Here are 4 possible reactions from a narcissist ex girlfriend, when a guy uses limited contact as his approach to get her back:
1. She doesn’t care if it’s limited or no contact because she has no interest in her ex
Sometimes a guy will use limited contact as a way of hopefully making his narcissist ex girlfriend come running back to him, but it won’t work because she simply doesn’t care about him anymore.
Yet, he doesn’t really think about that.
Essentially, he hopes that if he doesn’t call, text or interact with her on social media too often, she will be so shocked at his lack of interest that she will then want to get back with him.
Although that tactic can work if a woman actually cares about her ex and secretly wants him back, it will usually backfire with almost all women (not just narcissists).
Firstly, if a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for her ex and was totally sure about her decision to break up with him, then not hearing from him all that often isn’t really going to bother her much at all.
Instead, she’s going to focus on moving on and finding another guy who will make her feel the way she wants to feel when she’s with him (e.g. attracted, adored), rather than going back to an ex who doesn’t.
Secondly, even if a woman does temporarily contact her ex because she doesn’t like that he’s ignoring her, it won’t mean that he has gotten her back.
As soon as she gets his attention again and sees that he still wants her back, she will feel satisfied and then quickly try to move on with a new guy, so she doesn’t have to worry about her ex anymore.
So, if your ex girlfriend doesn’t have feelings for you anymore, you stand a much better chance of getting her back by interacting with her (via text, on social media and especially over the phone and in person) and reawakening her feelings of respect and sexual attraction for you, than you do by ignoring her or using limited contact to ‘play it cool’ and not seem very interested.
What gets an ex woman back fast, including a narcissist, is when you focus on making her have strong sexual and romantic feelings for you again.
That is what always works the best.
This is why, if your plan is to limit your contact with her in the hopes that it will make her come running back to you, it’s probably not going to play out the way you think.
In fact, when she realizes that you’re not calling, texting, e-mailing or messaging her on social media, her narcissistic mind might even cause her to think, “Cool! I’m happy that he’s leaving me alone, rather than nagging me to give him another chance. I’m so beautiful and so attractive that I don’t need him anyway. Now, I can finally enjoy my life and start sleeping around! I can focus on finding myself another guy who knows how to make me feel the way I want to feel in a relationship, without the hassle of dealing with an ex who can’t get the message that I don’t want him anymore. He’s not good enough for me. I’m way too hot for him. I’m so over him now. Gross. I’m getting a new guy.”
Clearly, you don’t want her think about you in that way, right?
This is why, the best way to get her back, is to start making her feel like she has made a mistake by leaving you.
Make her feel as though she won’t ever feel right about herself again, unless she gives you another chance.
Another possible reaction from a narcissist ex girlfriend when a guy uses limited contact is that…
2. Limited contact isn’t enough for her, so she opens up to phone calls and in person meet ups
This is good reaction and it sometimes happens, but not always.
In some cases, not hearing from her ex after a break up can cause a narcissistic woman to start thinking things like, “Hmmm…this isn’t what I was expecting. I thought he would be begging me for another chance, but instead I hardly hear from him anymore! This doesn’t make any sense. Why is he being like this? He must want me back, right? I mean, why wouldn’t he? I’m so beautiful. Surely, he knows that he won’t be able to find another woman like me. So, why isn’t he chasing after me? What’s going on here?”
As a result, a woman like that will stop playing hard to get when her ex contacts her, or she will contact him and try to get something going between them again.
For example: She might send him a text saying something along the lines of, “Hey, I’ve missed you. Why don’t you give me a call sometime? We’re not enemies now you know? It’s okay to say hi.”
Alternatively, she might wait to hear from him and when he does contact her, she will say hi, be friendly and then suggest that they catch up and say hi.
So, limited contact can work in cases like that, but there’s no real guarantee with that approach.
The most guaranteed approach that you can use is to actively make your ex have sexual and romantic feelings for you again, based on how you interact with her.
You can do that with limited contact, but just don’t waste time ‘playing it cool’ or acting like a friend.
Make use of the contact that you have with her to get sparks flying between you and her again.
That’s what gets the job done quicker and easier with a woman.
Another possible reaction from a narcissist ex girlfriend to limited contact is…
3. She replies to her ex’s limited contact, but moves on with another guy at the same time
For a narcissist, it’s all about her.
As long as she is getting what she wants, she doesn’t care what happens to other people.
So, if a guy is using limited contact with a narcissist ex girlfriend as a way of getting her back (e.g. he sends her an occasional text or social media message, clicks like on a few of her posts), she may string him along by responding to him from time to time.
Then, while he’s happily thinking things like, “Cool! At least she’s replying to me. Maybe that’s a sign that she still has some feelings for me and that she hasn’t been moving on. Maybe if I keep this up for a while longer, she will eventually realize that she misses me and we can then work on getting our relationship back together again. I’ve just got to play it cool and stick with limited contact,” she uses the time apart to find herself a new guy.
As a result, she feels great about herself the whole time, knowing that she has two men who want her, adore her and are available to her, without giving a second thought to how that makes her ex (or her new man) feel.
