When a woman says that she doesn’t have feelings for you, it can mean different things depending on the status of your relationship.
1. If you are still only friends and haven’t even kissed or had sex yet.
Most women (except unattractive women) hate it when a guy says that he has “feelings” for her, before she has feelings for him.
She wants to feel attracted too. It’s clear that you are attracted to her, but have you done enough to make her feel sexually attracted and turned on by you? Without sexual feelings, what you have with her is just a friendship.
So, she might have friendly feelings for you, but sexual feelings are what really count when it comes to a relationship between a man and a woman.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to get her to have feelings (i.e. sexual and romantic feelings for you)…
As you will discover from the video above, you can actively create feelings of attraction inside of her. When you do that, she then have “feelings” for you.
2. If you are already in a relationship.
The relationship may have started out well, with her developing feelings for you and maybe even saying that she loves you, but that’s not the case anymore.
Somewhere along the way, you’ve destroyed her feelings of respect and attraction for you and she has now fallen out of love with you.
Watch this video to understand how to change how she feels before she breaks up with you…
As you will discover from the video above, you can get her to reconnect with her old feelings, but you have to make sure that you change and improve yourself to stop making the same old mistakes that have been turning her off.
3. If you have already broken up
It used to be really difficult for guys to get a woman back after being dumped…and then the internet came along.
Now, guys like me can help you to get your ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) back into a relationship with you.
Watch this video to understand where guys go wrong when trying to get an ex back who doesn’t have feelings for them and what you should do instead if you want to be successful…
As you will discover from the video above, the “feelings” that a woman needs to feel to justify being in a relationship are respect, attraction and love.
If she currently doesn’t respect you (e.g. because you’ve been insecure), then she’s not going to allow herself to feel much attraction for you, which will also keep her disconnected from the love.
If you want to get her to have feelings for you again, you need to start by fixing your issues and improving yourself enough so you can get her respect back.
You CAN Change How She Feels About You
If you’re currently in a position where you are saying, “I really want this woman to be my girlfriend, but she doesn’t have feelings for me,” it’s only natural that you might be feeling discouraged about your chances of making her feel differently.
After all, you’ve most-likely tried everything to get her to like you in the same way as you like you, including being an even nicer guy than you usually are to women.
Yet, no matter what you say or do, she remains emotionally closed off to you.
So, you might start to think things like:
- Am I not good looking enough for her?
- Am I not tall enough?
- Am I not rich enough?
- Do I need to work out more in the gym to look stronger?
- Should I wear cooler clothes?
It’s all very confusing.
Yet, to someone like me, it is very simple.
The reason why she doesn’t have feelings for you is that you’re not doing enough to make her feel sexually attracted and turned on.
You might be a really good guy, but that just isn’t enough for a woman to want to be in a relationship. The sexual element also has to be there in a strong and powerful way.
If she only kind of feels attracted to you, then she’s only going to kind of having feelings for you.
You have to focus on improving your ability to attract her when you talk to her and interact with her, otherwise she just won’t feel motivated to be in a relationship with you.
What you need to realize is that you have a lot of direct control over how much or little attraction you make her feel for you.
Just because she you like currently doesn’t have feelings for you, it doesn’t mean her feelings for you can’t change.
In fact, feelings change all the time.
Have you ever noticed how a person can literally go from hating someone to forgiving them, liking them and possibly even loving them?
Maybe that even happened to you with a coworker or someone at university. You didn’t like them initially, but they were then able to change how you felt about them to the point where you might have even become close friends and really liked each other.
How did this happen?
When a person changes the kind of behavior, communication style and attitude that was causing you to dislike them (or not have feelings for them), you can then begin to see them in a different light and as a result, your feelings towards them will also change.
In the case of this particular woman that you like, she can literally go from not having feelings for you, to really wanting to be with you.
It all depends on your ability to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
Right now, she most likely has “friendly” feelings towards you, but the sexual element is missing because you haven’t been doing enough to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
This problem often happens when a guy is very nice to a woman because he is hoping that she will “like” him enough as a person to give him a chance to be with her.
Yet, that approach usually ends up in a rejection where the woman says something like, “Sorry, I don’t have feelings for you” or “You’re a nice guy, but I just don’t feel the same way you do.”
Watch this video to find out why being too nice to a woman and acting like just a friend is usually a recipe for disaster…
As you will discover from the video above, there’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman and being her friend, but that isn’t enough to cause a woman to have strong sexual and romantic feelings for you.
