If your girlfriend won’t answer your calls, it either means that:
1. She’s annoyed at how often you contact her and is hoping that you get the message and then slow down a bit.
To maintain the respect and attraction of a woman in a relationship, you’ve got to make sure that you maintain a balanced lifestyle as a man.
As a man, you need to pushing forward in life and trying to achieve your biggest goals and ambitions, rather than spending all your time and energy on a woman.
At the beginning of a relationship, a woman will usually eat up all the attention that a guy gives her and she will be happy with that for a while, but if she eventually realizes that she is his purpose in life, she will rapidly begin to lose interest.
A woman does want to feel loved, respected and wanted by her boyfriend, but she doesn’t want to feel like she is his “everything” and that, without her, his life would be boring, hopeless, etc.
2. She’s testing to see how you will react if she isn’t so available.
Sometimes, a woman will stop answering her boyfriend’s calls to see how much power she can get over him or to see how much he really cares.
Here’s the thing though…
While it might be fun for a woman to gain power over her man, when it eventually happens, she will then begin to lose respect and attraction for him.
3. She wants to break up with you, but doesn’t have the courage to tell you yet.
Women don’t always come right out and say, “It’s over. We’re breaking up” and will often begin to ignore a guy and avoid him in the hope that he gets the message and moves on.
4. She is busy and doesn’t have time to be chatting on the phone all the time.
Not all women love to answer their phone every time it rings.
If your girlfriend is focused on her career or studies, or is a popular or busy person, she won’t always want to answer her phone when you call.
4 Signs She Wants to Break Up With You
Right now, you need to determine whether or not your girlfriend is trying to break up with you, or whether she is simply trying to test your reaction to her sudden unavailability.
If she does want to break up with you, she won’t necessarily have the guts to tell you that right away.
For example: Many women will say something like, “I want some space to find myself,” or “I think we should just take a break from each other for a while and see what happens” or, “If we had met each other at a different time in our lives, we would have more time for each other…but, I don’t know if I can give you what you want right now.”
So, if you’re saying, “My girlfriend won’t answer my calls,” it could be that she wants to break up with you, but simply can’t work up the courage to say that to you directly.
Here are 4 signs that suggest she wants to break up…
1. She’s constantly unavailable to see you.
Unless she is completely bogged down by a hectic work schedule or a crazy study schedule, a woman will always make herself available for the man she loves.
No matter how busy she gets, a woman who is in love with her man will do anything and everything to try to meet up with him in person to feel his love up close; even if it’s just a 10 minute “date” during her lunch break, or on a quick kiss on her way to work in the morning, between classes, etc.
For a woman, being in love with a man and having the flow of his love run through her life and mind is what sustains her.
Not being able to be with the man that she loves is something that makes her feel terribly unhappy and she will do whatever she can to avoid being without him.
So, if your girlfriend is constantly making lame excuses like, “I’m just SO busy right now,” or “Something came up. I’ll see you when I can,” to avoid seeing you, then she is hoping that if she stays away long enough, the relationship will fade away without her having to come out and tell you directly that she wants to break up.
2. She’s physically and emotionally closed off from you.
Nothing makes a woman feel more alive than the opportunity to demonstrate her love for her man by holding his hand, hugging him, kissing him and having sex with him.
In a loving relationship, physical intimacy is an essential way for a couple to connect with each other and express their deeper feelings of love and attraction.
If your girlfriend has been avoiding any displays of affection and is suddenly not interested in having sex with you, it means that she is no longer feeling the respect, attraction and love for you that first drew her to you.
When a woman loses respect for her guy, she will then lose feelings of attraction for him.
If it keeps happening, she will then begin to fall out of love with him.
So, if your girlfriend is falling out of love with you, then you need to focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you ASAP.
If you are displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally make women feel respectful towards and attracted to a man, then your girlfriend is not going to want to leave you.
3. She goes out without you on a regular basis.
Part of being in a healthy relationship (i.e. full of love and free of insecurity) is being cool with the idea that your girlfriend will sometimes go places without you.
She will have friends, interests and hobbies that are separate from you and your relationship. The same must apply to you too.
However, if your girlfriend is constantly going out without you, often to places like clubs or bars where she’s likely to get hit on by other men, while you’re sitting at home pining over her and avoiding going out with your friends, it is a clear sign that she’s opening herself up to meet new men.
Personally speaking, I would dump my woman if she suddenly started going partying and clubbing with her friends and didn’t want me to come along.
I would never, ever put up with being treated like that.
If she wanted to go once so she could have a girl’s night with her girlfriends who were in relationships, I would be fine with that. However, if she wanted to go out and party with her single girlfriends, I would be disappointed that she wouldn’t want me to come along.
In my relationship (that’s her in the photo above), my girlfriend (who recently became my wife), has never wanted to go out without me.
She feels better when she’s with me and has no desire to be hit on by other men.
I’ve been deepening her love, respect and attraction for me over time, rather than destroying it by being insecure, unloving, taking her for granted, etc.
You can have that effect on your girlfriend too.
You don’t just have to sit around hoping that a woman will never leave you.
You can deepen her feelings for you over time.
Being able to deepen your woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you is extremely important in today’s world.
Unlike in the past where a woman would stay with a man for life even if she was unhappy, today’s women dump or divorce guys who aren’t able to give them the type of relationship experience that women really want.
Today’s women can easily go out and meet a new guy and not feel ashamed about it.
If you want your girlfriend to feel an undying desire to be with you in a relationship, you’ve got to begin deepening her feelings of love, respect and attraction, rather than expecting her to stick around because things felt good at the start.
