Here are 3 examples of how other guys have gotten their ex girlfriend (or wife) back from her new boyfriend:
Example 1: The guy was dumped for being too clingy and needy
When a guy gets dumped for being too clingy and needy, his woman will usually then hook up with a new guy who is more confident than him.
The new guy might not be perfect, but she will focus on his good qualities and overlook any flaws, so she can get caught up in the thrill of falling in love.
However, that doesn’t mean that her ex guy has no chance with her anymore.
He can get her back.
I’ve worked on many cases like that and here’s a summary of what one of the guys that I helped did to get his ex woman back:
- He stopped thinking insecure thoughts like, “I don’t know what to do without her. I feel lost. She was my whole world and now I have nothing worth living for,” and started thinking confident thoughts like, “Yes, I miss her and want her back, but I don’t need her to have a happy, fulfilling life. I have my own goals, interests, hobbies and friends to keep me busy. Life is good with or without her. I want her back, but I don’t need her.”
- He started having more fun in his life and letting her see that by posting photos on social media of himself having a good time with friends, attending music festivals or sporting events, traveling and doing other exciting things.
- He called her on the phone, made her smile and laugh and made her feel sparks of attraction for him again.
- He got her to agree to meet up with him to say hello as friends.
- At the meet up he maintained his confidence around her, even when she was by being cold and mean towards him.
- He focused on building on her feelings of respect, attraction and love for him by behaving in some of the ways that are naturally attractive to women (e.g. confident, self-assure, charismatic, charming, emotionally masculine).
- He ended the meet up with a warm goodbye hug and a kiss and left her feeling confused about her feelings for her new guy.
- A few days later he called her and sparked her feelings for him some more.
- She met up with him again, they had sex and she then said that she’d been missing him.
- She then broke up with her new boyfriend and came back to her ex.
A second example of a guy getting his ex back even though she already had a new boyfriend is…
Example 2: The guy was dumped for taking his girlfriend for granted
Sometimes in a relationship, it’s easy for a guy to fall into the habit of taking his woman for granted (e.g. getting angry at her often and expecting her to just put up with it, not following through on his promises to her, expecting her to treat him with respect at all times even though he wasn’t treating her with respect at all times).
It doesn’t mean that the guy is a bad person, or that he’s doing those things to intentionally to make her feel unloved and unappreciated.
Sometimes a guy will be like that, but not in most cases.
In most cases, a guy simply doesn’t know how else to behave to get his point across or to get his woman to treat him well.
The guy also makes the mistake of thinking that because she loved him so much at the start, she will put up with anything and never leave him.
Yet, that’s just not how relationships work anymore.
A woman can dump a guy and leave him if she wants to.
So, when his girlfriend (or wife) left and found herself another, more loving and attentive boyfriend, it most likely came as quite a shock to him.
To many guys, it feels like she just decided to break up with him suddenly, out of the blue.
Yet, in reality, in most cases, the woman had been working up the courage to leave him for some time after giving him repeated warnings about not treating her the way she deserved to be treated.
Despite those warnings, it really didn’t register with him that she would seriously break up with him and move on if he didn’t change.
So, how can a guy get a woman back in a case like that if she has a new boyfriend?
Based on a case that I worked on a few weeks ago, here’s what the guy did…
He started off by letting her know that he has now realized the mistakes he was making and was sorry about that, but didn’t expect her to take him back.
He said something along the lines of, “I see now why you broke up with me and I’m sorry about that. I was taking you for granted and it made you feel like I didn’t care. Of course, nothing could have been further from the truth. I really did care about you, but my actions and behavior seemed to show otherwise. I just want you to know that accept that I stuffed up and I’m truly sorry for making you feel less important to me than you really were. I don’t’ expect you to give me another chance or even care about my sincere apology to you. I just want you to know that I get it now. I also want you to understand that in a relationship, it’s inevitable that mistakes will be made along the way. You made some and I made some. Well, it was mostly my fault, but we both made mistakes along the way. That doesn’t mean we’re bad people. In my case, I simply didn’t know how else to conduct myself in a relationship and ended up making you feel taken for granted. I get that now. I also understand that you have a new boyfriend now and you probably don’t really care anything I’m saying right now. However, it would be nice if we could put all that behind us and just move forward as friends. So, how about it? Will you forgive me and agree to be just friends from now on?”
She was then able to start believing that he had changed for the better and because he wasn’t asking for another chance at a relationship, she agreed to remain friends with him.
He then used the friendship as a platform to actively spark her feelings of respect and attraction for him during every interaction they had (e.g. via text, on phone calls and in person) from then on.
The more time she spent with him, the more confused she became about her feelings for her new boyfriend.
She realized that, although her new boyfriend was sweet and attentive and she wasn’t being taken for granted anymore, the attraction she felt for her ex was stronger, more real and more fulfilling.
So, she broke up with her new boyfriend and got back together with her ex.
A third example of a guy getting his ex back even though she already had a new boyfriend is…
Example 3: The guy was dumped for making her feel like more of a friend than a girlfriend
In this case, the guy felt so comfortable around his woman that he unconsciously started treating her more like a buddy than an attractive, desirable woman.
