Here are 4 common reasons why a woman will do that and how you can get her back:
1. She had been having doubts for a while and could no longer deal with that level of commitment
Most couples will experience some doubts about getting married and before they, may give themselves a chance to wonder things like, “Is he/she really the one for me?” or, “Am I really ready to spend the rest of my life with him/her?”
Usually, those doubts are temporary and go away pretty quickly when the other person makes them feel loved, wanted and appreciated.
However that’s not always the case.
Sometimes, the doubts will continue to eat away a woman’s feelings for her guy (or visa versa).
She may then begin feeling confused, unhappy, stressed out and even trapped.
Initially, she might try to convince herself that she’s getting cold feet and that there’s nothing wrong.
She may even hint about her uneasiness to her guy in the hope that he will say and do something that will show her he’s the right guy for her (e.g. make her feel loved and appreciated in a confident, manly way).
However, if he responds in an unattractive way (e.g. he becomes clingy and needy out of fear of losing her), her doubts will intensify.
She might then decide that she can’t go through with the marriage anymore and break up with him.
So, is you want your fiancé back, you need to show her during your interactions from now on, that you really are the right man for her.
When she realizes that you make her feel more respect, attraction and love than anyone else, her doubts will naturally melt away and will want to be your wife.
2. He hadn’t been listening to her requests for him to change and she feared that it would just get worse if they got married
Every relationship experiences some problems at times.
Likewise, there will be some things that annoy the woman about her man and visa versa.
However, the key to a lasting relationship is that when an issue arises that can be fixed, adjusted or changed, the other person listens and then puts in the effort to fix, adjust, change or improve.
As a result, the love, respect and attraction between the couple grows and intensifies and they feel like they want to be together for life.
On the other hand, if a woman realizes that the problems between her and her man aren’t going away, regardless of how often she talks to him about it, she will strongly begin to doubt her decision to marry him.
In some cases, she may even break up with him if she gets a sense that things will only become worse after they get married (i.e. because he’ll assume that he’s got her now so why put in the effort to change).
So, if you want your ex back, you need to make sure that you show her (not tell her) that you’ve truly changed some to the things that are important to her.
- You’re less insecure and self-doubting now, which means you don’t feel the need to get jealous and cling to her.
- You’re more emotionally independent, which means that you don’t rely on her for your sense of purpose and identity.
- You’re less nice and sweet, which means she can’t walk all over you knowing that you’ll stick around no matter what.
- You’re no longer being held back by the addictions or issues you might have had in the relationship (e.g. spending way too much time playing video games and not enough time on achieving goals in real life, using too alcohol or drugs too often or too much, working way too much, being overly obsessive about certain things).
When you interact with her again and she can sense that you really have changed, she will begin to open up to the possibility of forgiving you, giving the relationship another chance and then becoming your wife.
3. She wasn’t feeling enough of a spark and didn’t want to get into that kind of marriage
Your ex fiancé may have some feelings for you, but not enough to make her want to become your wife.
This often happens when a relationship starts off well (e.g. they had an amazing connection, he was a good guy to her, the sex was great, they had a lot of fun and interesting times together), but then, over time the sexual spark fizzled out.
In other words, the relationship ended up feeling more like a friendship than a sexual romance.
Some women will put up with having a spark-less relationship, but a lot of women won’t.
If your fiancé left you, it could be because she doesn’t feel enough sexual attraction for you to make her want to end up in a passionless, sexless marriage.
However, you can change that by re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
When you make her feel very feminine in comparison to your masculinity (e.g. by not being neutral around her, being a good man but not a pushover, laughing at her in a loving way when she creates drama) she will automatically feel attracted to you.
Then, the idea of becoming your wife begins to appeal to her once more.
4. She knew that they wouldn’t last and she didn’t want to become a divorced woman, so she ended it while she still could
A woman will sometimes accept a marriage proposal from a guy, even though she’s not fully attracted to him and in love with him.
Some of her reasons might be…
- She’s getting older and she worries that if she doesn’t say “Yes,” she may end up single for life and lose out on having a family of her own.
- She’s being pressured by her family.
- She’s noticing that her friends are all settling down and she doesn’t want to be left behind.
- He’s a good guy and she feels he’ll be a good provider for her and any children they may have, so she’s willing to overlook the fact that he doesn’t make her feel sexual and romantic attraction for him.
Yet, deep down, she knows that it probably won’t last and that eventually, she’ll begin to want more from the relationship.
So, to avoid getting divorced later on and potentially having to deal with putting children through that as well, she decides to end it now before it’s too late.
