Most breakups don’t have to be permanent because a guy can almost always get his ex woman back by re-attracting her and then seducing her back into a relationship.
However, here are 3 signs that a woman is not going to want to get back with her ex anytime soon:
1. She gets married and starts a family with her new man
When a woman falls in love, gets married and starts a family with her new man, chances are pretty high that she’s not going to want to get back with her ex.
There is always the possibility that their marriage will end (i.e. an approximate 50% divorce rate), but chances are high that she won’t be running back to her ex anytime soon after getting married and starting a family with someone else.
This is why it’s so important that if you want to get your ex back, you don’t waste time ignoring her for months and giving her a chance to meet, fall in love with and settle down with a new man.
It’s a huge ex back myth that you have to give her a month or two of space, before you try to get her back.
In most cases, you only need to give a woman a week of space to prove the point that you’re not desperately chasing her down to get her back.
During that week, you need to rapidly improve your ability to attract her and then, when you interact with her again, you need to re-attract her and seduce her back into a relationship with you.
It’s only when you re-attract your ex and let her experience new, exciting feelings that she opens back up to being with you again.
Even if she said that her decision was final and she was never, ever going to get back with you, all that changes when she feels a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When that happens, she begins to feel sparks of romantic love for you again and starts to fear that she could be making a mistake.
At that point, it’s easy to get to a hug, kiss, sex and then back into a relationship.
However, if you don’t focus on reactivating her feelings for you and just stay out of her life, she will almost certainly move on and may possibly end up getting married and starting a family.
If that happens, the break up will be pretty much permanent, but of course, there will always be the chance that her marriage could end.
It really depends if you want to wait around in the background all that time.
Waiting around isn’t good for your mental and emotional health.
The best thing to do if you want your ex back, is to take action and make it happen before it’s too late.
Another sign that a breakup is permanent is if…
2. The man turned her off and has absolutely no idea how to re-attract her
Every woman has her reasons for breaking up with a guy.
However, in most cases, the main reason for a woman breaking up with a guy is because some aspect of his thinking and behavior caused her to lose respect and attraction for him over time.
- He stopped being manly and started becoming emotionally sensitive.
- He stopped being loving and started becoming a bit an asshole towards her.
- He stopped making progress on his goals in life and wasted most of his spare time doing things that weren’t making their life better, or securing a better future for them.
- He didn’t know how to maintain a relationship with a woman (e.g. because he didn’t have many good male role models when growing up), so he ended up becoming clingy, needy and emotionally dependent on his woman, which then caused her to feel smothered and turned off.
- He tried to buy her love by being extra generous to her (e.g. buying her expensive gifts, always taking her to fancy restaurants, paying all the bills). No matter how badly she treated him, he kept trying to buy her love.
- He spent too much time hanging out with friends, partying and living a carefree life, rather than getting serious about his future and giving her a sense of security and stability about their future as a couple.
- He became irresponsible and broke his promises to her on a regular basis.
- He didn’t support her in reaching her goals in life and possibly even put her down and killed her confidence whenever she wanted to achieve something big or new in her life.
Of course, no one is perfect and even if a guy stuffs up pretty badly in a relationship, a woman will usually give him a few chances to change and improve before she eventually decides to breakup with him.
Yet, when she sees that nothing is changing, she is forced to just go through with a break up and see what happens.
In most cases, the guy being dumped will begin pleading with his ex, promising her that he will change and offering to do anything she wants if she will just give him another chance.
When he pleads for another chance, even though he has no idea how to re-attract her in the ways that really matter to her (e.g. she wants him to become more manly, rather than being so emotionally sensitive, she wants to feel genuinely loved and appreciated, rather than feeling like someone that he is just using for now), she feels justified in breaking up with him.
It feels like she has made the right decision and now needs to start looking out for herself.
So, she tries to move on and if her ex doesn’t work out how to re-attract her and get her back, the break up will end up being permanent.
Another sign that a breakup is permanent is if…
3. The man became violent, physically hurt her and now she doesn’t want anything to do with him
It goes without saying that if a guy is violent in his relationship with a woman and hurts her physically or emotionally, then she’s not going to want to stick around him for very long.
Of course, there are exceptions.
Some women do go back to men, even though the man has been abusive.
I’m not saying that abusing a woman physically is a good thing.
Instead, I’m just pointing out the fact that sometimes, a woman loves a man so much and just wants to be with him, that she will forgive his abuse and give him another chance.
I talk about that at the start of this video…
I’ve been helping new men to get women back for many years now and it’s no longer a surprise to me how many men get their ex woman back.
If you approach it correctly, the chances are very high that you will get her back.
Of course, not every guy can get his ex back in cases where he has been physically abusive, but even in extreme cases like that, many guys do get another chance with their ex.
That said, being physically violent towards a women isn’t ever the answer in a relationship.
You can always diffuse the situation with humor, talk things out or walk away if she has lost control of her emotions and is beginning to get physical with you.
Women want to know that they can get angry with a man and not have to end up getting hit or even killed as a result.
It shows a lot of character and intelligence on a man’s part if he is able to maintain control of his emotions, even when a woman is being annoying, throwing verbal insults at him or even threatening him with violence.
On the other hand, if a man loses control of his emotions every time his woman does something to annoy him and then lashes out at her, he is never going to be able to have a loving, easy-going, enjoyable, lifelong relationship with a woman.
It’s always going to be chaotic, stressful and out of control.
So, if a woman breaks up with a guy who is unable to control his emotions and has always been physically abusive to her, the break up will permanent in many cases.
It’s possible that a guy who has been aggressive on occasion, or lashed out and hurt her once or twice, will fairly easily be forgiven.
However, some women just don’t forgive physical violence of any kind and in cases like that, the break up can be permanent.
