It’s a sad fact that around half of all marriages end in divorce these days, but thanks to the internet and sites like mine it is now possible to get your ex wife back.
Here’s what you need to do:
1. Understand where you really went wrong with her
No doubt you are aware of some of the mistakes that you made throughout the marriage, which eventually lead to her asking for a separation or divorce.
For example: Some men make the mistake of becoming insecure, clingy, controlling or taking their wife’s love, respect and attraction for granted, while other men slowly destroy a relationship by letting it go stale and not putting in enough effort to keep the spark alive.
Watch this video to understand the 3 step process that your ex wife probably went through before she wanted out of the marriage…
As you will discover from the video above, your wife can only feel proper attraction for you if she first respects you as a man.
This is only going to happen if you truly understand where you went wrong with her and have already made significant changes in those areas.
If that feels like too much work or effort for you, then you should move on without her by finding yourself a new woman.
However, if you are prepared to do what it takes to get your ex wife back after the divorce, then you are a man who is wise enough to adapt the modern relationship environment.
What do I mean by that?
In the past, a woman would stay with her husband for life even if she was unhappy, because it was shameful to get divorced. Back then, a man could treat his wife like crap and she’d still stick around.
However, in today’s world, most women will up and leave if they are unhappy in a marriage or relationship because she can usually get support from the government, will be making enough money to support herself or will find a new man who is willing to take on a single mother or a childless woman who has just gone through a divorce.
To successfully keep a marriage together for life in today’s world, a man needs to be willing and able to adapt to the relationship by improving himself and fixing any issues or problems that arise over time.
To keep a wife happy, a man also needs to know what his wife really needs from him as her man, which is usually different to what she will actually admit.
For example: A woman will often go around saying that she just wants a nice man who loves her and can take care of her, but that isn’t the complete story.
She will also want a man that she can look up to and respect, a man who doesn’t crumble under the pressure of her tantrums or tests of his confidence, a man that makes her feel girly and feminine in comparison to his masculinity and a man that remains emotionally strong no matter what challenges come his way in life.
A man might be a good husband to his wife, but that isn’t going to count for much if he destroys her respect and attraction for him overtime by becoming insecure or emotionally weak and expecting her to continually comfort him.
For example: Some husbands take their wife’s respect and attraction for granted and end up becoming insecure, emotionally weak and even crying to her during challenging times in life and expecting her to comfort him like a mother would for a child.
In the past, a woman would put up a man’s weakness and even if she lost respect for him as a result of him being insecure or emotionally weak, she would have to stick by him for life because it was shameful to get divorced.
However, today’s women grow up in a society that says that a woman can do whatever she wants and if she isn’t happy in a marriage or relationship, she is free to move on and find herself a better man.
You can be that better man and get your ex wife back after a divorce, but you have to be willing to fix your emotional issues and become the sort of man that she can look up to and respect.
2. Improve your ability to make her feel respect and attraction for you as a man
No doubt you were able to make your ex wife feel attracted to you in the past, because you got her to marry you after all.
However, a lot of men lose touch with their ability to attract their wife or women in general when they get too comfortable in a marriage.
Essentially, they stop caring about triggering her feelings of attraction or they start doing things that turn her off (e.g. being insecure, controlling, selfish, angry, etc).
What a lot of modern men don’t understand is that, in order to keep a relationship or marriage together for life in today’s world, you have to be able to deepen a woman’s feelings of respect and attraction for you over time.
If you don’t know how to do that or you don’t care to make her feel that way, she will become restless and either start cheating, ask for a separation or go for a full divorce.
It sucks, but that’s the way that modern relationships work. If a woman isn’t feeling the way she wants to feel, there’s nothing really stopping her from moving on.
These days, many husbands are shocked when they hear the words, “I want a separation” or “I want a divorce” because in their mind, the vows that they made on the wedding day were supposed to glue them together for life.
Yet, it just doesn’t work that way anymore.
For example: If a man gets into a relationship with a woman and he is initially very confident in himself, very loving and supportive of her, things will go well during those times.
However, if then becomes insecure, emotionally weak and begins to make her feel as though she needs to support him, she will lose respect and attraction for him and the relationship will begin to experience problems.
