The honest truth is that it doesn’t matter if the answer is yes or no.
What really matters is this…
Are you making her feel sparks of sexual and romantic attraction when you interact with her?
If yes, then she will naturally feel love for you.
If not, then she will naturally feel turned off by you and not want to get back with you.
All that said, here are some possible signs that she could be lying to you when she says that she still loves you:
1. She never really felt a strong love for you during the relationship and was just with you for something to do
Sometimes a woman will get into a relationship with a guy even though she doesn’t have strong feelings for him and doesn’t plan on staying with him for life.
For example: This can happen when a man and a woman spend a lot of time together (e.g. at work, university, hang out together in the same social circle).
Over time, the guy might develop strong sexual and romantic feelings for her and because of that, he might begin trying to convince her that they should be more than just friends.
Initially, she might resist getting into a relationship with him because she doesn’t feel a lot of attraction for him.
However, if he persists for long enough, she might eventually reach a point where she thinks, “Maybe this can work. Maybe my feelings for him will grow if we date for a while. Besides, I’ve got nothing better to do. All my friends are in relationships and it sucks going out with couples when you’re the single girl or tag along. If I start dating him, I’ll have someone too and if it doesn’t work out, I can always break up with him and find someone else. So, why not…I’ll give him a chance.”
She then gets into a relationship with him, even though she doesn’t have strong feelings for him.
In other situations, a woman will get into a rebound relationship (i.e. the relationship a woman has right after getting out of a serious, long term relationship), as a way of forgetting about her ex.
Although it might seem fun at the start because she is excited to be kissing and have sex with someone new, those feelings can fade pretty quickly when a woman realizes that her new guy doesn’t have the qualities that she really liked about her ex.
It doesn’t mean that the relationship can’t work though.
If a guy understands how a woman’s attraction really works, then he can use that to his advantage to make her feel more attraction for him than she did for her ex.
However, if he isn’t aware of how to read a woman’s attraction levels and build on them, or if he just assumes that she must love him because she is enjoying the kissing, sex and dates, then she will eventually lose interest.
In the back of her mind, she will always be planning to break up with him at some point (e.g. if she meets someone who seems like a better match, if she gets bored of hanging out with him).
When that happens, rather than come out and say something like, “Look it’s over between us. I just don’t have feelings for you and to be honest, I never did. Sorry. Goodbye” and hurt his feelings, she will instead try to let him down easy by saying something along the lines of, “You’re a great guy, but I’m not the right woman for you at the moment. I still love you, but for now, just accept that it’s over between us, okay? I just need some space to sort things out in my head and then we can see what happens.”
Unfortunately, the guy might then spend weeks, months or even years holding on to the hope that she will come back to him because she said that she still loves him.
He may then ask, “Is my ex lying when she says she still loves me? Why isn’t she coming back? She said that she loved me. What do I need to do? Give her more time? Do women come back if they love you? What do I do?? How can I get her back?”
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, don’t waste time worrying about what she said when she was being nice.
Instead, just use every interaction you have with her from now on to fully reactivate her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for you.
When you do that, she won’t be lying when she says, “I love you.”
Another sign that your ex might be lying is…
2. She has a history of lying to men and stringing them along
There are some really nice, honest women out there.
Yet, there are also some mean, vindictive, cold women who just can’t be trusted.
For example: Sometimes a woman is a person of bad character and gets a thrill out of messing with guys feelings (e.g. by telling them she loves them to keep them interested in her while she moves on, constantly breaking their heart, making them do lots of nice things for her to hopefully get some affection from her or to spend some time with her).
In a case like that, no matter what a guy does, or how nice, loyal or loving he is, a woman like that will simply use his devotion to make herself feel good because that’s just the kind of person she is.
The only kind of man that she will stop behaving like that for is a man who makes her feel a lot of attraction, but doesn’t put up with any of her games.
In other words, he is in the position of power and she knows it.
That’s what makes a woman like her be a better woman, but the reality is that if she is a very bad person at her core, then that will always be lurking there inside of her.
She will always have the capacity to become that woman again if the man is unable to maintain the position of power in the relationship.
Another sign that she might be lying is…
3. She can see that you haven’t moved on and is trying to use your desire for her to feel good about herself
In some cases, a woman will enjoy seeing her ex struggle with the emotional pain of trying to get over her.
Even though she doesn’t really want him back, the thought of him still thinking about her, missing her and wanting her back makes her feel good about herself.
She may even think, “Well, at least I know that if I don’t find anyone else, my ex will still be there waiting for me,” which makes her feel confident about herself and happy that she is wanted, desired and loved.
To keep those feelings alive, she will keep him hooked on her by staying in contact with him and saying things like, “I still love you. Just give me some time. Maybe we can get back together again.”
As a result of her emotional manipulation, he just can’t ever seem to get over her and find himself another woman.
Meanwhile, she goes out into the world every day feeling confident and happy about herself and her life.
This allows her to feel good about herself while she moves on with her life and meets new guys.
It’s a nasty thing for a woman to do to a man, but the truth is that many men do that to women after a break up as well.
If you don’t want to be in that position, you need to reactivate her feelings of respect, sexual and love for you for real and then let her see that you’re not chasing her.
