The most special way to tell someone you love them is to create so much attraction in her that she feels she will burst if she doesn’t hear those words from you.
Then, no matter where you are, or what you are doing at the time, when you say “I love you” to her, she will be so excited and so thrilled to hear it, it will feel wonderful and special to her.
That’s how it should work, but many guys make the mistake outlined in this video, so they end up getting rejected when they tell a woman about their feelings…
You must ensure that she feels sexually attracted to you, before you express any feelings for her.
If she just sees you as a friend, it won’t matter that you’re saying, “I love you,” because the feelings won’t be mutual.
She might love you as a friend, but not in a sexual way, so she will reject your attempts to transition from a friendship to a romantic relationship.
When Should You Say, “I Love You” to a Woman?
I recommend that you say it after you’ve been having sex.
For example: You and her have just had sex and while she is lying in your arms, you say “I love you” to her.
That will be special to her because you will have already made her love in the way you created and then released the sexual tension her via kissing, touching and sex.
Be warned though: Many modern women hate it when a guy says, “I love you” first. They prefer a guy to wait, so she can be the one who says it first.
You have to trust your gut instinct on that.
Now, assuming that your woman wants you to say it first, here’s another example…
You and her may be watching a movie together at home – something she has been looking forward to seeing for a long time.
By making the effort to do what she wants at times, she already sees it as a sign that you care about her, because you are making an effort to enjoy something she likes with her; even if it’s not something that really appeals to you.
Then, when you put your arms around her and tell her you love her, she will feel that it’s special, because not only are you saying the words, you are also showing her with your actions.
Essentially, there are many different special ways to tell someone you love them, however, the most important thing to remember is:
- When you make her feel attracted and build up the sexual between you and her, then when you tell her you love her, it will feel special to her.
- No matter how special the way you tell someone you love them, if the timing is wrong, she won’t be excited to hear it.
The Consequences of Telling a Woman That You Love Her Before You’ve Triggered Her Feelings of Attraction
Telling a woman you love her, especially at the beginning of a relationship, can instantly bring you and her closer together and can take the relationship to the next level, (i.e. you may decide to date each other exclusively, it may lead to you moving in together, or it may even lead to you both deciding to get married).
However, even though saying “I love you” is a great way to cement a new relationship and make it even stronger, there are a few times when telling someone you love them can actually ruin the relationship before it has actually had a chance to grow.
So, before you say it, make sure you don’t fall into one of the following categories:
1. Saying “I love you” too soon.
A classic mistake guys often make, is telling a woman they love her before they have actually triggered her feelings of sexual attraction for them.
Some guys will say “I love you” to a beautiful woman within a relatively short time of meeting her, because of how much lust and desire they are feeling for her.
However, it’s not something that you should rush into and say to a woman to express your feelings of lust for her.
Even if you are certain that it’s not lust that is driving you, but genuine love, you first have to be sure that you’ve triggered her feelings of sexual attraction for you, so she will be happy when you tell her and it will feel special to her.
If a woman isn’t sexually attracted to you, then she isn’t going to be excited to hear that you love her, no matter how special you make the event (e.g. by taking her to a fancy restaurant first, giving her a gift, etc.) because most beautiful women (not all) feel turned off by how easily guys fall in love with them.
Attraction is always the first step you need to go through with a woman before you tell her that you love her. Basically, the more attraction she feels for you, the more desire she will have to be in a relationship with you.
Then it will be a natural step for her to fall in love with you, and no matter where or how you say it, it will be special to her because she will be excited to hear it.
2. Pretending to be her friend and then saying “I love you.”
Another mistake guys make, is to pretend to be a woman’s good “friend” when what they really want is to have sex with her and be in a relationship with her.
A guy like this assumes that if he hangs around her for long enough, is nice to her, listens to all her problems, does nice things for her and is generally available to her every beck and call, she will suddenly realize that she loves him too, and they will then become a couple.