She will then look to find a replacement man as quickly as possible who is good to her, but also motivates her to be a loving, devoted, faithful woman to him too.
Of course, you can still be that guy.
The more attracted you can make her feel when she interacts with you, the more she will believe that getting back with you is about her following her heart and surrendering to the exciting feelings of loving attraction, rather than settling for a man who is not her ideal match.
Getting Your Fiancé Back is Easier When You Avoid These 6 Mistakes
1. Crying to her and pleading for another chance
A woman’s attraction to a guy is based mostly on his ability to make her feel like she can look up to him and respect him as a man.
So, when a guy is crying and pleading and being emotionally weak and desperate, he’s essentially making her feel the opposite of the way he needs to make her feel to convince her to be his wife again.
Instead, he’s actually turning her off even more when what he should be doing is quickly re-sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for him again, so she naturally becomes unsure about her decision to leave him.
2. Not figuring out the core reason for her lack of attraction
If a guy interacts with his ex woman and makes the same old attraction mistakes that he made before, it goes without saying that she won’t feel very motivated to give him another chance.
Instead, she will continue to feel that something important is missing and that will convince her that she made the right decision to leave him.
So, if you want your fiancé to change her mind about being broken up, you need to show her that you understand her core, possibly even secret reason for losing attraction for you (e.g. your lack of emotional strength made her feel as though she had to take care of you so she felt more like a mother or big sister than your girl, the way you treated her made her feel like a neutral friend around you rather than a desirable woman).
You need to think, act, behave and respond to her in a way that inspires her and wakes her up to a new attraction experience.
Only then will she open back up to you again.
3. Trying to get her back before figuring out how to make her feel attracted again
If you push for a relationship with your ex fiancé before making her have feelings for you again, you will almost certainly get rejected. Why?
Even though you feel attracted to her, love her and want to be with her, right now she doesn’t feel the same way.
As a result, she will likely feel that you’re being selfish and only looking out for your own well-being without bothering to take her feelings into consideration.
She will then naturally push you away and refuse to work things out.
This is why you need to approach the ex back process with your ex fiancé in a way that will open her up and make her want to talk to you and be around you more, rather than less.
In other words, you need to make the feelings between you and her mutual, or at least close to mutual.
If you don’t do that, she won’t feel motivated to fix the relationship and be your girl again.
4. Trying to get family or friends involved to help convince her to give you another chance
This is usually a bad idea for several reasons:
Most family and friends don’t want to get caught up in the middle of a break up and have to choose sides.
If she finds out that you went behind her back she might actually get angry with you and feel even more convinced that she made the right decision.
Often family and friends will try to talk you out of trying to get her back by saying things like, “It’s better that you broke up now, rather than going through a divorce later on. Clearly it wasn’t meant to be.”
So, if you want your fiancé back, don’t get other people involved, regardless of how desperate you might feel.
5. Falling into depression and becoming unattractive to her and other women as a result
There’s no denying that losing the woman you were planning to spend the rest of your life with is a big deal.
You wouldn’t be human if it wasn’t.
However, if you let it break you and cause you to sink into a pit depression and despair, you’ll actually be hurting your chances of getting your fiancé back.
Essentially, you’re stopping yourself from moving forward and becoming the kind of man who can attract her back (e.g. confident, someone who can handle adversity and come back emotionally stronger and better than before).
Then, when you interact with other women, or your ex fiancé and they notice your hopelessness, they will feel turned off by what they perceive as your emotional weakness.
As a result, you then struggle to find a new woman to move on with, or re-attract your fiancé and get her back.
6. Hoping that she will change her mind if you just wait
One of the fastest ways for you to lose your ex for real, is by waiting around for her to realize she made a mistake and come running back to you and doing nothing.
The truth is, if a woman has disconnected from her sexual and romantic feelings for you and you don’t actively do anything to change that (i.e. interact with her every chance you get and spark her feelings for you again), she’s likely going to focus on fully getting over you.
That usually involves her going out with her single friends to clubs and bars, drinking alcohol and flirting and even hooking up with guys she meets there.
She might also accept dates from guys that have been interested in her and have been waiting in the sidelines for her to break up with you.
Additionally, she can join and online dating site or use an app like Tinder.
Basically, it’s very easy for an attractive woman to find a new man if she wants to.
So, while you’re waiting around being a good, faithful ex fiancé, she will be moving on and forgetting all about you.
Don’t let that happen!
You have to be active in the ex back process, not passive.