If you have found yourself in the unfortunate position where you are saying, “My girlfriend is ignoring me” and you’re not sure why, this post will explain how to fix the problem.
Here are 5 honest questions to ask yourself that will give you the exact answer you need to get her to stop ignoring you…
1. Have you been turning her off lately?
When you first get into a relationship with a woman, she will usually put up with a lot of the mistakes you might make (e.g. being insecure, jealous, too protective, etc) because she is feeling a lot of lust and excitement about being with someone new.
When you begin having sex, it will be usually be more than enough pleasure and enjoyment to make both of you want to see each other on a regular basis, so there will be no reason for her to ignore you.
However, once you pass that initial phase of the relationship, if you’re still making the same old mistakes and possibly gotten worse (e.g. become more insecure, being clingy, not being enough of a man for her, not having much purpose in life and focusing too much of your time and energy on her as a result, etc), then she will start to feel as though she is making a mistake by being with you.
At this point, you should honestly ask yourself the question, “Have I been turning her off lately?” and if your answer is “Yes,” then you need to get clear on how you can actually start turning her on and making her feel attracted and drawn to you from now on.
For example: If you interact with her and display traits such as confidence, charisma, humor, a masculine vibe and high self-esteem, she will naturally feel attracted to you and will begin to feel proud to be with you.
She will then to feel drawn to you and will stop ignoring you.
When a woman feels a lot of attraction for her boyfriend, she doesn’t want to ignore him because interacting with him makes her feel so good and she also doesn’t want another girl to come along and take him from her.
2. Does she truly want to be committed to you for life?
Just because you’re in a relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that she is thinking, “I’m only ever going to be with him for life. I will never do anything else other than be in a relationship with him.”
These days, many women get in and out of relationships throughout their late teens, 20s, 30s and even 40s and they continue to do that until they find the right man for them.
A woman can be 20 years old and decide that she wants to settle down and get married, but if that same women didn’t find the right guy for her until she was 35, she might wait until then.
If she didn’t wait and got married to a guy who she didn’t truly love, respect and feel attraction for, she will potentially divorce him later on if he doesn’t improve and become the man she really wants him to be.
So, the question you really need to ask yourself is this, “Is my girlfriend committed to me for life? Does she truly see me as the man that she wants to spend the rest of her life with?”
You might be answering “Yes” to that because a lot of women do say things to their boyfriend like, “I love you so much” and “I want to be with you forever” during the initial parts of a relationship, because she is feeling so much lust, love and excitement.
Yet, that doesn’t mean that she can’t change her mind later on if her boyfriend is unable to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction.
If her feelings fade (e.g. because her boyfriend has been too insecure, too clingy, controlling, lacking purpose, etc), then her thinking will change from, “I want to be with you forever” to “I don’t feel the same way about you anymore.”
These days, the only way to keep a woman in a relationship for life is to actually have the ability to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction over time.
As a man in the modern world, you now need to know how to deepen a woman’s feelings over time, because women no longer have to stick with one man for life if they are unhappy.
In the past, a woman had to stick with one man for life because it was shameful to get divorced.
There was no sex before marriage, so a woman would get married and lose her virginity on the wedding night.
She would then have to stick with her man for life no matter what.
However, today’s women are free to do whatever they want. If a modern woman is unhappy in a relationship, she can get out of it and simply find a new guy if she wants to and society will not look down on her.
In fact, many people will “pat her on the back” and say that she is strong and courageous for breaking up with a guy who doesn’t have the ability to make her feel the kind of love, respect and attraction that she wants in a relationship.
Here is a video that I made for guys who have already been dumped by their girlfriend (fiancé or wife).
Watch this now and it should help you prevent a break up from happening…
If she does end up breaking up with you because you don’t take action to fix the problem, watch this video to learn what you need to do to get her back.
If your relationship does stay together, you need to ensure that you begin deepening her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you from now on.
When you do that, she won’t want to ignore you anymore because she will feel better when she spends time with you or at least remains in contact with you via phone, text and social media.
Essentially, it all comes down to how you make her feel. If you are making her feel a lot of love, respect and attraction for you, then she will have absolutely no reason to ignore you.
If you approach your relationship in that way, you and her will be able to be together for life.
3. Have you given her too much power in the relationship?
A girlfriend will always test her boyfriend to see how much she can get away with and see how much power she can gain over him.
For example: She might throw tantrums, treat him badly, be less affectionate, ignore him, tease him, demand that he do things for her, etc.
If her boyfriend puts up with the bad treatment because he is afraid of losing her, the power will gradually shift to her and she will lose respect for him.
It may then get to a point where she calls the shots on pretty much everything (e.g. she says when they can hold hands, kiss, have sex, go out and how often they see each other) and if he complains about it, she will threaten to break up with him.
That is not the position that you ever want to be in with a woman. The position that you want to be in and that women actually want you to be in, is where you love and respect her, but you remain in the position of power.
To achieve that, you need to maintain belief in yourself and know that she is attracted to you, respectful of the emotionally strong man that you are and she is also in love with you.
If she gets out of line, you need to let her know that you are disappointed in her and expect better from her from now on.
You need to be light-hearted and easy-going when you tell her that, but you also need to be assertive at the same time.
If she continues to make the same types of mistakes, it should be you that is ignoring her or saying that she doesn’t get to hold your hand or kiss you.
That is actually what women want a man to do. A woman hates it when her boyfriend puts up with her bad behavior because he is afraid of losing her.
Women want to be with a guy who has a backbone and is willing to stand up for himself in a loving, but assertive way.
Women don’t want to be stuck in a relationship with a wimp who allows himself to get pushed around by a woman, because that suggests to her that he will also allow himself to get pushed around at work or will be overlooked for promotions because he simply isn’t emotionally tough enough.
4. Has she become your main purpose in life?
A classic mistake that guys make in relationships, is to feel as though once they’ve gotten themselves a girlfriend, the rest of the world can go get stuffed.
A guy will often want to spend all of his time with his girlfriend (e.g. hanging out with her on the couch, in bed, going places with her, etc), but a woman instinctively knows that he shouldn’t be spending most of his time just hanging out with her.
Instinctively, she knows that (if he is a real man), he should be rising up through the levels of his true potential as a man by striving to achieve his biggest goals and ambitions in life, rather than just sitting around wasting time with her.
If you make a woman your main purpose in life, she will begin to say things like, “I need time to find myself” or “I need to clear my head” or “I need to figure out what I want to do with my life” because she is reacting to the lack of purpose and direction that you have been unable to provide.
There’s nothing wrong with spending a lot of time with your girlfriend, loving her and wanting to be around her, but your main focus in life needs to be your purpose as a man.
If you approach life in that way, your girlfriend will feel more respect, attraction and love for you over time, as long as you also treat her well and respect her and love her.
5. Are you going to fix the problem, dump her or wait to be dumped by her?
If you’re in a position now where you are saying, “My girlfriend is ignoring me” then you have a choice to make.
You’re either going to:
- Fix the problem (i.e. identify where you’ve been messing up and then begin to change that) and then deepen her feelings for you.
- Dump her because you feel as though she’s going to dump you soon, so you might as well do it first.
- Not do anything and simply hope that she doesn’t dump you.
So, what you are going to do? Are you going to:
- Fix the problem?
- Get rid of the problem by dumping her?
- Hope that the problem goes away on its own?