Here are 4 essential things that you must do when maintaining a long distance relationship with a woman:
1. Be the sort of man that she feels proud to be in a relationship with
When your relationship began and you starting having sex and getting to know each other in an intimate way, it might have seemed as though you and her would last forever no matter how vast of a physical distance was between you.
However, for a relationship to last a lifetime or even just for many years, the initial lust that a couple feels when they meet, kiss and begin having sex has to be transitioned to deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love for each other.
This is very important from a woman’s perspective because a woman makes decisions about long term relationships based on the long term consequences or benefits of being with a guy.
Why? Unlike men who can continue to impregnate women up to the age of 50, 60 and even 70 in certain cases, most women rapidly begin to become less fertile after the age of 35 years of age.
Naturally, a woman wants to ensure that she is with a man who will be beneficial to her in the long run, rather than only in the short term.
She might like a guy because he is fun to be around or physically good looking, but if she feels as though he’s not a good match for a long term or lifetime relationship, she will begin to look elsewhere.
So, how can you be the sort of man that she feels proud to be in a relationship with?
This includes doing things like:
- Going after your biggest dreams and ambitions in life, rather than just sitting around waiting for her or working in a job that will get you nowhere in life.
- Being confident and emotionally secure with or without her reassurance.
- Rising up to reach your true potential as a man, rather than accepting a mediocre life and expecting her to continually feel impressed by you.
- Having good friendships with people to maintain a balanced lifestyle, rather than only focusing on your relationship with her.
- Being the sort of man that other people in your life can look up to, respect and rely on to be a pillar of strength.
When a woman is in a relationship with a man like that, she’s not going to want to leave him if they happen to go long distance for a while.
Of course, there’s absolutely no guarantee that a woman will not cheat on you, because all women are different.
Some women are of excellent character and would never cheat on their man, whereas other women have cheated on ex-boyfriends or are the type who will cheat if they get drunk and are feeling horny.
To ensure that you have the highest chance of maintaining a faithful long distance relationship with a woman, you must be the sort of man that she feels proud to be in a relationship with.
Being that man isn’t only for her. It’s also for your protection.
If you are being the sort of man that she feels proud to be in a relationship with, then you’re going to find it extremely easy to get a replacement woman if you and her decide to split.
Most women dream of finding a good man who also has the traits that I’ve listed above, so if your woman makes a mistake and cheats on you or if you decide that you want to call it quits, you will be ready and able to effortlessly attract another women right away.
If your woman knows that you could easily replace her with another quality woman, it will actually be one of the main things that will keep her faithful to you.
2. Give her space, but don’t ignore her or stop caring
Part of maintaining a long distance relationship is about giving the woman space to feel independent and do what she wants to do, rather than always breathing down her neck or harassing her with phone calls about where she has been and with who.
The last thing that you want to do in a long distance relationship, is to become the insecure, needy boyfriend who is being unreasonable about what she can and cannot do while you are apart.
However, you also shouldn’t get to the point where you stop caring and just ignore her.
So, what should you do instead?
You and her need to come to an agreement on how often you feel it will be necessary or enjoyable for you and her to talk.
Then, agree that both of you will basically stick to that and trust the other person.
Of course, it’s fine if you or her text or call one extra time every now and then, but you should try to stick to what you agree on.
For example: Some guys who are very busy working on their career, degree or business don’t really have the time to be sitting around talking to a woman on the phone every night.
Likewise, a woman might be in that situation herself where she is very career focused and has a lot of other things to do (e.g. go to the gym, cook food, clean her apartment, etc), so she won’t always have time to be sitting around texting or talking.
So, you need to come to an agreement on what works for both of you and then try to stick to that.
3. Maintain countdowns to planned meet ups
A big part of maintaining a long distance relationship is having planned meet ups as often as is possible for the both of you.
This may be once every two weeks, month, two months or even 6 months, but it’s important to lock in some dates that you can both look forward to.
For example: If you’re planning to meet up 6 months from now, make sure that both of you know the date so you can drop it into conversation sometimes when you talk or text.
You might say, “Only 4 months to go” or ask her, “Do you know how many weeks there are left before we meet up?” and have it as something that you’re both counting down to and looking forward to.
You can also add in some sexual flirting and say something like, “Only 4 more weeks until I can see your beautiful smile and give you a spank on the ass.”
This helps to maintain a feeling of being together in an intimate relationship that is still alive, rather than feeling as though you used to be together as a couple and are now just hanging onto a relationship that without any definite plans to see each other on specific dates.
Both of you need to feel as though, despite being apart for short or long periods of time, you do still get to be together at times and in future, you will be together in the same house and living the life of a close, loving, committed couple.
4. Set rules about what you will and won’t accept while apart
This is a tricky one to accomplish with a woman because no woman wants to feel as though she is being controlled by an insecure man.
Yet, at the same time, to properly maintain a faithful, committed long distance relationship, you do need to set some ground rules about what is and isn’t acceptable while you are apart.
For example: She’s most-likely going to make some new friends while away (e.g. at work, university, while travelling, etc) and they may want her to sometimes join them for a drink or party at a bar or club.
Some women will say that they’re not interested in doing that while away from their boyfriend, fiancé or husband and won’t ever go out partying without him.
However, most women will want to at least attend some of the events so they aren’t being anti-social and are giving themselves the best opportunity to build friendships or fit in with co-workers.
In that case, it’s important to let her know that if she does attend a few outings, she should only attend the things that she absolutely has to as a show of respect and commitment to you.
Tell her that if she wants to go out and party a lot, then it’s going to best for you and her to simply break up because you’re not going to want to sit around wondering if she’s going to get drunk and make a mistake.
Let her know that if a man and a woman are committed to each other and they want to be with each other for life, they’re not going to be going out and getting tipsy or drunk with people on a regular basis.
How she responds to that will tell you what type of woman she really is and how committed to you is.
If she is serious about you and does want to stay with you for life, she will be happy to agree to that, but if she is the sort of woman who will potentially cheat if she gets drunk, then she’s going to be a bit annoyed by it.
Regardless of how she reacts, you need to put those ground rules in place and let her know what you will and won’t accept.
From then on, you need to give her your full trust and believe her when she tells you that she is sticking to your agreement.
If you are constantly asking her about it, you’re going to come across as insecure and needy, which is going to turn her off and make her want to find a new guy that she can actually feel proper respect and attraction for.
So, it’s a fine line that you need to walk when maintaining a long distance relationship.
Essentially though, it’s about being the sort of man that she wants to stick with and then continuing to push forward in your life while she is away.
In most cases, that will ensure she wants to stay faithful to you and that she will feel excited to see you at the planned meet ups that you have agreed on with her ahead of time.