When a woman loves her boyfriend so much and then stops loving him during a relationship, or after a break up, it will usually be due to one or more of the following 7 reasons:

1. She loved him based on the person she used to be

For example: Initially, she was carefree, open-minded and possibly even a little naive about what love meant and how it was supposed to be.

Alternatively, she had a childish, idealized idea of what love is like based on what she’d seen in movies, or TV dramas.

Then, once the initial thrill of being in love wore off and the reality of a real relationship and all it entails began to sink in, she started to panic.

As a result, she began to change and stopped being so carefree, nice, loving, warm and open.

She became more stern, closed up and distant in the relationship and also felt stressed about having to sometimes put another person’s needs, wants and desires before her own.

For example:

  • Eat what he eats, go where he wants to go and do what he wants to do.
  • Adjust, change or get rid of her interests, hobbies and friendships to accommodate him.
  • Stop doing things she did when single (e.g. go out clubbing, spend a lot of time with friends, have some guy friends, stay over at a friend’s place).
  • Take care of him when he’s unwell, even though she is busy with her work, or studies.
  • Put up with his moods after a bad day, even though she didn’t have the best day herself, or she did have a great day and now he’s ruining it by being a buzzkill.
  • Pick up after him around the house (e.g. because he leaves empty food wrappers or coffee cups on tables, clothes on the floor, overflowing laundry baskets that never seem to get done), or even just share the chores with him, when she’s used to being taken care of.
  • Be nice to his family and friends, even if she doesn’t like them.

A woman will put up with all of that and be happy to do it when she’s in love with a man.

Yet, if a man is unable to maintain her love for him and ends up ruining her feelings over time, she can eventually begin to resent the restrictions, requirements and responsibilities of the relationship.

She might then begin to remember and miss how carefree and happy she used to be before meeting him.

As a result, she can then feel motivated to break up with him and try to find a man who can give her the kind of relationship she really wants.

For most women, that is a relationship where he treats her well and makes her feel attracted (e.g. because he’s confident, emotionally manly), but also makes her feel the need to treat him well, be affectionate, loving and supportive.

When a woman finds that relationship dynamic, she sticks to a man like glue and remains in love with him.

Another possible reason why a woman will love a boyfriend so much, but then change is…

2. She loved him based on the person he used to be

She loved him based on the person he used to be

A woman can feel attracted to a man for reasons such as him being confident, emotionally masculine, a challenge (i.e. she feels the need to impress him), funny and flirtatious, being focused on achieving success in life and so on.

If they get into a relationship that works (i.e. he treats her well, is attractive in his behavior and makes her feel motivated to be attractive to him and treat him well too), she will then fall in love with him and see him as the one for her.

The relationship will last for life as a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, or will turn into an engagement, then marriage and the couple will be happy together for life.

That’s what can happen.

Yet, sometimes a guy will be one way initially, but then turn into completely a different guy over time and no longer match with her.

For example: He starts off…

  • Being a confident guy, but then becoming insecure, needy, controlling or jealous over time.
  • Talking about settling down, getting married and starting a family together, but he then never asks her to marry him, or saves up to get her an engagement ring.
  • Taking the lead in the relationship (e.g. arranging dates, making decisions for the both of them, not relying on her to guide him), but eventually taking a back seat approach and letting her become the driver, or leader of the relationship. Yet, she wants a man to follow, not a man to lead, or carry along with her.
  • Being a good, confident man who doesn’t need her to be emotionally consistent like a man in order for him to feel good about himself, only to become an emotionally sensitive guy who gets annoyed, upset or sulks when she’s being emotionally inconsistent, or moody like a typical woman.

When a woman realizes that the man she fell in love with is no longer a match, she will usually stick around and try to get him change.

However, if he doesn’t and continues being the kind of man who turns her off (e.g. insecure, lacking ambition, unwilling to follow through on the promise to marry her), she will fall out of love and want to find herself a man who is a better man.

3. He ruined her feelings of love with neediness or insecurity

Most guys feel confident when they first get a girl, because she shows a lot of interest, they have a lot of sex and spend most of their spare time together.

So, he feels assured that she wants him, is attracted to him and doesn’t want to be with other guys.

Yet, once in a relationship, a guy might gradually start behaving in needy and insecure ways (e.g. give up his hobbies and interests to spend even more time with her, stop focusing on his goals and dreams in life and put all of his attention on the relationship, become jealous and worry about losing her, freak out if a guy friend comments on her social media post, tell her that he needs her to promise that she’ll never cheat on him, tell her that he wouldn’t want to live if he didn’t have her).

Her feelings of love then become ruined, because women aren’t attracted to desperation, neediness, fear or insecurity in men.

Additionally, even though a woman loves and appreciates being the most important person in a man’s life, she doesn’t want to be his main reason for living, or the most important thing to him in the world.

