Speed dating is one of the easiest, fastest and most fun ways to meet a lot of single women in one evening.
How it Works
If you’ve never tried speed dating before, it’s a little bit similar to the game called “musical chairs.”
Basically, the women are seated at tables and the men rotate around the room until each man and woman has had a chance to meet each other. You will sit and talk to a woman for about 5 to 10 minutes and then you’ll hear a signal that tells you it’s time to switch and you’ll move to the next woman.
Each person is given a ‘score card’ and if you like a woman (or several women) and would like to get their contact information, you will mark their name(s) on the card. And if those same women also have an interest in seeing you again, they will mark your name down.
At the end of the speed dating event or soon after, the event’s organizers will compare the cards. If the women you meet are also interested in you, you will each get the other’s contact information (e-mail or phone number). You then contact the woman to talk further and arrange a date.
However, if she likes you but you weren’t attracted to her or vice-versa, then neither of you will receive the other’s contact information. No rejection worries there. These events are often held at bars or clubs and there’s usually a nominal fee to participate.
The Main Thing You Must Do When Talking to a Woman
At a speed dating event, it doesn’t matter how expensive your clothes or shoes are or if you are wearing cologne.
What matters is this: When you talk to the woman, do you make her feel attracted to you? Does your conversation style turn her on or turn her off? Does she feel bored or awkward when talking to you, or does she feel happy, excited and attracted?
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Speed Dating is Quick and Easy
We recommend speed dating for guys who are:
- Too busy to meet women in other environments (e.g. bars, clubs, etc) because they work long hours or are studying hard at university.
- Don’t have many (or any) friends to go out approaching women with.
- Lack experience with approaching and meeting new women.
- Want to quickly begin having sex or relationships with some new women to build up their experience.
- Only want to meet single women to ensure that the chance of being rejected is minimized.
One of the best things about speed dating is that if you’re not feeling it with a particular woman, your ‘date’ with her will only last a few minutes anyway.
Even if you have to talk to a woman you’re not interested in, it’s a great way to help you feel more relaxed and ready to talk to a more attractive woman.
Tips For Success at a Speed Dating Event
Since the women will be meeting many men, you’ll want to make a memorable first impression. This is the perfect time to stand out from the crowd by using your sense of humor and teasing her a bit.
Just be sure not to use the same jokes and teases with each girl since you often will be sitting close to the last woman you spoke with and if she overhears you, you don’t want her to think that you were giving her a line. Lines are lame.
To come up with some funny to say, you might notice what a girl is wearing and say (with a smile), “That’s looks like an expensive outfit. I don’t know – you look kind of high maintenance to me…” Or you might take a similar tact and say something like, “My wife forced me to do this…she’s at home waiting to see how man yes’s I get…”
The point is to tease her, shock her, say something funny and throw her off her game a bit so she laughs and remembers you. The subject of what you do for a living will invariably come up. This is another chance to stand out and not give a boring recitation of what you do for a living.
For instance, if you are a construction worker, you might say something like, “I play in the dirt all day and build things…” Or if you’re an accountant, you might answer, “I make sure that the numbers add up and I help people to get rich.” If you’re a student, you might comment, “I spend my day working on my future…”
No matter what you do, just figure out a way to discuss your occupation in an interesting and unusual manner. Remember, you’re not at a job interview, so don’t hog the conversation and don’t be formal – it’s supposed to be fun and interesting.
Get her to talk about herself and listen to what she’s saying. Even if you’re not attracted to the woman you’re talking with and spot someone more striking a few tables over, don’t keep glancing over at the other woman.
You’ll get to her soon enough. Women rarely attend these events by themselves and that gorgeous gal you’ve been eyeing, might turn out to be the friend of the girl you’re ignoring.
When they compare notes later, if the beautiful woman thinks you were rude to her friend, even if it was because she was the object of your attention, you’re probably going to be a goner. So focus on the woman you’re with. It’s good practice and good manners.
When you’ve been talking to a woman you do like and you realize that your time is going to be up, smile and say, “Finally – I get to talk to someone else! That was the worst 10 minutes of my life!” Then tell you’re kidding and say, “No, I’ve enjoyed talking to you…you seem pretty cool. We should chat again sometime” and get up and leave. It’s just that easy.
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Great tips!! Speed dating is really hit or miss. But really when it comes down to it, as long as your an easy going guy who listens to your date then your already half way there to succeeding.
I have never tried speed dating. I think it is a bit strange. The concept is cool, but I think the time allotted is just not enough time. Some of the sitcoms out there really give Speed dating a bad rep, so I am hesitant to even try it…lol.
I’ve never tried speed dating. I have to agree with Warren above about tv giving it a bad outlook. But I guess I have to try it out for myself. I will remember this article when I decide to do it and use some of your great conversation examples.
The last tip is golden. I tried it out last weekend and this girl laughed like crazy. I got a yes tick from her and then got her phone number. Went on a date last night, so I thought it right to come back and say THANKS 😉
I’d like to try this. Maybe it’ll help me overcome my shyness if I can just go through many women in a short time.
I can’t see a serious relationship coming out of speed dating, but who knows, maybe I’d find my one true love there. 🙂
I m going to try it for sure…Been a long time since am single..I feel like hell….Girl of my dreams………here i come
To come up with some funny to say, you might notice what a girl is wearing and say (with a smile), “That’s looks like an expensive outfit. I don’t know – you look kind of high maintenance to me…”
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I haven’t try speed dating yet. It sounds fun and really exciting. Nice post! 🙂
With wanting to try out what I have been learning from MM products to break out of my shyness and old habits, have tried looking up any speed dating events coming up locally.
Does feel weird to even think about or try out but I we guys have start somewhere!.
Thanks for your comment.
Yes, “jumping in the deep end of the pool” for the first time is going to feel awkward, but you’ll soon see that it’s not so difficult after all and is actually a lot of FUN! Enjoy the speed dating event. Make sure you use the conversation and humor examples provided in the Speed Dating section of 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.
I have booked a 20s-30s speed dating event on the 12th February and have listened to (21- great ways)again. although I see this as practice and trying out what I now know and not getting attached to the out come.
I noted that you say about having things going in your life, which for me is mostly the gym two nights a week and mostly focusing on my business plans, saving money and future.
Social life is still much none existent right now. Is that going to go against me if I’m honest with any of the girls I speak to or does it just depend on who she is and is looking for in a guy?.
Great news! Good on you for taking action and booking into a speed dating event.
No, your life sounds interesting enough so far. In Dating Power, I explain how to make even those most SIMPLE thing sound interesting to a woman. As the old saying goes, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it.” You don’t have to living an amazing lifestyle to talk about your life in an interesting way. We give more examples of making simple things sound interesting to women in The Ultimate Guide to Conversation.
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