How can you make your ex love you again?
How can you make her feel like she’s totally in love with you and wants to be with you and only you?
Here are my 5 tips…
1. Get clear on why she stopped loving you
Recently, I was at a barbecue with my wife and I was talking to a friend of mine.
He introduced me to a friend of his who had been dumped by his girlfriend.
He was saying things like, “She’s so special to me. She’s so unique. There’s no other girl like her. When I’m with her, I feel amazing. I love her so much. I just want to have her back.”
I then say to him, “That’s great. She sounds like an awesome girl, but the most important question here is, how did you make her feel? That’s how she made you feel. How did you make her feel?”
The guy then stopped for a moment and started to realize what I was asking him and he said, “Yeah. Well, maybe I didn’t make her feel like that.”
That’s really an important part of understanding how to make your ex love you again.
The way that it works is that you really love how the other person makes you feel and how you feel when you’re around them.
You love your ex so much because of how she makes you feel, the value that she brings into your life and the way that your experience of life is so much better when she’s a part of it.
However, you’ve got to think about how you’re making her feel.
When she’s around you, are you making her feel amazing?
Does she feel like her experience of life is so much better because you’re a part of it or does she feel like you are dampering her experience?
Does she feel like you’re annoying her, stressing her out, or turning her off?
So, anyway, I got to chatting to the guy and he explained that some of the things he was doing that would’ve caused her to stop loving him included him being insecure, being controlling, not really treating her as well as he did in the beginning and essentially taking her presence in his life for granted.
He was enjoying his life when she was a part of it.
She was adding to his experience, she was making him feel happy, she was making him feel like more of a man, he was proud to have her as his girlfriend, but he wasn’t offering her the same type of experience in return.
He was essentially just taking her presence in his life for granted.
For example, she was complaining about how he was being insecure and a bit too jealous at times, but he didn’t really take that on board and change.
He just thought, “Well, she’ll put up with it because of how amazing the love is and how great our relationship is and I want it more than anything. She knows that. She knows that I care about her, so it doesn’t matter.”
Unfortunately, in the end, it did matter to her because as it turned out, she was giving him warnings and complaining about things for months on end, but he wasn’t changing and she eventually got to the point where she had enough of it and broke up with him.
So, it’s very important that you understand why she stopped loving you.
It’s not because you’re not a lovable person.
It’s not because she can’t love you.
It’s not because the love between you and her wasn’t real or wasn’t good enough.
It’s simply because of how your approach to her and the relationship was making her feel.
She was feeling turned off, annoyed, stressed, or overwhelmed, for example.
As a result, she wasn’t getting a good experience from the relationship.
She couldn’t remain in love with that.
It’s not about you not being lovable or not being good enough.
You can actually make her love you again, but you have to change your approach to her and the relationship.
2. Prepare to attract her in new and exciting ways
When a guy is trying to get his ex woman to love him again, he often goes about it in all the wrong ways.
He starts telling her how much he loves her, how much she means to him, how much he cares about her and how serious he is about changing and improving.
That’s all his stuff.
How much he wants her, how much he cares her, how committed he is and so on.
It doesn’t have anything to do with how he is making her feel in the moment.
Alternatively, some guys don’t go down that path.
Instead, they just cut off contact and ignore their woman.
The guy hopes that by not contacting her and staying out of her life, she’s going to somehow fall in love with him again and want him back.
In some cases, that approach can work, when the woman can’t get over her ex and she can’t find a new guy to enjoy a relationship with or she just can’t handle the pain of the breakup.
However, most women can handle it and most women are fine with moving on and easily hooking up with a new guy.
So, the approach of just cutting off contact and waiting doesn’t work for most guys.
What works is when you interact with your ex and you make her feel attracted to you in new and exciting ways.
For example, if a guy got dumped because he was a bit too nice, a bit too soft and gentle with her and she essentially walked all over him.
What’s going to be new and exciting for her is if he interacts with her and he’s now so much more confident.
He’s actually a bit ballsy with the way that he uses humor.
He messes with her a little bit and isn’t afraid of her anymore. He’s still being a good guy, he’s still treating her well, but he’s so much more confident now.
He’s using some ballsy humor to make her laugh and let her see that she really does feel differently around him now.
For example, he catches up with his ex girlfriend and they’re at a café or coffee shop.
She’s playing hard to get as usual and testing his confidence to see if he is going to allow her to dominate him and walk all over him.
She says something like, “I don’t even know why I came. This is a waste of my time.”
The old version of him would try to appease her and try to say to her, “Hey. No, no. It’s fine. Look. We can work things out. We’re just having a chat. Let’s just hang out and talk and don’t worry about it,” and try to appease her in that type of way.