You have to focus on making her feel sexually attracted and turned on by how you talk to her and interact with her.
When you do that, she will be motivated to want to kiss you, have sex with you and be in a relationship with you.
She Wants a Man Who Can Make Her Feel Like a Real Woman
One of the ways to make a woman feel like a real woman is to make her feel feminine and girly in response to your masculinity.
Making a woman feel girly in response to your masculinity is just one of more than 100 ways that you can make women feel attracted to you, but it’s definitely one of the most powerful and direct ways.
A lot of guys make the mistake of suppressing their masculinity around women to seem nice, neutral and sweet.
They want to show the woman how nice, sweet, trustworthy and kind they are in the hopes that it will make her think, “WOW! He’s so nice and considerate! I have to be with him!”
Yet, the truth is that women only appreciate nice, sweet behavior from men whom they are sexually attracted to.
When a guy makes a woman feel sexually attracted to him by being masculine around her, she will then see him nice, sweet behavior as charming, sexy and lovable.
However, if a guy suppresses his masculinity (i.e. puts on an act of being an even nicer, sweeter guy than he is) around a woman and showers her with nice behavior, compliments and sweet gestures, she will see that he is trying to win her over in that way.
She will then play hard to get because she will realize that he’s a desperate guy who doesn’t even know how to attract women and is simply hoping to be liked enough to be given a chance.
Women don’t want to feel like they are doing you a favor by being with you. They want to feel lucky to score an awesome guy like you, which is why women love guys who are more of a challenge…
As you will discover from the video above, most guys are way too easily impressed by women simply based on the woman’s looks.
Attractive women get really bored of how easy it is for them to attract guys for sex and romance. All she has to do is be nice to guys and most guys will jump at the chance to be with her.
Yet, she wants more than just to give a sex-starved guy a chance to be with her.
She wants a guy who can easily attract other women, but will give her a chance to be with him if she impresses him enough.
Some guys hate to hear that women think that way and complain about how women make things so complicated. Yet, it is how the human mating dance works.
In this life, you will either that nature works that way and flow with it, or you keep trying to fight against nature and experience rejection after rejection.
Sexual Feelings Are What Really Count
You’re probably a really good guy, right?
You know in your heart and mind that you would treat her so well. You have absolutely no intention of treating her badly like you’ve seen other guys treat her. You only want good things for her and you.
Yet, she doesn’t care about that right now.
All of your good qualities (i.e. the fact that you’re a nice guy, are intelligent, have good intentions with her, are trustworthy, etc) are not important to her before she feels like you are a sexual match.
Essentially, to get a woman to have “feelings” for you and want to be in a sexual relationship with you, she needs to feel sexual attraction for you first.
At this point, some guys might wonder, “She has so many other, better looking guys to choose from, so why would she go for me? Surely those guys are going to be more sexually attractive to her than I am, right?”
Some women do choose men based on looks, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that there are open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy can make her feel attracted in other ways.
For example: If a guy makes her feel attracted to his confidence, masculine vibe and makes her laugh, she is going to feel attracted to him. The more ways that he is able to use his personality to attract her and turn her on, the more attraction she will feel for him.
When she feels a lot of attraction, she will actually start to look at his physical appearance in a positive light.
Even though he doesn’t have male model features, she will say that he is good looking, handsome or sexy, because she is feeling attracted to him and is looking at his physical appearance through the lens of her attraction for him.
Most guys on this planet aren’t aware of the knowledge that you just uncovered in the previous paragraph.
Most guys believe that a woman’s attraction for a man is all about his looks, money, height and social status.
Yes, those things certainly can attract women, but women are not limited to feeling attracted to men for just those things alone.
You can attract women in other ways.
Yet, the same rule doesn’t apply for our attraction for women.
We men are mostly attracted to a woman’s physical appearance. We don’t care if an unattractive woman is confident, tall, muscular or has a lot of money – she is still unattractive to the majority of us men.
Her looks are her main weapon of attraction, but for us men, who we are on the inside (and how that comes out via our body language, attitude, behavior, conversation, actions, etc) is our main weapon.
Although a woman can feel attracted to a man’s physical appearance, the most intense types of attraction she can feel are based on what a guy says and does when interacting with her.
So, if you’re saying, “She doesn’t have feelings for me because I’m not good looking enough,” you can forget about using that as your excuse from now on.
