The main reason why some women act crazy during their period is because of the changes that occur to their hormone levels at this time.
Basically, when a woman’s progesterone levels drop too quickly before menstruation, she experiences something called Pre Menstrual Syndrome (PMS), which then impacts her mood during.
This may cause her to behave in ways that are uncharacteristic to her normal behavior (e.g. she becomes overly emotional and cries for no apparent reason, is irritable, gets really annoyed over seemingly insignificant things, experiences mood swings, feels depressed, anxious).
According to the National Association for Pre-Menstrual Syndrome, 90% of women suffer from PMS, with up to 10% seriously affected, so chances are that, as long as you’re in a relationship with a woman, once a month she will probably act a little bit crazier than usual.
The best way to handle her mood change is to love her and laugh at her.
Love Her and Laugh at Her
When your woman gets really emotionally and acts weird during her period, just love her and accept that she is experiencing hormonal changes.
Don’t get angry at her or take it personally. She can’t turn her hormonal changes off, so you are either going to love her for who she is, or get annoyed when she changes once a month and have unnecessary fights and arguments.
The other part of Love Her and Laugh at her is to laugh at her.
So, rather than taking everything that she says or does so seriously, just laugh at her and the situation.
If she is getting angry for no good reason, laugh and say something like, “You look funny when you get angry.”
If she is threatening to hurt you or hit you, just laugh and say, “Oooh, you’re a little tough girl now. Oooh, how scary. Let me feel your muscles. Wow, you’re tough” and laugh at her and the situation.
If she is going crazy and throwing a tantrum, start laugh and take out your phone and say, “I’m going to record this and post it on Youtube. I’ll call it Crazy Girlfriend Throws a Funny Tantrum.”
The whole point of laughing is to take away the seriousness of the crazy, angry behavior and bring the interaction back to love.
If you want your relationship to last a lifetime, you as the man need to be the more emotional strong one who has the ability to bring interactions back to love.
Most guys can’t do that, so when you are the guy who can, a woman loves and appreciates you in a way that makes her want to stick with you no matter what.
Period or Not, Women Are Emotional Beings
The more feminine and girly a woman is, the more likely it is that she gets emotional while on her period or not.
For example: A woman might be the boss at her work where she is always serious and in control of her emotions.
Yet, when she comes home at night, she might break down and cry because she had a stressful day at work, or she might blow up at her boyfriend (or husband) for something completely irrelevant; simply because she’s feeling moody and emotional.
For many guys, this type of behavior comes across as being crazy, because that’s not how men behave.
Unlike a woman who will pick a fight with her man for no apparent reason, a loving, masculine man won’t take out his bad mood on his woman.
A feminine or insecure man will, but a loving, masculine man won’t.
A loving, masculine man will generally keep his emotions in check, and if he had a bad day at work, he will get over it immediately because unlike a feminine-minded man who wants to whine, bitch and moan, a masculine man doesn’t feel the need to.
If he can’t get over it on his own, he might go to the gym, go for a run, wash his car, or do something else that will help him to work off some steam and relax.
That way, when he interacts with his woman, he can have a positive, loving, fulfilling interaction with her, rather than taking out his negative emotions on her and ruining her respect for him in the process.
A masculine man knows that men and women are different and he doesn’t expect a woman to think, talk, feel and act rationally like a man.
He knows that his sexual attraction for her exists because she is a woman and if she were to think, talk, feel, behave and act like a man, they would both begin to lose interest in having sex with each other.
So, if you find yourself getting frustrated every time your girlfriend (fiancé or wife) gets emotional and starts to act crazy (especially during her period), it could be because you’re making the mistake of wanting her to behave more like a man (e.g. be in control of her emotions, be logical and serious like you are).
Let Her Be a Woman and She Will Love You For it
The majority of women are feminine beings and getting emotional is not only natural to them, it’s also a way for them to test how much of a man their guy really is.
For example: Sometimes, when a woman throws a tantrum, is moody, or bursts into tears over nothing around her man, a guy can easily get caught up in her drama and become angry at her, shout and get upset, storm off in a bad mood, or even cry and beg her to forgive him for whatever it is that she is blaming him for.
When he reacts in this way, rather than actually make her stop her bad behavior, she actually becomes even more moody and she may even stop wanting to have sex with him. Why?
If he loses his cool and becomes emotional (like a woman), she can no longer relax into her feminine self around him because he’s clearly not a masculine man, and as a result, she begins to lose respect for him.
The more respect a woman loses for her man, the less sexual attraction she feels for him and all that leads to her losing interest in sex and intimacy.
This is the main reason why, no matter how crazy a woman acts during her period, or at any other time, you have to remain calm and simply accept that she won’t always behave in a rational way like you do – and that’s okay.
She’s a woman and you’re a man.
Accept it and love her for who she is, rather than trying to get her to be more manly like you, where she remains in control of her emotions and acts sensibly all the time.
Could Her Tantrums and Tears During Her Period Be Caused By a Deeper Problem in Your Relationship?