Another example of this is when a guy mistakes a woman’s “niceness” towards him as a sign that she loves him back.
This is common when guys feel shy, insecure and nervous around women and have probably had bad experiences with women in the past.
For example, a guy like this might be ignored by beautiful women, or he might have been laughed at or mocked by beautiful women in the past.
So, when an attractive woman responds by being kind or friendly towards him, he mistakenly assumes she must love him too.
Again, it’s no use finding special ways to tell someone you love them if you’re not sure they feel the same way about you and will be happy to hear it.
A woman might “like” you as a person, but the love that she feels for a guy she wants to be in a sexual, romantic relationship with is completely different.
So, if you’re not sure if she perceives you as just being a nice friend to her, then you need to first change her perception of you from that of a “good friend” to someone she wants to have sex with and be in a relationship with, before you attempt to tell her you love her.
The Best Way to Tell Someone You Love Them Is to Show Them With Your Actions
Quite often, guys hear women (or even their own woman) talking about the romantic actions of other guys.
For example: A guy might hear his woman saying, “My friend Julia’s boyfriend organized a romantic dinner for the two of them on the beach last night. He even organized a butler who served them at a table in the ocean while another guy was playing the violin. It was so romantic and then he told her that he loves her. It was just so special! I wish something like that would happen to me!”
When a guy hears this, he assumes that he has to match, or even better, what the other guy did if his woman is going to be impressed.
However, even though women will talk about such events that happen in other peoples lives (or even in the movies), it doesn’t mean she will not be equally happy when her guy shows her that he loves her with small, everyday actions.
For instance, one of the most common reasons couples break up today, is because the woman feels that her man is taking her for granted. Yet, when she feels appreciated, valued and attracted, she also feels loved.
You can tell your woman you love her by making her feel loved and appreciated in your everyday actions.
- If you say that you’re going to do something, then be a man of your word and follow through on it.
- Don’t assume that it’s okay with her if you put your work, friends, hobbies, etc., before her. If you have to change plans with her, first make sure that you let her know how important she is to you, and then make sure that you make it up to her the next day (or as soon as possible) by doing something nice together. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate. Watching the sunset on the beach, or in the park, or even from your porch while holding hands, is enough to let her know you love her.
- Sometimes, the best time to tell her that you love her is at a time that seems “inappropriate.”
For example: If your woman comes home from the gym, or has been working in the garden all day, or has been helping a friend move, etc. and is looking sweaty and disheveled, wrap your arms around her and say, “You look so beautiful today. I love you.”
Or if she’s got a cold and her nose is all red, make her a hot drink, tuck her in bed and tell her, “You’ve got the cutest red nose I’ve ever seen. I love you.”
When you tell her you love her at these times, it will be special to her because you’re letting her know that you love her no matter what – even if she’s not looking her best.
Why does this matter?
Women know that men are attracted to them mostly because of their physical appearance.
This means an attractive woman can attract most guys, because she’s beautiful, and chances are, he’ll say “I love you” to her because he’s feeling “lust.”
However, at the back of her mind she may be wondering, “What if I don’t put on make up; will he still love me?” or, “What if I don’t always look my best; will his love for me fade?”
When a guy appreciates a woman, even when she’s not always looking beautiful, she has the pleasure of knowing that his love for her is real, and that makes her respect, attraction and love for him grow even more.
When the Time is Right, Saying “I Love You” Will be Special No Matter What You Do
All relationships grow and develop in stages.
When you approach the sexual courtship with a woman in the correct way, the relationship will unfold naturally and effortlessly from one stage to the next, until both you and her reach the point where you are truly in love and committed to each other.
When you deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you, saying “I love you” will happen naturally and without any effort on your part.
In fact, the most special way to tell someone you love them is by actively triggering her feelings of sexual attraction for you, to the point where her feelings build up so much, that she feels she will burst if she doesn’t tell you she loves you first.