There is almost always a way to get a second chance with a woman who had broken up with you.
Unfortunately, a lot of men just don’t know it and end up losing their woman as a result.
Some guys believe that when a woman says something like, “It’s over. I don’t have feelings for you anymore,” it means that her decision is final and that getting her back will be very difficult, if not impossible.
Yet, here’s the thing…
A woman’s feelings can change and in many cases, they can change very quickly.
So, here are 3 second chance relationship stories to help you understand how smart men get their ex woman back after a break up…
1. Second chance relationship story: He got her back after re-attracting her right away
A guy got broken up by his woman, but rather than sit around feeling sorry for himself and think negative thoughts like, “I can’t believe it’s over. I’ve lost the woman I love and I will probably never get another chance with her. It’s hopeless to even try. I give up,” he decided to figure out how to re-attract her and get her back.
To begin with, he made sure to avoid all the common mistakes that most guys make when trying to get another chance with an ex woman.
For example: He didn’t…
- Beg and plead with her to reconsider her decision.
- Promise her that he would do whatever she wanted if he got another chance.
- Try to make her pity him for the emotional pain he is feeling.
- Tell her that he can’t live without her.
- Send her flowers and gifts to apologize to for what happened.
- Ask her what she needs in the relationship to feel happy again.
Why didn’t he do any of those things?
He knew that rather than convince his ex to give him another chance, that kind of behavior would only make her disconnect from her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him even more.
She would feel turned off by what she perceived as his emotional weakness and insecurity and she would work harder to fully get over him and move on.
So, what did he do instead?
He got clear on some of the deeper reasons why his ex broke up with him (e.g. The confidence she was attracted to him when they first fell in love had turned into insecurity. He spent too much time trying to please her rather than getting her to be a good woman for him, so she felt like she could walk all over him. He became too boring and predictable and expected her to be happy to be stuck in a go-nowhere-fast routine for the rest of their lives together).
After figuring out what really turned her off, he thought about how he could change that and make her regret leaving him.
He then got her on a phone call and used some humor to make her feel happy and relaxed to be talking to him again.
He then built on her feelings of respect and attraction as he talked to her, to the point where she didn’t seem to want the conversation to end.
He then said something along the lines of, “Hey, it was great chatting with you, but I have some work I need to get to right now. Yet, I think we still have some catching up to do. So, let’s meet up later today or tomorrow and finish our conversation. I will be available from about 4 p.m. today and I’ll have an hour or two free tomorrow morning. What suits you best? Today at 4pm, or tomorrow morning?”
She then agreed to meet up with him because she secretly wanted to see for herself if he’d really changed, or if it was all an act or only something he could do on a phone call.
At the meet up, he continued to say and do the things that proved to her he was a new and improved man (e.g. he maintained his confidence with her when she was being stand-offish towards him, he used humor to relax the mood, he brought out her feminine, girly side by being emotionally masculine around her).
She then realized that he really had changed in some of the ways that really mattered to her.
As a result, she naturally felt respect and attraction for him and decided to give him a second chance.
2. Second chance relationship story: He gave her a week of space and then began re-attracting her
After a big fight, a woman broke up with her man by saying, “This isn’t working out anymore! I need some time alone to figure things out and see if I still have feelings for you. Please just leave me alone. Goodbye.”
Then, rather than trying to stop her from leaving (e.g. by begging and pleading, trying to discuss the relationship), he maintained his composure and said something along the lines of, “Okay, if that’s how you feel, I respect your decision. I love you and want to be with you, but I accept your decision. I wish you the best of luck. Goodbye.”
By responding in that way, he automatically planted seeds of doubt in her mind about her decision to break up the relationship.
From there, he cut off all contact with her for a week, giving her enough time to calm down and start missing him.
In the meantime, he used the week apart to learn new ways to re-attract her.
