Have you ever heard people say, “Relationships take a lot of hard work. You’ve got to put in loads of word and loads of effort all the time otherwise your relationship won’t work”?
Luckily for us men, those people are wrong.
They’re completely wrong.
I’ll give you an example…
Three Different Types of a Guys and One Woman
So, there are three different types of guys and one woman who’s being moody and bitchy and throwing tantrums.
With guy number one, he’s in a relationship with a woman and they’ve been together for a year. Suddenly, she starts becoming moody, she’s not affectionate anymore, is being bitchy and throwing tantrums all the time.
How does he react?
He reacts by trying to make her happier through gifts and taking her out to dinner and being really nice to her, doing house work and taking her on a holiday.
Yet, even though he does all that for her, she’s still being moody and isn’t being affectionate.
She doesn’t want to have sex with him, she’s throwing tantrums, she’s creating arguments over little things and she’s essentially being a pain in the butt.
For him, he’s going to think, “Damn, relationships are such hard work. It takes so much hard work to keep a relationship together. Women are so complicated. Why are they so hard to please?”
He doesn’t get it.
He’s in a relationship with a woman, they’ve been together for about a year, same story.
How does he react?
He reacts by getting angry at her for being like that.
He verbally attacks her and insults her. He is really frustrated at her and is saying things like, “Why are you being like this? I’m really good to you. We’ve had a relationship now for a year and all of a sudden you’re acting like this. What’s wrong with you? Why are you being like this?”
She then closes up and when he asks her what the problem is, she says nothing or says, “Figure it out yourself. Otherwise, we’re going to break up.”
He then thinks, “Well, relationships are such hard work! Women are such a pain in the butt. Why are women so complicated and hard to please?”
Yet, he doesn’t get it.
He’s in a relationship with his woman, they’ve been together for about a year and the same thing happens.
Suddenly, she starts becoming moody, she’s not affectionate anymore and she starts to create arguments over little things.
How does he react?
He doesn’t get worried about the changes in her behavior. He doesn’t overreact like the other guys have done.
Guy #1 overreacted by being really nice to her and doing nice things for her and buying her lots of things and Guy #2 overreacted by getting angry and emotional and attacking her.
Guy #3 simply takes control of the situation and changes her mood by getting her laughing and feeling good again. He cracks a joke, makes light of what’s happening or he makes fun of her in a playful way.
The reason why that works is that women don’t actually want to be a bitch to you.
They don’t actually want to be treating you badly.
A woman wants to be in love. She wants to be happy but a woman will go along with whatever relationship dynamic that you create.
With guy number one for example, a woman will go along with the relationship dynamic of him sucking up to her and doing whatever he can to hopefully please her. If that’s the relationship dynamic he creates, she will follow his lead.
Of course, she’s not going to stay with a guy like that forever. She’s going to cheat on him or break up with him at some point because she’s going to be unhappy. Yet, she will go along with it because women react to men and follow their lead.
Likewise, with guy number two, she’s going to go along with the angry, argumentative, conflict based relationship.
If the guy is being angry and verbally attacking her and turning things into a yelling match, she’ll go along with that. At the end of the day, that is the relationship dynamic that he will create.
It’s literally in his hands. He is in control. He is leading the relationship to that by reacting with anger, rather than being like Guy #3 and remaining in control.
So, with Guy #3, if he creates the relationship dynamic where when she throws a tantrum, or is being moody or is being difficult, he’s able to change her mood with humor and get her laughing and feeling good again, she goes along with that and she’s a good woman for him.
She follows his lead.
That’s the way women are.
Women are so much easier to work with than most guys realize. Most guys think that they have to do so much to please a woman, but women are so easy to work with in a relationship.
She is Waiting For You to Change the Dynamic
When a relationship has gone sour or is falling apart, the woman will literally be waiting for you to create the dynamic in the relationship that results in her being a good woman for you again.
That’s what she actually wants.
She wants to be good to you.
She wants the relationship dynamic where it actually makes her happy to please you sexually.
It actually makes her happy to do good things for you.
That’s what she really wants.
Learn More About How to Make a Relationship Easy and Effortless For You
Okay, so I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and article and have learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch or listen to my program, Make Her Love You for Life.
When you watch or listen to the program, you will learn exactly what to say and do to make your woman respect you, feel sexually attracted to you and be totally in love with you for life.
You will learn how to make a relationship easy by flicking on what I call the “Good Girl Switch” in a woman’s mind where she wants to be a good woman for you.
It actually makes her happy to do good things for you and to be a good woman for you. That is what she really wants.
Of course, you won’t get a lot of women going around admitting that.
Women are often very embarrassed to admit what they really want from a man in a relationship.
For example: If a woman were to go around and actually admit, “Yeah, I want to be with a man who makes me be a good woman to him,” some people are going to look down on her and maybe her friends will say things like, “Hey, get him to do things for you. Don’t be like that, get him to do the housework. Get him to suck up to you. You’ve got to be in a position of power, girl. Girl power. Women power. Be strong.”
She’s going to get those sort of reactions, so she avoids admitting what she really wants in a relationship with a man.
Yet, when you look at women who are the happiest in their relationship with a man, you will see that she is being a good woman for him. She loves doing good things for him. It makes her happy to be a good woman for him.
When you create and maintain that type of dynamic in a relationship, your relationship isn’t a lot of hard work.
It’s so easy.
Yet, if a guy creates the relationship dynamic where he has to suck up to his woman to get some action, then that’s a lot of hard work. She’s wearing the pants, she’s in control and he essentially has to do whatever she wants, otherwise she’s not happy.
Likewise, if a man creates and maintains the relationship dynamic of it being a screaming match and a war against each other, then that’s a lot of hard work.
It’s a constant battle of who’s right and who’s wrong and “You said this” and “I said that” and “This is not fair!” sort of relationship dynamic.
That’s a lot of hard work.
To avoid that nightmare, all you’ve got to do is give a woman what she really wants and that is the relationship dynamic where she actually gets pleasure and happiness out of being a good woman for you.