3 possible reasons why your ex isn’t moving on, are:
1. She is waiting for you to pursue her
Even though your ex may be the one who initiated the break up, it doesn’t necessarily mean she has stopped having feelings for you.
It’s possible that was trying to use the break up as a way of shocking you into making changes and improvements, so you and her could then get back together and have a more stable, long-term relationship.
Here’s an example…
A woman feels as though her guy is too immature for her.
Although he is a good guy who treats her well, he just doesn’t have much focus or direction in life.
He likes to hang out with her or his friends, enjoys partying or playing video games all the time and devotes little or no to advancing his career, or following through on his dreams and becoming more successful.
Although she loves him and enjoys hanging out with him, she doesn’t feel safe in the relationship and starts thinking things like, “Is he ever going to grow up, or am I going to have to take care of him forever? I just don’t see a future for us if things continue this way. I really love him, but I need to shake him out of his complacency. I don’t want to waste time like this for another 5 or 10 years. He has to grow up and start taking control of his life and future like a real man.”
She will then break up with him as a way of hopefully encouraging him to grow up and start acting like a mature adult.
Another example is if a guy is too emotionally dependent on his woman and only feels confident if he’s with her, or if she is supporting him emotionally.
In the hopes of shocking him into becoming his own man, a woman will end the relationship and remove herself from his life completely.
Yet, that doesn’t mean she wants to lose him completely though.
In many cases, he has a lot of qualities that she does like and want in a man (e.g. he is kind and treats her well, he spoils her sometimes, he gets on really well with her friends and family, she enjoys the sex).
Even though they’re broken up, she won’t fully move on without him because she’ll secretly be hoping he will pursue her and get her back.
So, if your ex isn’t moving on, it may be because she’s waiting to see if you’re man enough to take control of the situation and guide both you and her back into a relationship.
She might also want to see that you’ve used the time apart to become a better man than you were before (e.g. you’re so much more confident now, you are more charismatic, funny or interesting during conversations).
You can show her that by getting in touch with her, interacting and letting her experience the new and improved you for herself.
On the other hand, if you just wait around thinking, “My ex isn’t moving on. What should I do? Should I actually call her, or should I just wait until she gives me a sign that she’s interested in me?” she may interpret your lack of action in a negative way (e.g. you haven’t changed at all since the break up, you need her to encourage you to feel confident and worthy, you’re not interested) and this time she will move on without you.
Don’t let that happen to you.
If you want your ex back, then have the courage to interact with her and show her that you’re a confident man who believes in himself and his value.
Don’t tell her that.
Just let her pick up on it based on how you talk, feel, behave and act as you interact with her.
You can interact with her (e.g. via text and on the phone and in person) and begin to re-attract her back into your life and into your arms where she belongs.
Another possible reason why your ex isn’t moving on is…
2. She is struggling to find a replacement guy who is worth committing to
Sometimes a woman simply won’t move on after a break up because she wants to make sure that the next guy she gets involved with is absolutely the right one for her.
This will result in her becoming overly picky and rejecting most, if not all, of the offers she gets from men.
She might think, “I’m not going to make the same mistake again. My ex really disappointed me. I honestly thought he was the one, but he failed to live up to my expectations, so if I’m going to open my heart to a guy again, I want to be sure that it could last for life. I don’t want get emotionally involved again, only to find out that the new guy also can’t give me what I want in a relationship. I hate break ups. I don’t want to end up getting hurt again. So, I will be patient. Maybe I will meet someone soon…or maybe my ex will contact me.”
If she doesn’t hear from her ex, she will focus on interacting with many different guys (e.g. at work, through friends, through a new hobby) and open herself to dates, kissing and sex to see how she feels.
You don’t need to wait for her to go through all that, before you finally work up the courage to contact her and begin the ex back process.
Just get her back now.
Another possible reason why your ex isn’t moving on is…
3. She doesn’t feel ready to get into another relationship right now
In a case where a guy really hurt his ex woman (e.g. he treated her badly, took her for granted, made her feel stupid and insignificant), or made her fall in love with him to the point where she wanted to settle down to start a family and he didn’t, it’s only naturally that she might be feeling a emotionally bruised now.
She went into the relationship hoping for the best and was let down.
Many guys experience that when a woman doesn’t treat them well also.
It happens to both sexes.
However, regarding your ex, this might actually be one of the reasons why she isn’t moving on.
She just can’t deal with the idea of potentially getting hurt again, so she avoids dating and hopes that she will eventually heal from the pain.
Of course, not all women are like that.
Some women heal immediately and are completely fine about the break up.
In cases like that, the reason why she isn’t moving on is that she’s enjoying being single again, hanging out having fun with friends, meeting many different guys (i.e. playing the field) or having one night stands.
As she begins to enjoy the single life, she thinks, “Wow…I never realized how much I was missing out on when I was stuck in a relationship with my ex! Being single is actually a lot of fun. I don’t think I want to get involved in another relationship again for a while. Besides, I’m young enough to take my time and enjoy my freedom. A relationship will happen soon enough. I don’t need to rush.”
If her ex is watching on from the sidelines (i.e. following her on social media, asking mutual friends about her), he might get the impression that she isn’t moving on because she’s missing him.
As you can see, there can be many different reasons why your ex is currently behaving the way she is.
So, what should you do about?
Don’t focus on what she is doing.
Focus on what you are doing to get her back.
