Just because she has broken up with you now, it doesn’t mean you can’t get her back…even if you’ve already broken up several times before.
I’ve lost count of the number of guys I’ve helped to get an ex back, even when the woman has HATED the guy. Human emotions can and do change and when you use the correct approach while getting her back, she will naturally being to feel the types of emotions that will make her WANT to get back with you right away.
If you want to get your ex girlfriend, fiance or wife back quickly, here’s what you need to do:
1. Don’t Waste Time With the No Contact Rule
You can get your ex to instantly feel respect for you again, simply by the way you talk to her, apologize for what happened and explain what you now understand about the current situation between you and her.
You can also get her to meet up with you “one last time” (don’t worry, it won’t be the last!) and then re-attract her at the meet up.
The “one last meet up” technique has worked for almost all of my clients on the first phone call. Other clients have needed to ask for it two or three times before she eventually agreed.
So, do not waste any more time with the No Contact Rule.
Sure, not contacting does get some women to call, but a call from her does not mean that you’re getting her back.
When she doesn’t hear from her ex, a woman will usually call to check that he is still desperately hoping to be with her, which then allows her to continue moving on with the break up more easily.
Why? Women aren’t attracted to neediness and desperation in men. She will use the guy’s desperation and pain to feel even more turned off by him and more able to move on.
If you wait too long to contact her, you run the risk of her having sex with another guy or falling in love with the new man she is already with.
Rather than wasting time with the amateur “No Contact Rule,” you’ve got to get her on the phone right away (don’t worry – I will teach you how to get her on the phone, even if she currently hates you or has asked that you don’t contact her).
On the phone call, you’ve got to shock her (in a positive way) out of the current state of mind that she is in and make her feel happy and curious to meet up with you “one last time.”
Don’t worry – it won’t be the last meet up – that’s just way to get her to the meet up. You then need to get her respect and attraction back at the meet up, which I will also teach you how to do if you are interested to learn.
2. Don’t Text Her Unless You Want to Arrange a Meet Up
According to countless studies by psychologists and social scientists, anywhere from 70-90% of communication between two humans is comprised of body language and tonality.
So, when you send a text to your ex, she has to GUESS at what tonality you’d be using, what your body language would be like and how you’d be feeling at the time if you were saying that to her in person.
If your ex currently hates you or perceives you to be needy and desperate, how do you think she’ll judge your text?
Will she guess that you are being confident, charming and cool or will she guess that there’s a needy, hurting guy behind that text? In most cases, your ex will look at the text in a negative way and assume that you’re in a bad place emotionally without her, which will then make her feel more repelled by you rather than attracted to you.
When getting an ex back, texting should ONLY be used to get her on a PHONE CALL so you can then arrange a meet up. Sending your ex any other texts will usually turn her off and make her want to distance herself from you even more.
So, don’t send her pointless texts! Texts to an ex only have one purpose…
Only send her a text if the purpose is to get her on the phone to TALK to you, so you can make her feel respect and attraction for you and then arrange a meet up.
On a phone call, your ex will be able to hear your confident, emotionally secure tone of voice (which will attract her) and get a sense of how emotionally strong you are without her.
If you aren’t feeling emotionally strong without her right now, I can help you with that today.
My 10 hour video program called, Get Your Ex Back: Super System devotes 2-3 hours of video training to make sure that you are 100% confident and emotionally strong, so that when you do call or see your ex, she feels attracted to you and respects you, rather than feeling repelled by you.
Her renewed attraction and respect for you is so important.
If you call or meet up with your ex and she feels turned OFF by you, rather than feeling attracted and a little bit turned on, then you are pushing her away.
You have got to draw her into you and make her WANT to see you in person. When you see her in person, you have to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and sexual attraction for you.
3. Understand What She Really Wants You to Change About Yourself
When a woman breaks up with a guy, she will rarely tell him the real reasons she is doing it. Why? For most of human history (and even to this day), women have been hurt and even killed for breaking up with a guy.
Women have a natural instinct to let a guy down as softly as possible and give him a feeling of hope that if he just keeps his distance, she may change her mind.
For example, she might say, “I need space for a while” or “Maybe we will get back together again in future” or “Give me a chance to think about it. Don’t contact me for a month. We’ll talk again then.”