The new, more confident and ballsy version of him would smile and confidently say something like, “Come on, you know why you’re here. You miss me. You missed me, didn’t you?”
She’ll then start smiling.
He’ll then point out the fact that she’s smiling and laugh and say, “Look, it’s all over your face. You’re smiling. You’re admitting it. You can’t hide the fact that you have missed me, haven’t you?”
Then, she starts laughing and she enjoys being around him.
She enjoys the fact that he has leveled up as a man.
He is now much more confident and as a result, she feels attracted to him.
When she feels attracted to him and she can respect him for the fact that he has levelled up like that, she can then start to love him for the experience that she gets when she’s around him.
When she’s around him, she gets to feel attracted.
She gets to feel feminine, she gets to feel like she’s having a good time and enjoying being around a guy that she’s attracted to.
As a result, she loves him, she loves being around him.
3. Allow her to experience a new, more satisfying love for you
Where guys go wrong in this area is that they try too hard to suck up to her and please her.
The guy is essentially doing whatever she wants, agreeing with her, giving more and just trying to be the best boyfriend, or if it’s a husband, the best husband that he can be for her.
He’s trying to do everything for her and hopefully make her happy for that reason.
Yet, that approach just doesn’t work with women.
The most satisfying type of love for a woman is when she’s really attracted to you and she can see that you are attracted to her, too, but you’re not chasing the relationship.
You’re not trying to suck up to her.
You’re actually in the position of power.
She’s in the position where she needs to continue to impress you, to please you.
It’s not about treating her badly or not being a good guy or anything like that.
You’ll still be a good guy to her and you’ll still treat her well, but you are in the position of power.
You are the more valuable one in the relationship.
That doesn’t mean she isn’t valuable, but it means that you are the more valuable one.
You don’t go and SAY that to her though, because that’s just rude and it won’t work.
Instead, you let her decide that for herself based on the dynamic that you create when you’re interacting with her.
She knows that she’s very attracted to you and you’re attracted to her, but she also knows that she needs to keep impressing you and maintaining your interest, otherwise you could lose interest in her.
Otherwise, you could go and select another woman.
Again, you don’t go and tell her that! 🙂
She just gets that impression based on the approach that you use with her.
Be subtle about those things.
Let your body language, behavior and vibe do all the talking.
Saying that you are happy without her, or that you are more valuable than her and she is lucky to have a guy like you interested in her just doesn’t work.
So, be subtle about it and she will realize those things on her own.
4. Build on her new feelings for you
What this is about is giving her a next level experience.
You give her a next level experience in terms of how much respect, attraction and love she feels for you.
Don’t try to get her back and hopefully get her to love you by offering her the same type of experience she was having with you before.
That doesn’t work.
Additionally, don’t try to make her love you again by sucking up to her or desperately chasing her and hoping to get her to give you another chance.
That doesn’t work either.
What you need to do is give her a next level experience in terms of how much respect you make her feel, how much attraction you make her feel and how much love you make her feel.
5. Get her to look up to you and respect you as her man
For a woman to truly love a man, she has to be able to respect him and look up to him.
Where guys go wrong when trying to get their ex woman to love them again is by interacting with her and coming across in a way that naturally makes her lose respect for him.
For example, he is giving her too much power in the conversation.
He’s talking in a way that displays insecurity and self-doubt.
He is talking in a way that displays emotional sensitivity.
He’s too sensitive, he’s too vulnerable, he isn’t strong enough.
Alternatively, he’s on the other end of the spectrum where he’s way too arrogant, way too angry and irritable and selfish.
As a result, she cannot look up to him and respect him.
So, if you want your ex to love you again, you must interact with her in a way that makes her respect you and look up to you.
When you do that, she will naturally start to feel attracted to you again and she’ll then love you.
She’ll love being around you.
She will love how you make her feel.
You’ll make her feel respect, attraction, admiration, happiness, joy and other positive emotions.
When she’s around you, she gets to feel amazing.
That’s how to get your ex to love you again.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
When you watch the program, you will learn my best techniques for interacting with your ex and making her feel attracted to you again.
When you follow the steps of the program, she will feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
She will then begin to fall back in love with you.
When you continue to use the techniques from the program, she will fall more in love with you and you will keep the relationship together.
Giving Her the Ultimate Gift
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is that you are going to be giving her a gift by getting back with her.
Truly falling back in love with a guy who is making her feel so much respect and attraction is one of the most amazing experiences a woman will ever have in her life.
It’s the sort of thing that women buy movie tickets to go and see on the big screen.
It’s also the sort of thing that women read in romance novels and imagine happening to them.
The thing is, your ex might be confused at first because she was sure that she didn’t want to get back with you, but her heart will be full of new, exciting feelings for you that she simply cannot ignore.
When you approach it in that way, your ex falls back in love with you and you get her back.