When you consider the sheer number of confused messages a guy gets in everyday life about what it takes to turn women on, it’s no wonder we get contacted on a daily basis for advice on the subject.
All that a modern man needs to do to be confused is turn on the TV, listen to advertisements on the radio or watch a Hollywood movie. He will be told that women want perfect looking men with loads of money and if a guy doesn’t have that, he shouldn’t even try to hit on the woman.
You’ve got to be perfect, you’ve got to be rich and you’ve got to be tall, famous, have a huge dick and have perfectly moisturised skin.
Sure, some women will only accept perfect looking men with loads of money and a monster sized penis. Yet, most women are much more flexible about what they feel attracted to in a guy. We men are lucky that can turn women on in so many different ways.
If we couldn’t, then most guys wouldn’t be able to get laid, get a girlfriend or get married. Yet, they can…
As you can see by the photos above, women can be turned on by all sorts of guys. What you hear in the media is simply how people think things should work, but how things actually work in the real world is often completely different.
Turn On or Turn Off?
Okay, let’s take a look at some of the most common myths surrounding the subject of what turns a woman on…
Myth 1: Women are only turned on by tall, dark, handsome men
Sure, certain physical features are going to be seen as more attractive than others to certain women, but it’s simply not true that you need to be tall, dark, and handsome to be able to turn women on.
Just take a look around you in the real world – the guy who “gets the girl” in the movies might be the good-looking guy with the rippling muscles, but in the real world? C’mon! You see guys of all shapes, sizes, and hair colours with beautiful girlfriends, right?
In answer to the question of what turns a woman on, it’s an obvious myth that women are only interested in a guy’s outward appearance. In the real world, it’s who you are as a man on the inside that decides how attractive you are to most women.
Yes, some women will only accept a perfect looking guy who is tall, has loads of money and has a huge penis, but most women are much more flexible about what they find attractive than guys realize.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use that to your advantage the next time you interact with a beautiful woman…
Myth 2: Women are mostly turned on by money
Following on from the tall, dark, and handsome myth, it’s not unusual for guy’s to think that women only date “average-looking” guys if they’ve got plenty of cash to splash. Of course, guys who think this way are completely misunderstanding what turns women on.
To be attractive in a woman’s eyes, you don’t need to have expensive clothes and designer shoes, and you don’t need to have a flashy car or any other kind of “showy” bling. Women are attracted to confident men who know who they are and know where they’re going in life.
Having these alpha male characteristics makes a guy a natural leader in all areas of life and because of this, he’s a guy who goes after what he wants and makes his own success.
Wearing designer labels and driving a nice car might be part-and-parcel of a man’s success, but it’s not what he owns that turns a woman on, it’s who he is and the character traits he has that attract her attention.
Put it this way; a guy with Hollywood good-looks, a designer wardrobe, and a string of sports cars will not turn a woman on if he lacks confidence and acts shy or nervous around her.
However, an average-looking guy with absolutely no bling on show will turn her on if he has genuine self-confidence and an ability to engage her in natural, free-flowing, and fun conversation that leads effortlessly into flirting.
Myth 3: Women are turned on by nice, sweet, polite gentleman
If you watch any old black and white Hollywood classic, you’ll see plenty of “gentlemanly” behaviour that seems to get women swooning and buckling at the knees, so it’s no surprise that a lot of guys slip into believing that the way to turn a woman on is to “treat her like a lady.”
Well, buying her flowers, lavishing her with gifts, and effectively throwing yourself at her feet by putting her on a pedestal might have worked a century ago but it’s not going to do anything for a modern woman.
For a start, the movie world has never been a true reflection of the real world anyway, but the world has changed over the last couple of generations and women are looking for a man who knows how to make her feel like a woman in today’s world.
Modern women are independent women, they’re not impressed by “gifts” because they can buy their own, and putting her on a pedestal doesn’t boost a guy’s image in her eyes, it makes her see him as a weak, desperate guy who is so unsure of what he has to offer as a man that he’s trying to “buy” her affections.
She doesn’t want an insecure man who puts all of his energy into “trying too hard” to impress her, she wants a confident, masculine man who has his pick of women because then she gets the thrill of working hard to impress him.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand why being too nice to a woman will often result in rejection…
As you will discover by watching the video above, there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy to a woman. However, you must also focus on making her feel sexually attracted to you. Nice behavior isn’t enough to turn a woman on or make her want to begin a relationship with a guy.
What Really Turns a Woman On
The bottom line on what turns a woman on is this…
A guy who has the ability to make her feel feminine in response to his masculinity. For example: If a guy is confident and has a strong, masculine vibe when interacting with a woman, she will naturally feel feminine in his presence.
If he also has the ability to make her feel attracted in other ways (e.g. making her laugh, being charming, being charismatic, etc), then she will feel like she has hit the jackpot by meeting him.
Women dream of being able to find a guy who can make them feel attraction for a wide variety of traits, but it is very hard to find. When you are the guy who can turn a woman on in many different ways, you are what women refer to as a catch.
Attracting a woman for sex is simple and easy and maintaining and building on a woman’s attraction in a relationship is just as effortless…