However, I'm never worried for him because, after years of helping guys with their relationships and years of being successful with women myself, I know that it's easy to get the love back. If she loved you before, she can love you again if you just go about it in the right way. The number one thing you're going to need to do is to become more of a man for her. Ultimately, that's what the core problem is going to be. She's going to feel as though you're just not enough of a man for her.
So, why did she fall out of love with you? Watch this video:
The Two Basic Scenarios
When a wife doesn't love her husband anymore, she will usually say that she wants to leave the marriage or separate for a while. However, other times she will say that wants him to change. Either way, one thing is for sure: If you think your wife doesn’t love you anymore, you can get that love back. You just need to be the man she wants you to be. She loved you once before, so she can definitely love you again. Be confident about that.
Another thing you need to know is that you're not alone with this. Millions of men are experiencing the same thing and have been for a long time. In fact, there’s an old Righteous Brothers song from the 1960s with lyrics that pretty much say it all: You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling. If you’re not familiar with the song, take a look at the following couple of lines and see if the lyrics resonate with you:
“You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips, and there’s no tenderness anymore in your fingertips.Now there’s no welcome look in your eyes when I reach for you...and now you’re starting to criticize little things I do.”
Do any of those words help to describe the way your wife and the way you’re feeling right now? Whatever the circumstances, when a guy says to me, “My wife doesn’t love me anymore,” I know that he’s a guy who is genuinely hurting and he’s looking for some sincere advice about what he can do to get his wife’s love back. Now that is something I can definitely provide you with.
Where Husbands Go Wrong
The biggest mistake most husbands make is to try to “fix” the problem without first understanding the cause of the problem. You see, a woman wants to feel like a woman in a relationship and if she has lost that feeling, it’s because the man she is with no longer generates that feeling in her. To fix the problem and to get her to love him again, a man has to know what it takes to make a woman feel like a woman and he has to recognize the mistakes he has made that led to her feeling differently about him. That's not to say you are not a man and are horribly flawed. It's just that you are simply lacking in some important areas of what it means to be a man.
"How to be a man" is not something that we get taught in school or as we are growing up unless we're lucky to have great male role models around us. If you need to learn a bit more about what it means to be a man, don't be ashamed or embarrassed about that. In fact, you should be proud that you're wise enough to know when you need to take action and learn something important. If you want to get the love of your wife back, I recommend that you watch Better Than a Bad Boy. There are 100s of success stories posted around the site in comments from men who've rekindled their dying relationship with their wife. It's simple to do when you know what you need to fix and improve about yourself.
A wife can lose “that loving feeling” for a number of reasons, but the truth is that a husband can get his wife’s love back if he’s prepared to do what it takes to change the way she’s feeling about him. I’ve helped 100s of guys to get their struggling relationships back on track to being stronger, happier and more loving than ever before.
You see, love is something that you need to take care of in a relationship. If she no longer loves you, you might assume that the love that you and your wife felt for each other in the early days was something that could only ever be temporary and was destined to fade away. However, the reality is that when you take care of the love and guide you and your woman into deeper feelings of respect and attraction for each other, the love will naturally deepen. It's not something that has to fade away and you see evidence in that in many couples you see who are still madly in love with each other after decades.
She’s Lost That Loving Feeling
A man recently e-mailed me for advice because his marriage was, in his words, “on the rocks.” He said that his wife had become cold and distant and their sex life was virtually non-existent as a result. Unfortunately, the change in his wife’s behavior led to him “backing off” and waiting for her to decide when she wanted to have sex, which was a huge mistake. Like many other guys in his situation, this man wrongly assumed that letting his wife “take charge” would somehow magically resolve the situation. It’s a common belief that women want to wear the pants in a relationship and, let’s face it, that’s how the average married couple in a TV sitcom is portrayed, but it’s not what a woman wants in real life and it’s not going to resolve anything. Read: Who Should Wear the Pants in a Relationship?
Always remember: No matter what profession your wife works in or how high up she is in society, she wants to feel like a woman, and putting her in a position of wearing the pants in your sexual relationship does not make her feel feminine. I refer to it as a “sexual relationship” because that tends to wake more guys up to the situation. A lot of guys just view it as a marriage, or worse a “partnership” because they've been sucked in by the lame, politically correct advice they see on TV or get from random people. It's not a partnership between friends! If you treat it that way, there will be less of a masculine/feminine dynamic and there will be less sex! You are attracted to the feminine and your wife is attracted to the masculine. Take that away and just be “partners” and your sex life will naturally wither away.
The guy who e-mailed me (name withheld for privacy, of course!) ended up chatting with via my phone coaching service and my advice to him was to take back control of the relationship. He had to stop a lot of the insecure behavior he had been displaying and start reaching for more of his true potential as a man, instead of just fading away in the safety of the relationship. He also needed to start using what I call “The Love Fix” which is something that I teach and provide many examples of in Better Than a Bad Boy. The Love Fix instantly turns around her sulky moods and her tantrums and makes her excited and happy to be around you. It also jolts her out of feeling down and depressed about the relationship and life in general. You see, to be happy, a woman needs to have love flowing through her life in abundance. That is pure joy for the feminine.
I also explained for my client that, as a man, it is your responsibility to manage the dynamic between you and your woman. You have to guide both of you into deeper feelings of respect, attraction and love. If you think you can leave that to her, then you will be sadly disappointed. A woman wants to relax into the masculine direction of her man. She doesn't want to have to lead her man and be his mother.
Are You Still Loveable?
Of course you are! You're a great man, right? If she is not seeing that great man within you, then you need to show it to her. You need to get her to see how great of a man you are. That will only happen as you begin to change your thinking, behavior and actions when around her. It won't happen if you try to explain to her why you're such a great man. If you don't know what you're missing and what you're not providing for her, let me help you. I understand the female psyche in a way that allows me connect with women in ways that other guys can't. I also understand what it means to “be the man” in a relationship as a result, I have a beautiful, passionate, loving, caring, committed relationship with my girlfriend. It's a wonderful life to live when you truly understand how to be happy in a relationship. Read: How to Be Happy in a Relationship
To be able to win back your wife’s love, you must work on becoming an even more loveable man than you are right now. This doesn’t mean trying to become someone you’re not; it means being the man she fell in love with once again. Yet, this time around you're even better. It also means knowing how to make her feel how SHE wants to feel in the relationship. If you don't know how to do that, I recommend that you watch The Modern Relationship and to learn how to be the type of man that women refer to as a “real man” I recommend that you watch Better Than a Bad Boy. If you're not ready to purchase one of my programs and join my 1,000s of happy customers from all over the world, at least sign up for my free newsletter so I can begin helping you for free.