Having sex with a single mother

It may be easy sex, but can you handle everything that comes with it?

If you're over the age of 25, your chances are excellent that one or more of the women you might be interested in dating is going to be a single mother.

Getting a date with a single mother is usually a lot easier because most men don't want to have to pay to raise another man's child. So, you won't encounter as much competition as when you are meeting women who don't have any children.

Due to having to care for her child or children, most single mothers don't have a lot of free time to spend hanging around clubs waiting to meet a potential date. If she's like most single mothers, she will have to plan her free time in advance around the schedule of her child(ren), as well as find and pay for a babysitter. So when she does go out, she's usually doing it with a purpose – find a man, fast! She knows that she may not have another opportunity for months.

This is not to say that all single mothers are an "easy lay" or desperately looking to jump into a serious relationship immediately. Many single mothers are intelligent, savvy women who just happened to accidentally get pregnant to a previous guy, or who had a child with a guy who didn't turn out to be the right man. So, don't look at these women as though they are any less special, smart of deserving of your respect than other women. They are just the same, except they are plus one. When you meet a single mother, the same rules of attraction apply and she, like other women, is going to want to feel attraction to your confidence and masculinity.

Being Honest About Your Intentions

If you know that you're only interested in a fling and definitely don't want to be saddled with the additional responsibility of dealing with and paying for someone else's children, it would be unfair to pretend to a single mother that you're a potential husband or committed father figure. Single mothers appreciate your honesty more than you will know. They don't want to meet guys who pretend to love their child(ren) and promise to stick around and be a father figure. A single mother just wants to meet a guy who is real and who makes her feel sexual and emotional attraction. If there's an opportunity after that for the guy to become a permanent father figure in her child's life, then she will think about that later. So, don't ever feel that you need to lie to a single mother when you meet her.

That said, there are some single mothers who definitely want "just sex" or a replacement father figure. So, how do you figure out whether the single mother you've encountered wants a relationship or just wants sex? If she talks about her children a lot, asks you if you have children of your own or questions whether you want children some day, especially early in your conversation, chances are good that she's looking for a husband/replacement father and is trying to weed out any prospective men who can't be that for her. On the other hand, if she doesn't mention her children until much later in the conversation and, for all intents and purposes, acts as though she is single, she's probably just looking to get laid. Once you know her intentions and you have determined what you want, you can take it from there. Suggesting a single mother join you at your place for a drink (or head to her house to let the babysitter go home) will result in a “Yes” more often than other women who aren’t in as much of a rush. However, if you do go to her home, just make sure that discreet and respectful in the presence of her child(ren).

Accepting the Limitations

If you are open to dating a single mother for a possible long-term relationship, you need to recognize that she will have certain limitations in terms of how available she will be for you. For instance, when you're dating a single mother, last-minute dates are pretty much out of the question. If you're sincerely interested in her, you have to be willing to give her enough advance notice when you ask her out, so that she can make arrangements to find someone to watch her kids. She also may have to cancel many dates with you unexpectedly if one of her children is sick or needs her. Don’t take it personally.

Naturally, single mothers tend to have a lot more additional expenses than unencumbered single women, so you might want to offer to pay for a babysitter on occasion. She may reject your generosity, but she'll consider it very thoughtful that you offered.

Dealing With Her Ex

With a single mother, there is a high chance that you will have to deal with an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband at some stage. After all, someone fathered her child. Whether you will have a personal interaction with him will usually depend on how serious your relationship with her becomes. When you get deeper into the relationship, you should anticipate that her children eventually will become a part of your life as well. If you can handle not being the center of her world and are secure enough and willing to deal with all that comes along with dating a single mother, you just may find that the rewards of finding the right woman – baggage and all – will be worth all of the extra effort you have to put into your relationship with her.

Dating a single mother is an increasingly common relationship option in the modern world, because most people don’t stay together for life anymore. Marriage is on the decline, we’re living longer and it has become socially acceptable to have a "Baby Mama" (a woman who has your baby, but is not married to you or even in a committed relationship with you) or "Baby Daddy." This is the modern world. As a modern man, you cannot always look to your parents or grandparents as models of how to live your life. Things have changed and, whether we like it or not, they always will change. So, if you like a certain woman - don’t worry what people think about her already having a child or children. Go with what makes you happiest, because 20 years from now – people will be doing much wilder and out there things than dating a single mother.