If your ex-girlfriend has moved on, it doesn’t mean that she won’t ever be able to feel respect, attraction and love for you once again.
Right now, she might feel as though her life is great with the new guy, but it doesn’t mean that her feelings for him will remain the same for long…especially when you start to use some of my attraction techniques and methods.
7 Important Tips For Getting an Ex-Girlfriend Back When She Has Moved On
To get an ex girlfriend back who has moved on, you need to stop making mistakes that will turn her off and start doing things that will attract her to you and cause her to want to leave the new guy.
Here are 7 tips to help you do that…
1. Don’t let her treat you like “just a friend” via text.
If your ex-girlfriend has moved on with another guy, don’t give her the privilege of chatting to you as a friend via text.
It’s fine to text her as long as you use every text as an opportunity to make her feel some respect and attraction for you (e.g. showing emotional strength will make her respect you, making her laugh and smile will make her feel some attraction for you).
If you allow your ex to chat with you in a non-sexual, non-romantic, non-boyfriend/girlfriend way via text whenever she wants, you are simply helping her to feel good about herself as she moves on with the new guy.
She will realize that despite hooking up with a new guy, you are still keen to text back and forth whenever she wants to, even though there is nothing sexual, romantic or boyfriend/girlfriend about the texts.
This will then cause her to some lose respect for you (i.e. because you’re eager to chat to her and give her what she wants, even though she isn’t giving what you want), which will then make you seem less attractive in her eyes.
If you are texting back and forth with her, make sure that you actively make her feel attracted and respectful of you, rather than just acting like an innocent friend or an ex-boyfriend who doesn’t deserve her.
If you act like you don’t deserve her, she simply won’t be able to respect you.
When a woman doesn’t fully respect a guy, she will always find it very difficult to maintain any feelings of attraction for him. So, first and foremost, you must think, behave and take action in ways that make her feel respect for you.
In some ex back cases where a woman hates her ex boyfriend, the only time he should be texting her is to get her on a phone call, so he can then make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction and get her to agree to meet up with him in person.
If you don’t meet up with your ex-girlfriend in person, she’s not going to be able to properly experience the new and improved version of you, so she won’t feel enough respect and attraction for you to want to seriously reconsider her decision.
2. Make her new guy seem less attractive and appealing compared to you.
Making the new guy seem less attractive and appealing compared to you can be done on the phone, in person or via social media.
When you talk to her on the phone, you need to get her laughing and smiling as she experiences the new, more confident and charismatic version of yourself.
In person, you should apologize for your mistakes, get her to forgive you and respect you again and then switch into making her feel attracted to you (e.g. getting her laughing, making her feel attracted to your newfound confidence and charisma, etc).
On social media, you can show her that you’re now living a much more interesting lifestyle than you were before by posting up photos of you having a great time without her.
Some guys live a really interesting lifestyle already, but they never get around to taking photos and posting them on social media.
Other guys don’t live a very interesting lifestyle, so they need to break out of their usual routine to do some new and interesting things that will capture the attention of their ex-girlfriend.
Of course, in many ex back cases, an ex-girlfriend will have blocked or unfriended her boyfriend on Facebook and other social media sites, but there are easy ways to fix that.
In my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System I provide tested examples of what to text an ex, send via e-mail or say on the phone to get her to unblock you from social media and begin communicating with you again.
Whether you talk to her on the phone, see her in person or can only get her to look at you and your life via social media, the main thing that you need to is begin to trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
If her new guy gets the sense that she is thinking positively about you, it may cause him to become a bit insecure (e.g. he might try to stop her from talking to you or seeing you), which will then make you seem more attractive. Why?
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength of men and turned off by the weakness. So, if your ex-girlfriend notices that now seem much emotionally stronger than her new guy, she will naturally begin to feel attracted to you again.
She won’t be able to stop herself from feeling that way, even if she really hates you at the moment. When you trigger a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for you, she naturally begins to change how she feels, even if it’s only slightly to begin with.
3. Don’t try to change her mind with logic.
A mistake that some guys make when trying to get an ex-girlfriend back, is to attempt to convince her that things have really changed now and the relationship would be so much better if she would just change her mind and decide to give it another chance.
From a guy’s perspective, what he is saying makes logical sense when he sincerely explains to his ex-girlfriend that he has changed and would be able to make her feel so much happier than before.
It makes logical sense, but it isn’t what actually works to get an ex-girlfriend back, especially if she has already moved on.
To get her back for real, you have to make her feel a combination of painful and positive emotions that will cause her to want to change her mind on her own.
When you trigger the right mix of emotions (e.g. respect, attraction, regret, envy, etc – there are many other enticing emotions that you can trigger inside of her), she will naturally begin to feel drawn to you and will then begin to reconsider her decision.
You can make her feel the combination of painful and positive emotions on the phone or at a meet up, but you can’t do it via text and you can’t do it by having logical discussions with her about how convinced you are that you could make the relationship work this time.
4. Don’t cause more damage to her feelings for you by being an insecure ex.
Getting broken up with by the woman that you love really sucks.
However, despite how much pain you might be in, you’ve got to make sure that you’re not making things worse by being insecure when you interact with her via text, on the phone, online and in person.
