The first thing you need to know about love is that it doesn’t die. If you and your wife were once truly in love and it now seems like the love is gone, all is not lost.
The love has simply been pushed into the background because of all the negative feelings that are in the foreground of your minds.
To get back in touch with the loving feelings you once experienced with each other, you need to make changes to your behavior and how you treat her. When you do this correctly, the love naturally comes flooding back.
Love does not die. It simply gets pushed into the background. Love is much bigger, deeper and far reaching than most people realize. So, don’t worry – you can fix this.
Getting Her to Love You Again
When it feels like the love has died and you’re losing her forever, it can seem like a totally hopeless situation. Yet, it isn’t.
Getting her to love you again begins with getting her respect and attraction back and then building on that. When you do that, she will naturally begin to connect with the love once again.
When a guy e-mails me to say something along the lines of, “Dan, my wife doesn’t love me anymore. How do I get the love back?” I sincerely feel sorry for him. I hate to hear about marriages falling apart because I’m a big believer in sticking to one’s promises. You and your wife promised to be married for life and now it seems like she has changed her mind about that.
However, I’m never worried for him because, after years of helping guys to fix breaking marriages or get their ex back and after years of being successful with women myself, I know that it’s easy to get a woman’s love back.
If your wife loved you before, she can love you again. You simply just need to go about it in the right way and it will happen naturally.
Where Husbands Go Wrong
The biggest mistake most husbands make is to try to fix the problem without first understanding the cause of the problem. This is actually a difficult thing to do because most women don’t explain what the problem is. Why? They don’t want to be a man’s teacher in life; they want him to work it out on his own, so they can continue on being and feeling like a woman.
For example: A husband might be saying to his wife, “Okay, look…I will start cleaning up the dishes more and I’ll make more of an effort to arrange a date night for us once a month” thinking that he has the answer to what she really needs.
Yet, from her perspective, that isn’t going to make her happy in the way that she wants. Why? Depending on what makes HER happy and what SHE really wants him to improve and change, she might be happiest if he:
- Spends more quality time with her side of the family.
- Listens to her more when she ranted on about random things (like women do).
- Stops listening to her so much and instead crack some jokes sometimes when she is ranting on (e.g. Smile, laugh and say, “You’re such a drama queen…” or “Geez, it sucks to be you. I’m glad I work where I do…your job sucks” and then laugh with her).
- Looks at her as though she is the sexiest woman on Earth.
- Makes her feel happy to be spending time doing the housework because you are focused on your purpose in life and are rising through the levels of life to reach for your true potential, so you can provide for the family and become the man you are capable of being.
And so on…
Being a great husband and being attractive to a woman over the long term is not something that is taught in schools, so most guys go through life trying to fumble their way through it.
Some guys are lucky to grow up with great male role models around them who have the skill, ability and willingness to teach them how to be a great man. Yet, most guys don’t get that sort of education and are left to their own devices.
Whatever you decide to do, just make sure that you take the time to think about what she really wants you to improve about yourself and how you treat her. Think about the times when you’ve seen her the happiest with you and ask why.
Think about the times when she’s been the most turned off by you, when she’s lost respect for you and when she has lost touch with her feelings for you.
She’s Lost That Loving Feeling
What many men don’t realize (or haven’t been taught) is that love is something that needs to be taken care of throughout the entire relationship. If it isn’t nourished and taken care of, it will be pushed into the background of your minds and both of you will begin to focus on the things that you don’t like about each other.
If that goes on for a long time, it will feel like you’ve fallen out of love. Yet, in reality, you’ve just forgotten how to love each other.
As a man, it is your responsibility to take care of the love and guide your woman into deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love for you. If you don’t do that and instead allow the love to fade into the background, things will start to fall apart.
In the past, a woman had to stay with her husband for life, even if she wasn’t happy. It was shameful to get divorced and she would find it difficult to find a new husband and be seen as a respectable woman in society.
Yet, that isn’t the same anymore.
As a result of decades of TV, movies and song lyrics, the general public has slowly come to see break ups and divorce as being acceptable. Female characters in TV drama shows are shown to be unhappy in a marriage and then excited and full of happiness when they divorce and find a new man. Female pop singers sing their hearts out about leaving a husband or boyfriend and finding a new man who is better.
Celebrity women appear on talk shows and explain how happy they now are after getting divorced and finding a new man.
It’s everywhere and can’t be stopped.
However, in your marriage it can be prevented. You can recapture your wife’s love and reignite the flame that once burned to make you so close and happy. It really is possible when you use the right approach. I’ve already helped hundreds of husbands to do so and I would be honored to help you too.
Get Her Love Back Now, Before it’s Too Late
If you are serious about wanting to save your marriage, I recommend that you take action now before she opens herself up to being with other men.
As a man, it is your responsibility (not hers) to deepen the love, respect and attraction in your marriage. If you don’t do it, she most-likely won’t take the lead to do it for you. Most modern women wait for their man to lead the way to a better relationship and if he doesn’t, they simply leave.
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