In this video, I’m going to give you eight examples of how to flirt with your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife via text.
With these examples, they can create a spark of attraction with your ex, but I don’t recommend that you just stick to text.
Simply focus on getting a bit of a spark going and getting her laughing while texting with you.
You text something that creates a spark and after maybe a couple more texts, you move to a phone call then you get her to meet up with you.
You re-attract her at the meetup and you get the relationship back together by going through the full ex back process.
Don’t just get stuck with texting because so many guys lose their ex-girlfriend or wife by sticking with text and they hope to somehow, get a text from her one day where she says, “I miss you. I want you back.”
Yet, what often happens is the guy texts with her for a long time, she gets bored and he thinks that he’s lost her.
He then stops trying, or he starts asking her why she has stopped texting and then she gets turned off by his insecurity.
With these examples, use them to flirt with your ex via text and then get to a phone call, get to a meetup and then go through the full ex back process.
So, with the first example, she texts you, “Do you miss me?” and you reply, “Who is this again?”
Alternatively, you can reply with, “Who is this?” and 5 to 10 seconds later, you can text her the emoticon with the smile and a tongue sticking out 😛
The next example, she texts you and says that she’s had a horrible day at work and is complaining about what’s going on at work and things like that, but you can see that she’s just being dramatic.
She doesn’t really care about it and she’s just letting off steam like a typical woman venting about her day.
You can reply with, “Sucks to be you,” and add in the emoticon with the smile and the tongue sticking out 😛
The next example, she texts you, “What are you up to today?”
You then reply with, “It depends,” and she might reply with, “On what?” and you text back, “Whether you’re cooking for me tonight or not. I miss your lasagna,” and add in a “Haha.”
Next example, you text her, “How was your day?” and she replies with, “Not telling,” and then you can text back, “Oooh, mysterious woman. Haha.”
Next example, if she is complaining about her work day, you can text, “Lol…that sounds like fun,” or “More drama at work? You’re such a drama queen these days.”
Number six, if she asks, “How are you today?” you can reply, “Bad,” and then she might reply with, “Huh? Why?” You then reply, “Just kidding. Having an awesome day. You?”
Number seven, she texts you, “How are you?” you can reply with, “I can’t tell you. That’s confidential information.”
You might want to add on an “Lol…” on the end of that if you think that she might take it the wrong way.
Finally, number eight, if she texts you, “Do you miss me?” You can reply with, “Only as much as you miss me,” and add on the winky smile emoticon on the end 😉
The Art of Flirting With Your Ex
So what makes this flirting and makes it enjoyable for a woman is that you’re not taking the text conversation so seriously.
You’re not being one of those ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands that wants to have serious conversations with her via text.
You’re not being super nice all the time and you’re not being predictable.
You’re mixing things up and are giving her the opportunity to feel a bit shocked and a bit thrown off.
For example: She texts you and asks, “Do you miss me?” and you reply back with, “Only as much as you miss me,” and give her the winky smile 😉
What you’re saying is that you see her asking you the question of, “Do you miss me,” as her actually missing you.
She will read between the lines with that and know what you mean.
Women are great at reading between the lines and that’s why they love flirting with guys.
Most guys, when they talk to women, they like to be very straightforward as if they’re talking to another guy, which is boring for women.
She asks, “Do you miss me?” and he just says, “Yes. How about you? Do you miss me?” It’s a straightforward conversation.
Yet, what women love is when a guy not only has the balls to say something a little bit quirky, a little bit witty, or a little bit daring,
He has the social intelligence to flirt with her in a time when they are broken up.
That’s attractive to a woman — confidence, social intelligence and the ability to make her laugh.
No doubt you’ve heard many women say, “I like a guy who can make me laugh.” It’s a universally attractive trait.
One of the things that you need to understand is that flirting is like a mental dance between a man and woman.
You say something where you’re playfully teasing her and you’re messing with her and she will act shocked or as though it’s not having an effect on her.
She then wants to see that you maintain your confidence and you don’t suddenly become insecure and think you’d blown it with her.
When she sees that you maintain your confidence, she feels respect and attraction for you.
Sometimes when you flirt with a woman, she will be very easy and open and she’ll flirt right back with you.