To fully prepare himself, he asked himself these questions…
- Am I the kind of man that she can look up to and respect, or does she feel like I’m not living up to my full potential as a man (e.g. because I don’t have any big goals or dreams that I’m working towards achieving, I don’t have a purpose in my life, I’m too reckless and impetuous, I tend to put her down and criticize her too much, I tend to lose confidence and go into my shell in social situations)?
- Do I make her feel the way a woman wants to feel in a relationship with a man (e.g. feminine, girly and sexually desirable), or does she need to wear the pants in the relationship because I’m too insecure or emotionally wimpy?
- Does she feel lucky to be with me, or does she feel like she can do better?
- Do I believe in my attractiveness and value to her, or do I secretly believe that I got lucky and I will never be able to get another woman who is as good as her?
By asking himself questions like that, he was able to zone in on what he really needed to change to re-attract her.
Then, after a week of space, he called his ex on the phone and re-attracted her based on the changes he knew would impress her, or at least get her to drop her guard a little.
Initially, she tried to test him by pretending to be annoyed with him for calling her.
Yet, rather than feeling anxious, insecure and beginning to doubt himself, he remain calm and used humor to ease the tension between them.
He then asked her to catch up with him and say hi as friends and she said, “Yes.”
At the meet up, he made her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
As a result, she began to think, “Maybe I made the wrong decision by breaking up with him. At the time, I believed it was impossible for him to change how I felt, but he has proven me wrong. I actually like being around him now. It feels good to be talking to him. I want to hug him. I want to get back together again.”
Then, once he sensed that her guard was down and she was opening back up to him, he asked her to get back together again and she agreed.
3. Second chance relationship story: He made her jealous by moving on without her
After breaking up with his woman, a guy decided that although he truly wanted her back, he doesn’t need her back to feel happy and fulfilled in his life.
So, rather than sitting around waiting for her to contact him and work things out, he began to enjoy his life without her.
For example: He…
- Started to focus on his big goals in life and made progress towards achieving them.
- Began going out to clubs and bars with his single friends.
- Began hanging out and having fun with other attractive women.
- Started to spend more time doing things that he had neglected while in a relationship with her (e.g. play a sport, travel, pursue an old hobby).
Some of his friends were shocked and said things like, “If she sees you moving on, she might believe that you don’t love her anymore. Are you sure you want that to happen?”
Yet, he knew that even though women won’t go around admitting it, one of the qualities they find most attractive in a man is emotional independence.
In other words, although he loves her and does want to be with her, he is able to enjoy life, feel confident and move forward with or without her.
Women respect that, but just don’t go around admitting it because they worry that other people might take it the wrong way and think that she wants a guy who doesn’t care about her.
Yet, what it really means is that women feel respect and attraction for a man who is a good man and loves her, but doesn’t need her in his life to be able to function, feel happy and make progress.
So, in this second chance relationship story, the man knew about that secret of female attraction.
Then, to make sure that his ex found out about it, he posted photos of himself on social media having fun with other people and enjoying his life without her.
When she saw him looking confident, happy and having fun without her, she started to feel jealous.
She then began to worry about losing him.
So, she sent him a feeler text to test his interest level, “Hi. I’ve been thinking about you. What have you been up to lately? I miss you” and waited.
He texted back to say, “Hey, how are you? I’m doing well. I’ve missed you at times as well. I’ll give you a call to say hi in about 10 minutes.”
He then called her after 10 minutes, re-sparked some of her feelings of respect and attraction for him (i.e. by making her laugh and smile and feel good to be interacting with him again) and got her to agree to meet up with him to say hello as friends.
At the meet up, he continued being confident and charismatic and making her laugh and smile, to the point where she wanted to be back in his arms again.
Then, when the mood was right and her defenses were down, he initiated a hug, then a kiss and from there, they went back to his place, hooked up sexually and got back together.
So, as you can see from those second chance relationship stories, it is possible to get a woman back who has dumped you.
Her words may have sounded final when she said something like, “I no longer have feelings for you. It’s over,” but you can change how she feels.
