If you’re looking for proven ways to get your ex back, you’re going to come across a lot of different opinions.
For example: Some people will say, “Forget about it. Just cut your losses and find another woman. Once a relationship breaks up, there’s no going back.”
Other people will say, “Sure you can get an ex back, but it’s going to take a long, long time before it happens. You will have to give in to all of her demands like giving her space, apologize over and over again and be patient while you hope that she changes her mind one day.”
Others will say, “Ignore her by using the No Contact Rule and wait for her to come running back. If she doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to be.”
In other words, most people have no idea what to do and are simply giving their random opinion based on very little experience or knowledge on the topic.
99% of people who give advice on this topic have not personally helped 100s of guys to successfully get a woman back, so from their perspective, it’s either impossible or too complicated to deal with.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Statistically speak, almost 50% of couples who break up get back together again. So, not only is it possible to get an ex back, it’s also very common.
Watch this video to understand why it’s possible to get an ex back and how you should approach it from this point onwards…
As you will discover from the video above, you can get your ex back if you start to make her feel the kind of love, respect and attraction for you that will make her want to give the relationship another chance.
If the current way that you are interacting with your ex is turning her off, then you need to change that. You need to start interacting with her in a way that makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
That is what counts.
Based on the 100s of cases that I have personally helped guys with, I’ve found that even an angry woman who is saying, “Leave me alone! I never want to see you again” can calm down and become more open to at least talking to her ex within a few days, or after a couple of weeks.
Depending on how badly he has messed up, a guy can usually get an ex to agree to a meet up with him right away or within a week.
Then, at the meet up, he can get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
So, if you’re looking for proven ways to get your ex back, you need to understand that to get her back for real, you have to be able to make her feel renewed respect and attraction for you as a man.
When you get her to feel that way (on a phone call or in person), she will then be more willing to open herself up to loving you again.
So, how can you get her to feel that way? You have to approach it step by step…
Step 1. Understand What Really Caused Her to Break Up With You
Your ex is now your ex for a reason (or for a number of reasons).
Certain things happened in your relationship to cause her to stop feeling enough respect, attraction and love for you to justify staying together.
To re-spark her old feelings for you, the first thing you need to do is truly understand what caused her to disconnect with those feelings.
Watch this video to understand the 3-step process that a woman usually goes through before breaking up with a guy…
As you will discover from the video above, there are many reasons why a woman can lose respect and attraction for her man.
Can you relate to any of the mistakes that are mentioned in the video? If so, then you need to make sure that you fix those things about yourself, before attempting to fully get her back.
If your ex notices (via your body language, conversation style, attitude, actions, vibe and behavior) that you actually haven’t changed much at all, she’s not going to be excited and eager to get back with you anytime soon.
Of course, not everything that goes wrong in a relationship is always the guy’s fault, so unless he did very specific things that caused her to lose respect for him (e.g. cheated on her, belittled and criticized her, abused her, etc), he may not be sure what caused her to want to break up with him.
Although some women will tell a guy exactly why they want to break up, most women (not all) would rather give him a vague excuse like, “I think we need some time apart,” or “I just don’t feel the same way about you anymore,” rather than say exactly what has caused them to stop wanting to be in a relationship with him.
Why do women do that?
Women don’t want to be a man’s teacher and be responsible for constantly teaching him how to understand her and be the kind of man she needs him to be.
In most cases, a woman will feel that she’s already given him many signs along the way (e.g. being distant, throwing tantrums, telling him that she is tired of how he treats her or turned off by how he is acting lately, etc), to let him know that certain of his attitudes and behaviors have been making her lose respect and attraction for him.
Unfortunately, in most cases, guys either miss the signs completely, or they end up writing it off to her just being a “moody woman.”
To get your ex back, you need to go through a process with her of quickly rebuilding her respect, attraction and love for you…and the only way you can truly do that is to fully understand what caused her to break up with you in the first place.
For example: Here are some classic mistakes that guys make in relationships.
1. Taking her for granted
What often happens in relationships is that once the initial thrill of the being with someone new wears off, a couple ends up settling into a boring routine.