That is what really counts.
A woman’s feelings can change in an instant if her ex interacts with her and makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for him.
She can literally go from not wanting to be in a relationship with him, to wanting to kiss him, have sex with him and get back into a relationship once again.
So, if you want her back, you need to show her that you are a better option to anything else that she may have been experiencing lately.
For example: If she’s still sad and trying to heal from the pain of the break up, you can interact with her and replace negative feelings and memories with new, happy, positive ones (e.g. by making her feel laugh and happy in every interaction you have with her, by making her feel like an attractive, desirable woman, by showing her that you really have changed now).
As she experiences the new, more confident you, her perception of you will naturally start to change.
Her guard will come down and she will open herself up to the idea of getting back together to see what happens.
3 Mistakes to Avoid Making When an Ex Isn’t Moving On
Your ex not moving on is a great opportunity for you to get her back.
There is no other guy in the picture who is having sex with her and making her fall madly in love with him.
She is open and ready to be seduced back into a relationship.
So, go ahead and interact with her, reawaken her feelings for you and get her back.
That’s how it works.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t learn that and end up making one or more of the following mistakes…
1. Ignoring her for longer, in the hope that she eventually comes crawling back
Just because she hasn’t moved on yet, it doesn’t mean that she won’t move on tomorrow.
Who knows what could happen tomorrow.
She could meet a new guy who makes her feel more attracted and in love than you ever did.
You don’t want to have to compete with him to get her back.
So, get her back now while it’s still very easy for you.
Unfortunately, many guys don’t realize that truth until it’s too late.
For example: A guy might think to himself, “So, she’s not moving on, huh? Good. Maybe she’s finally realized we’re meant to be together and that she was a fool to break up with me. Well, I’m not going to make it easy for her to get me back. I’m going to wait until she admits her mistake and comes crawling back to me. Only then will I give her another chance.”
He then continues to ignore her for longer.
Yet, in most cases, it backfires because she gets tired of waiting and moves on, or meets a new guy who turns her on and hooks up with him instead.
Here’s the thing…
Even if a woman is still in love with her ex and wants him back, if he just ignores her, she has no way of knowing that he still wants her.
She waits for a text or a call from him, so they can reopen the lines of communication, but it never comes.
She eventually begins to wonder, “Am I just wasting my time waiting for him? Has he moved on with a new girl, while I’m still waiting for him to call me?”
Soon enough, she’s out partying with her girlfriends or dating guys that she meets on Tinder and having sex and falling in love to get over her ex.
Eventually, her ex becomes a distant memory to her, while he is always missing her and regretting not taking action to get her back.
So, if you want your ex back now or very soon, don’t waste too much time playing games with her, even if you feel like she deserves to be punished for breaking up with you.
Just get her back and enjoy a new, even better relationship with her.
The next mistake to avoid making is…
2. Only sending her a feeler text and then giving up if she doesn’t show a lot of interest
Sometimes, a guy will feel nervous about calling his ex in case she rejects him, or because he assumes it will look needy or too forward.
So, rather than giving her a call, he sends her a “feeler text” and hopes that she responds with clear signs of interest.
For example: A guy might text her something like, “Hey, I just wanted to say hi. How are you doing?” in the hopes that she will respond with something like, “Hi! Great to hear from you” and then admit, “I miss you” a text or two later.
He might also hope that she will be direct enough to say, “I’m miserable without you. Do you want to meet up and give us another try again? I want to get back together.”
It would be nice if a woman said that, but most women don’t.
Instead, a woman will usually just ‘play it cool’ by not showing much interest because she doesn’t want to seem too eager, or end up giving him a big head and causing him to start playing hard to get.
Yet, since she isn’t being direct about wanting him back, a guy will often assume that she isn’t really interested.
He doesn’t want to risk calling her, or even asking her, “Do you want to meet up?” in case she rejects him.
So, he gives up or decides that he’ll wait for another week or two before trying again.
That can work, but it can also backfire.
For example: She might see his lack of follow up as meaning that he isn’t really interested and was just checking to see if she missed him, so he could then reject her.
I know, crazy right?
There are all sorts of mind games that can go on between men and women after a break up.
That’s why I always recommend that a guy be a man about it by taking control of the situation.
Get her to meet up with you, re-attract her in person and get her back.
The next mistake to avoid making is…
3. Asking if she wants to give the relationship another try, rather than just re-attracting her and hooking up with her
Asking a woman for a relationship before you’ve fully reactivated her feelings of respect and sexual attraction is an almost guaranteed way to get rejected.
Rather than jump at the idea, a woman (who hasn’t had her feelings reactivated yet) will usually say something like, “No, I’m not sure if that’s a good idea,” or “I still need some time to think about it.”
So, don’t make that mistake with your ex.
If you want her to give you another chance, focus on making her have sexual and romantic feelings for you first.
Then, get to a kiss and sex to reconnect physically and romantically.
After that, she will most likely bring up the idea of getting back together and if she doesn’t, don’t push it.
Just let her really want to be back with you by continuing to build on her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction.
Eventually, she won’t be able to hold it in any longer and will suggest that you and her get back together.
At that point, you can give her another chance with you.
So, don’t bother asking her if she wants to get back together before you and her have actually had sex again.
Get to a kiss and sex and then take it from there.
That’s the easy way to do it and avoids the old, “I’m not sure” or, “I need some more time” excuses.