If you’re asking the question, “Why did my girlfriend leave me?” the answer is simple:
Somewhere along the line, you stopped making her feel the kind of respect and attraction that she felt for you at the beginning of your relationship.
That may have been because you became insecure, ruined her trust in you, turned her off with your communication style, stopped making her feel appreciated, started treating her badly, lacked purpose in life or became too jealous and controlling.
When a woman loses respect for you, her attraction for you will also then start to fade.
When her respect and attraction for you fades, she will then begin to fall out of love of you, until she reaches the point where she will decide to leave the relationship.
Getting Her Back
Right now, you might be feeling hurt and possibly even betrayed by your girlfriend because you still love her, but she doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore.
The good news is if you really want to get back together with her, you can.
Watch this video to understand how and why…
Even if your girlfriend is currently saying that she is over you and won’t give you another chance, it doesn’t mean that her emotional state is set in stone.
Emotions always changed and when you begin saying and doing things that make her feel respect and attraction for you, she will naturally open herself up to the idea of loving you again.
She might not show that right away though, which is why you need to get her to meet up with you in person to experience the new and improved version of you.
Get her to feel respect and attraction for you in person, ask her to forgive you (not to take you back, just forgive you) and then get her laughing, smiling and enjoying spending time with you.
If you do that, she will naturally begin to think of you in a more positive way and will begin to allow herself to have feelings for you again.
However, before you contact your girlfriend and get her to meet up, you first have to understand what caused her to lose her respect, attraction and love for you in the first place.
You then need to forgive yourself for making those mistakes. How?
Understand that everyone makes mistakes, but what makes a man a great man is when he has the capacity to learn and grow from those mistakes, rather than making the same old mistakes over and over again for life.
If you really have improved and become a better man as a result of the break up, that is something you should be proud of, rather than feeling ashamed about mistakes that you made in the past.
Don’t Make Things Worse By Asking Her to Tell You Why
A woman will usually take a long time to decide to break up with her man.
Before she makes the big decision to end a relationship, she will usually try to give him as many hints about what is bothering her so that he will change and improve himself.
If he doesn’t get the message, she will eventually break up with him.
Unfortunately, the worst part is that even after she’s left, a lot of guys still don’t understand the reasons why and they are stuck wondering, “Why did my girlfriend leave me? I thought we were so happy together.”
Yet, until a guy can fully understand the real reasons why his girlfriend broke up with him (e.g. he doesn’t make her feel feminine enough in comparison to his masculinity, he lacks purpose in life, she feels more valuable than him), he won’t be able to make the changes she needs, which means she won’t be interested in getting back together with him until he does.
3 Reasons Why a Woman Will Leave Her Man
If you don’t know why your girlfriend left you, here are some of the most common reasons why a woman will break up with her boyfriend.
1. He took her for granted.
When a relationship begins, it’s very easy for most guys to treat a woman well and make her feel special, because he is getting laid and experiencing new love.
Yet, once the dust has settled and the excitement of getting to know each other has worn off, a guy begin to get caught up in everyday things (e.g. work, studies) and begin to take his girlfriend’s love, respect and commitment for granted.
For example: A guy might be very committed to his career and is working hard towards getting a promotion. Although this is something his girlfriend will respect and admire him for, if he fails to maintain a proper balance between his career and her, she will begin to feel neglected.
When this happens, a woman might put in the extra effort to make him notice her by making herself look even prettier, cooking him nice dinners, or planning some quiet time for them to relax together.
If he then regularly cancel plans on her at the last minute with excuses like, “I have a project that I need to devote all my time to,” or “I’m really behind on at work. I promise to make it up to you some other time,” she’s going to start feeling like he’s taking her for granted.
Naturally plans change from time to time, and working towards his goals is not something a good woman would hold against her boyfriend, but if a guy constantly keeps putting her second in his life, she will eventually begin to feel likes he’s taking her for granted.
There’s nothing wrong with working hard and working towards achieving goals in life, but when a guy is in a relationship with a woman, it’s his responsibility to maintain and grow the love, respect and attraction she feels for him.
