was always doing ‘guy’ things with her (e.g. watching sports, discussing serious topics for hours on end, always being very practical, logical and straightforward and expecting her to think, behave and act in the same way all the time).
Although she occasionally enjoyed doing those things with him, she just got bored of the relationship being like that all the time.
She longed for him to treat her like a sexy, desirable woman and make her feel strong sparks of sexual attraction for him (e.g. by flirting with her to create sexual tension, complimenting her on her appearance, showing his desire for her, taking a more playful, light-hearted approach to conversations and interactions as times), but he either didn’t want to, or he honestly didn’t think he was doing anything wrong and just kept on using his approach to the relationship.
He may have thought that she would just stick around because, after all, he is a good guy.
Yet, while being a good guy is part of the recipe for long term relationship success, it’s not everything.
You also need to be able to make your woman feel attracted and in love with you and that doesn’t only come from niceness, goodness and kindness.
Unfortunately, many guys never learn what really attracts women and as a result, their relationships fall apart all throughout life.
For a guy like that, no matter how much he gives to a woman, it’s never enough because the fundamental feeling of attraction just isn’t there.
How about you?
Is it possible that your ex felt turned off by certain aspects of your behavior and approach to the relationship that you didn’t know was a problem?
If so, being angry at her won’t help get her back.
What will get her back?
Understanding where you went wrong and then quickly transforming yourself into a better version of your former self (e.g. more confident and emotionally masculine, more manly, more assertive and decisive).
Then, when you interact with your ex and she experiences the new you for herself, she will automatically begin to feel new sparks of respect for you based on you having the courage and ability to face your issues head on, fix them and then get on with being a more attractive man to her.
When she starts to feel sparks of respect you, she will then start feeling sparks of attraction for you and with those two things back in place, reconnecting with her feelings of love is something that happens naturally and automatically.
So, don’t waste your time feeling angry at her and what happen.
Just get her back.
Another breakup reason that can cause a man to feel angry at his ex woman is…
2. She cheats on him or betrays him in some way
Having your trust broken by the woman you love (e.g. being cheated on, lied to, stolen from) can be devastating and no one can really blame you if you felt a bit of anger and resentment over it.
Here’s the thing though…
No matter how angry you might currently be feeling towards your ex, it’s not going to help you move on and get an even better woman than her (or if you want to, to forgive her and get her back).
Instead, being angry is going to keep you stuck in a cycle of negative emotions and possibly even make you feel bitter and distrustful of all women.
Some women go down that path after being cheated on or treated badly by men and eventually say, “All men are assholes.”
Obviously, that isn’t true.
There are so many good men out there who would treat a woman well.
So, whatever you do, don’t become one of the men who mistakenly believe that all women are bitches, untrustworthy and disloyal.
There are so many good women out there.
Additionally, it’s important to understand that a bad relationship dynamic (i.e. one person being way too nice to the other) can cause a good man or woman to turn into a bad man or woman.
For example: A man might start out being very nice to a woman, but when he notices that she puts up with anything from him because she doesn’t want to lose him, he may start being less nice.
Then, over time, he might actually be a bit of an asshole to her.
He’s not an asshole though.
He’s a good guy.
Yet, her approach to the relationship brought a new side of him out because she was just too nice and forgiving.
The same applies to a man’s approach to a relationship with a woman.
In many cases, a woman is a good woman and would be loyal to a man, but her guy brings out a selfish, inconsiderate side of her that changes how she thinks, behaves and acts regarding the relationship.
Eventually, she cares so little about him that she cheats on him, betrays him and dumps him.
Yet, if she was in a relationship with a different man who knew how to maintain the relationship correctly, she would have been loyal for life.
So, if your ex betrayed you, cheated on you, lied to you and so on, you need to be able get past the anger if you want her back.
You need to focus on what caused her to become that type of woman in a relationship with you and what would bring out her good girl side from now on.
Another breakup reason that can cause a man to feel angry at his ex woman is…
3. She blames him for everything that went wrong in the relationship
It’s understandable that if a woman says something like, “It’s all your fault that we are breaking up. I tried, but you just kept doing (this or that) and that is why we have gotten to this point. It’s your fault. I didn’t do anything wrong. You messed up and now you’ve lost me” you might feel a bit angry and probably resentful towards her as well.