He stopped being charming and romantic and did the same boring things with her over and over again, expecting her to just be happy with that and the friendship type relationship that they now had.
As a result of treating her more like a buddy, the sex fizzled out and she started to feel annoyed by his touching, hugging or kissing whenever he tried to initiate sex.
It just didn’t feel right to her anymore.
So, in this case, the woman tried to get her boyfriend to stop treating her like a friend and start looking at her as a sexy, girly, feminine woman who needed to be treated like a woman.
For example: She started wearing sexier clothes, planning romantic weekends and randomly acting girly and submissive to see how he’d react.
Rather than reacting and making her feel like his girl, he kept on with the friendship style of relationship and at times, even acted a bit like her (e.g. changing the tone of his voice often and talking in a fairly girly way, giggling with her about things, being overly cute about things).
Eventually, she felt more like his roommate or sister than his woman.
The guy didn’t mean to be like that and cause those problems.
He was just doing what he felt like doing, which turned out to be a turn off.
He didn’t realize that the less feminine and girly a woman feels around her man, the less sexual attraction she feels for him.
He didn’t realize that to keep the sexual attraction and love alive, he has to clearly be the man and let her clearly be the woman, rather than kind of being like each other and just hanging out like friends.
As a result, she didn’t feel the spark anymore and dumped him.
She then hooked up with a new guy who had a more masculine approach to life and interactions and as a result, she enjoyed the fact that she could feel girly in comparison to him.
So, how did the guy get her back from her new boyfriend?
He stopped changing his tone of voice to be neutral (or even feminine at times) and started talking in a more manly way.
He also stopped being so emotionally sensitive about things and started being more emotionally strong and emotionally mature like a man.
This took him a few days to get used to and he then contacted his ex to start re-attracting her and getting her back.
He got her on a call and used flirting to build up sexual tension and make her agree to meet up with him in person.
In person, he continued to build on the feelings of sexual tension (to make her want him) and also made her feel feminine and girly in contrast to his masculine vibe, behavior, conversation style and actions.
She was surprised by the changes in him and automatically felt rushes of respect and attraction for him.
At that point, her guard came down and she started to open up to the possibility of getting back with him.
However, to make sure that he got her back, he didn’t rush to get her to commit to the idea of leaving her new guy.
He didn’t even mention that at all.
He just focused on building on her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for him, so she felt like she wanted to leave her boyfriend without being forced into that decision by him.
After the meet up (which ended with a warm hug), he gave her a few days of space where he didn’t contact her at all.
He then called her to say hello and she was happy to hear from him.
They met up again and this time, hooked up sexually and he blew her mind by being more confident and masculine than he had even been before.
She then dumped her new boyfriend and they got back together again.
Those are three examples (out of 100s) that I’ve personally worked on and heard back about here at The Modern Man.
One of the most important things that I help men with when getting an ex woman back is about how to re-attract her.
Here are some examples…
I also offer more advanced ways to re-attract your ex in my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
When you use those techniques, she simply will not be able to resist leaving her new boyfriend to give you another chance.
5 Mistakes That Can Ruin Your Chances of Getting Her Back
Getting an ex back is usually a pretty easy process when you focus on attraction.
Yes, even if she has a new guy.
You can make her feel more attracted to you than she feels for him, so don’t about him.
Attraction rules over everything else.
If you make her feel attracted to again, she feels drawn to you and, as long as you follow the right steps to get her back, she will be yours once again.
So, while getting her back, make sure to avoid these classic mistakes…
1. Only trying to get her back via text
If your ex has a new boyfriend, it’s likely that she won’t be very open to talking to you over the phone, or meeting up with you in person, because she doesn’t want to upset him.
So, the only contact you might have with her at the moment is via text.
Unfortunately, you just can’t fully reactivate a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for you via text.
No matter how sweet or charming you might think you’re being via text, if she can’t hear the confidence in your voice, or experience it in person, she will likely assume the worst of you.
For example: If you try to make her laugh via text, rather than feel amused and say to herself, “Wow, he’s so confident and funny! Even though I’m being so cold and mean to him, he’s still being confident. It takes so much balls to be confident via text!” she will instead likely think, “Oh wow, you’re so funny and confident, aren’t you? Yeah right…you’re probably just too scared to call me or face me in person, so you hide behind these texts. Grow a pair of balls and call me.”
You just have to call and let her experience the new and improved you, so she can feel something real for you.
Text simply doesn’t cut it in most cases.
Essentially, because she has no new information about you to base her opinion on (i.e. she hasn’t interacted with you on the phone or in person to experience the new you), she will read your texts and continue thinking of you as the emotionally unattractive guy that she broke up with.
In most cases, she won’t say, “Wow! Now that was an amazing text! He deserves me back because of that.”
Of course, if your ex still has strong feelings for you, then a text can make her miss you and want to see you again.
That is true.
However, the majority of guys that I’ve helped to get a woman back (especially when she has a new guy) are in a situation where she no longer has feelings for him.