Some men feel as though this isn’t fair and wonder why a woman can’t just put up with that and be loving and supportive of a man. Yet, that isn’t how the world works.
It’s not a woman’s role to teach a guy how to be the emotionally strong man she needs.
If a man is unable to be a confident, emotionally strong and forward-moving man that she can look up to, respect and rely on, then she will begin to nag, throw tantrums, create arguments and complain in the hope that he gets the message and begins to put in the effort to improve and grow as a man.
If he doesn’t pay attention to the signals she is giving him, she won’t give up on being a woman and become the man or the teacher in the relationship.
Instead, she will become increasingly frustrated that she is stuck in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t yet know how to be the real man that she needs.
If that continues on for long enough, the marriage will eventually begin to fall apart and if she isn’t embarrassed about getting divorced, she will begin the process, leave her husband and try to find herself a new man.
How about you?
Do you need a bit of a refresher on how you can make your ex-wife feel attracted to you? If so, watch this video…
As you will discover from the video above, it is possible for a wife to love her husband, feel attracted to him and respect him for life.
You’ve got to get it right though, because a woman is not going to remain in love with a man who doesn’t maintain and build on her respect and attraction for him.
Without respect, a woman cannot feel fully attracted to a man and if that goes on for long enough in a marriage, a wife will begin to fall out of love with her husband.
The great about love though is that it doesn’t ever die. The love that your ex-wife once had for you still exists, but it is simply being pushed into the background because she no longer feels enough respect and attraction for you as a man.
When you are able to make your ex-wife feel a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, she will naturally begin to reconnect with the love that has always been there in the background.
Watch this video for more info on how that works…
As you will discover from the video above, human feelings really can change.
It is possible for your ex-wife to go from hating you and having no respect for you, to her feeling a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you. .
3. Get her to meet up with you to have a friendly chat and let her experience the new and improved you
A big part of how to get your ex back is to meet up with her in person to have a friendly chat, so you can then let her experience the new and improved you.
When a man asks me for help to get his ex wife back after a divorce, it usually means that she has already moved on and has a new man, so I will assume that it might be the case for you too.
If she does have a new man or is actively trying to find a new man so she can move on, you need to pitch the meet up as just being a friendly chat between you and her to catch up and say hi, rather than it being about getting back together.
When she does meet up with you, it’s important that you apologize for your mistakes and show her the new and better man that you have become since.
Rebuilding Your Confidence
A marriage breakdown can understandably knock a man’s confidence to the ground.
If his ex-wife then moves on to another relationship and he is unable to find solace in a new woman, his confidence can hit rock bottom and he may begin to question whether he is destined to live alone and whether he’ll ever get over the pain of his wife leaving him.
Feeling at an all-time low can keep him trapped in a vicious cycle of negative, depressing thoughts, which then makes it difficult to change the way his ex-wife sees him and feels about him.
Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, high self-esteem) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecure, anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt, etc).
So, if a man interacts with his ex-wife and she can sense that he is in an emotionally weak and vulnerable place, it’s not going to draw her to him at all. She will feel turned off at her core and will want to move on even more.
Whatever the cause of your marriage breakdown, turning things around and getting your ex-wife back comes down to showing her that you really have changed and you now have the qualities she wants in a man and a husband.
I’ve heard back from men who have rekindle a broken marriage during separations, after a divorce and after years of being apart from their ex-wife.
It is possible because love doesn’t die; it simply gets pushed into the background when there isn’t enough respect and attraction to support it.
If you want to begin the exciting process of getting your ex-wife back, I recommend that you watch my revolutionary program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Are You Ready to Get Your Ex Wife Back?
Getting your ex-wife back means recognizing the mistakes that you made in your marriage and then learning from those mistakes to become an even better man than you are right now.
It’s only by sincerely improving who you are as a man that you can then change the way your ex-wife feels about you. If you are prepared to do what it takes, then you have a very high chance of getting her back.
I know this because I’ve personally helped a lot of men via my phone coaching service and I’ve also heard back from many men who’ve used my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System to get an ex-wife back.