If you’re wondering, “Will my ex girlfriend ever want me back?” the answer is yes, you can actually make her want you back.
You have to do it properly though.
Some women are much easier to get back than others, so if your girlfriend hated you when she dumped you, it’s important that you follow the right steps to get her to forgive you and become open to having feelings for you again.
Right now, she might not have any feelings for you, but that will be due to you not regaining her respect and attraction, so she can have feelings for you once again.
When you begin saying and doing things that will re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, she will naturally begin to feel differently about you and she will open herself up to the idea of being with you again.
Watch this video to see what I mean…
As you will discover from the video above, feelings can and do change.
However, you can’t expect your ex girlfriend to want to give you another chance if you haven’t even been doing anything to make her feel attraction and respect for you again.
If you want her back, you have to start the process by sparking her feelings of respect and attraction first, otherwise she will stick to her old perception of you, which she had when she broke up with you.
So, if you want to make your ex girlfriend want you back, here’s what you need to do:
1. Don’t Sit Around Waiting For Her to Contact You
Regardless of what happened to cause your ex girlfriend to break up with you, you can’t sit around wondering, “Will my ex girlfriend ever want me back,” and hoping that by some miracle she’ll change her mind about how she feels about you, and then pick up the phone and call you.
If you want her back then it’s you who has to call her; and the sooner the better.
If you wait too long to contact her, you run the risk of her meeting someone else and having sex and falling in love with him.
Besides, when you understand that you can get your ex girlfriend to instantly feel respect for you again simply by the way you talk to her, why would you want to wait?
If you call her up and apologize to her (without being weak or groveling) for what happened, and make her feel that you really understand why she had to break up with you, she won’t be able to stay closed off towards you.
On the phone call stay confident and work towards making her laugh and feel attracted to your charm, masculinity, etc. You have to make her feel curious about what has changed about you since your break up, and then get her to agree to one last (don’t worry it won’t be) meet up.
At the meet up is where you will be able to fully show her that you’ve changed and make her feel respect and attraction for you again.
By displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are attractive to women (e.g. confidence, charisma, making her laugh, making her feel girly in contrast to your masculine vibe, etc.) she will naturally see you in a new light, and her feelings of respect and attraction for you will begin to grow inside her again.
2. Try to Understand Her Real Reasons For Breaking Up With You
Watch this video to understand some of the reasons why a woman will break up with a guy…
When a woman breaks up with a guy, her natural instinct is usually to let him down as softly as possible to protect herself from getting hurt if they get into a big argument about it.
Rather than tell him all the hurtful reasons why she is breaking up with him (e.g. he isn’t enough of a man for her at this point), she’ll say something like, “I don’t feel the same way about you anymore. It’s not you, it’s me,” or “I need some space to figure out what I really want in my life.”
Yet, in her mind she has a list of real reasons why she’s breaking up with him.
For example: She might be thinking, “You’re so needy and insecure. I feel so smothered. I just can’t wait to get out of here and be with a guy who is emotionally secure” or, “You have no personal goals and ambitions for your life. I just can’t imagine myself being stuck with a guy like you for the rest of my life. I want a guy who is moving up through the levels of life by reaching for his true potential as a man…and that’s definitely not you! You are scared of your own potential and use your relationship with me to hide from following through on your biggest goals and ambitions in life.”
She’s not going to say that to him because it will then put her into the position of being his teacher in life on how to be a man.
She doesn’t want that role. She wants to be his girl, his woman. She wants to look up to him and respect him as her man, not look down on his as being a lost guy who hasn’t yet worked out what it really means to be a man.
Rather than teach him, she will simply break up with him and then look for another guy that she can respect and look up to.
So, to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to understand the real reasons why she broke up with you (not the fake ones she gave you like, “I need time to find myself” or “I don’t think I want to be in a relationship right now”) and then make the correct changes to the way you think, act, behave and how you treat her.
By fully understanding the reasons why she ended the relationship, you will then be able to prove to her (via your conversation style, behavior and attitude) that you are not the same guy that she broke up with.
You will be offering her what she really wants and this will make her feel understood and happy to be interacting with you again.
