Think about it…
Your ex posting up photos of her looking happy and enjoying herself without you has worked on you, hasn’t it?
It has hurt you, made you feel jealous and left behind to the point where you’re now searching about it and reading an article on the topic.
This is why, the first mistake to avoid when you want to get ex back who is posting about her new relationship on social media is…
1. Not doing the same or similar back to her
Even if you don’t want to get into a new relationship with another woman (because you just want her back, or you don’t feel like it at the moment), you can still get out there and have fun with new people, including women and post up photos on social media.
Of course, you might be wondering something along the lines of, “Won’t that look obvious to her? Won’t she see right through it and just think I’m trying to look happy on social media to make her jealous and want me back?”
Was what she did obvious to you?
Did you think that the only reason she is posting about her new relationship and seeming happy, was to make you jealous?
You most likely felt a little jealous, left behind and have been wanting to get her back even more since seeing it.
In other words, it doesn’t even matter if her intention was to make you jealous because it worked.
It doesn’t matter if it is ‘obvious’ to you what she is doing because it worked.
Likewise, when you post up photos of you looking confident, happy and enjoying life without her, it doesn’t matter if you are worried that she might think it is ‘obvious’ what you’re up to.
She will see you looking confident, happy and enjoying life without her around other people and she will respect you for that.
It takes a lot of emotional strength to bounce back after a break up, especially when you’ve been dumped by the woman you love.
Women are naturally attracted to men who are emotionally strong and they respect them so much more than emotionally weak and needy men.
So, when she sees you looking confident, happy and enjoying life without her, she is naturally going to feel respect and attraction for you regardless of whether she wants to or not.
It will happen automatically.
Yes, she might briefly consider whether you are trying to make her jealous, but it won’t matter, because she will be looking at you in a positive light now and as a result, she will be feeling drawn to you.
When that happens, it brings up all sorts of feelings inside of her that she may have been blocking since the break up (e.g. she knows that she used to love you and wanted the relationship to work, she does still like a lot of things about you, she knows that you’re weren’t all that bad, she knows that you could possibly change and be the kind of man she really wants and that would feel amazing to her).
Additionally, when she sees you looking happy, confident and enjoying life without her around other people, she might feel a little rejected that you’re moving on and aren’t feeling sad and at home alone missing her.
Suddenly, she doesn’t have as much power over you as she thought she did.
As a result, she may begin to question, “Am I over him as much as he is over me? Is he happier without me now? Will he meet another woman who will love the new and improved version of him? Will my new relationship work?” and so on.
Then, when you reach out to her (via social media, text, or on a phone call), she will be much more open to interacting with you.
If you can get her on a phone call or video call and get her laughing, smiling and feeling good to be talking to you, she will almost certainly agree to catch up and say hi in person.
If you sense that she is worried about her new guy finding out, you can simply say, “No one has to know. It’s just us catching up as friends, that’s all. We’re mature enough to do that. It’s just an innocent catch up to say hi.”
Women love those sort of things because it makes her love life feeling like a drama TV show or an exciting, romantic movie.
It’s exciting and pretty much any woman will want to go with how she feels (i.e. attracted and open to meeting up with you), rather than saying no and regretting it for months or years afterwards.
So, don’t be afraid to post up photos of you having fun, looking confident, happy, included and loved when other people.
Additionally, don’t make the mistake of posting about random things (e.g. the news, memes, sports, video games, etc) that suggest you are alone.
Only post photos (and or videos) that show you looking very confident, happy, loved and included when around other people.
She will see that and naturally begin to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and as a result, will begin to miss you and wonder whether or not what you and her had is really over.
On the other hand, if you just post up lonely things, or nothing at all, she will naturally be more inclined to think negatively about you and feel like she made the right decision to break up with you.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Unfriending her from social media and then losing one of the best opportunities to re-attract her and get her back
Some guys get all emotional and feel like the best revenge on an ex who has dumped them, or is with a new guy, is to unfriend her or unfollow her.
Yet, it rarely works.
In some cases, the woman assumes that he has unfriended her because he’s jealous, hurting and can’t handle seeing her with another guy, which makes her lose more respect for him because it suggest to her that he doesn’t feel as though he can match up to the new guy.