Yet, sometimes, she will act as though it’s not working on her.
She will act as though she’s shocked by something that you’ve said.
She wants to see how you are going to react.
Are you going to lose confidence in yourself?
Who is the tougher one of the two of you?
Who is the more emotionally strong one?
That’s the mental dance that I’m talking about.
The reason why it’s so attractive to women is that it signals to the woman that the man would be able to handle himself in other social situations.
She feels safe about his ability to interact with people, interact with challenging people and get by in the world.
She knows that if other people put pressure on him and are challenging towards him, he’s going to be able to maintain his confidence and therefore she feels safe with him.
Being able to survive and get along with people triggers an instinctive primal type of attraction inside of a woman.
Women always test a man’s ability to remain confident to find out if he can handle being put under pressure.
This is why a man will talk to a woman in person and everything will seem to be going well.
They’ll be getting along, they’ll be laughing together, and suddenly she’ll start to lose interest.
Suddenly she’ll start to pull away.
She will have said something that made him feel insecure (and she noticed that he became insecure) or he will have said something and she will have reacted in a way where she was testing his confidence and he would have failed that test.
Women are essentially looking for confidence.
They want you to have balls.
It’s not about being disrespectful to women though.
It’s just about having the balls to joke around, to not take things so seriously, to not worry about losing your chance with her.
That’s a really big one; not worry about losing your chance with her.
Some guys don’t want to send anything to their ex that might make her a little bit shocked or thrown off because they think it might cause them to lose their chance with her.
However, you just can’t think like that when you’re getting a woman back.
You have to have balls.
You have to know that you are the man and that she is feeling respect and attraction for you even if she acts like she isn’t.
Of course, sometimes a woman isn’t feeling respect and attraction for a man, and that’s pretty obvious.
However, if you’re joking around with her and you’re being confident, then she is going to feel respect and attraction for you even if she acts like she isn’t.
Don’t Flirt Too Much Though
Don’t get me wrong here.
What I’m not saying is that every text you send your ex must be flirting and funny, or that you must always make fun of her or not take a conversation seriously.
When you flirt with a woman, you should go by the 80/20 rule.
80% of the time just text with her normally or talk with her normally if you’re talking to her in person and 20% of the time add in flirting.
That said, when you’re trying to get an ex back, I don’t recommend that you text back and forth with her for too long.
In many cases that I’ve worked on where a guy is trying to get his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife back, he gets stuck in text conversations that go nowhere.
She texts him something and he texts back and then they get a conversation going.
Eventually, there are misunderstandings and the conversation becomes frustrating.
He says something and she takes it the wrong way or she says something and he starts becoming insecure and think, “Oh, what does that mean?” and then he becomes insecure in the way that he texts her.
He starts asking insecure questions and then she feels turned off and the whole thing’s a mess.
So what I recommend if you actually want to get your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife back is that if you are going to use text, then just keep it short.
Use text to create a spark and say a few things back and forth if you have to, but get to a phone call.
Pick up the phone, press call for her number and if she doesn’t answer, just try her again in an hour.
If she doesn’t answer in an hour, try her the next day, but don’t get stuck texting back and forth with an ex.
Don’t Accept a Texting Relationship
It might seem easy or comfortable to just text her, but it’s a bad idea.
One of the reasons why is that just texting an ex can often lead to a guy getting led on/strung along.
For example: She is showing some interest via text but secretly, she’s also looking for a new guy, or hooking up with a new guy, or she’s not even enjoying the texts that he’s sending her.
See the thing is when you get a text from your ex, she may text something and put a smiley face on it or an exclamation mark, and you may read that as her smiling and feeling really happy when she’s texting back and forth with you.
Yet, in reality, she could actually be sitting there rolling her eyes and sending a text back and putting a smiley face on it.
As you may have noticed, many women use emoticons and emojis when they are chatting and they “LOL” and they “Haha,” even though they’re not LOL-ing in real life.
She may be totally bored by a text conversation, but it’s coming across as though he’s making progress with her because she LOL-ed or she put an exclamation mark on the end of a text.
You shouldn’t read too much into what your ex is saying via text because it doesn’t really count that much.