It won’t make every woman want her ex-boyfriend back immediately, but it does open her up to feeling respect and attraction for him, which then allows her to have feelings for him again.
As long as he can build on her feelings of attraction and respect, she will be open to kissing him again, sleeping with him or just catching up again to hang out and see how she feels.
On the other hand, if you meet up with your ex-girlfriend and nothing has really changed about, or you keep promising her to change things that aren’t very important to her, then she’s going to lose even more respect for you and she’s going to want to get as far away from you as possible.
For example: A woman might want her ex to do something more important with his life (e.g. because he hates his job, spends too much time playing video games, doesn’t have a job, etc).
When he meets up with her, he promises to be more romantic and take her out to more dinners, but that’s not what she wants from him.
She wants him to start following through on his real purpose in life, rather than wasting time because he is either too lazy or afraid to attempt to achieve his real ambitions and goals in life.
You have to be offering your ex-girlfriend what she really wants, not what you think she wants to hear.
This is why it’s so important that you fully understand what caused her to break up with you in the first place and then actively change those things about yourself.
3. Fix Your Emotional Issues and Show Her That You’ve Improved and Changed
One of the worst things to do when attempting to get your ex girlfriend back is to promise her that you will change if she gives you another chance.
Women hate that, because it’s so easy to say, “I will change. I promise!” but it takes a lot more effort to actually make those changes.
After all, most humans take anywhere from 21 to 60 days to develop a new habit, so if a guy is in the habit of being insecure, she will have to put up with him for another 1-2 months and hope that he really is getting over his insecurities.
Yet, she has no guarantee of that because he is simply saying to her, “I promise that I will change if you give me another chance. Please believe me! You mean everything to me.”
It sounds very convincing, but it’s one thing to promise to change and another to actually follow through on it for real.
This is why most women hate it when guys promise to change and only women who lack experience with relationships or are worried that they won’t be able to find another guy, will give their boyfriend repeated chances if he promises to change.
However, after a while, even those women will grow tired of giving him chances and will want to move on and find a man who is more capable of making her feel how she really wants to feel when in a relationship.
So, when you meet up with your ex-girlfriend, you should already have made some changes so that she can see that you are serious about improving and becoming a better version of the guy she broke up with.
You don’t have to be perfect to get her back, but you do need to start working on any emotional issues you might have and actually make some real progress.
For example: If being too needy and insecure was an issue in your relationship, you need to work on building your confidence and self-worth.
If you were lacking a clear direction in life, you need to set yourself some goals and work towards achieving them.
Not only will this make you seem more attractive in your ex girlfriend’s eyes, you will also like who you are becoming as well.
You will realize that when you are confident and emotionally strong, all the other relationships in your life (e.g. at work, your friendships, family) improve too and that everyone around you is now looking up to you and respecting you for the man that you are becoming.
On the other hand, if you try to get your ex girlfriend back without changing anything, not only will she not feel motivated to trust you on that (because you’ve probably promised to change before), but you will also be losing out on the opportunity to become and even better man than you are right now.
Getting dumped by a woman is a great wake up call for a man.
You can either use it to become a better man, or let it weaken you and destroy you for years while you miss her and wish you could get her back, but you never really put in the effort to become the type of guy that she would want back.
When You Renew Her Feelings of Respect and Attraction For You, She Will Become Open to Getting Back Together
The main thing that a woman wants before she considers getting back with an ex is to be able to respect him.
If you talk to her on the phone or meet up with her in person and are still making her feel the same kinds of emotions that turned her off you in the first place, it’s not going to re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
If you want your ex to want you back, you’ve got to be willing to do what it takes to become and be the sort of guy that she would want back.
How long will that take?
It depends on how many things you need to improve.
However, after hearing back from 100s of guys who’ve used my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System to get a woman back, most guys were able to call their ex after watching the 10 hours of video training.
They then moved to a meet up, got her forgiveness in person, made her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction and either got back together right away or began to rekindle the relationship slowly.
So, don’t waste another day feeling hopeless and wondering, “Will my ex girlfriend ever want me back?” because it will only happen if you take action to improve who you are.
Are you willing to do what it takes to make your ex-girlfriend want you back?