To be a better person, you need to develop the mindset, qualities and behaviors in yourself that will make you feel good about who you are as a person and proud of who you are.
You also need to be the sort of man that others can look up to and respect. So, if you’re asking, “What can I do to be a better person?” here are 7 ways to start…
1. Be confident.
It may be a cliché, but it’s a cliché for a good reason: Confidence is the most important quality you need to develop in yourself if you want to be a better person, and if you want to have a happy, successful and fulfilling life.
- Confidence is attractive. It is attractive to women and it is attractive to people in general.
- Confidence is the opposite of being insecure and self-doubting.
- Confidence is strength, while insecurity is weakness.
- Confidence is about believing in yourself and your abilities without being arrogant and disrespectful of others’ opinions.
- Confidence is something that you can decide to have or not have.
Why do women and other people feel attracted to a man’s confidence rather than his insecurity?
Life can often be challenging and regardless of how successful a woman is, or what her achievements in life are, she still wants to know that when the chips are down, the guy she is with has the confidence and strength to face life head on and take care of both of them.
In life, people generally gravitate towards the people who seem like they are going to be better at surviving, and making the best of the challenges that life throws at them. It’s instinctive.
So, if you want to be a better person, develop the mindset of someone who knows that he isn’t perfect, and focus instead on the things you like about yourself and the things that you are good at and use that to feel confident.
2. Have a purpose and direction in life.
Sitting around hoping that life will throw him a bone never worked for any man who is successful in life today.
Having a purpose and direction in life, and being able to have your say in the world not only gives you confidence, it makes you feel positive about who you are as a man and it makes you feel proud to be you.
On the other hand, when a guy feels “stuck” in his life because he’s in a dead end job, or living at home with his parents with no intention of ever moving out, or hates that he doesn’t have a skill or qualification to better himself but at the same time isn’t interested in going to college or university to improve himself, then other people will instinctively pick up on this and will feel repelled by him.
To be a better person, and to be the kind of guy that women feel attracted to and men feel respect for, you need to have big dreams and ambitions for yourself and the courage to pursue those dreams without fear of failure.
3. Take life with a “pinch of salt.”
Don’t take life, or yourself, so seriously all the time.
Even if you do everything perfectly for a week, you are sure to make a mistake sometime in the future…and so will everyone else. No one is perfect and it’s completely fine and normal to make mistakes every now and then, but what will make you a better person is when you learn from those mistakes and push on to greater victories ahead.
Life is not always going to be a happy bed of roses, but if you can smile and laugh at the things that make you angry or upset or when you make an occasional mistake, not only will you feel better about whatever is bothering you, women will naturally feel attraction for you, and other guys will feel respect for you as a man.
It doesn’t mean you must behave like a clown, or be disrespectful during a serious situation, but when you can take a difficult situation, e.g. during a disagreement, a crisis at work, etc., and diffuse it with some humor, people will naturally see you as someone who is well-rounded and cool to be around.
4. Be the kind of guy who can attract beautiful, quality women.
What does being a better person have to do with attracting beautiful women?
According to entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Consider this: If a guy can’t attract the kind of women he really likes, i.e. beautiful, intelligent, classy, etc., he will naturally resort to dating women who are unattractive, low-class, lacking in ambition, etc.
Essentially, the type of woman you attract and date can either pull you up and make you an ever better man than you already are, by encouraging you to reach for your true potential in life and be the best man you can possibly be.
Or, she can pull you down by being negative and by making fun of all your dreams and ambitions; in which case you’ll only end up sinking down to her level and live a sad, empty and unfulfilling life.
5. Be true to yourself.
Being true to yourself is not about being a bully towards others, or about disregarding peoples feelings in favor of putting yourself first.
Being true to yourself simply means that you are clear about who you are as man.
An example of that would be a someone who is a nice guy, who desperately wants to be liked by everyone, so he resorts to behaving like Mr. Nice and allows both women and men to walk all over him.
For example: A woman might pretend to be interested in him sexually, and then use him to run errands for her, pay her rent, and generally be her “go-to” guy whenever she needs something.
However, in reality she doesn’t respect him as a man and she doesn’t feel attraction for him, so even though she pretends to be interested in him, she has no intention of ever having sex with him or being his girlfriend.
In a business setting Mr. Nice is the guy that others use to do all the “dirty” work that everyone else hates, or, he’s the guy the boss doesn’t respect and dumps all the extra, unsavory jobs on, e.g. the filing, a difficult client, etc.
In a social setting, Mr. Nice is always the guy who gets stuck with the check or the one who is always running to the bar to refresh everyone’s drinks.
If there is one definitive answer to the questions, “What can I do to be a better person?” then that answer is: Be true to yourself.
The only person who has to like you is you. If you can like and respect yourself, people will be able to pick up on that, and they will naturally be drawn to you because they will sense that you are the kind of man who doesn’t mess around pretending to be someone he’s not just to be liked, i.e. he is authentic, and that’s attractive.
6. Be a man of your word.
Do what you say you’re going to do. It’s a simple habit, but when you cultivate it, you will be someone people can look up to and respect.
In a relationship one of the main reasons why couples break up is when a guy stops being a man of his word and starts taking his woman for granted.
In business, a man who keeps breaking his word is not going to progress very far because no-one will trust him.
If you want to be a better person, always strive to keep your promises and do what you say you are going to do. It’s as simple as that.
7. Have a positive outlook.
Life is not always going to be perfect (.g. a guy might lose his job, get dumped by his girlfriend, have a falling out with his family), but whining about it isn’t going to make it any better.
To be a better person you can’t be a whiner.
It’s understandable that if things go wrong you might feel disappointed or upset, however, being able to keep a positive outlook is the best way to not only get out of whatever situation you find yourself in quickly, it’s also an attractive quality that women love in a guy, and other guys admire.
You Are Already a Better Person Just By Asking the Question
A big part of becoming a better person is to learn to love and accept the things about yourself that you cannot change, (e.g. you’re too short, you come from a broken home, etc.), while at the same time striving to improve the things you can, (e.g. all the things mentioned above).
As long as you actively strive to rise through the levels of life and reach your true potential as a man, you will feel increasingly happy and fulfilled and then life will suddenly become “easy” because you will have the respect and admiration of those around you, as well as your choice of beautiful women.