In the meantime, she will quickly try to find another man who can protect her or she will at least try to kiss or have sex with another guy to get you out of her mind.
To get an ex back, you need to discover the real reasons why she has broken up with you and then make the correct changes to your behavior, conversation style and how you treat her.
If you are interested to learn exactly how to make those changes right now, I recommend that you watch Get Your Ex Back: Super System. When you watch my program, you will learn exactly what you need to say and do to prove to her that you’ve changed.
When you know the real reasons why your ex broke up with you, you can make the correct changes that will then make her feel understood and happy to be interacting with you again.
On the other hand, if you don’t know exactly what she really wants to change, you will most likely be offering the wrong things to her during conversation.
For example: A woman might want her ex to be more of a man around her, but he is saying, “I promise that I will treat you better. I will do anything” which isn’t what she actually wants from him.
You’ve got to be offering her what she really wants, not what you think she might want.
If you are trying to get her back with the wrong reasoning, she will feel as though you don’t understand her and it will make her feel even more repelled by you.
4. Fix Your Issues and Improve Yourself
To get an ex back, you can’t say to her that you WILL change. You actually have to make the changes and then let her see that either in person, via your online presence on social media sites (Facebook, Instagram, etc) or apps (Whatsapp) or use the text messages that I provide with my Get Your Ex Back: Super System to convince her to get on a phone call with you.
It doesn’t matter if she’s blocked you from Facebook or if either or you don’t use social media; simply get in contact with her either via e-mail or text message using the examples I provide.
If she isn’t responding to you now, it’s because you are sending the wrong type of messages to her. You’ve got to send her a message that makes her feel understood and gives her the impression that you’ve already changed the things about yourself that she broke up with you for.
A woman who lacks experience with relationships or who can’t find herself another guy, will sometimes miss her ex and give him another chance even though he hasn’t changed anything about himself. Yet, she will then dump him once again when she realizes her mistake.
On the other hand, a woman who has a lot of experience with relationships or who has other guys interested (or already hooking up with her), will rarely, if ever, give an ex another real chance unless he changes things about himself that caused her to break up with him.
5. Don’t See Any Other Guys as Competition
Women are not attracted to insecure jealousy, so no matter how much she tries to make you jealous or how insecure you feel (e.g. because she’s already with another guy or interested in another guy), you cannot show that at all.
Women are attracted to confidence and turned off by insecurity. You have to know that you are better than any other guy she could meet.
Your ex then has to see that or hear it in your voice when you talk to her. She has to get the sense that other guys do not make you feel insecure. They are nothing compared to you.
If you don’t have that type of confidence in yourself, then let me give you that confidence as you go through my proven to work program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System. I’ve already helped thousands of guys to get their ex back and I would be honored to help you too.
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So I’ve had varied success with women over the years. I’ve had drop dead gorgeo us girlfriend’s that all my guy friends and myself couldn’t believe how I pulled it off. I’ve also had some sex no strings with a bunch of girls as well. I’ve also had the dreaded drought where it seems all your previous success with women counts for nothing and you slowly begin to grow more desperate and it’s as if you forgot how to talk to women in a way that’s exciting and attracting.
Well I went through a period of unemployment and really low self confidence and depression in general so at that low point I had all but stopped trying with women. That was a couple months ago and thank God I was able to land a really sweet job and start to turn things around, I kind of thought as my career turned for the better, so would my success with women and a social life as well, but it has been a very slow process to say the least. I had gone on 1 date with another gorgeous girl that I couldn’t believe I got but on the date the connection was mixed, at some points she seemed really into me, and at others I could slowly feel her losing interest.
I know from previous successes with women I was very confident and I know ultimately that is the reason why I got there, not anything material just good old fashioned confidence. But when you’re feeling low and insecure it’s hard to simply be confident even though you know that’s the solution to pretty much any problem especially with women. Well after trying to get “it” back on my own to no avail I turned to the Internet and came across the modern man. I loved that the whole foundation of this program is based around you first, and then naturally women respond to it, didn’t seem like a bs gimmick to pick up girls using sleasy tactics and generalized advice.
I purchased the flow this past weekend and it blew my mind when I started reading, because it confirmed all the times I was successful with women in the past and it showed me how and why, as opposed to having it all come together randomly. Anyway I have to say as I started reading I became inspired and after reading 40 or so pages I said fuck it let’s give this a try in the real world. A buddy of mine invited me out for drinks in Philly, and as I had been that whole day I really practiced and drilled into my head some of the key points I had just read.
