In this post, I’m going to discuss 7 different ways that a guy can get his girlfriend back after a break up.
The exact approach that you need to use to get your girlfriend back will depend on what stage of the break up process you are in and how bad the break up was.
For example: If you’ve just broken up, it’s usually very easy to get another chance with a girlfriend by giving her a sincere apology, understanding where she is coming from and then showing her that you’ve already begun making improvements to the things that she is breaking up with you about.
She will then feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and will be willing to forgive your past mistakes, give the relationship another chance and continue on for now.
However, if you and her have already broken up many times before, have broken up months ago, you’ve cheated on her or she is moving on with another guy, you will need to add in a few more steps to the process of getting her back.
If you’re currently dealing with a difficult break up and haven’t been able to get your girlfriend back so far, you will need to follow a tested, proven to work plan that ensures you will get another chance with her.
All the examples of what to say and do at each step of the process are provided in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
For now though, let’s have a look at some of the different ways to get your girlfriend back after a break up…
1. Meet up with her in person and get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, forgive you and become open to being with you again.
When getting a girlfriend back after a break up, the most important thing that you need to do is meet up with her in person.
It’s only in person that she will be able to clearly see that you already have changed the way that you think, feel and behave around her. You cannot show that to her via a text message and you can only half get that across to her on a phone call.
Phone calls are good, but the most effective and efficient way to get a girlfriend back after a break up is to get her to feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you in person.
It might take you a couple of days to fix your issues (e.g. insecure, not knowing how to make her feel attracted to you anymore, etc) or it might take you a couple of weeks, but no matter how long it takes you, the best way to show her that is in person, not via text, email, written letter or any other type of message.
Due to the popularity of smartphones and how much people tend to text these days, a lot of guys now make the mistake of hoping to get their girlfriend back via text.
However, using text as a way to get a girlfriend back after a break up is usually the worst approach to take.
The best way to get your girlfriend to notice real changes in you is to get her on a phone call and then meet up with her in person.
If she isn’t currently answering your texts or phone calls, my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System provides tested examples of what to text her to get her on a phone call and then what to say on the call to get her to meet up with you.
2. Redefine the relationship and start again.
Sometimes a relationship will break up because the man and woman simply don’t know how to make each other feel how they really want to feel when in a relationship.
This may happen if a guy is inexperienced with relationships, if he takes his woman for granted or if he just wasn’t ready to be the type of man that she really needs.
In cases like this, a guy needs to tell his girlfriend that he believes the relationship is worth investing a bit more time in because all relationships go through ups and downs.
He needs to tell her that what makes a relationship last is when they can grow and learn together in a relationship and become closer, happier and more fulfilled as a result.
Couples that are still happy and in love after decades give each other that time to grow and learn together and become better at loving each other, making each other happy and having the type of experiences that they want when in a relationship.
He then needs to say something like, “If you want to break up, I will accept that, but just answer this question for me: Hypothetically speaking, if we did decide to give our relationship one last chance, what are two or three things that you would need from me to make this relationship work? After you answer that, I will tell you what I would want from you.”
When talking to a woman about these sorts of things, you need to make sure that you aren’t coming from a place where you are begging or being desperate for her to give you another chance.
Why? Women are attracted to the emotional strength of men (e.g. belief in yourself, confidence, high self-esteem, etc) and are turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecure, neediness, low self-esteem, etc).
You must have the emotional strength to come across as being confident in your attractive and value to her, rather than giving her the impression that you’re unsure about yourself or worried that you won’t be able to attract another woman like her if she leaves you.
When you can sincerely be confident and emotionally secure when you talk to her, she will be able to look up to you and respect you as well as feel attracted to you, which will make her want to reconsider her decision.
3. Make her feel jealous by enjoying your life without her.
Making a woman feel jealous isn’t the only thing that you need to do to get her back, but it’s something that helps bring down her guard and make her feel compelled to stay in contact with you.
If a guy is just sitting around his home feeling lonely and depressed, posting up sad photos on social media and ranting on about how love isn’t fair, then his girlfriend isn’t going to be feeling jealous of his emotional state.
On the other hand, if she sees him having a great time without her (whether he tells her in person, over the phone or she sees it on social media), it can help to remind her that she is losing a great guy who has the emotional strength to get on with life regardless of the pain of the break up.
In my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, I talk about how to make a woman feel all sorts of painful and positive emotions that combine together to make her want to get back with you or at least meet up with you as soon as possible.
Getting a girlfriend back is not all about making her feel the painful emotions of jealous and loss when she sees you enjoying yourself without her.
