If you’re trying to figure out what girls want in a guy, it might seem to you that girls are very complicated and very difficult to please.
You might be thinking, “I’m just a normal guy. How can I be the kind of amazing guy that girls really want?”
Actually it’s quite simple…and you don’t have to be super amazing and perfect to be the type of guy that girls want.
Some of the most common traits that girls want in a guy are:
- Confidence in all areas of life.
- The ability to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you when you interact with her.
- The ability to take the lead the way from a conversation to kiss, to sex and into a relationship.
- To make her feel girly in comparison to your masculinity (i.e. how you think, feel, behave, take action).
- To make her feel turned on by your conversation style.
- To see that you have a definite purpose and direction in life outside of a relationship with her.
- To be able to look up to you and respect you as a man.
Essentially, all that adds up to you being able to make a girl feel attracted to who you are as a guy.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, you can make girls feel attracted to you in many different ways (e.g. confidence, charisma, humor, masculine vibe, etc).
What Girls Don’t Want in a Guy
To fully understand what girls want in a guy, you have to first understand what they don’t want in a guy and why.
1. A guy who doesn’t know how to make her feel attracted to his personality.
Being able to feel attracted to a guy’s personality, behavior and inner qualities is what matters the most to almost every girl in the world.
Yes, some girls are shallow and only want a rich, good looking, successful guy, but most girls aren’t like that at all.
While it is a nice bonus for a girl if a guy is good looking or has money, the majority of girls are more attracted to and turned on by who a guy is on the inside.
For most girls, a guy’s inner qualities, personality, vibe, attitude, behavior and outlook on life are of far more important to her than what he looks like or what he has in his bank account.
This is why you will often see girls with average or below-average looking guys who are not rich, tall or famous.
These normal, everyday guys have the kind of inner qualities that most girls want in a guy, (e.g. confidence, self-belief, a masculine vibe, charisma, an interesting conversation style, etc).
Of course, even though you might see a lot of evidence of girls hooking up with ordinary guys in real life, it can still be pretty hard to believe.
You might want to believe that girls only want good-looking guys who are rich because that is what most girls SAY they want.
Yet, what girls SAY and what they actually DO are usually two completely different things.
For example: A lot of girls will say that they want a nice guy, but they will then reject nice guys and here’s why…
Likewise, a lot of girls will say that they only want a tall, handsome guy with six pack abs, but they will then date and fall in love with guys who are just normal height, average looking and in average shape.
As difficult as it might seem to you right now, you must try to remember that can’t always trust what girls SAY. Instead, you have to look at what they actually DO in real life.
If you pay too much attention to what girls say, you will feel insecure and unworthy of them.
For example, a guy might say, “I’m too short and I don’t have big muscles. Girls only like good looking guys who are tall and who work out at the gym every day, so they just won’t like me.”
Or, “Girls like guys who are rich and successful. I don’t have much money to take girls out or buy them gifts, so I will never be able to get a girl to want me.”
Here’s the thing…
Girls are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in guys (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem) and turned are off by the emotional weakness (e.g. nervousness, insecurity, self-doubt), which is why being good looking or rich doesn’t guarantee that a guy will automatically be able to get any girl he wants.
For example: If a good looking, rich guy interacts with a girl and he comes across as being nervousness, anxious, insecure and self-doubting, most girls will feel turned off by him.
Why? He will be displaying emotional weakness, which is a direct turn off for girls.
The girl might think that he looks good and she might like that he also has money, but she won’t like the way he makes her feel, so she will usually reject him and go for a guy who can make her feel attracted to his personality, behavior and inner qualities.
As you will have already seen in real life, if an ordinary guy interacts with a girl and makes her feel attracted to his personality (e.g. by being confident, funny, masculine, etc), she will usually overlook the fact that he isn’t tall and rich because he is making her feel the way she wants to feel around a guy.
So, if you’re confused and wondering, “What do girls want in a guy?” here is the what you need to do from now on…
Rather than wasting time thinking you don’t have what girls want because you’re not a rich model, simply focus instead on triggering a girl’s feelings of sexual attraction for you based on how you interact with her.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
When you trigger a girl’s sexual desire for you, she will feel exited about the idea of having sex with you or beginning a relationship with you.
