Important: In many cases, a potential negative sign from a woman can mean the complete opposite.
Many women act as though they’re not interested in a guy when they actually are.
Additionally, after a breakup, many women are afraid to show too much interest in an ex in case he rejects them.
So, here are 4 signs that she might not into you anymore, or may not want you back:
1. She refuses to meet up with you in person
If a woman makes it difficult for you to see her again and is saying things like, “No, I don’t want to meet up with you. I’ve said everything I wanted to say to you already and seeing you in person is just going to drag this out. What we had is over and the sooner you accept it, the better it will be for both of us,” chances are high that she’s not into you anymore and doesn’t want you back.
Of course, there’s also another reason why she could be saying that, which has nothing to do with not wanting you back.
Not wanting to see you in person can also be a sign that she is worried that she will want you back, if you and her meet up and sparks fly once again.
So, to avoid being seduced or attracted back into a relationship, she keeps herself away from you.
Does that mean you should simply accept her decision and walk away forever?
Well, not if you want her back.
If you walk away and don’t try to re-attract her in person, you may end up regretting it for the rest of your life.
You might get into relationships with new women and always wish that you’d just tried to get your ex back because, despite all the years that have passed, you still want her back.
The way she makes you feel is different.
She’s not like other girls you’ve been with.
She’s special to you and you really do want to give it another try.
This is why, you need to take action now and make it happen, while you still can (i.e. before she gets into a serious relationship and gets engaged, pregnant or married).
So, if she has been refusing to meet up with you in person, here’s what you can do.
Call her to have a phone conversation with her, or get her on a video call.
Don’t try to arrange the meet up via text.
On the call, focus on having a lighthearted, fun conversation with her where she laughs and smiles and feels happy to be talking to you again, rather than feeling tense and like she wants to get off the call as quickly as possible.
Then, when she seems relaxed and open towards you, say something along the lines of, “Well, it’s been good talking to you. Maybe we can catch up in person sometime this week to say hi. Just as friends of course. It’d be fun to carry on our conversation in person. Of course, it’s not about us getting back together again or anything like that. It’s just two exes being mature enough to share a cup of coffee again as friends. That’s all. I’m busy on Tuesday and Friday, but free on Monday or Wednesday. What day suits you best?”
In some cases, a woman will agree right away, but in many cases, she will be a bit hesitant and say something like, “I’m not sure if that’s a good idea,” or “I don’t think I want to do that right now.”
Regardless of how she responds, don’t start thinking things like, “Well, that is the ultimate proof she’s not into me anymore and doesn’t want me back! If she still had some feelings for me she would say yes. I’m screwed! I’ve lost her!”
Instead, just maintain your confidence and say something like, “Hey, it’s just a coffee. We would be two friends meeting up for some coffee to say hi. We’re mature enough to do that. Besides, if after the catch up, you decide that you never want to see me again, I promise to never contact you again. You have my word. So, which day suits you best, Monday or Wednesday?”
In most cases, the woman will then agree, even it’s only to close off the relationship and have her ex no longer contact her.
Yet, what your ex doesn’t realize is that at the meet up, you’re going to be saying and doing the types of things that will reawaken her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
You’re going to make her laugh, smile and feel happy with her decision to see you in person again, even if she initially didn’t want to.
You’re going to flirt with her and make her feel sexy and desirable in your presence.
As a result, her feelings for you are going to come flooding back and she’s not going to want that to be the last time you and her meet up.
In fact, because you set those conditions, she’ll begin to feel worried about never seeing you again and will either mention that it doesn’t have to be the last time you and her speak, or will begin showing you a lot of interest and hoping you are confident enough to make a move (i.e. hug her, kiss her, invite her back to your place and then have sex).
So, don’t worry if she has recently refused, or seemed unwilling to meet up with you.
Her feelings about meeting up with change, if you adjust your approach to her the next time you interact with her (i.e. make her feel attracted).
Another potential sign that she’s not into you anymore or doesn’t want you back, is…
2. She has told everyone that you and her are finished and there’s no chance of getting back together
In some cases, a woman who is over her ex will make a point of letting everyone else around her know about it (e.g. friends, family, coworkers).
In that way, she can use her friends to help her stop going back to you if she misses you.
For example: If she begins to miss you and tells her friends, family or coworkers that she wants to give you another chance, they can then say, “No. Be strong. You said that it was over and you had your reasons. That has to mean you made the right decision. Don’t crumble now just because you’re feeling a little sad or lonely. If you stay strong you’ll find another guy soon; someone who deserves you and won’t hurt you, or disappoint you like he did.”
So, don’t take it as meaning that you and her have absolutely no chance of getting back together.
Instead, from now on, just use interactions to spark her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for you, so she begins to feel compelled to get back with you.
If she is worried about what others might think if she goes back on her word, just explain that her feelings are for her alone to decide on, without anyone else (including you) telling her how she should, or shouldn’t feel.
It’s up to her.
Her heart knows what it wants and no one else has the right to tell her to listen to them, instead of her heart.
As long as you’ve re-attracted her before saying that, then her heart will be telling her to get back with you.