For example: Where previously a guy would compliment his woman often on her sexiness, he now begins to take it for granted. He will assume that he’s told her enough times, so she doesn’t need to hear it anymore.
If his woman once commented on how romantic it was to spend the night at home cuddling on the couch, he now takes it for granted that she wants to do that all the time (or that it’s enough to keep her happy) and stops taking her out.
2. Giving her too much power in the relationship
Often, guys who feel they got lucky in scoring with their girlfriend (fiancé or wife), will secretly fear losing her if she realizes that she’s settled for a guy who probably doesn’t deserve her.
With that kind of insecure mindset, a guy will often let his woman have her way all the time. He will hope that by allowing her to have all the control in the relationship it will make her happy…and if she’s happy, she won’t break up with him.
When she eventually does break up with him, a guy like this can’t understand what has happened. He has been so good to her all along, but she now wants to leave him because she’s unhappy.
What he doesn’t understand is that women are attracted to men who are strong enough to take the lead in the relationship, no matter how much she tries to challenge his power and dominance.
If a woman has to “be the man” in a relationship, it means that she cannot truly relax and be the feminine, girly woman that she wants to be.
Step 2. Fix Your Emotional Issues Now, Not Later
To get an ex back, a guy usually can’t just keep saying that he WILL change and improve if she gives him another chance.
Some women will accept that once or twice, but after a while, she will get sick of putting up with a guy who isn’t yet capable of being the type of emotionally strong man that she needs, so she will dump him and try to move on.
He might plead with her and say that he is serious this time and will change, but unless she can see that he actually knows what to change and how to do it, she’s usually going to be at the point where she is unwilling to give him another chance right away.
To get an ex back for real, you usually have to first make the changes to your behavior and attitude that have been turning her off and then let her experience these changes, either in person, over the phone, or via your online presence on social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, etc.
She needs to be able to see for herself that you have fixed the emotional issues you have that were turning her off (e.g. insecurity, emotional sensitivity, etc) and that you really have improved and changed.
You don’t have to fully fix everything and become 100% perfect to get an back, but you do need to start working on your emotional issues, so that the next time she interacts with you she will sense that something really has changed.
She will hear it in your voice and she’ll pick it up in your body language and she will begin thinking, “I don’t know what it is, but something about him is really different…and I like it.”
If you try to get an ex back without actually fixing or improving anything about yourself, and are just looking for those “easy” proven ways to get your ex back that don’t involve any work on your part (e.g. buying her flowers and expensive presents, writing her long love letters and making promises that things will be different this time, using the No Contact Rule, etc), then you might get some attention from her, but it won’t fix the real problems between you and her.
When the ex that nothing has really changed and that the same behaviors and attitudes that were turning her off are still there, she isn’t going to want to stick around for long.
She might string her ex along for a while, but she will be actively trying to find herself a replacement guy, so she can make a cleaner break this time.
You Can Get Your Ex Back
If you’re looking for proven ways to get your ex back, one of the most important things to understand is that human emotions can and do change.
If your ex felt love, respect and attraction for you in the past, then she can feel these emotions again today or tomorrow.
Just because, she may be saying, “I just don’t love you anymore” right now, it doesn’t mean she won’t be able to reconnect with that love when you change the way that you make her feel when you interact with her.
When you present your ex with an improved version of yourself (i.e. emotionally stronger, more able to make her feel respect and attraction for you, etc), she will naturally begin to think and feel differently about you.
If you really want to get your ex back, you have to understand that you can make her feel differently about you.
You need to start talking to her (on the phone or in person) in ways that get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
For example: If a guy is talking to his ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) and is being insecure, emotionally sensitive and clingy, then she isn’t going to be feeling respect or attraction for him.
However, if he can get her on a phone call or meet up with her in person and get her laughing and feeling good around him, she is going to relax and open up to feeling attracted to other traits that he is also displaying (e.g. confidence, charisma, emotional masculinity, etc).
So, if you’re looking for proven ways to get your ex back, make sure that you don’t waste time trying to with lame tricks like the No Contact Rule or by hiding behind endless text messages.
The real, proven way to get your ex back is to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you on the phone and in person.
When she sees that you are capable of making her feel that way, she will naturally begin to open herself back up to being with you.