Another thing that girls don’t want in a guy is…
2. To be left alone unless she gives you a clear signal.
Girls hate it when guys are too afraid to approach unless they give him a clear signal.
Here’s what you must remember at all times…
Girls are attracted to your confidence, not your nervousness and hesitation. It’s not cute to be nervous and it’s not what girls want.
They want your balls.
It’s your masculine confidence that turns them on, not your boyish fears of girls. They want you to believe in yourself and take action to go after what you want.
A real man (or a confident guy) simply believes in himself and approaches a girl whenever he feels like it.
He doesn’t sit around thinking about it because he already knows that most girls don’t like to approach guys first.
He knows that by approaching a girl with confidence, she will automatically be impressed and feel attracted to him for having the balls to do it.
Even if a girl thinks that a guy is cute, she will rarely approach him first because the most important quality that girls look for in a guy is the confidence to go after what he wants in life without fear.
A great way for a girl to test a guy’s confidence is to wait and see if he can make the first move, regardless of whether or not she gives him signals.
Depending on the girl (and how confident of a guy she is trying to attract), she will often even ACT like she doesn’t like the guy to really test his confidence and belief in himself.
From her perspective, if a guy is too nervous and insecure to even approach her and go after what he wants, she then wonders what else in his life will he be nervous and insecure about doing.
Instinctively, she will feel repelled by him because his inability to confidently approach is a sign of a guy who doesn’t have the social confidence to stand up for himself and go after what he really wants in life; in this case, her.
Of course, there are some girls who like to take the lead and make the first move, but in most cases it is because the girl is unattractive, has had too much to drink, or if the guy is really good looking and she wants to get to him first before he hooks up with another girl.
For the most part, almost every girl wants you to take the lead and seduce her, rather than her having to make the first move.
Another thing that girls don’t want in a guy is…
3. A guy who tries to become her boyfriend by being a good friend to her.
There is a big difference between a girl feeling nice, sweet, friendly feelings towards you and her wanting to rip your clothes off because she can’t control herself from wanting to have sex with you.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking that the way to a girl’s heart is by being a good friend to her, while at the same time never stepping out of line by letting her know that he wants her sexually.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice to a girl, but that’s not what’s going to make her want to have sex with you and be in a relationship with you.
For example: If a guy hangs around a girl that he wants to have sex with or be in a relationship with and he gets her to “like” him as a friend, she will usually accept that and only see him as a friend.
If he suddenly makes a move on her, or tells her that he has feelings for her, she will usually give him the, “Aww, thanks. That’s so sweet, but I only see you as a friend,” speech. Why?
He failed to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for him first.
He had spent all of his time and effort making her feel friendly feelings towards him, rather than turning her on and making her horny by triggering her feelings of sexual attraction.
What you must understand about seducing girls is that attraction always has to come first and everything else (i.e. kissing, sex, relationship) will effortlessly follow on after that.
Without attraction, a guy is simply, “just a friend” to a girl.
So, if you want to have sex and be in a relationship with a girl, the main thing is to actively make her feel sexually attracted to you when you interact with her, not pretend to be her good friend and then “hope for the best.”
Becoming the Kind of Guy That Girls Want
What do girls want in a guy?
The answer is very simple: Girls want a guy who will trigger their feelings of sexual attraction for him by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that women are naturally attracted to (e.g. confidence, self-belief, charisma, emotional strength, etc.).
Most girls yearn to experience the exhilaration of being with a guy like that.
Even if a girl is young (18-25), she still fantasizes about being swept off her feet by a confident, charismatic guy who can turn her on while also being nice to her.
That’s why girls often read romantic novels, watch love story movies or TV drama shows about relationships, because they fantasizing about meeting a confident, charming guy.
You can be that guy.
You don’t have to become Mr. Perfect to be that guy and you don’t have to be good looking, tall and have loads of money.
You just have to be able to trigger a girl’s feelings of sexual desire for you and then just treat her well as you effortlessly guide her from a conversation to kiss, to sex and into a relationship.