Where Guys Go Wrong When Trying to Get Their Ex Back After a Breakup That Seems Permanent
If you are a good guy and have good intentions with your ex, then you don’t have to accept the break up and just walk away.
There’s actually a lot you can do to get her back.
To ensure that you do get her back, try to avoid making one or more of the following mistakes:
1. Assuming that because she said it was over, she can’t ever change how she feels
If a woman is saying things like, “It’s over between us and nothing that you can say or do will ever change that. Just go away and leave me alone. I hate you now!” it’s only natural that a guy will feel that his chances of getting her back are slim at best.
Yet, what a lot of guys don’t realize, is that a woman’s feelings can be changed and brought back to life based on how the man talks, behaves and acts around her.
For example: If a man talks to his ex woman and is being confident, making her laugh and being charismatic, she is naturally going to feel some sparks of respect and attraction for him, especially if the interaction started with her being cold or distant.
However, if a man talks to his ex woman and is being insecure, neutral and self-doubting, then she’s not going to feel a spark for him and will end up feeling annoyed that he is wasting her time.
Unfortunately, many guys out there don’t realize that they can take control over how much attraction a woman feels for them.
So, rather than actively re-attracting her, a guy like that might then just give up and walk away, thus potentially losing out on being with the love of his life.
Here’s the thing…
If you want your ex back, you have to believe in yourself and in your ability to change how she feels.
When you re-spark her feelings of respect and attraction for you, her perception of you will automatically begin to change.
For example: If you interact with your ex over the phone or in person and she senses that you’ve changed some of the things that were turning her off before (e.g. you are more confident now rather than being insecure and self-doubting, you are more emotionally independent now rather than clinging to her for emotional support, you’re loving and attentive rather than taking her for granted, you’re more supportive and encouraging of her wants and needs, rather than putting her down), then she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling sparks of attraction for the new and improved you.
She might try to ignore those feelings or make you doubt yourself by being cold towards you, saying that it doesn’t matter how much you’ve changed or acting unimpressed.
So, you have to be ready to maintain your confidence no matter what she says or does.
If you do, she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling sparks of respect and attraction for the new and improved you.
She may have once said that the break up was going to be permanent, but when her feelings change, her thinking will also change.
The next to avoid is mistake is…
2. Trying to get her back by cutting off contact
A pretty common reaction that guys have when they get broken up with, is to cut off all communication with their ex, in the hope that this will shock her into coming back.
For example: A guy might think to himself, “She’s too emotional right now to be able to think rationally about our relationship. So, if I give her a few weeks or even a few months of space, she will calm down. Then, she will hopefully realize how much she misses what we had together and will come back to me.”
He then ignores her for 30, 60 (or even more) days.
Then, when she doesn’t contact him, he decides to text her or call her to reopen the communication between then.
He is then disappointed when she says something like, “Oh, hi. I hadn’t heard from you in such a long time that I thought you were out of my life for good. I hope you’re doing well and life is good for you. I’ve met someone else and I’m really happy now. All the best. Bye.”
He is then left feeling shocked that his ploy to get her back by ignoring her ended up backfiring and may have resulted in the break up now being permanent.
This is why I don’t ever recommend that a guy just ignore his ex woman as his main method for getting her back.
It’s such a low success rate approach.
What I recommend you do is stay in touch with her by any means possible (e.g. via text, social media, over the phone or by seeing her in person) and use every interaction to restore her feelings for you.
The more respect and sexual attraction you make her feel when you interact with her, the more drawn she will feel to you.
You can then use those feelings to meet up with her and get to a hug, kiss and then sex.
After that, you can discuss getting back into a relationship, or just agree to see each other again and see how things go.
Either way, that approach works better than simply ignoring a woman who isn’t attracted to you anymore and hoping that she comes back for some reason.
The highest success rate approach to getting an ex woman back is to actively re-attract her and then seduce her back into a relationship.
Women respond better to that approach because women are naturally wired to submit to the confident leadership of a man, when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships.
If you know how to re-attract her and know the remaining steps to take to get her back, you will be able to do it.
I hear back from new guys every day who have seduced their ex woman back into a relationship.
If you want to do that, keep learning now and then use my techniques to get her back.
On that note, another mistake to avoid if you want your ex back…
3. Not improving your ability to attract her when you next interact with her
Sometimes a guy is so worried about losing his ex woman that he rushes to try to get her back, without every realizing that the most important part of getting a woman back is re-attracting her.
So, he just starts to pursue her relentlessly and hopes that she will cave in to the pressure and give him another chance.
For example: He might send her flowers and cards, buy her meaningful gifts, send her loads of text messages to apologize and ask for forgiveness, turn up at her door and beg or plead for another chance, or be extra nice to her and offer to help her with her life (e.g. run errands for her, help to pay her bills), so he can get to remain a part of it.
Yet, she just ends up feeling turned off by his desperation.
Women don’t want to be with a guy who seems desperate. It just doesn’t feel right to a woman.
She wants to be with a guy who makes her feel so much respect, attraction and love based on how he talks to her and interacts with her, not based on what he buys for her or what he can do to help her live her life.
It has to be about that sexual, romantic spark that brings a man and a woman together and keeps them together.
That is what really matters.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
4. Asking her if she will ever change her mind
When a guy asks his ex woman if she will ever change her mind, she will answer him based on her current feelings for him (i.e. turned off, no longer in love, wanting to get away from him).
She might lie and say, “Maybe…please, just give me some time to be by myself” to get him to leave her alone, but inside, she will know that she won’t want to get back with him unless he really changes and is able to attract her in the ways that matter to her.
So, don’t ask her if she wants to give you another chance.
Make her want to give you another chance by fully reactivating her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for you.