Although a woman experiences hormonal changes before her period that she has no control over, the truth is that she won’t go completely crazy if her relationship is going well.
For example: A woman might get annoyed if her man forgets to put the cap back on the toothpaste, and she might even say, “Why do you always do that? It drives me crazy!”
Yet, small things like that aren’t going to make her want to break up with him.
It’s only when there are deeper problems in the relationship (e.g. she feels taken for granted, her guy is clingy or insecure, he doesn’t have any goals or ambitions) that make most women want to leave.
If there are deeper problems in your relationship, you will find that when she is pre-menstrual, she focuses on the negatives and begins to treat you badly as a result.
When the problems don’t go away, she will then begin to question whether she wants to be stuck in a relationship with a guy who takes her for granted, is going nowhere in his life, or who is constantly insecure and self-doubting.
Using the example of the toothpaste above, that small irritation can turn into an opportunity for her to attack a deeper character flaw in her man.
Instead of her just getting annoyed and forgetting about it, she might react by saying things like, “You’re so unreliable. You never do anything right,” or “You always expect me to pick up after you. I’m not your damn maid you know!?”
In reality, what she could be is saying is, “You never follow through on anything. You are not a man of your word,” or “I feel like you are taking me for granted in this relationship.”
While she might be able to forgive her guy when she’s not feeling hormonal, during her period, she will experience the problems in the relationship full force.
So, if your woman acts crazy during her period, it is possible that there are certain issues that are not being dealt with in your relationship.
- Have her and I been dealing with issues in the relationship as they crop up, or have we been sweeping our problems under the carpet?
- Have I been a man of my word, or have I been making promises to her that I haven’t kept?
- Have I made her feel loved and appreciated in the relationship, or have I been taking her for granted?
- Do we have similar goals and dreams that we are working towards as a couple, or are we aiming for different things in life in the long run?
- Do I have interests and friends outside of the relationship, or have I made my woman the main focus in my life?
- Am I the man in the relationship, or is she wearing the pants?
By answering these questions, you will be able to determine whether your woman acting crazy during her period is hormonal, or if there are deeper, more serious issues you need to face.
There’s Nothing That Cannot Be Fixed
If there are deeper problems in your relationship that will lead her to break up with you soon, you can fix them now.
Instead, just become a better man and make her feel the way that all women want to feel in a relationship (i.e. feminine and girly in comparison to you, safe about the future, loved and accepted, respectful of you).
Make sure that the problems that are turning her off begin to go away in the next few weeks to a month and you will notice a big difference in her behavior during her period.
For example: During her period, a woman might get angry with her boyfriend and say things like, “You are so needy! You are smothering me! I’m your girlfriend, not your child! I can make my own decisions!”
A guy might then realize that he is generally behaving in a clingy, needy, insecure and possibly controlling way.
He can fix this by…
- Making progress on his biggest dreams, goals and ambitions in life, rather than focusing all of his attention on her.
- Finding a hobby to pursue separately from her (e.g. playing a musical instrument, running, restoring old cars).
- Reconnecting with old friends that he might have lost touch with when he started dating her, or making new friends.
In this way, he will be fixing the root of the problem, and the next time she has her period, he will more than likely notice that she’s not acting as crazy as before.
Of course, she will probably still get irritable or tearful, but rather than direct her tantrums and tears towards him, she might just cry over a sad movie, or call up her best friend to have a good whine with her instead.
Don’t Crumble Under Her Pressure
When your woman acts crazy, you have to remain strong and not become overly emotional with her.
When you remain in control of your emotions (i.e. you remain calm, positive, confident, easy-going, respectful towards her, respectful of yourself) you are showing her that you are the man, while at the same time allowing her to feel totally feminine in contrast to you.
The truth is that your woman will always experience life differently to you, so don’t focus your energy on trying to tame her and make her think, feel, act and behave more like you.
If you do that, she will lose touch with her femininity and your relationship with her will seem more like a neutral friendship, which will kill the sexual attraction between you.
So, the next time your woman acts crazy during her period, simply show her that you love her (e.g. by giving her a backrub to relieve the pain, prepare a hot water bottle to help with her cramps), and accept the fact that she will likely be more temperamental, moody and irrational during this time – and that’s okay.
To get rid of the seriousness of the situation, be the one who laughs and brings it all back to smiling, laughter, love and happiness together.
Of course, she might snap and get angry an hour later, but hey – she’s a hormonal woman on her period.
Just laugh and say, “Oh, here we go again. Crazy girlfriend is back. Got to get a video of this and post it on Youtube” and have a laugh with her.
Of course, you don’t actually post the video online.
It’s just something to get her to become conscious of her behavior, get distracted from the tantrum and have something to laugh about with you as you bring the interaction back to love.
Alternatively, you can say things like, “Huh? What did you say?” after she rants and raves for a minute about something and add in, “Sorry, I wasn’t listening the entire time” and have a laugh with her about that.
Essentially, don’t take her tantrums so seriously.
Love her and laugh at her.