When you change how she feels, you can then get her back.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get a Second Chance With an Ex Woman
Every day, all over the world, men get a second, third and fourth chance with an ex woman.
It happens all day, every day, all over the world.
You can do it too.
Your success at getting her back all depends on your approach.
So, to ensure that you successfully get her back, be sure to avoid the following mistakes…
1. Asking what she wants you to do, change or improve to get a second chance with her
Most women don’t want to be responsible for shaping their ex into the man that he needs to become.
So, if he asks her something along the lines of, “Just tell me what you want me to do to make you happy and I’ll do it,” a woman might come up with some unreasonable request that he has to live up to, in order to get her back (e.g. she will give him another chance if he agrees to give her a month of space).
That way, if he has promised to do whatever she wants, she can request that he give her time to think and during that time, she will make sure that she moves on without him.
Alternatively, a woman might not have the courage to explain what she really needs from a man in a relationship (e.g. she wants him to make her feel girly by being more ballsy and masculine around her), so she makes up some lame excuse why she can’t be with him anymore (e.g. she has to focus on her studies, she needs some space to find herself, needs time to think, doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone, is confused and needs time to find out who she is).
This is why, in almost all ex back cases, you have to figure out how to re-attract her without asking her for instructions.
Then, go ahead and do that and get her back.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Waiting too long to make a move and get a second chance
After a break up, if a woman’s ex doesn’t call her or try to get her back, she will usually just use the time to get over him and move on with another guy.
That’s how it works in most cases, which is why a guy needs to actively re-attract his ex woman and get her back.
However, in some cases, a woman doesn’t want to move on without her ex and secretly hopes that he will contact her.
Yet, if she finds that she’s been waiting for many weeks and he still isn’t making a move, she will usually decide to just move on.
This is why you shouldn’t wait longer than 7 days to start the ex back process with your ex.
If you do wait longer than a week, you might be disappointed to find out that she has already started to move on without you and is possibly dating or even falling in love with a new guy.
The next mistake to avoid is…
3. Appearing to be desperate and in a hurry when trying to get a second chance
Although taking too long to get an ex back can result in her moving on without you, it doesn’t mean that you should do the exact opposite and desperately beg and plead for another chance right away.
If you bombard her with attempts to get her back, (e.g. by calling her daily to stay on her mind, sending her flowers or gifts, writing her poems, love letters and long e-mails explaining how you feel) it can cause her to put up her guard and push you away.
Of course, if your ex is still in love with you and you quickly try to get her back with a romantic gesture, it can work.
Yet, your ex probably isn’t still madly in love with you, right?
Pretty much every man who actually needs help to get his ex woman back, is in a situation where the woman has fallen out of love with him and no longer wants to be with him.
That’s why, in the majority of ex back cases, you need to be calm, confident and in control to get her back.
You give her 3 to 7 days of space and during that time, you improve your ability to attract her.
You then contact her, re-attract her and make her want you sexually and romantically.
When you approach it in that way, you will naturally get a second chance at a relationship with her.
The next mistake to avoid is…
4. Trying to get her to give you another chance before reactivating her feelings
If you ask your ex for a second chance before you reactivating her feelings of respect and sexual attraction, chances are high that she will respond with something like, “Sorry, but I’m not in love with you anymore. Maybe we can be friends, but I can’t commit to anything more than that” or, “Please stop pushing me for another chance because it’s just not going to happen. You need to accept it and move on. We have broken up, okay? Please just leave me alone now.”
Why will she respond in that way?
Her ex still feelings for her, but she doesn’t have feelings for him.
He hasn’t even reactivated her sexual and romantic feelings and he’s already trying to get a second chance at a relationship with her.
The fact is, for a relationship to get back together, the feelings need to be mutual.
It can’t be about a guy wanting her back, if she doesn’t feel the same way about him.
If you try to get your ex back without reawakening her feelings of respect and attraction for you, then you’re going to be making the ex back process more difficult than it needs to be.