So, if she is worried about what others might think, you can say something like this after having re-attracted her first, “I know that a lot has changed between us and that you’re not really sure how you feel. Maybe a part of you feels that you hate me, but a part of you also still loves me and that can be confusing. If you stop and listen to your intuition, it will lead you in the right direction. Of course, I would like that direction to be back with me, but if it’s not, then I will respect that and never contact you again, if that’s what you want. I just want you to be happy and no one can tell you what will make that happen except you. So, listen to your heart and your instincts and then do what they say, regardless of what other people might be telling you.”
Of course, saying something like that isn’t going to automatically make her jump back in your arms.
However, it will make her stop and question herself and how she is now feeling about you.
As a result, she then begins to wonder things like, “Am I resisting giving him another chance because of what happened between us in the past, or because I told everyone that we’re finished and there’s no chance of us getting back together? Am I just worried about them thinking that I’m immature, can’t stick to my word or can’t get another guy, so I’m just settling for my ex? What if I stick to my decision to be broken up and then end up regretting it later on? Shouldn’t I do what feels right to me now, regardless of what I said before?”
She then opens up to the idea of giving you another chance for her own reasons (i.e. she feels attracted to you again and doesn’t want to spend years regretting letting you go and watching you live a happy life with another woman).
As a result, she stops thinking about how you messed up in the past and starts to focus on who you are right now.
Who you are right now is different.
You have leveled up as a man and are now able to attract her in new and interesting ways.
She feels different now and believes that the relationship can and will be better, so she wants to give you another chance.
You can then build on her feelings, get her back and keep the relationship together.
Another sign that she’s not into you anymore and doesn’t want you back is…
3. She’s happily dating and having sex with new men
One of the main signs that a woman is moving on from her past relationship is when she’s happily dating and having sex with a new man.
Of course, in many cases, a rebound relationship doesn’t last and is only a temporary thing to help a woman feel better about herself after a break up (e.g. she lost confidence in her attractiveness and wants to prove to herself that she’s still desirable).
Additionally, some women might hook up and date other guys as a way of getting revenge on an ex guy for hurting them, or for disappointing them in the relationship.
However, dating and having sex can also be a woman’s way of trying to get over her ex and move on, rather than getting back with him.
For example: She is feeling sad and lonely after the breakup and thinking, “I miss him. Maybe I made a mistake by breaking up with him. I feel so confused. He’s not really doing anything to get me back, so I have to do something to snap myself out of this. Maybe I should start dating other guys. If I sleep with a new guy, it will distract me and keep me away from my ex. It’s also possible I might even find a man who makes me feel happier than my ex. Maybe that will help me stop thinking about him.”
Of course, she will rarely, if ever reveal to her ex that she is feeling that way.
Instead, it seems as though she’s not into him anymore and doesn’t want him back, but secretly, she will be hoping that he has the confidence, courage and know-how to re-attract her and get her back.
So, regardless of what vibes your ex has been giving you lately (e.g. she has been closed off, cold and bitchy, or seems to only like you as a friend now), it’s up to you as the man, to take the lead and begin saying and doing the types of things that will reactivate her feelings for you and get the relationship back together.
Here are a few examples of what you can do to start re-attracting your ex during interactions from now on:
Maintain your confidence with her, regardless of what she says to make you feel insecure or unsure of yourself around her (e.g. she talks about guys she’s hooked up with, or has been dating since you and her broke up).
Use humor to ease the tension and make her smile, laugh and feel relaxed to be interacting with you, rather than stressing her out by talking about how much you want to work things out with her.
Believe in yourself and in your value to her, rather than feeling as though you’re no longer good enough for her now that she’s dating and having sex with new men.
Flirt with her to create sexual tension between you, rather than acting too neutral or nice and giving her the impression that you’re no longer interested in her in a sexual and romantic way.
Show her via your attitude, actions, behavior and conversation style that you’ve leveled up as a man, rather than continuing to make the same old attraction mistakes as you did before (e.g. insecure reactions, lacking manliness in how you speak to her or behave around her, doubting yourself, being too neutral like a friend, being too nice).
The more you spark her sexual and romantic feelings for you, the more she will begin to feel drawn to you again.
Then, even if her original intention was to forget all about you and move on with someone else, she will naturally begin to change her mind.
4. She never replies to your texts or answers your calls
Cutting off communication with an ex, is a strong sign that a woman is trying to make a clean start.
However, it’s not a 100% sure sign that she no longer has feelings.
For example: Some of the reasons why a woman won’t reply to any of her ex’s texts or calls or social media messages, include:
- She’s trying her best to get over him and keeping in contact with him doesn’t help with that (i.e. hearing his voice or seeing a message from him reawakens some of her feelings for him).
- She doesn’t want to come across as being too eager and make him feel as though he doesn’t need to change anything about himself to get her back.
- She misses him and wants him back, but doesn’t believe he has changed much, so she worries that it will lead to them breaking up again. So, to avoid going through all the pain of a breakup once again, she avoids interacting with him.
- She misses him, but she’s worried that if she shows interest, he will reject her to get emotional revenge for breaking up with him.
- She’s testing to see if he has the confidence to pursue her, even though she’s not making it easy for him.
That’s why you shouldn’t just assume that she’s not into you anymore and doesn’t’ want you back.
Women always behave in ways that seem to mean one thing, but often mean the complete opposite.
Additionally, a woman’s feelings are almost always open to change.
She can literally go from loving a guy to hating him and visa versa within days or weeks, depending on his approach to her.
So, don’t make the mistake of giving up on being with your ex forever, just because she isn’t giving you obvious, positive signs.
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