In other cases, the woman assumes that he is trying to make her panic and worry that she is losing him forever, but if she’s no longer attracted and in love with him, then she simply doesn’t care.
As a result, it doesn’t work.
Additionally, unfriending her cancels out part of your ability to re-attract her via posts of you looking confident, happy and enjoying life without her.
In today’s world, the best way to get an ex back is by keeping the lines of communication open, so she can feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you based on how you handle yourself after the break up.
So many guys make the classic mistake of cutting off contact and hoping that it makes their ex girlfriend (or wife) panic and want them back.
Yet, most women can easily move on by opening themselves up to the hoards of guys out there who would love to have sex with her and many who would love to have a relationship with her.
As a result, if a woman breaks up with a guy that she no longer feels enough respect, attraction or love to want to be in a relationship with, then she really doesn’t care if he unfriends her, or stops contacting her.
She might initially feel a bit shocked, but because she doesn’t want to get back with him, she figures that it’s best to just not worry about him and move on.
So, she does and her ex never gets another chance with her.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
3. Posting lonely photos on social media
Sometimes a guy will try to make his ex feel guilty or feel pity for him, by posting lonely photos of himself on social media (e.g. photos of him hanging out with his pet, a landscape photo, eating food for one, him alone at home, bathroom selfies, photos of him alone at a tourist attraction).
He hopes that she will see how lonely he is and realize that he hasn’t moved on because he’s so committed to her, or so hurt from the break up and potentially then reach out to him to say hi.
Yet, in almost all cases, rather than making a woman think, “Oh, wow. I never realized how hard my ex is taking this break up. He’s really looking so sad and lonely, while I’m being such a selfish bitch by flaunting my happiness on social media. Maybe I should text him to see if he’s okay. I feel so bad. He must really still love me. Maybe I made a mistake by breaking up with him after all,” she will see him as a bit of an unwanted loser who can’t attract new, quality women, or can’t handle a break up like a man and ‘needs time to heal.’
Here’s the thing…
Emotional weakness or neediness is not attractive trait to women, especially after they’ve broken up with a man who they don’t feel enough respect, attraction and love to want to be with.
So, if a woman senses that her ex is emotionally weak and lost without her, it will make her feel more certain that she made the right decision to move on with someone else.
Additionally, when a woman has disconnected from her sexual and romantic feelings for a guy and broken up with him, him looking sad and lonely without her doesn’t really matter to her anymore.
After all, he is no longer her responsibility, priority or boyfriend.
He is an ex to her now.
He’s on his own and needs to take care of himself, rather than needing her to be nice to him and make him feel better.
Likewise, if she has moved on and is in a new relationship, then her new boyfriend becomes her focus.
Of course, you can change that.
You can make her focus back on you, open up to interacting with you, feel attracted to you again and even want to give the relationship another chance.
Yet, you’re not going to achieve that by posting up sad, lonely photos on social media, so avoid that completely.
Only post up photos where you are around other people and look confident, happy, included, loved and enjoying yourself.
That is what works.
Another common mistake guys make when their ex is showing off her new relationship on social media is…
4. Not realizing that, in most cases, it’s easy to interfere with and break up a woman’s new relationship and then get her back
Even if your ex seems happy in her new relationship right now, it doesn’t mean you can’t interfere with how she is feeling and make her want you back.
In fact, that is the most common way that men get women back who are dating a new guy.
You can interfere with how she is feeling by interacting with her and letting her experience a new and improved version of you that makes her feel so much respect and attraction than before.
For example: Sometimes a guy will get dumped because he became too insecure in the relationship and stopped acting as manly as he did in the beginning.
As a result, his woman loses respect for him and then finds it difficult to feel attracted to him.
Eventually, she falls out of love with him and dumps him.
Yet, he can immediately begin to turn things around with her by interfering with her current feelings about him.
When he interacts with her and she feels a renewed sense of respect and attraction for the more confident, emotionally masculine man that he has become, she will naturally start to think about him in a more positive light.
She will then begin to realize that her feelings for him aren’t dead and if her relationship with the new guy isn’t perfect, she will naturally open up to meeting up with her ex.
That’s how it’s done.
So, don’t hide away and think that you have no chance with her now that she’s posting about her new relationship on social media.
You do have a chance and you can get her back.