Here’s the thing though…
If your ex girlfriend truly is a narcissist, then she’s only going to do what feels good to her (even if it means keeping you around for her amusement while she moves on with another guy).
That may sound cruel, but that’s the way many narcissists are.
Another possible reaction from a narcissist ex girlfriend is…
4. She misinterprets your texts as meaning that you’re still totally in love with her
If a woman is a narcissist, then she might see your limited contact as meaning that you’re still in love with her and are hoping to get her back by ‘playing it cool.’
So, rather than think, “Why isn’t he calling me all the time? Could it be possible that he’s moving on? He only texts me every now and then. Maybe he’s over me!” she will likely be thinking something like, “He’s trying to play it cool, but I can see that he’s still totally into me. He just can’t accept that we’re broken up and he’s probably just sitting around at home pining for me. That’s so sad. He’s such a loser now. I’m too good for him anyway. I should go out this weekend and meet some new guys. Why am I even thinking about him? He’s not good enough for me.”
That line of thinking allows her to feel good about herself, as she continues to move on without him.
A Better Approach to Getting a Narcissist Ex Girlfriend Back
If you want to get your narcissist ex girlfriend back for real, try this approach instead:
1. Don’t worry about what she may or may not think. Just do what will work on her
Whether a woman is a narcissist or not, the same principles of attraction and seduce apply to getting her back.
You need to get her feeling attracted to you again, so she naturally wants to be with you and begins to feel as though she will regret it if she doesn’t give you another chance.
So, from now on, stop thinking things like, “If I contact her right away, she might think I’m desperate. She might then reject me to make herself feel good” or, “She always thinks about herself, so maybe if I use limited contact, it will shock her into wanting me back because she will hate that I’m not chasing after her.”
Instead, just do what works to get a woman back.
Start by attracting her on a phone call and then meet up with her in person to attract her and seduce her.
Get to a kiss, sex and open the door back up to a relationship between you and her.
Here’s the thing…
Using limited contact can work on a woman who is still in love with her ex guy, or a woman who is struggling to find a replacement guy.
However, if a woman isn’t in love with her ex anymore, or is easily able to move on without him by hooking up with a new guy, she will usually do that, regardless of whether he is using limited contact or no contact.
So, what you need to do is interact with your ex, re-attract her, seduce her and get her back, rather than playing long, drawn out games with limited contact or no contact.
Another thing you can do to get your narcissist ex girlfriend back is…
2. Use her narcissism to your advantage
If your ex girlfriend thinks the world revolves around her and that whatever she says and does matters the most, then rather than trying to change her, just use her beliefs to make her want you again.
Let her think that she has the power prior to meeting up with you, but then take back power when you interact with her in person.
For example: Imagine that you’re on a call with your ex with the intention of getting a meet up with her.
After using some humor to ease the tension between you and her and to reawaken some of her feelings for you, you can say something along the lines of, “Anyway, so we should catch up to say hi sometime this week to say hello as friends. I’m busy on Tuesday and Thursday, but I’m free on Monday and Wednesday. Which one of those two days suits you best?”
She might then play hard to get and try to test how much power she has over you, by responding with something like, “I don’t think that’s a good idea” or, “What makes you think I want to see you again?”
You can then laugh and say, “Of course I don’t think that. We’d just be catching up as friends. Anyway, if we catch up and you then decide that you hate being there or never want to talk to me ever again, you can leave any time you want. It will be up to you. You can call the shots. If you don’t ever want to talk to me again after then, I’ll give you my word that I won’t ever contact you again. So, which day suits you best, Monday or Wednesday? It’s your call.”
She will then likely agree to meet up with you, because she feels as though she has the power.
By the way…
Did you notice that even though you’re making out as though she is the one in control (i.e. by saying she’s the one who is calling the shots), you’re actually the one in control (i.e. by making her chose a day that suits you)?
Just by doing that, she instinctively starts feeling some respect and attraction for you (i.e. for being masculine, confident), even though she might not realize it.
Then, when you meet up with her and she tries to get the upper hand over you by saying something like, “Look, I’m only giving you 5 minutes and then I’m walking out, okay? Make this quick. I nearly didn’t come today. So, say what you want to say and then I’m going to go,” you can take the power back by showing her that her fake drama is not getting to you.
You can see the funny side of how she’s behaving by laughing and saying something along the lines of, “Oh, stop being such a drama queen! Take a seat, have a drink and let’s say hello for a minute.”
Initially, she might be a bit shocked to discover that she doesn’t have power over you like she thought.
However, even if she doesn’t show it, she will be feeling respect and attraction to you for being confident and emotionally strong enough to lead the interaction, rather than letting her walk all over you.
As a result, she won’t be able to stop herself from wanting to be around you more and more.
She might try to hide it and may even say, “Hey, it’s not working you know? Whatever you’re trying to do. I’m not falling for it” to see if you panic and feel like you can’t get her back, or that she’s not feeling respect and attraction for you.
You can then laugh and say, “Of course not. There’s no way that you and I would ever get back together. We’re just catching up as friends.”
Since she will be feeling respect and attraction for you in that moment, she will naturally have to ask herself, “But, do I want to only just be friends? Why am I feeling drawn to him all of a sudden? Why do I want to hug him and kiss him again?”