Yes, there are some women who only have sex with and date good looking (or rich) guys, but they really are a minority.
Most women will have sex with, get into a relationship with and even marry a man who is perceived as being unattractive or ugly by other people. Why?
To her, he is attractive because a woman can have feelings for a guy based on a lot more complex things than his looks, money or status.
If a guy can make her feel attracted to his personality and who he is as a man, most women won’t care about his looks, his race or any of the other excuses that guys use to stop themselves from getting the women they really want.
So, when a woman says she doesn’t have feelings for you, it generally has nothing to do with your looks and more to do with how you are turning her off with your behavior, attitude, body language, conversation style and actions.
3 Mistakes That Prevent a Woman From Feeling Enough Attraction
While reading through the list below, don’t worry if you’ve made one or more of these mistakes.
Women are very forgiving. If a guy changes his ways and becomes more attractive and appealing to her, a woman will almost always be willing to forgive and forget the mistakes he made in the past.
So, if you’ve screwed up in any of the following ways, don’t worry – you can recover from it and get her to have feelings for you.
The first mistake is…
1. Assuming that by being her friend, he will eventually “grow” on her enough that she will want to be with him in a sexual way.
This is probably the most common mistake that guys make with a woman they like.
A guy will assume that, because he’s not a model or rich guy, the best way to get a woman to like him is to be a great friend to her first.
Yes, it’s true that a woman will sometimes “like” a guy like that, but liking a guy as a friend is not the same as wanting to have sex with him.
In fact, if a guy spends a lot of time building a friendship with a woman and then suddenly tells her he’s interested in her in a sexual way, she will usually be quite upset about it and may react by saying, “You know I like you as a friend, but I don’t have feelings for you in that way.”
She might then give him a classic line like, “I don’t want to ruin our friendship” or “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” or “I see you as more of a brother than anything else” or “We’re better off as friends and I don’t want to ruin that.”
Essentially, this is a woman’s way of trying to hint at the fact that she isn’t sexually attracted to the guy.
Why doesn’t she just come out and say that?
She doesn’t want to teach him what he needs to do to be sexually attractive to her. She wants a ready made man who already gets it.
If she has to teach a guy how to initially attract her, what else is he going to be clueless about in a relationship and in life? Will he be the sort of guy that needs her to teach him how to not be insecure and jealous in a relationship?
Will the relationship have a teacher > student dynamic or big sister > little brother feel to it?
That’s not what she wants.
A woman wants to feel girly and feminine around her guy, rather than feel as though she has to take on the role of being the stronger, wiser and more mature one.
So, if you’ve been acting like a friend to this woman when you really want to be her lover or boyfriend, then she already knows that you have sexual feelings for her.
She’s not stupid.
She can tell when a guy likes her in that way.
Yet, because you’ve been hiding behind an act of just being a friend, she has secretly been losing respect for you and doesn’t have any sexual feelings for you.
She might act like she really likes you and there is a chance for you and her in future, or she might flirt with you to make you chase her more, but until she can see that you now understand what to say and do to turn her on, she is going to remain closed off to you.
She wants you to figure this out on your own, rather than hoping that she takes pity on you and gives you a chance for being so nice to her all this time.
Of course, the same rule doesn’t apply to unattractive women.
I need to point that out to be clear here.
If a woman is unattractive, then she will love it when a guy acts like a friend and sucks up to her in the hope of getting a chance. She knows that she is unattractive, so she is actively looking for a guy who doesn’t believe in himself.
She needs an insecure guy who isn’t going to leave her easily, or who can’t easily attract other women. She knows that she can’t keep a guy in a relationship for long if he is confident and can easily attract other women.
Yet, if the woman that you like is unattractive, you wouldn’t be reading this article and would already be with her.
So, that means that this woman you like is either attractive, pretty or fairly pretty. In other words, she is going to be in a position in the dating market to be more picky than an unattractive woman.
If that’s the case for you, then you need to stop acting like a friend and start triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you. The more attraction you make her feel, the stronger her feelings will be for her.
In fact, as soon as you begin triggering her feelings of sexual attraction properly, you will notice a sudden, distinct change in her behavior and attitude towards you.
She will smile and look at you in a different way. She will have feelings for you.
2. Assuming that being a “gentleman” is what she wants.
Many guys grow up without proper male role models to teach them how to behave like men who can naturally and easily attract women.
