If your girlfriend flirts with other guys, it could be due to one of the following 5 reasons:
1. She is untrustworthy and won’t feel bad if she cheats on you.
Most women are trustworthy and can be relied on to be faithful, but there are some women out there who will lie, cheat and betray their man and not even feel bad about it.
The same applies to men.
Some men will happily cheat on their girlfriend (or wife), lie to her and betray her and not really worry about it.
If your girlfriend fits into that category, then you should dump her right away to teach her a lesson.
Then, make her promise to stop doing that in future, otherwise you will dump her again.
Important: When you tell her to stop flirting with other guys, you have to do it in a confident, self-assured way, not a needy, insecure way.
Telling her to stop in a confident, self-assured way: You have to know that you are more than good enough for her and that she is the one making the mistake of flirting with other guys.
You could easily attract another woman if you wanted to, but you are going to give her a chance.
Telling her to stop in a needy, insecure way: You are insecure about your attractiveness and value to her and need her to stop flirting with other guys, because it is causing you a lot of emotional pain and stress.
Watch this video to see how some guys mess up when their woman begins to lose attraction for them and what you should do instead…
Just make sure that you don’t overreact to her flirting with other guys, to the point where you come across as emotionally sensitive or weak.
Remain calm, be confident and let her know that you don’t appreciate her flirting with other guys in front of you.
If she respects you, feels attracted to you, loves you and wants to be with you, she will want to stop so she doesn’t lose you.
Another reason why your girlfriend may flirt with other guys is that…
2. She is trying to get you to pay more attention to her.
When a first begins, a guy will usually give a woman a lot of attention and affection because he’s feeling lust and it’s exciting to be falling in love with her.
As good as the beginning feels, some guys make the mistake of taking their girlfriend’s love, attraction and respect for granted as the relationship continues.
Rather than making her feel sexy, appreciated and loved, he might expect that she will stick around and be faithful to him because things felt so good at the start.
So, if your girlfriend flirts with other guys, it might be that she’s trying to get you to pay more attention to her like you did in the beginning, by showing you how interested other guys are in her.
3. She is trying to gain power over you.
If your girlfriend knows that you could easily attract other women, she might be flirting with other guys to make you worried about potentially losing her.
She hopes that if she flirts with enough guys, you will become insecure and she can then gain power over you by threatening to break up with you if you don’t do whatever she wants (e.g. ask her to marry you, move in with her, start a family with her, clean up the house, do the dishes, run her errands, etc).
4. She doesn’t respect you.
Some guys make the mistake of allowing a woman to disrespect them and treat them badly, just so he can spend time with her and be in a relationship with her.
Other guys start off a relationship well, but then screw things up by allowing the woman to gain too much power over them or by being emotionally insecure too often in the relationship.
The correct relationship that you need to have with a woman is where she respects you and looks up to you as her confident, emotionally strong man. She will then be able to remain open to feeling attracted to who you are and feel excited, proud and happy to be in love with you.
If you’re unable to maintain a woman’s respect in a relationship (i.e. you let her treat you badly because you’re afraid that she will leave, you let her flirt with other guys in front of you, you become insecure when she talks about other guys, etc), she will then begin to lose touch with her feelings of attraction for you.
If a woman doesn’t respect a guy, she will automatically begin to lose touch with her feelings of attraction for him. If she loses enough respect and attraction, she will then begin to fall out of love with him.
When that happens, a guy might find himself asking, “My girlfriend flirts with other guys. How can I stop her from doing it?”
To get things back on track, you need to get to respect you again by being emotionally strong and standing up for yourself in a confident, self-assured way rather than a needy way.
Once you get her respect back, you need to maintain that and build on it by continuing to be a confident, emotionally strong guy who doesn’t put up with being disrespected. You have to know that you could easily attract another woman, but are giving her a chance to be a better girlfriend for now.
When your girlfriend respects you, feels attracted to you and is proud and excited to be in love with you, she won’t feel the need to flirt with other guys because she will already have an awesome boyfriend.
5. She’s not that serious about your relationship.
These days, most people don’t settle down and get into a lifetime relationship or marriage until their late 20s or early 30s.
So, if your girlfriend is flirting with other guys, she might secretly look at your relationship with her as just another casual, dating relationship that she is going to have at this point in her life.
She might not be ready to settle down and fully commit herself to just one man, so she doesn’t really care about showing how loyal and faithful she is.
In her mind, she’s not worried if you and her break up tomorrow, next week, next year or five years from now because it’s not that serious to her.
What Flirting Usually Means
When a woman flirts with a man that she is sexually attracted to, it usually means that she is signaling to him, “I like you, I’m attracted to you and I wish something could happen between us.”
However, sometimes a woman will flirt with guys because it’s her way of making guys feel good in her presence. She knows that if she flirts with guys, they will treat her better, give her more compliments and make her feel better about herself.
