When a woman is sexually attracted to you, most things you say to her will sound sweet and she will even perceive you as being charming.
Alternatively, if a woman isn’t sexually attracted to you first, saying sweet things to her isn’t going to suddenly trigger her feelings of lust and desire for you.
Essentially, there is nothing wrong with saying sweet things to a woman, but if you’re not actively creating sexual attraction between you and her, she’ll enjoy the flattery, but will end up only seeing you as a nice, sweet guy who is only “friend material” but nothing more.
So, if that’s not what you want to happen, you need to be aware that even though a woman will appreciate it when you’re sweet to her, there is more to making a woman feel attraction for you than just the sweet things you say to her.
Women Can Feel Attracted to Men For Many Different Reasons
What often happens is, guys make the mistake of assuming that women are attracted to them for the same reasons they are attracted to women. In other words, because most men are “visual” creatures and feel attracted to women because of how they look, they believe that women are attracted to men for the same reasons.
So, inevitably, because most guys in the world aren’t male model look-alikes, they potentially write themselves off as not being “good enough” to get the type of women they really want.
When this happens, some guys might give up on women and dating and spend most of their life being single. Alternatively, a guy might end up dating (and even marrying) an unattractive woman that no other guys want, because he doesn’t believe he can do better.
Then there are also some guys who look for ways to be liked by the type of women they really want.
For example, a guy like this might come up with some sweet things to say to a woman to flatter her in the hopes that she’ll like him because he’s being so attentive towards her.
Or, he might be super nice to her, or pretend to only be interested in her as a friend, etc., in the hopes that she’ll eventually fall in love with him.
Sadly, what these guys don’t realize is that women don’t get attracted and turned on when any guy says a nice or sweet thing to them. You have to make a woman feel attracted and turned on by you first and she will then really love and appreciate anything sweet that you say to her.
What you need to understand about a woman’s attraction for a man is that it usually needs to be proactively triggered. While a woman can feel attracted to a guy’s looks, the majority of women don’t feel enough attraction based on a guy’s looks to want to have sex and begin a relationship.
Women want more than just looks in a guy. Yes, some women only want a good looking guy, but the majority of women are more interested in how a guy’s personality and behavior (e.g. his confidence, charisma, charm, etc) attracts them and turns them on.
So, unlike a woman who only has to wear a sexy, short or tight dress, put on some makeup and fix her hair to attract a man, a man can make a woman feel attracted to him in many different ways other than looks.
For example, even if a guy is average looking, or even ugly, most women (not all) will overlook that if he can turn her on with his confidence, make her laugh, make her feel feminine and sexy in his presence, etc.
Most women have an Open Type when it comes to men, which basically means they are open to being approached by all sorts of guys as long as the guy can make her feel attraction for him when he’s interacting with her.
This is the main reason why you have probably seen many average looking, ugly, short, fat, bald or skinny guys dating, and even married to beautiful women. It’s not because these guys are rich or famous or because they have something that you don’t, but because they have been able to make their woman feel how she wants to feel when she’s with him.
Naturally not all women will accept a guy who isn’t tall, good looking, muscular or rich, but the majority of women will.
When a guy can make a woman feel sexually attracted to his personality, something strange actually begins to happen…
He starts to look “hot” to her. Physical “flaws” like a big nose, a bald head, a crooked tooth, etc., will begin to look attractive to her, and it becomes that “cute” thing that only “her guy” has that she really finds sexy.
On the other hand, no matter how attractive a guy is, most women will not feel attracted to him if he lacks confidence in himself and is insecure and nervous around her; which is also why you’ll see so many good looking guys who are single.
Are You Looking For Sweet Things to Say to a Woman Because You Are Hoping it Will Make Her Like You Enough to Give You a Chance With Her?
The truth is, you can say sweet things to a woman and even though she might like you as a person, it’s not the same as her feeling attracted and turned on by you sexually.
Sexual attraction is what really counts when it comes to picking up women and getting them into a relationship with you. If you focus too much on trying to be liked for being a sweet guy, you will find yourself in the friend zone 99% of the time.