Shoulders back chest out relaxed peaceful thoughts, and turning those into powerful confidence boosting thoughts about myself. Also applying the [Edited: Removed reference to important technique from The Flow], and then making a promise to myself that given an attractive girl came my way I was going to use the flow to initiate a conversation that would lead to a number at the very least.
So I’m on the train en route to meet my buddy in Philly and this cute girl is on the same train car as me at the opposite end facing me. I’m staying relaxed, thinking positive thoughts about how bad this girl wants me, we exchange glances a few times I’m keeping eye contact until she looks away first and it’s all setting up very nicely. Now I know I have to make my approach, and I’m determined to do it, don’t need a reason to get out of my chair and sit next to this girl, she’s fine and I want her good enough right?
So I make my way over and ask casually if anyone is sitting in the seat across from her, she says no and I sit down calmly, continuing to control my emotions and peacefully occupy the space that is very close in proximity to hers. Well a group of guys are sitting in the seats across the aisle from us drinking some beers on the train, we are probably about 5 minutes away from our destination and they have an extra beer that they determine will not be able to be finished before we arrived, so they were contemplating throwing it out, when one of the friends says no don’t throw it out we can give it to a homeless guy or something, so I completely jumped at the opportunity to use humor and get a free fuckin beer out of the deal and I say in a very cheeky manner, hey I’m homeless pass that beer over here haha and the whole section including my primary interest erupts in spontaneous laughter and the flood gates of socializing were opened, now we have a nice group conversation brewing between these guys this girl next to me, myself, and another girl sitting behind me.
The conversation turns to what school this girl goes to via the other guys with across the aisle which eventually comes to nothing, so I step right in ask what she studies and she said nursing, and I made and a light hearted observation that literally every girl I ask that question to responds with nursing or teaching with a smile on my face and she responds with some chuckling. So I ask her if she’s gotten any experience in the field yet and she said she did at so and so hospital and I ask her if she let anyone die on her watch and she totally eats it up and starts laughing (I didn’t even think it was that funny) anyway super long story short we pull into our stop and we’re all getting off starting to go our own way and she asks me so what are you doing now?
And I told her meeting up with my friend, and I asked what about you, and naturally she had to study. So I pull out my phone and say here why don’t I take your number and we can meet up for a drink sometime, I also noted that I never do this but she seemed real cool, and she’s like no you’re fine you’re not creepy haha. So I get her number we day good bye and we go our separate ways. Now here is my question, I texted her that night letting her know it was me and for her not to be a stranger even though she was like 2 hrs ago, which got a response.
Now we didn’t text much but basically she was telling me she was jealous cuz we were out drinking and she had to stay in studying. And I responded with don’t worry cuz she would be out getting drinks with me soon enough which got no reply lol so did I fuck up? This was about 2 days ago I haven’t texted or called her since, but I don’t want to n let to much time pass before I ask her out, but at the same time her no reply has me a little apprehensive as to my next move. I know I shouldn’t let this shit affect my move but I’m a little stuck. Sorry for the novel, and thank you for helping me start a new exciting chapter of my life, can’t wait to come back with another story of how I fucked this girl lol
Thanks for sharing your success so far! Great to hear.
Sorry about the delay in replying. I’m catching up on comments now (343 waiting) after spending a few days making this video and typing up the massive article: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-make-a-woman-feel-intense-attraction-for-you.html
About your question: Don’t worry – you haven’t stuffed it up. What you need to do though is call her and say hello. I know she is busy with study, but texting sucks in these cases because she can’t hear your confidence coming through the phone and can’t feel attracted to the humor you’d be using. You’ve got to call her up and say hi.
You also don’t need to hint at having dates and hope that she says yes. Always try to avoid hinting at or asking for dates via text. Many girls hate that because it usually comes from guys who are either too chicken to call and lead the way or guys who were just happy to get her number and text for a while until she suggests a date. Call and say hi. Don’t even expect to set up a date. Just call and make her feel more attracted to you and things will happen naturally.
BTW: Watch this to understand why you haven’t stuffed up with her: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/how-to-recover-from-a-bad-first-impression-youve-made-on-a-woman.html
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