If he becomes too focused on other things and she begins to feel unloved, unappreciated and taken for granted, she will begin to lose respect for him and eventually she will leave.
2. He was clingy, needy and insecure.
When a man is afraid of reaching his true potential in life, it’s not uncommon for him to use his love for his woman, as an excuse to hide from following through on his dreams and ambitions.
In his mind he is saying, “I love my girlfriend. She means everything to me. Nothing else in this world matters but her. I don’t care if I am unsuccessful in life, I have her and that is all that matters.”
A guy like that will often assume that this is what his girlfriend wants (because she loves spending time with him) and that it will make her happier than if he were to give less of his time to her and start focusing on trying to achieve his ambitions and goals in life.
Although, most women love it when their man is loving and devoted and gives them a lot of attention, it doesn’t mean they want to be the centre of his world.
Women instinctively know that life is going to get hard in future if a guy spends most of his time just hanging around with her, rather than rising up through the levels of his true potential to get promoted or do better in his career.
Initially, a woman will enjoy all the attention she is getting, but eventually her instincts will kick in and she will begin saying things like, “Why don’t you do something with your life?” or “Why you do stay in that job if you hate it?” or “I need time to find myself” or “I need time to work out what I want to do with my life” because she is reacting to the lack of purpose and direction that he should be providing as the man.
There are some women (e.g. insecure, domineering, unattractive) who prefer it when a guy has nothing else going on in his life besides her, but most women don’t. Why?
When a man uses his relationship as an excuse to avoid facing life head on, he comes across as being emotionally weak because he is afraid to stand up and be the man he knows he should be.
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men and repelled by the weakness, so if a woman begins to feel that her man is actually emotionally weaker than her, she will begin to lose respect for him and eventually her attraction and love will also fade.
When that happens, she will either leave him, cheat on him or string him along (e.g. “I just need some time apart”) until she finds a replacement guy.
There’s nothing wrong with a boyfriend and girlfriend spending a lot of time together, but to make a relationship successful, a guy must maintain a balance being devoted to her with being his own man by striving to achieve his biggest goals and ambitions in life.
3. He put her in charge.
Where many guys go wrong is in believing that a woman will be happiest if she gets to wants to wear the pants make all the decisions in the relationship.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking, “I don’t want to argue with her over things, so why not just let her make the decisions? At least then she will be happy and I will be happy as well because there won’t be any fighting. I don’t care if she leads. It’s easier for me anyway.”
Although a woman might argue and act like she wants to be making all the decisions, in reality she wants her boyfriend to man up and take the lead in the relationship so that she can relax fully into being the woman.
Being the woman means that she gets to feel feminine, be girly, be emotional, focus on love and not have to worry about leading the relationship, making decisions and maintaining order.
A woman still wants to have her say and to be heard, but ultimately she wants her man to lead the way and take on the responsibility leading them both to a better life.
To maintain the sexual attraction in a relationship between a man and a woman, a boyfriend has to be the man and allow his girlfriend to be a feminine woman.
It’s Not Too Late to Get Your Girlfriend Back
Whether you’re asking, “Why did my girlfriend leave me?” because you want to get her back, or because you simply want to understand where you went wrong so that you don’t make the same mistakes in your next relationship, you are in a position where you can do great things right now.
By fully understanding what you did wrong in the relationship with your girlfriend, you can make changes to any emotional issues that you might (e.g. insecurity, jealous, commitment issues) and become a better guy than you already are.
If then you decide you want your girlfriend back, she will be able to sense the changes in you by the way you talk, act and behave when interacting with her.
She will begin to wonder what is different about you and, without even realizing that she’s doing it, she will begin to feel respect and attraction for you once again.
You can make her feel even more attracted to you by being more confident, masculine and charismatic and by showing her that you now fully understood where you went wrong in your relationship with her.
When she feels heard and also notices that the things about you, which had been putting her off are no longer an issue, she will naturally open herself up to the idea of being with you again.
On the other hand, if you don’t want to get back together with her, you won’t have wasted your time by improving yourself, because the next time you find yourself in a relationship, you will be the kind of man that almost every woman wishes they could find.
You will be a man in demand.
Either way…you win.