So, when he tries to get her back via text, she just rolls her eyes and feels turned off by his lack of balls to call her or get her to agree to meet up with him in person.
Another mistake to avoid making is…
2. Hoping that it’s a rebound relationship and all you need to do is wait it out
Sometimes a guy might say to himself, “Her new boyfriend is probably a rebound, so it won’t last. She thinks he’s great because he’s not making the same mistakes as I did. When she realizes that he has faults too and isn’t so perfect after all, she will break up with him as well. I just need to wait.”
He might then wait around for weeks, months and in some cases even years, for his ex to break up with her new guy.
Eventually, he might come to the realization that she’s not going to dump her new guy and that he’s wasted all that time waiting for her, instead of staying in touch as a friend and then rebuilding her sexual and romantic feelings for him.
Alternatively, if she does dump the guy and he then calls her up after a long silence, she might say something like, “What? You’re still waiting for me? Why? I haven’t heard from you in ages and you think we can now get back together again just because I’ve broken up with my boyfriend? Sorry, but my feelings for you died a long time ago. You need to accept that I’m never getting back with you. It’s time for you to move on. We’re never getting back together. Don’t ever call me again.”
That’s not what you want to hear after patiently waiting for her to finish the relationship with her new boyfriend and become available again.
So, what should you do instead?
Do something about it NOW.
If you want to win your ex back from her new boyfriend, you have to be active about it, not inactive.
You have to interrupt the process of her moving on, by interacting with her and re-sparking her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction for you.
Once you do that, her behavior and attitude towards you changes completely and you can then begin to get her back and leave her new boyfriend thinking, “Huh? What just happened? Why did she leave me?”
So, get rid of the new guy and take her back.
She’s your woman.
Make her love you again.
While doing that, another mistake to avoid is…
3. Lying to her about being with other women, or not even wanting her back
Sometimes, a guy will try to shock his ex into wanting him by trying to make her jealous (i.e. by telling her he’s been with other women), or make her fear losing him forever (i.e. by saying that he would never get back with her and is happily moving on without her).
Yet, here’s the thing…
When a woman has lost touch with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for her ex and has already found someone else, rather than feel jealous or fear losing him, she will simply feel relieved that things are over between them.
She will only care if he reactivates her feelings of sexual and romantic attraction and then seems to be happy and enjoying life without her.
However, if she doesn’t feel anything for him, she’s just not going to care about who he’s with or what he thinks about her anymore.
Of course, some women will care (e.g. if she’s a narcissist kind of woman who needs everything to be about her, or if she likes to keep ex guys chasing her to boost her confidence), but most women won’t.
Another more mistake to avoid making is…
4. Saying negative things about the other guy
As tempting as it might be to want to point out your ex’s new boyfriend’s faults, don’t do it.
Be the bigger man by not even looking at his as being competition to you.
Just know that you’re better than him, without even having to say anything about him or point out his flaws or faults.
If you bring up his bad qualities, rather than make her think, “You know… I never noticed that about my new guy. My ex is right! My new boyfriend is definitely a jerk. I’m going to dump him now and go back to my ex for being such a great guy and pointing this out to me,” she’s going to think something like, “He’s just being a jealous ex and hoping that by saying bad things about my new boyfriend, I will change my mind and take him back. Well that’s never going to happen. Even if I did break up with my new man, I would never get back together with a jealous, immature guy like my ex.”
You don’t want her thinking that way about you!
Be the bigger man, so she doesn’t have to think of you as being jealous, insecure or immature.
A final mistake to avoid making is…
5. Letting her see that your life is on hold while you wait for her
This might seem romantic, but it just doesn’t work.
Instead of feeling flattered by your devotion to her, your ex will feel turned off by your lack of purpose and direction in life.
Here’s the thing…
You stand a much better chance of getting her back by showing her that you’re living a happy, exciting, interesting life without her, rather than sitting around wasting your life away waiting for her.
Although a woman likes to be wanted and desired by a man, she definitely doesn’t want to be needed by him.
She doesn’t want to be his purpose for living and she doesn’t want to be responsible for his happiness in life.
So, if you want to get your ex back even though she already has a new boyfriend, make sure that you allow yourself to feel happy, confident and emotionally fulfilled without her.
Then, when you interact with her (e.g. on a phone call, or in person) and she gets a sense that you are happy, confident and getting on with your life without her, she will begin to see you in a new light.
She will look at you as being a confident, emotionally mature and emotionally strong man, which will automatically make her feel some respect and attraction for you.
From there, you just need to build on her feelings and create some sexual tension between you and her.
As a result, she will become confused about her feelings for her new boyfriend and start to wonder why she isn’t with you.
You can then get her back and make her new boyfriend history.
By the way…
Every day, all over the world, guys get their ex girlfriend (or wife) back when she has a new boyfriend.
It’s not only possible, but in most cases, it easy when you focus on attraction.
You can re-attract her and make her want you more than she wants him.
You can interrupt the process of her moving on and get her to come running back to you.