That’s what changes the dynamic and makes her want you back.
4 Mistakes That Some Guys Make When an Ex Says She Still Loves Him
You definitely can get her back, but for that to happen easily, just make sure you don’t make any of the following mistakes…
1. Taking her words too seriously
Whether a woman is saying, “I still love you,” or “I never want to see you again,” doesn’t really matter that much, because she is simply basing her words on how she feels about you in the present moment.
Additionally, sometimes a woman will say things just to be nice or to avoid an argument.
For example: If a woman realizes that her ex is struggling to come to terms with the break up, she might say something along the lines of, “I know that it’s not easy to accept we’re broken up, but for now, I think it’s the best for both of us. I still love you though, okay? So, don’t ever think badly about yourself. I will always care for you and maybe one day in the future we can try again.”
Yet, although her words seem promising, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she wants to get back with him again.
It could, but there’s no guarantee that she is being 100% honest.
In other cases, a woman might still be holding on to what caused her to go through with the break up (e.g. he didn’t put enough effort into creating feelings of love, respect and attraction in her so she lost interest in being with him, he stopped making her laugh and feel good when she was with him, he treated her more like a neutral friend than a desirable, feminine woman).
So, even though she might say, “I still love you,” it doesn’t mean that she is saying, “I still love you and want to be with you.”
Instead, it could actually mean, “I love you, but I’m not going to get back with you because you don’t know how to make me happy in a relationship. I can see that you haven’t changed and probably aren’t going to be able to change, so I am going to move on.”
Of course, most women aren’t going to say that because it could then lead to an argument, to him begging and pleading for another chance or worse, to him becoming aggressive with her.
So, even though your ex is saying that she still loves you, her words don’t really count in this situation because you don’t really know what her motives are for saying it.
The solution is to stop worrying about what she’s saying and focus instead on making her have real, strong and unforgettable feelings for you from now on.
When that happens, the idea of losing you suddenly begins to bother her.
She starts to feel differently about the relationship and the possibility of getting back together.
On the other hand, if you don’t reawaken her feelings and make her really want you back, then she’s probably going to keep saying whatever it takes to let you down easily (e.g. “I still love you, but I need more time. Please give me space”), so she can move on without causing a big scene.
The next mistake to avoid is…
2. Assuming that she is the leader of the emotional connection in the relationship
Sometimes a guy will waste a lot of time over-analyzing everything that his ex says to him.
In his mind, he believes that she is the one holding all the cards and is in the power position.
As a result, he talks to her as though he is trying to get a chance with her and makes her feel like she will either have to keep rejecting him, or get back with him out of pity for a little while.
Yet, that approach just causes a woman to lose even more respect, attraction and love for her.
She can see that he doesn’t believe in himself and in his value to her and it turns her off.
Remember: A woman wants to be with a man she can look up to, respect, feel attracted to and love (i.e. a guy who is confident and emotionally strong enough to take the lead in the ex back process and get her back).
She doesn’t want a man who looks at her as being in the power position and tries hard to meet all of her wants, needs and expectations to hopefully get a chance with her.
So, make sure that you’re not trying hard to get her to approve of you by being extra nice to her.
That doesn’t work.
You’ve got to awaken her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and romantic love for you and then, let her see that you’re not desperately trying to get another chance with her.
That is what works.
The next mistake is…
3. Feeling unworthy of her
It’s only natural that when a woman breaks up a guy with, his confidence might take a bit of a hit.
He may even start to think, “She says that she still loves me, but I don’t know if I truly deserve her. I stuffed things up between us so badly that maybe it’s better if I let her go so she can find a guy who is truly worthy of her. I don’t deserve her.”
Yet, thinking like that not only makes him seem less attractive to his ex (which then makes it more difficult to get her back), butit also makes him unattractive to other women because they can sense his lack of confidence and self-worth.
Here’s the thing…
A woman likes the idea of being with a confident, emotionally strong man who believes in himself and in his value to her.
So, when a guy is being insecure and feels unworthy of her, it does nothing to spark her feelings for him.
If you want your ex to love you for real, you have to believe in yourself and in your attractiveness and value to her completely.
Then, based on that belief, you need to take action to build up her feelings of respect, sexual attraction and love for you so you can then get her back for real.
On the other hand, if you interact with her and she senses that you feel unworthy of her, she will decide that she made the right decision to break up with you and will then focus on fully getting over you and moving on.
The next mistake is…
4. Not being able to notice the difference between friendly love and sexual, romantic love
Sometimes a woman will tell her ex that she still loves him and he will then take that as a sign that she wants to get back together.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is that there are different kinds of love and when an ex woman says, “I still love you,” it doesn’t always mean love in a sexual and romantic way.
Instead, she might have strong, friendly feelings for him and it’s her way of telling him that she still wants him to be a part of her life as a nice, platonic friend.
Similarly, your ex might not be lying when she says that she still loves you, but it’s possible that she feels friendly, neutral love for you, while you feel sexual, romantic love for her.
Thankfully, whether your ex loves you in a sexual way or loves you like a friend, the course of action that you need to take to get her back is the same.