On the other hand, when you use your personality, your body language, you attitude, your communication style, etc., to attract her, then she’ll love to hear the sweet things you say to her because they will make her feel special and girly.
Here’s an example scenario of how two guys can say the same thing to a woman, and get completely different results, simply because of how they each make her feel during conversation.
Example Guy #1 – George.
George is a really nice, attractive guy, who is insecure and self-doubting around attractive women. However, George believes that if he can say sweet things to a woman, she will like him and she will overlook his nervousness and insecurity.
So, the next time George sees an attractive woman he likes, he approaches her and engages her in conversation. He then says, “Do you know your smile makes me think of the beach?” She smiles back at him and asks, “Really, why?”
However, because George is only using a line he learned by rote, he becomes flustered when she “challenges” him, starts to stumble over his words and ends up feeling and looking foolish.
Although George knew the right things to say to a woman, he didn’t really know how to use them to open up the flow of conversation between him and her, and then use that conversation to make her feel sexually attracted to him.
Example Guy #2 – James.
On the other hand, there is a guy called James.
James is a little on the short side with a big nose and a few extra pounds around the waist. However, James is a confident guy who believes in himself.
When he approaches a beautiful woman and says, “Your smile makes me think of the beach,” he uses her challenging, “Really, why?” as an opportunity to create even more attraction between him and her.
He might smile back and say, “Because it makes me feel warm and happy; like I’m on vacation,” and use that as an opportunity to make her feel even happier to be talking to him by saying, “Speaking of vacations; if you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would you go and why?”
However, the truth is, it doesn’t really matter what James says to her, only that he says it with confidence and self-assurance and that her keeps her excited to be talking to him.
So, even though he doesn’t look like a male model, she finds him fun and sexy because she’s feeling attracted to him because of his confidence, his humor, or even the fact that he doesn’t fall to pieces when she challenges him.
Being Sweet to a Woman Isn’t Good Enough
There’s nothing wrong with being sweet to a woman and being a good guy. However, that’s not what is going to make her feel sexually turned on, and if a woman doesn’t feel turned on by you, she’s not going to be interested in pursuing a sexual and romantic relationship with you.
What often happens is guys approach a beautiful woman and hope that by being overly nice or sweet towards her, she’s going to say, “Wow! This guy is so sweet! I want to have sex with him and start a relationship with him.”
That’s not how it works.
What a lot of nice, sweet guys don’t understand, is that the majority of guys in this world are nice and sweet. In fact, if a woman is attractive, most of the guys she meets every day are going to be nice and sweet to her.
So, when a guy approaches a woman and says sweet things to her, it doesn’t mark him out as being any different from most of the guys she’s already met.
What makes a guy stand out from all the other nice, sweet guys in the world is his ability to trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of her.
Essentially, when you are interacting with a woman, you are either displaying the personality traits and behaviors (e.g. confidence, charm, humor, etc.) that naturally attract women and turn them on, or you’re not.
If you’re just being nice to women, or only saying sweet things when you interact with them, you cannot expect them to feel turned on by you and want to have sex with you, or start a sexual relationship with you.
Being More Than Just a Sweet Guy
These days, a guy needs to be able to say and do things that will actively turn women on, rather than just hoping that women will give him a chance simply because he’s nice and sweet and has good intentions.
Today’s modern woman will select a man for sex and relationships based first, on his ability to make her feel sexual attraction for him, and only then will she decide if she wants to be in a relationship with him.
So, if you’ve been wasting time thinking that by saying sweet things to women you’ll “get lucky,” hopefully by now you realize that when you make a woman feel sexual attraction to your personality, your confidence and charisma, etc., everything you say and do will seem sweet and charming to her.
The, rather than hoping to get lucky with a woman who will give you a chance (and probably lose interest later if you are unable to deepen her attraction when in a relationship), you’ll have your pick of beautiful women and you will be able to keep a woman happy, committed and in love when in a relationship with you.