She might not have any intention of ever sleeping with those guys, but might simply be flirting with them because it’s her way of maintaining a high level of self-esteem.
For example: She will flirt with other guys to get them interested in her and giving her compliments, which is going to be much better for her self-esteem than simply talking to them in a neutral, friendly way.
So, if your girlfriend is flirting with other men, should you stop her?
Yes and no.
You really can’t stop your girlfriend from doing what she wants because you don’t own her.
However, you can get her want to be loyal and only have eyes for you from now on.
By making her feel fully respectful and attracted to you once again and then, continuing to build on that so she falls more deeply in love with you.
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little respect, attraction and love your girlfriend feels for you.
If your not currently doing much to make her feel respect and attraction for you, then you can expect her to remain madly in love with you.
You’ve got to make sure that you build on the respect and attraction that your girlfriend feels for you over time, otherwise she might fall out of love with you and begin flirting with other guys for real.
Being Emotionally Strong Around Her
The most important traits that women look for in a man are based on his emotional strength (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem, assertiveness, determination to succeed, strong when under pressure, emotional toughness, etc).
While a little bit of humility can be endearing to some women, being insecure (i.e. emotionally weak) and feeling like you’re not good enough for her compared to other guys will rapidly destroy her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
In fact, if she notices that you are insecure about other guys being more attractive and appealing than you are, she might eventually get to the point where she thinks, “Yeah…maybe he is right. Maybe he isn’t good enough for me. If so, why am I with him at all? I can do better than him…maybe I should start flirting with other guys and see who likes me and then break up with him when I am ready.”
Don’t put that idea in her head!
Remain confident in your attractiveness and appeal to her and as a result, you will naturally think, behave and take action in ways that are going to be more attractive to her because you will be coming from an emotionally strong place.
However, if you doubt your attractiveness and appeal to her, it’s only natural that you’re going to start talking, thinking, behaving and taking action in an insecure way, which is going to turn her off.
Instead of being at ease and not seeing other guys as competition for your girlfriend, you might begin to appear nervous, uptight and worried when other guys say something funny, do something “cool” or even just have an interesting conversation with your girlfriend.
When she notices that you’re feeling threatened by other guys, it actually makes the other guys appear more attractive than you because women are mostly attracted to a guys confidence and belief in himself, which you will be clearly lacking in her eyes.
As a man, you have to maintain control of your attractiveness to women by remaining confident and self-assured at all times. No matter what a woman says or does, you have to maintain your belief in your attractiveness and appeal.
When a woman sees that you have that type of emotional strength, she will naturally respect you and feel attracted to you. She will look at you as being a real man, compared to other guys who simply aren’t as emotionally tough and resilient as you are.
Have You Been Putting Up With Her Bad Behavior?
Some guys make the mistake of assuming that it’s good for women to be “in charge” and for men to just go along with whatever she says, by adopting an “anything for a quiet life” attitude.
While some unattractive women do want a pushover guy that they can control, the majority of women are disgusted by men who don’t have the balls to put her in her place.
What’s her place?
She needs to respect you. If she doesn’t respect you, she will lose you. It’s as simple as that.
You are the man, not her. She needs to know her place as your woman and the only way she is going to know that (and stick with it), is if you are capable of being a man that she can consistently look up to and respect.
If you put up with her bad behavior because you’re worried about losing her and then having to find another girlfriend, then you’re doing it wrong.
If a woman doesn’t respect you, she’s going to lose touch with her feelings of attraction for you and if that goes on for long enough, she will fall out of love with you.
After a while, she will feel as though there’s no point staying faithful to you, because she’s secretly planning on dumping you at some point anyway. So, she will then open herself to flirting with other guys to find a replacement guy, before breaking the news to you.
So, before things spiral out of control between you and your girlfriend, make sure that you put her back in her place.
How can you do that?
First and foremost, you need to be respectful towards her, show her that you love her and be a good boyfriend overall. When that is the case, you are then in a position to ask for better treatment.
So, you then tell her that you don’t appreciate her flirting with other guys and if she doesn’t stop doing it, you’re going break up with her.
Don’t say it in a whiny, bitchy type of way where you’re being insecure and emotionally sensitive. Say it like a strong, self-assured man and simply let her know the deal.
When she sees that you’re not being insecure and that you do respect her and love her, she will most-likely feel guilty and sorry for treating you in that way.
From then on, you need to relax and just trust that she will stop flirting with other guys. She might flirt in a friendly way with some guys just to be nice, which is fine and nothing to worry about.
However, if she flirts in an obvious way where she is sexually interested in the other guy, you need to dump her right then and there.
Again, not in a bitchy, moaning, insecure way where you are being emotionally sensitive. Just dump her and tell her that she’s not the girl for you.
She will either then accept that because she doesn’t care about you anyway, or she will cry and beg for another chance, at which point you can decide to give her that chance or not.