The main thing that attracts women to men sexually is when a man displays the personality traits and behaviors that women are instinctively attracted to, and that can trigger her feelings of attraction and desire for him.
Some of these personality traits and behaviors include the following:
- Being confident and self-assured.
- Being able to turn her on and make her feel feminine and girly in contrast to his masculine vibe.
- Being charming and charismatic.
- Being able to attract her with his conversation style.
- Being able to make her laugh.
When a woman interacts with a confident, charismatic guy who thinks, behaves and acts in a masculine way, she can’t stop herself from feeling sexually attracted to him.
However, when a woman interacts with a guy who is insecure and thinks, behaves and acts in a nervous, shy or self-doubting way, deep down at an instinctive level, she can’t stop herself from feeling turned off by him sexually.
This is why, if you want to know what attracts women to men sexually, you first have to understand how women pick men for sex, and for relationships.
It’s Who You Are as a Man That Matters to Most Women, Not What You Look Like
Many guys go through their life making excuses about why they are not attracting the women they really want for sex and for relationships.
These guys will say things like, “Being tall, dark and handsome is what attracts women to men sexually, and I’m not those things so women are not going to be interested in me.”
Or, “I don’t feel sexually attracted to fat, unattractive women, so it’s only natural that because I’ve got a big nose and I’m also on the fat side, women will not be sexually attracted to me either.”
However, that’s not the case at all.
Although men will choose a woman for sex and even a relationship based on how attractive she is, women will be willing to overlook a man’s “flaws” (e.g. if he is not good looking, is fat or thin, has a big nose or a bald head, etc.), if he can make her feel sexually attracted to him in other ways.
For most women (not all), the cliché “It’s who you are on the inside that really counts,” applies.
For example: When a woman first sees a guy, she has nothing to base her interest in him on other than his appearance. This is why, when a woman sees a very good looking guy for the first time she might say, “Oh! He’s soooo sexy! I wouldn’t mind hooking up with him.” At this initial stage, yes, she is sexually attracted to him because of his looks.
However, if she interacts with him and he behaves in an insecure, nervous or submissive way around her, her attraction for him will quickly fade, and she will even start noticing things about him that are turning her off.
For example, she might say, “Mmmm, I never noticed that mole on his cheek; I hate moles on guys, they are so un-sexy,” or, “He’s not really as good looking as I thought; he’s got funny teeth/ears/hands/etc.” Essentially, she is looking for excuses to explain to herself why she is feeling so turned off by him.
On the other hand, the same woman might see a short, chubby, bald guy and disregard him completely. Yet, when he approaches her and interacts with her in a confident, charismatic way and triggers her feelings of sexual attraction for him with his masculine vibe, she can quickly go from disregarding him to being completely turned on by him.
Then, his initial “flaws” of being short, chubby or bald suddenly become unique qualities that make him even more attractive to her. For example, she might say, “I think guys who are bald are so sexy,” or “He’s not fat, there’s just more man there for me to love.”
Of course, if the short, chubby, bald guy is also nervous, insecure, or puts on a fake persona to try and attract her, her initial disregard towards him will not change, and she will probably say something like, “He’s not my type,” to explain why she feels turned off by him.
As you can see, it’s not what a guy looks like that matters to most women, but how he makes her feel when she’s with him.
Yes, there are some women who will only have sex with, and date, good looking men, but the majority of women are attracted to the type of man who can trigger her feelings of sexual attraction in the way he interacts with her.
2 Simple Ways to Make a Woman Want You Sexually
What attracts women to men sexually is primarily based on a man’s ability to display the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive and sexually arousing to women when he interacts with them.
Here are 2 ways you can attract women sexually…
1. Drop the Mr. Nice Guy act.
In the past, to get a woman to be interested in him, a man would have to be nice to her, court her and show her that he could take care of her if they got married.
Unfortunately, because of that, many guys today make the mistake of thinking that by being nice to a woman and behaving like a gentleman with “good intentions,” she will her feel sexually attracted to him and make her want to start a relationship with him.
However, if you look at today’s woman, you will realize that dating and relationships don’t happen like that anymore.
Today’s women are clearly self-sufficient, can earn their own money and they can choose to have sex whenever they want and with whomever they want.
A woman will no longer select a guy simply based on how nice he is to her when they are interacting. Even if he’s a really nice guy, that’s not what attracts a woman to a man sexually. The way that a modern woman will select a man for sex and a relationship is now based on his ability to trigger her feelings of sexual attraction first, and then everything else will follow.
There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman and there’s nothing wrong with being a good guy, but being nice to a woman isn’t going to make her feel sexually attracted to you.
The truth is, most guys in the world are nice guys. Being nice to a woman and avoiding making it clear to her that you find her sexually attractive is what most “nice” guys do.
These days, if you want to have sex with a woman or get her into a relationship with you, you are going to have to drop the Mr. Nice Guy act and instead focus on saying and doing things that will turn her on.
2. Connect with her in a different way to every other guy.
When you interact with a woman, your conversation is of vital importance, because you’re either connecting with her and turning her on, or you’re boring her like every other guy who has been hitting on her before you.
Conversation is what allows a man and a woman to be in each other’s presence long enough to determine whether they are sexually, emotionally and socially compatible with each other.
Most often the reason why a guy struggles to make a woman feel sexually attracted to him is because, instead of using conversation as a means to create a sexual, emotional and intellectual connection between him and her, he instead engages her in boring conversation.
For example: He will ask her boring questions like, “What’s your name? What do you do for a living? Did you go to university? Do you like your job?” etc., but none of these questions create sexual attraction, because every other guy she’s been talking to has asked her the same questions.
For a woman to see you differently from all the other guys, you have to behave differently when you interact with her.
For example: Instead of asking her questions as if you’re interviewing her for the job of being your girlfriend, you can create a connection between you and her by triggering happy, positive feelings inside her.
Instead of asking, “What do you do?” you can say, “If you could be at any fun place in the word right now, where would you be and why?”
This is a great thing to say to a woman, because it opens the conversation up, makes her think of something that brings up good feelings for her, and allows her to talk about something that she feels passionate about.
This type of question also allows her to say, “What about you?” and then when you share something personal about yourself, a positive connection gets created between you and her.
It All Boils Down to How You Make Her Feel
The most important thing you need to know is that the thing that attracts women to men sexually, is the way he makes her feel when she’s with him.
By displaying the inner qualities that instinctively turn women on, like having the mental and emotional strength to be confident and charismatic around her, while also being able to be masculine and to take the lead in the sexual courtship, a woman has no choice but to feel sexually attracted to you.
On the other hand, if you behave in a nervous, self-doubting, insecure way around a woman you find attractive, she will only pick up on your self-doubt and she will feel turned off.
When you behave in ways that are attractive to women, then attracting women sexually is not difficult.