The secret to getting your ex back is to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
In most cases, a woman is not going to give a guy another chance just because he’s explaining the reasons why she should give him another chance and saying, “Hey, I’ve changed. Please forgive me. Give me another chance. Remember the love that we had before. How can you turn your back on me and how can you turn your back on us? We had such a great relationship before.”
None of that really matters to a woman at the point where she’s had enough.
When a woman hasn’t had enough yet and she’s just losing respect and attraction for her guy, she will usually give him a number of chances, but when she gets to the point where she’s had enough, all the usual reasoning and excuses (e.g. “Please give me a chance, I will change” or “We can work this out”) just doesn’t work on her anymore.
What a guy needs to do is he needs to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
For example: Some of the reasons why a woman will lose respect for guy is due to him becoming insecure, emotionally sensitive, letting her push him around or pushing her around, etc.
So say for example a man has become emotionally sensitive and insecure. To get some respect back, to make her feel something for him, to make her feel some level of respect for him again, he needs to interact with her on the phone or in person and let her experience the new and improved, emotionally stronger version of himself.
You can also get a little bit of your ex’s respect back via text, but the biggest impacts happen on the phone and in person. He needs to interact with her and let her experience the emotionally stronger version of himself now.
When he’s talking to her, his emotional strength is going to come through in how he talks, how he responds to her, the tone of his voice, his attitude, how he feels about things, how he reacts to the conversation and where he lets the conversation go.
Once you get some level of respect back when you interact with your ex, she’ll then start to drop her guard and she will allow herself to feel some attraction for you.
So say for example you’re talking to her on the phone or in person and you’ve gotten some respect back and then you start making her laugh and smile on the phone.
Now that she is feeling some respect for you, she will naturally drop her guard a little and allow herself to feel good about what is happening (i.e. She’s smiling and laughing when she’s interacting with you).
However if a woman is talking to her ex-boyfriend, fiancé or husband and he’s trying to make her laugh and smile but she doesn’t respect him, it’s just not going to work on her.
She’s going to be thinking, “Yeah, yeah. Nice try but it’s not going to work on me because, look, frankly I don’t respect you.”
That sort of attitude where it’s just like, “Don’t even bother trying to get me smiling and laughing because it’s not going to work on me. Sorry, I don’t respect you.”
You’ve got to get a woman’s respect back first, otherwise she just won’t allow herself to feel much or anything for you when you try to rebuild her feelings.
Have You Been Ignoring Her and Hoping She Will Come Running Back to You?
When I help guys via my phone coaching service to get their women back, I’m often being told by guys that they’ve ignored their ex for two weeks to two months or even more sometimes and they ask me, “Why isn’t she running back? Why isn’t it working?”
Here’s the thing…
If a woman breaks up with a guy and she still loves him, she still wants to be him, she doesn’t want to move on and then he stops contacting her, she will most likely contact him and want to get back with him.
Yet, if a woman is at a point where she’s had enough and she breaks up with the guy and then he doesn’t contact her, she might contact him to check on him to see why he isn’t contacting her.
When she contacts him and says, “Okay, he’s still the same guy. Nothing has changed,” she then thinks, “Okay, I’ll just keep moving on.”
So that’s one of the reasons why ignoring a woman doesn’t really work.
What you need to do is be active.
You need to actively make her feel something for you and the best way to do that is on the phone and in person.
You can also get her to feel something for you via text and via social media, but the most important moments of getting a woman back happen when you talk to her on the phone and when you interact with her in person.
Are You Confident in Your Ability to Re-Attract Your Ex?
Another very important part of getting a woman back is to be confident in your ability to make her feel attracted to you.
When a guy is trying to get a woman back and he’s doubting himself thinking, “Oh, I don’t really know if she likes me and she said she doesn’t have feelings for me. I don’t know if she’s going to respond well,” and he hesitantly talks to her, he doubts himself when he talks to her, he comes across as soft and insecure and things; the woman isn’t going to feel attracted to him.
She’s not going to respect that weakness and insecurity.
Women feel naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men.
For example: Confidence, assertiveness, self-esteem and determination and they feel turned off by emotional weakness. For example: Insecurity, nervousness, hesitation, self-doubt.
So when you’re getting a woman back, you must be confident in your ability to make her feel attracted to you.
The more confident you are in your ability to make her feel attracted to you, the easier it will be to get her back because you will begin saying and doing the right things. You’ll be behaving, feeling, thinking and talking in a confident way, and women are naturally attracted to confidence.
I hope this video has helped you. If you need more help to get your ex back and you want a step by step solution, I have an amazing program called Get Your Ex Back: Super System
It’s a 7-step system, and by the seventh step, you’ll be back in a relationship with your ex. It will be better than before because she will respect you more, she will feel more attracted to you and the love will feel more exciting than it did before.
If you’re serious about getting your woman back, don’t waste anymore time ignoring her and don’t try to convince her to give you another chance with reasoning and logic, and trying to explain to her that you’re a great guy and that you’ve changed.
What makes a difference is when you can make her feel something. When you make her feel respect and attraction for you, her guard then comes down and she opens back up to you.