Without that guidance, most of a guy’s information about how to behave around women comes either from the characters in movies, on TV, from their mothers or from random women they meet along the way.
Yet, getting advice on how to attract women from those sources is one of the worst things you will ever do.
For example: How many times have you heard a woman say, “I just want a guy who is nice and who treats me like a princess” and then seen her lust after and date jerks and assholes?
How many times has a mother told her son, “To get a nice girl you need to be a gentleman,” but other guys are able to get laid and get a girlfriend by just being a normal guy?
The reason why that happens is that attraction is not what most people think it is. Attraction is different to the superficial cultural ideas that float around or come out of people’s mouth when they give their random opinion.
A woman’s attraction for a man is instinctive and happens automatically when she notices that he has certain personality traits and behaviors (e.g. confidence, masculinity, the ability to make her laugh, charming, charismatic, etc).
A guy can attract women with his personality in literally more than 100 ways, while just being a normal good guy, rather than putting on an act of being an extra nice, super polite, very generous and considerate gentleman.
Although there is nothing wrong with being nice or being a gentleman around women, many guys make the mistake of thinking it will be enough to make a woman have sexual, romantic feelings for them.
Nice, gentlemanly behavior is only exciting to a woman if she has sexual feelings for a guy.
If a woman only sees a guy as a friend (i.e. she doesn’t have sexual feelings for him), then she will appreciate and like him for how nice he is to her, but she won’t be thinking, “WOW! He’s being nice to me! I have to sleep with him and get into a relationship with him ASAP!”
If you want to be successful with women, you must start with sexual attraction first. When you do that, everything else flows on smoothly and effortlessly after that.
3. Telling her about his “feelings” before he has even had sex with her.
Most women don’t like it when a guy says that he has feelings for her, before she has sexual feelings for him.
It’s just so EASY for her to get guys to feel that way about her.
If a woman is physically attractive, most guys that she meets would be willing to have sex with her simply based on her looks.
Many of those guys would also be willing to begin a relationship with her, even if they don’t particularly like her personality.
A man’s attraction for a woman is primarily based on how she looks. Although we humans now date and have casual sex, the real purpose of our attraction is to find someone to breed with.
If a woman is of breeding age, looks healthy and has an intact body, then she is good enough to breed with.
Yet, the same doesn’t apply for a woman’s attraction to a man.
For most of human history, it has been a struggle for humans to survive, thrive and prosper.
Even in today’s world with our smartphones and supermarkets, a woman still has the natural instinct to breed with a guy who seems like he would be a good survivor.
After all, humans are often just a hurricane or tornado away from being shoved back into basic survival conditions.
Rather than having to think, act, feel and behave like men, women rely on us men to be confident and brave enough to survive and protect her and any children they have.
Even though most people don’t start having babies until later on in life these days (because of the dating and hook up culture), a woman’s attraction for a man is still based on his ability to survive, thrive and prosper as well as protect her.
So, if a guy looks good, is of breeding age and has an intact body, a woman’s attraction doesn’t get triggered automatically like ours does for women.
Instead, she has to first assess what type of guy he is first and when she notices attractive personality traits and behaviors, her attraction then begins to switch on.
For example: Is the guy confident or nervous? Is he emotionally masculine or an emotional wimp? Is he socially intelligent or is he clueless about how to get along with all types of people?
This is what really matters to most women.
So, when a guy comes along and says, “I really like you. I think you’re different to all the other women I’ve known. I want to treat you with the respect you deserve,” he assumes that he’s making his intentions clear with her.
He thinks that by showing her that he doesn’t just want to have sex with her, she will think, “Wow! This guy is special. He isn’t like all those other guys who only want me for sex. He’s a gentleman who is honestly expressing his feelings for me! WOW! I definitely want him!”
However, that’s not how it happens.
Revealing your feelings to a woman before sex almost always takes away the excitement and the suspense and anticipation that she hopes to experience with a guy.
When You Make Her Feel Attracted, She Will Have “Feelings” For You Too
You might have been thinking something like, “She doesn’t have feelings for me. Have I screwed up my chances with her?” before you arrived at my site.
However, I hope that you now understand that you can change how she feels about you.
The secret is not to be even nicer, friendly and more considerate than you’ve already been around her.
All that stuff is nice, but it doesn’t mean anything unless you are triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you.