Texting back and forth with your ex is not the ex back process.
The ex back process is where you re-attract her in person and she forgives your past mistakes.
She stops thinking about you as being the guy that you used to be and she’s focused on the new you.
The relationship that you and her have now feels better than it did before.
She starts feeling attracted to you in new ways, she starts feeling respect for you in new ways, she wants to give it a try.
It feels good to her to give the relationship another chance.
It’s not about you trying to hopefully get a chance with her and, “Please, I promise I’ll do anything,” and, “I’ve changed all these things about myself. Now do you like me?”
It’s not about that.
It’s about you re-attracting her in person, and then she wants to get back with you.
She starts to feel drawn to you, she respects you, she starts to have feelings of love for you again. You then reconcile, get the relationship back together and you continue on.
As you would understand, you can’t achieve that via text, so just make sure that if you are trying to get your ex-woman back that you don’t hide behind texts for a long time.
Use texts to create a bit of a spark, get her on a phone call, then meet up with her, re-attract her for real, reconcile the relationship and continue on with her.
Don’t Take Her Texts Too Seriously
One final point that I want to make here for you is that when you’re texting back and forth with your ex-woman, don’t take it too seriously.
I know that some guys who heard the texting examples earlier on in the video might have thought, “Oh, I don’t know if I could send that to my ex-woman. She’d be angry at that, or she might take that the wrong way.”
You need to not worry about how she is going to take things.
You need to be the stronger one.
You need to be the one with balls.
You don’t need to be suppressing your masculinity, being a good little boy and being on your best behavior around your ex or when you’re texting with your ex.
Women don’t respect submissive behavior from men.
Women respect balls.
So, don’t worry about whether she might take something the wrong way.
If she does, just “Lol” and say, “Relax. I’m joking.”
Same thing if you’re talking to her in person. If you say something in person and she seems to take it the wrong way, you can say, “Relax, girl. I’m just joking. Chill out,” or you can say, “Relax. You take things too seriously.”
Put her back in her place in a loving, but dominant way like that.
You’ve got to have balls if you want to get your ex back.
Don’t be afraid of her.
Be a good man, be respectful and all that nice stuff, but have balls. Women respect it, even though they might act shocked to test your confidence.
So, when you’re going to flirt with her via text, just don’t be afraid to say something.
Don’t be afraid to be a little bit daring.
Don’t be afraid to joke around.
Don’t be afraid to have a bit of fun.
Don’t feel like you’re not worthy of joking around with her now that you’re broken up. Yes, you are.
The thing is women love to flirt and they know what flirting is.
Most guys don’t really understand flirting, and they think that it’s either pointless, silly talk or unnecessary play.
Most guys just want to get to the point because that’s how we men speak to each other. So, when a guy meets a girl, he wants to be able to say, “Hey. I like you. I feel attracted to you. I want to be in a relationship with you.”
Yet, that’s not how a woman wants the interaction to go. She wants to be able to flirt and test his confidence.
When it comes to getting an ex back, many guys just want to say, “Hey. I want you back. I love you. I promise that things will be different. I’ve changed. You mean everything to me. Please give me another chance.”
Yet, what you’ve got to understand is that when getting a woman back, you’ve got to make her feel attracted to you.
You’ve got to have the balls to get her to respect you again.
So, when it comes to flirting with your ex via text or in person, just know that it’s okay to do.
Relax, enjoy yourself and have the courage to say things that might make her feel a little bit shocked temporarily.
Then she sees that you’re joking and then she laughs as well.
When your ex can see that interacting with you is fun and it’s not so serious all the time, then meeting up with you and getting back with you starts to feel better for her.
She feels as though it’s not awkward anymore.
You’re not desperately asking for a relationship.
You’re not putting a lot of pressure on her.
You’re making her feel good.
You’re making her feel attracted.
You are making her smile and you are making her respect you.
Need More Help?
By the way, if you need more help getting your woman back, I recommend that you watch my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
It’s 10 hours of video and when you watch the 10 hours of video, you’ll learn the 7-step process that you need to go through to get a woman back.
You will learn exactly what to say to her, how to behave around her, and how to make her really want to give the relationship another chance.