Would you describe your girlfriend as being moody?
Does she go from being in a good mood with you, to being a bitch or throwing a tantrum as though she hates you and you’re the worst boyfriend on Earth?
Does she sometimes appear happy about something that you’ve done, only to be unhappy about it when you do it on another day?
If your girlfriend is moody and seems to love you one minute and then hate you the next, the good news is that it is NORMAL. Why?
Women Enjoy Being Emotional
The majority of women are feminine beings who love to get caught in their emotions and become dramatic about things, whereas the majority of men are masculine beings who prefer to be in control of their emotions and be logical and serious about things.
Women like to throw tantrums and be moody around their man because it is their way of testing to see how much of a man he is. If he can laugh at her or the situation and not become overly-emotional about it, he is showing her that he is a strong, masculine man who isn’t going to be thrown off course by a woman.
…and guess what?
That makes her feel more respect and attraction for him. The more respect and attraction that a woman feels for you, the more deeply she falls in love with you. She loves that fact that no matter what she says or does, you remain strong and masculine.
Part of being successful at picking up women and keeping a relationship together is understanding that women enjoy being emotional and they love to test men. They don’t want to be rational, logical and masculine like us men; they want to be women.
This is why women love romantic movies that will make them cry and why women can talk on the phone for hours about the “drama” that is going on between their friends. They love it. It’s exciting for women to just talk, rant and be dramatic about pointless things.
It makes them feel feminine, which is a good thing.
The more feminine and girly your woman feels with you, the more sexually available she will be. However, if you are constantly trying to get her to stop being moody and be more like a man, her sexual desire will quickly die away.
You’ve got to let women be women, while also ensuring that you be the masculine man that she needs you to be.
Masculine men don’t waste time gossiping about others on the phone like a girl and they don’t get angry, annoyed or emotional when a woman tests them.
Masculine men are focussed, driven and on a mission. They spend the majority of their time making things happen (e.g. building a career, arranging to meet up with friends in person, following through on life purpose goals, fixing things, etc), rather than going around in emotional circles like a girl.
She Doesn’t Want You to “Fix” Her
When a man has a problem, he will either discuss it with others to work out a solution or he will come up with a solution on his own, fix it and then get on with life.
However, when a feminine woman has a problem and discusses it with her man, she doesn’t actually want him to offer solutions or fix it for her. In most cases, she just wants to talk about how she feels about it.
Most women are intelligent and aware enough to come up with perfectly good solutions on their own, so they don’t need men to tell them what to do. When your girlfriend brings up a problem that she is having, she usually just wants you to listen to her rant on about it.
She doesn’t want you to fix it.
It might seem weird to some men that most women simply want to talk about how they feel about a problem, rather than fixing it, but that is women for you. It’s just the way that most women are – they enjoy getting all emotional about things.
As a man, you might prefer to only discuss problems in a logical, problem-solving manner and might not see the need to get all emotional about it. If that’s the case, then you are a very masculine man (a good thing).
Yet, make sure that you don’t ever expect the same approach to life from your girlfriend. If you try to get her to behave like a man, she will lose touch with her femininity around you and thus will lose touch with her sexual attraction to you.
How to React to Your Girlfriend’s Mood Swings
One of the keys to successfully maintaining the attraction of a woman and keeping the spark alive in a relationship is to mix it up.
Don’t always respond or react in the same way every time she gets into a bad mood, throws a tantrum or starts an unnecessary argument. Here are 9 ways to handle or deal with her mood swings:
- Laugh at her.
- Tickle her.
- Pretend to get angry at her. When you see that she is shocked, laugh and then either walk off, smack her on the ass or just stand there looking at her with a smile.
- Walk out of the room without saying a word or showing any emotion. She’ll likely follow you and demand a response, to which you can then laugh at her.
- Wrestle her to the ground and then kiss her all over.
- Change the subject to something completely random and off topic.
- Pretend that she is boring you and say, “Yaaaaawn…you finished?”
- Scream louder than her and then start singing or laughing.
- Pretend that you’re upset and act like you’re seeking pity.
When a woman throws a tantrum, has a mood swing or starts an unnecessary argument, what she is almost always hoping to experience is the full variety of your personality in response.
While we men tend to like things to be sensible, rational, logical and functional, women like to mess up the flow. She wants to see if you have the masculinity to remain in control of who you are, while also allowing her to be a woman.
Moody by Nature
Women are affected by hormonal cycles (i.e. their period, ovulation, etc) that can lead to mood swings.
Getting to grips with your girlfriend’s moodiness doesn’t mean that you have to understand her by getting more in touch with your feminine side. Instead, it’s about accepting the fact that she’s a woman and that you are a man. When you can do that, it takes a lot of the stress out of being in a relationship.
The thing is, your girlfriend experiences life differently to you and she likely always will, but you don’t need to understand her every thought to be able to “understand” her. Understanding your girlfriend’s mood swings means simply accepting that she won’t always respond to everyday challenges the same way as you do – and that’s okay.
She is a woman and you are a man – accept that and love her for it. She will be more temperamental than you and that is okay. She will likely be more difficult to talk to during an argument because she will become overly emotional and irrational and that’s okay.
Let her be moody and let her be a dramatic woman if she wants to. Love her for it. Laugh about it. Smack her on the ass for it. Smile when she is moody and she will love you for it.
You can’t stop a woman from being moody and you can’t tell her to stop being up one minute and down the next, just like she can’t tell you to stop being such a man.
Imagine if she told you that she wanted you to be moody, cry like her, care a lot more about shoes and make up and have more of a desire to talk about all the “drama” going on between your friends.
You’d likely tell her she was crazy for wanting you to be more like a woman. Likewise, she will think the same of you if you can’t allow her to be a woman and are expecting her to be more like a man.