To get a girlfriend back after a break up, it’s also very important that you make her feel a range of positive emotions when she talks to you on the phone, interacts with you in person or even just stops by to check you out on social media.
A lot of women will block their ex boyfriend on Facebook and other social media sites after a break up, but they always tend to stop by every now and then to have a quick look at how he is doing.
So, in cases where the girlfriend hates her ex boyfriend and is not willing to meet up with him, he at least needs to ensure that the way he is being represented on social media is making her feel a combination of painful and positive emotions, which will cause her to either unblock him, get in contact with him or finally answer her phone when he calls.
4. Get her to have sex with you one last time.
A great way to get your girlfriend back after a break up is to get her to agree to have sex one last time.
If you have also improved and fixed some of the issues that caused the break up (e.g. insecurity) and you are able to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you when you meet up with her, the sex will be the enjoyable icing on top of the cake.
She will be feeling all sorts of new and exciting emotions now that you’ve changed and as a result, the sex will be much more enjoyable and will make her feel as though it’s a good idea to give the relationship another chance.
Of course, not all women will readily agree to have sex one last time, so what a guy needs to do in cases like that is meet up with her in person and get her laughing and smiling and feeling a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him before he suggests it.
If you don’t know what to say or do to get your girlfriend to agree to have sex with you one last time, I provide tested examples of what to say and do in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
5. Start dating other women who are as attractive as her or even more attractive.
When a guy wants to get a girlfriend back, he will rarely want to start dating other women because he will simply want to get his ex back.
I understand that.
However, one of the ways to get a girlfriend after a break up is to start dating other women who are as attractive as her or even more attractive than her.
This approach helps when a woman has broken up with a guy because she feels as though he’s not good enough for her. Then, when she sees him with other women, she starts to realize that maybe she has made a mistake and is now losing a great guy.
6. Stop texting her and only be available via phone call or meet up.
A lot of guys delay the process of getting a woman back by allowing her to access to text him back and forth whenever she feels like it.
If you want to make her feel some loss and be willing to talk to you on the phone, you’ve got to cut off her access to text communication with you.
By continuing to text her whenever she feels like it, she will be able to calm any painful feelings by texting you something like, “Hey, how are you doing?” and seeing by your replies that you’re still missing her and hoping to get her back.
The reason why you should only talk to her on a phone call and in person is so she can feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, based on the changes and improvements you’ve made to how you think, feel, talk to her and behave.
Trying a show a girlfriend how much you’ve changed by texting her is nearly impossible because without her being able to see your body language, hear the way you are expressing yourself and assessing how you are behaving, she has to guess what state of mind you are really in when sending her those texts.
If your girlfriend currently has a negative perception of you, she’s most likely going to look at your texts in a negative light.
However, if you speak to her on the phone and get her smiling and laughing, she will be more open to listening to you, talking to you and respecting how much you’ve already changed and improved as a man.
If you don’t know what to say or do to get your girlfriend on the phone, laughing and smiling and being willing to meet up with you in person, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
7. Only display traits that will attract her and make her feel respectful of you.
Some guys make the mistake of thinking that they might be able to get another chance with their ex girlfriend by making her feel guilty or making her feel pity for him.
For example: He will slip into begging, pleading, promising her the world if she gives him another chance, declaring his undying love for her, threatening to kill himself, saying that he is nothing without her and so on.
However, none of that makes a woman attracted or compelled to give a guy another chance. Why?
Women are naturally turned off by the emotional weakness of men (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, neediness, etc) and attracted to the emotional strength (e.g. confidence, high-self esteem, etc).
So, from now on, you need to make sure that you’re only displaying the personality traits and behaviors that a re naturally attractive to women (e.g. confidence, charisma, emotional strength, the ability to make her laugh, etc).
She’s not going to be interested in cute, romantic or sweet gestures until you get her to feel respect for you first and then begin to reattract her by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women.
For example: When you call her up, you need to be able to let her feel your confidence and emotional strength by talking to her in a confident, masculine and mature way.
However, you should also be confident enough to make her smile and get her laughing by adding in some humor, rather than being afraid to do that because you’re worried that she might not like it.
Women are attracted to confident men who aren’t afraid to be attractive during interactions.
Even if you your girlfriend said, “I hate you!” or “I don’t have feelings for you anymore!” during the break up, the best way to begin getting her back is to make her have feelings for you again by displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women.
Don’t shut yourself down and become neutral, too friendly or too nice now that she has broken up with you. You must get her respect back, get her to feel attracted to you again and when that happens, she will naturally begin to have feelings for you again.
If you need help on what to say and do to get her respect and attraction back, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System