Sometimes, a guy will make the mistake of drowning himself in all the negative, painful emotions related to his ex-girlfriend dumping him and then moving on with another guy.
He’s been left behind and is now feeling hurt, lost and vulnerable in the world without her. When he was with her, it was so much easier to feel confident and happy, but now he feels like a part of him is missing.
You can’t blame a guy for feeling that way, but if you are serious about getting your ex-girlfriend back, you must get yourself out of that weak emotional state and into a strong emotional state.
As you know by reading through this article so far, women are attracted to the emotional strength of men and turned off by the weakness. So, any interaction that a woman has with her ex-boyfriend where he displays type of insecurity, is simply going to make her new guy seem more attractive and appealing in contrast to him.
5. Get to the point where you feel sorry for her because she’s missing out on being with you.
One of the secrets of how to get an ex girlfriend back when she is moved on is to get to the point where you genuinely feel sorry for her because she’s not with you.
Ironically, this is actually how a woman wants you to think and feel about yourself anyway. She wants you to have that type of confidence in your attractiveness and appeal to her.
She might not ever admit that to you, but a guy having unquestioned confidence in his attractiveness and appeal is a massive turn on for women.
As explained earlier, women are attracted to the emotional strength of men and turned off by the weakness.
So, if you are confident and self-assured about your value, attractiveness and appeal to her, she will naturally find you more attractive and appealing than if you were to doubt yourself and feel unworthy of her love, attention and affection.
Even if you don’t fix or improve anything about yourself other than believing in your attractiveness and appealing, your ex-girlfriend will feel much more respect and attraction for you as a result.
She might test your confidence in yourself by saying harsh things like, “I feel nothing for you anymore” but you have to remain strong and believe in yourself.
Your ex-girlfriend is not going to want to feel as though she is doing you a favor by getting back with you, especially if she’s moved on with a new guy.
She’s going to need to see that the other guy doesn’t make you feel insecure. In fact, you don’t even waste a single moment thinking about him. He is nothing compared to you.
You are better than him and you don’t even need to do anything to prove it, other than believe in yourself and know that no matter what, you are the man.
If you don’t know how to have a high level of confidence in your value, attractiveness and appeal to your ex-girlfriend, it is one of the many things that I will give you when you go through my advanced training program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
This is such an important point that I am going to talk about it more in the next section, just to make sure you get it really clear in your head…
6. Don’t look at the new guy as being better than you.
Here’s the thing…
Right now, your ex-girlfriend might be saying that she is happy now and that he is treating her well, but in most cases, the new guy will usually just be filling in the emotional gaps that you left open.
For example: If a woman breaks up with a guy who is insecure, she is usually going to feel much happier with a guy who is less insecure than her ex. Makes sense, right?
Yet, it doesn’t mean that the new guy has bulletproof confidence and will be able to maintain her attraction for life, but in contrast to how her ex-boyfriend made her feel near the end of the relationship, the new guy currently seems like a better option.
Don’t worry about him though.
He’s nothing compared to you.
You know that you’re a good guy and that you have grown, matured and become an even more amazing guy as a result of this break up.
As for him, he has no guarantee that your girlfriend is going to stay with him.
For example: According to various studies and government statistics in Western countries, here are some approximate statistics.
- Approximately 50% of marriages will end in divorce.
- Approximately 85% of dating relationships will break up.
- Approximately 65% of rebound relationships (the relationship your ex-girlfriend is now in) will end within 6 months.
So, while it is possible that she may stay with her new guy for life (that would suck), it’s also possible that she won’t.
After successfully helping 100s of guys to get an ex-girlfriend, fiancé or wife back, I’ve found that it’s usually possible to get an ex-girlfriend to leave her new guy within a couple of weeks to a couple of months.
Sometimes it happens earlier, but based on all of my vast experience, I’ve found that approximately 20% of guys are able to get their ex-girlfriend to leave the new guy within 2 weeks and 80% of guys are able to get it done within 2 weeks to 2 months.
In other words, you might get her back immediately or it might take a couple of months, but the chances are very if you are willing to do what is required.
What is required?
You’ve got to learn from your mistakes and bounce back with an improved ability to make her feel respect, attraction and love for you.
The better you are at making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you when you interact with her, the faster she will reconnect with her feelings of love for you and reconsider getting back together again.
7. Realize that her feelings for you can change.
Luckily for you, human emotional states are not permanent.
Your ex-girlfriend might hate you right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t change how she feels this week or next.
For example: Have you ever hated or disliked a person, but when they changed how they spoke to you and interacted with you, your feelings towards them changed fairly quickly?
You might have gone from hating that person to liking them, or from disliking them to being best friends with them.
You might have also had a similar situation with a woman that you initially didn’t like or feel attracted to, but she then grew on you over time and you ended up really liking her or even loving her.
That’s how human emotions work.
Human emotions are flexible and open to change.
When you present your ex-girlfriend with a more attractive and appealing version of yourself while talking to her on the phone and in person, she will naturally change the way that she feels about you.
I’ve already helped 100s of guys to successfully get an ex-girlfriend, fiancé or wife back and I would love to help you too.
If you want follow a step-by-step system that will make her leave the new guy and come back to you, I recommend that you watch my advanced training program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System