The most important thing for a man should be his purpose, or his biggest goals, dreams and ambitions.

She can be the most important person, but not the most important thing as well.

When a man gets that right, he will live life in a balanced way that makes her feel respect, attraction and love for him.

She will feel proud to be his girlfriend, fiancé or wife.

4. The break up made her go back to feeling like an individual again

When a woman is in love with a guy in a relationship, she might put his needs ahead of her own to make him happy and not lose him.

Yet, when a relationship ends and the woman is on her own again, she will then begin acting like an individual again (rather than his loving girlfriend) to be able to move on and find a new man.

In other words, she will start putting herself first and not worrying about her ex, regardless of how much he loves her, cares about her or wants her back.

To him, it might seem like she used to love him so much and now she doesn’t love him at all.

Yet, she’s just adapting to being an individual again and trying to move on.

In reality, the unique love and connection that a man and woman create together never dies, even after a break up, or multiple break ups.

The love and connection is always still there in the background and can be brought back to life, if the guy interacts with his ex, re-attracts her and guides her back into a relationship.

5. She felt love for a new guy while still in the relationship and realized that love wasn’t limited to her boyfriend

She felt love for a new guy while still in the relationship and realized that love wasn’t limited to her boyfriend

It’s perfectly normal to find other people attractive when in a relationship (e.g. you temporarily feel attracted to a woman walking by, she temporarily feels attracted to a waiter who is confident and manly in his behavior).

However, there’s a big difference between ‘just looking’ and truly wishing you could be with them instead and then following through on it (e.g. you asking for the woman’s number, or the woman asking for the waiter’s number).

Likewise, there’s also a difference between temporary, or fleeting feelings of attraction and strong feelings of sexual and romantic love for someone else.

So, if a woman begins falling in love with another guy (e.g. a guy at work or university, a mutual friend, a guy she met at the gym), she might come to the conclusion that the love she feels for her boyfriend probably isn’t enough for her.

She may also begin to believe that she could experience an even more exciting or fulfilling love with a new guy, so there’s no reason to feel like she needs to stick with her boyfriend.

As a result, she may then break up with her boyfriend (usually using an excuse like, “I need time to think” or, “I don’t know what I want anymore. Please give me time to be on my own for a while, so I can figure things out”), so she can then date, or sleep with the new guy to see how she feels.

6. She moved on shortly after the relationship, fell in love and stopped being held back by the love she used to feel for her boyfriend

Essentially, she got into a rebound relationship, which is a relationship that someone has immediately after a break up.

A woman usually gets into a rebound to help herself get over her ex, stop missing him and hopefully prevent him from re-attracting her back into a relationship.

In many cases, the rebound relationship won’t work, but sometimes it will and the woman will fall in love.

If that happens, then she will stop feeling so attached to the love she used to feel for her boyfriend and as a result, will no longer seem interested in him.

Of course, her ex boyfriend can still get her back, but he has to use a new approach to attraction (e.g. be a challenge, rather than being a neutral, nice guy. Flirt with her, rather than just talking to her like a friend. Be more manly in his behavior, conversation style and actions, rather than being a soft, or politically correct 50/50 kind of guy. Make her sexual tension during interactions, rather than making her feel turned off, neutral or bored).

Making her feel attracted in new ways is a part of the ex back process.

If you go through the steps, you will get her back and she will love you more than she did before.

Alternatively, if you don’t feel like you can do it, or no longer want her, then find yourself a new woman instead.

7. Something significant happened during the relationship that changed how she felt

For example:

  • An angry outburst from him, which resulted in him being very aggressive towards her.
  • No longer spending much time with her, which then made her feel neglected, unwanted, unattractive or unloved.
  • Becoming too needy or clingy, to the point where she not only felt turned off by him, but also felt trapped, or smothered by the relationship and needed to get away from it.
  • Her starting a new career that changed her in a good way, but he saw it as a bad thing, or was threatened by it. He then tried to stop her from being so ambitious, or blamed her new career and the change in her behavior for him becoming an insecure, needy, jealous or overly protective guy.
  • Him or her going out separately with friends and eventually feeling attracted to other people and either cheating, or wanting to break up to be free to sleep with new people.
  • Him lying to her on a number of occasions, to the point where she could no longer trust him.
  • Him crying to her and needing a lot of emotional support, over something that she knows a man should be able to handle.
  • Him not being able to get along with her family or friends, or trying to turn her against them.

How about you?

Did something significant happen, or did you make a big mistake that caused her to begin falling out of love?

In almost all cases, a man can turn things around and get his ex woman back, but he has to be willing to do what works.

If a guy just waits and hopes that she will come back on her own, or tries to get her back by expressing his feelings, he will almost always be disappointed by her response and left behind while she moves on.

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