After all, she made mistakes too.
It’s not all your fault.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Although feeling angry in a situation like that is understandable, you shouldn’t let her see you get angry or upset.
If she sees you getting upset, it can make her think something like, “Good! I’m glad it’s irritating him. It serves him right for what he did to me.”
If she sees you becoming very angry, she may think, “Well, I obviously can’t trust him now. He’s crazy. I’m afraid he might hurt me or something now, so I will have to keep my distance. Maybe I should find a new boyfriend quickly, so I at least have someone to protect me” and so on.
So, rather than getting angry at her for blaming you for this or that, just laugh at her.
Literally laugh and say that she’s a little drama queen, or say that she’s funny and you never realized what a pain in the butt she was.
Say it in a light-hearted, loving manner though.
It’s not meant to be an insult.
You’re just being a man who has the balls to laugh when his woman is trying to bring him down.
She will almost certainly not admit it, but laughing at her (in a loving, but dominant way) will automatically make her feel sparks of respect and attraction for you.
A lot of guys don’t realize that though and they go through life with a fear of women.
Guys fear the anger that a woman might show if he laughs.
Yet, she is a woman.
If a man is afraid of a woman, she isn’t going to feel attracted to him.
It’s just how it works.
Essentially, with a woman, if you fear her reaction, she won’t feel attraction.
It’s not about being an asshole.
Instead, it’s about having balls, but still being a loving man.
So, in the case of laughing at the fake drama she is trying to create by blaming you for everything, you’re simply laughing at the ridiculousness of what she is saying.
You’re not taking it seriously, but at the same time, you’re still being a good guy.
BTW: If you are worried about laughing at her, then you can use a different approach of just remaining calm and in control of your emotions, rather than getting angry.
That also works.
Essentially though, you need to let her see that you’re not afraid of her, you don’t get angry when she creates fake drama and you are the man in the dynamic between you and her.
If you do that, she will automatically feel respect and attraction for you, which then causes her to worry about losing a man that she has real feelings for.
As a result, she opens back up and you can guide her back into a relationship with you.
She may currently be at a point where she wants nothing to do with you anymore, but you can change how she feels about that.
If you approach the ex back process correctly, you can literally cause her to feel compelled to get back with you and give you another chance.
3 Mistakes to Avoid When Feeling Angry at Your Ex After a Breakup
Although it is normal to feel anger after a breakup, be sure to avoid making any of the following mistakes and causing more problems and heartache for yourself in the process:
1. Showing that anger to her and hoping that it will somehow make the situation better (i.e. hopefully make her feel guilty)
In most cases, showing anger just pushes a woman away.
Rather than feeling guilty, apologizing to him and getting back with him, a woman often ends up thinking things like, “Well, this is exactly why we broke up. I can’t rely on him handle difficult situations in life like a real man. Although I do feel a bit bad because he’s feeling hurt, I also feel relieved that our relationship is over. He’s out of control. I just can’t trust him to not hurt me physically if he’s being like that. So, I have to move on.”
Of course, a guy often quickly realizes his mistake and regrets becoming so angry, but once he has shown that side of himself, she has seen it.
He can recover from that, but he needs to make sure that he uses a different approach that makes her feel attracted and actually want the relationship, rather than using the ineffective ex back approach that he has been using so far.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Sending her angry texts, or writing her an emotional letter or email
Even if the breakup is your ex’s fault, or if she treated you unfairly during and after the break up, sending her angry texts, emails or a letter to proclaim your disappointment will rarely help.
If she notices that your text/email/message/letter is filled with anger and accusations, she will assume that you would be like that in person and therefore, will be less willing to meet up with you.
So, try to avoid showing any anger via texts, messages, emails or letters.
Another mistake to avoid is…
3. Remaining stuck on feelings of anger, rather than being practical by working on the solution to the problem
Anger can eat away at your happiness and make you become bitter and resentful over time.
It can can lead you down a path of negativity that results in insecure, fear and even a secret hatred of women.
Don’t go there.
Get on the right path by using a positive, practical solution to getting her back or happily moving on without her.