4. She’s been texting, calling or chatting with another guy, but tries to hide it from you when you ask her about it.
It’s normal to have separate friends from each other and a couple shouldn’t have to live in each other’s pockets or have to report their every move to each other.
However, if your girlfriend has been texting, calling or chatting online with other guys and isn’t responding to you, then she might be opening herself up to the idea of cheating or leaving you and then hooking up with a new guy.
You have to be careful how you approach her about it though. If you accuse her of flirting with another guy and tell her to stop, she might say, “You don’t own me. I can talk to whoever I want to talk to. I don’t have to report to you every time I talk to someone.”
What should you do instead?
Get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you (i.e. by replacing your unattractive behavior with attractive behavior) and she will usually change automatically.
If she doesn’t, you need to tell her that you feel like she’s disrespecting you by ignoring you and then chatting heavily with other guys, so if she doesn’t stop treating you that way, you and her are finished right now.
Don’t say that in a needy, insecure way. Just be confident in yourself (i.e. know that you’re more than good enough for her) and tell her that if she is unable to respect you, then you don’t want to be in a relationship with her anymore.
She Might Just Be Testing You
When a woman is in a relationship with a man, she will always continue to test his confidence and challenge his position as the leader of the relationship.
The testing happens when you first approach, when on a date, in a long-term relationship and even when you’ve been married for decades.
The testing never stops.
Women instinctively test you because it’s the most important and powerful way for them to remain attracted to you and respectful of you.
If a woman tests you and notices that you don’t break down and become insecure and instead remain strong and confident, the respect and attraction that she feels for you deepens.
However, if you become insecure when she tests you, a woman will then begins to question whether or not you are strong enough to be her man.
So, if you’re saying, “My girlfriend won’t answer my calls,” and it’s not because she wants to break up with you (i.e. she’s not displaying any “break up” signs), then she is most-likely just testing to see how much control she has over you and how confident you are in your sex appeal and value to her.
A confident guy who knows that he is more than good enough for his girlfriend won’t waste time worrying if she suddenly stops answering his calls.
He will feel like it’s her loss if she stuffs the relationship up and will simply continue on with his life as normal, knowing that his girlfriend feels lucky to be with him.
Additionally, because of his confidence, he will be naturally attractive to other women and there will always be women in his life who like him and hope that he breaks up with his girlfriend so they can get a chance to be with him.
Yet, guys with that sort of confidence are rare.
Most guys don’t really know how to attract women with their personality and they lack confidence around women really like.
So, when a guy like that gets a girlfriend, it’s usually as a result of him “getting lucky” (e.g. the woman was drunk, she just got out of a relationship and wanted a replacement guy fast, he grew on her over time and eventually got a chance, etc).
Guys who get lucky with women are usually able to feel confident at the start of a relationship, but when the woman starts to test his confidence by playing hard to get, the “lucky guy” becomes insecure, jealous and clingy.
She notices and it begins to eat away at his respect and attraction for him, which then causes her to begin treating him badly (e.g. ignoring his calls, being less affectionate, etc).
The lucky guy will then put up with her bad treatment to keep her around, or accuse her of being a bitch and demand that she changes and shows him some more respect.
Yet, neither of those approaches will keep the relationship together for long.
Essentially, he has no control over how she feels for him and simply trying to do whatever he can to hang onto what he has gotten via luck.
He doesn’t know how to get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him, and he’s not confident about being able to find a replacement girlfriend, so he feels stuck.
When faced with a girlfriend who won’t answer his calls, a guy like that may begin to call her multiple times per day to make sure that he stays on her mind.
He may even text her or leave her voicemail messages like, “What’s wrong? Why won’t you answer my calls?” or “What’s going on? Don’t you love me?” or “How can you do this to me? Don’t you realize that I’m falling apart here?”
However, rather than make her happily pick up the phone and call him back, she’s going to be thinking, “What a loser! Is this all it takes to make him lose his confidence? Pathetic…” and she will lose respect and attraction for him as a man.
It’s Up to You to Make the Relationship Work
Whatever is going on in your relationship right now, you can’t expect your girlfriend to tell you about it or fix it.
As the man, it is your responsibility to take the lead and make a woman feel the way she wants to feel in the relationship.
A woman doesn’t want to have to take on the role as a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
She wants you to figure that stuff out yourself (or already know it) and then just be the man she needs.
She doesn’t want to create a dynamic in the relationship where you are the student and she is the teacher, or you are the boy and she is the mother figure, because it will destroy her respect and attraction for you.
She wants to be able to look up to you and respect you as her man, not look down on you and feel as though she needs to take care of you emotionally because you’re so confused (about how to be a man) or are so emotionally sensitive and insecure.
If you want to stop saying, “My girlfriend won’t answer my calls,” then it’s up to you to figure out what is causing your girlfriend to lose respect, love and attraction for you and to then fix it.
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness, so when you begin to show your girlfriend that you’re the confident, masculine and mentally and emotionally strong man she really wants, she will feel much more excited and eager to call you.
If you’re currently in a situation where you feel like all hope is lost with your girlfriend, think again.
You might have started out today thinking, “Is my relationship over? Am I going get dumped by my girlfriend?” but as you can see, that’s clearly not the case.
There’s always a way to re-spark a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for you as a man. When you give her what she needs, other men will begin to pale in comparison to you.
She will realize that she already has an amazing boyfriend and doesn’t need to waste time trying to find a replacement.